the dirty looks!!!

Lauren - posted on 02/14/2010 ( 74 moms have responded )

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what pisses me off the most is when im at the mall spending the day out with my daughter that i have to deal with the looks of people my parents age and older looking at me like im a bad person because i am a teenage mother.... well i say here's a BIG FUCK YOU! im a damn good mother!

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Amber - posted on 02/15/2010

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GOOD ON YOU! when i was pregnant this cop told me i was too young and my baby was a mistake and i shoud have an abortion and young mums are such a hassle. I jwas like WHEN ID THISBECOME PART OF YOUR JOB DESCRRIPTION and told him too piss off. babies are a gift and e were blessed with them OBVIOUSLY SOMEONE THINKS WE ARE GOOD ENOUGH TO BE PARENTS :)

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Rebecca - posted on 09/27/2010

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I hate comments like that. I had enough when i was pregnant, this old lady gave me a pretty nasty look and i told her to get over the fact that i'm fertile and she's not....
Not the most mature thing i could have done, but hey, i was 8 months pregnant.

Donna - posted on 09/27/2010

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lol wait till you have 2 or 3 and all thoes dirty looks turn to smiles b/c they're thinking i'm so glad thats not me lol

Lorna - posted on 09/27/2010

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i agree with u a h8 it wen iam out with my daughter n shes6 n am 22 av always dun my v best as a singl mum n with every evil look a gt makes me stronger to prove them all that a young mum can b jst as gid if not beter than any older mum say over the age of 28

Francena - posted on 02/25/2010

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lmfao.. i understand u so much. Here in the bronx there are lot of teen mother but most of them are taken the time to be the mother that they could be and there for have there mothers doing the job for them. i believe that if u are grown to lay and make a baby that u should have the respect to live up to your responablies and take care of the baby, yea its scary but you dont ever have to be alone. and you will become a betta person. when u have a child it heps you see what yout parents was goin through, so now you get to see the shoe on the other foot. yes u are goin to be judge by everyone, but u can do is be the best mother for child, and tell the world.. to SUCK YOUR DICK!lmao

Clair - posted on 02/25/2010

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I know i also get rather snotty looks! There gunna look at me even worse when they see me pushin my buggy with baby and a bump :P haha xx

Ashley - posted on 02/24/2010

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I am 24 married to an amazing soldier in the US Army & we have two wonderful children. We own a house, 2 cars and dog... All around normal American family, but because we are young (and because of my body art) we STILL get looks from older parents who are not even doing as well as us!! Give em a big fuck you, Either they are ignorant, judgmental or jealous or all 3!!!

Alisa - posted on 02/24/2010

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I hate it when older people look at me like Im a horrible person just because I had a baby at 16. They need to just get over it. I am at least taking care of my daughter and being a good mom. Not all teen moms are like that. And Im proud to say that I am one who takes care of my daughter, and I go to school, and I plan to go to college as well, so all those people out there who give the dirty looks, stop and think before you do it, cuz all of us teen moms that are taking care of our babies don't have time to put up with yall's bad attitudes.

Xnicolaberryx - posted on 02/24/2010

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im 22 and 39 weeks pregnant and i get horrible looks as i only look 16 but everytime me and my 7 year old nearly 8 go out together people think we sisters until she calls me mummy and i just get a look of disgust but i don't give 2 shits my daughter is very clever and always clean and well looked after and my newborn will be the same doesn't help when im out with my fiance as he 34 but f**k all the judgemental ppl im a great mum and have a great family x

Meagan - posted on 02/24/2010

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Oh God I knoe! I get that alot too its sooo annoying. I can remember a time when my son was maybe 4 or 5 months old and I was leaving my doctors office and these two women started giving me dirty looks and whispering stuff to each other and laughing. It really hurt and I knoe I do look kinda young (I'm 19 years old) but still. I especially hated when my son was a newborn and we would go out to Wal-Mart and people would just stare at us until we left. It's so uncomfortable! A couple months ago, my fiance took us to Chili's and this woman who looked about 40 kept staring and whispering stuff to her husband. I knew she was judging me by the look on her face..she watched my every move and it just pissed me off. I think people need to just get over it...it's 2010! It's not like its uncommon!

Brianne - posted on 02/20/2010

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Ha! The looks are like compliments! I don't care until they open their mouths! When I was pregnant, I was in Walgreens (because I needed my Lemon Arizona and my sugarbabies and my hot Cheetos, lol) and this woman kept looking at me, so I finally just stared at her until she said " are you giving it up for adoption?" and when I told her that I was keeping MY child she goes "I am so sick of seeing these young girls thinking that they are so cute walking around with their baby bumps and whatnot. They are in no position to take care of a child and it is honestly unfair for women who can not conceive a child to see these little tramps running around having children left and right when they all end up being strippers on welfare." So I told her that I was sorry that she was a barren old whore and that it wasn't my fault or my unborn daughters fault that I just so happened to be pretty and to not look like a sea hag like her and that I had sex and ruined her life and made her so upset. Then I threw my Cheetos at her and my baby's father dragged me out screaming at her. It was childish, I admit, and I probably helped prove her right about young moms, but I was honestly more pissed at the time that my jeans didn't fit right and it was 102 degrees outside and that I lost my Cheetos over her ass. I am not usually like that and I am in college and my daughter will be six months in a few days. So screw all the people that talk down on us. Like Lauren said "FUCK YOU!"

Kaitlin - posted on 02/20/2010

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What's sad is a lot of those people giving you bad looks there parents had them at a really young age usually round 16 or 17. Society today just says education before kids. But in reality you can do both. People my parents age which they are only 40 look at me and my big round belly like o geese! She sure screwed up. Both my gradparents were married with 2 kids when they were my age.

Allison - posted on 02/20/2010

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yeah and whats funny is a lot of young mothers are better mothers than older women because the ones that are older sometimes get mad easier or don't want their children doing anything bad..... but they're kids what do you expect?

Brittany - posted on 02/20/2010

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telll me about itt! I have a toddler & hes 16 months old. and im 18. But im little, so i look like im 14. and people actually have the balls to come up to me and ask me if im the babysitter, or sister? im like um no. im the mom. and they tell me "oh you look young!" well thats because i am. people can get so effin rediculous these days, like 80% of us are teen mothers, or were at one point & time.

but for once i got a compliment from an old man that had told me that his youngest
grandchild was 30. I felt so bad for him, but he told me i was lucky, and i was a very strong young women to take on such a responsibility. I have a lot of respect for that man, and he proved that there are SOME. ( not many ) but some people out there who do understand, and dont think bad of us.

Sarah - posted on 02/19/2010

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I know how you feel, I'm 18 and I hear that I look 14-15 when I don't have on makeup n stuff. My mom could be walking through the store pushing my baby in her carseat and they say how old is she, and I walk up and answer and I get dirty looks. I cant stand old farts lol!

Lizzie - posted on 02/19/2010

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I know what your saying! I have the same problem I just look at them and say Is'nt she beautiful or something like that some of them can't say anything and others change their mood very quickly!

Amber - posted on 02/19/2010

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DR DREW.. pfft where did he get his statistics.. He hasnt met every young mum and its hard FOR EVER SINGLE MUM! older ladies cant ever get it right ALL THE TIME. everyone has to have a first child and noone really knows wat to do. You dont go by the book all children are different. Hes never been a young mum so he cant talk.. HE SHOUD JUST DO HIS JOB and not comment on what he dosnt know about. Thats what gets people into trouble.

Lania - posted on 02/19/2010

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I know thats right...people are so judgemental but it shouldnt matter how old you are especially if you are taking care of your responsibility..They are not doing it so why should they care?!?!

Danelle - posted on 02/19/2010

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im having my first baby in july and im only turning 17 in apiil, but seriously, i took out my bf's 2yo baby brother to the shops for an icecream and a woman walked past with her pre-teen daughter and whispered loudly, "thats what you get when your a slut and dont keep your legs shut!" and then everyone else in the room just stared at me till i finally left, it was awful! i really dont think that they should think that they are any better, i mean im getting the whispers and stares already and im barely 5 months pregnant! i mean COME ON! at least we didnt choose to terminate (i really dont like the word abort) our baby, it really doesnt deserve to die for being created! im glad that i chose my baby's life over mine, i mean, jeez, sex, drugs and alcohol arent that great.. ive grown up in the last few months of knowing that my baby's growing inside of me, and its a good experience. every little thing about pregnancy and childbirth is amazing and glorious. and knowing that im going to have a baby girl just makes me know that i have something real to live for.

Wendor - posted on 02/19/2010

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ooohh yeeeaaa i know that feeling they stare you up and down then when they realize you caught them they try to play it off and give you the fakest smile ever...i just try my best to ignore it and just smile back at them or just play with my son and give him all the attention like its only him and me...you know? people will do that an thats the sad part about it

Laura - posted on 02/18/2010

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I get dirty looks all the time when i am out with my son as i am a young mummy, But i just put it down to jealousy my son is beautiful and im a very happy mummy!! Hope things get better huni!! x

Emily - posted on 02/18/2010

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some times i feel like i get those looks even from my family it really sucks. not like my parents but aunts and uncles.

Lyndsay - posted on 02/18/2010

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Just smile and wave. If you give them attitude and act like a tough guy, or loudly talk about how you fucking hate these assholes, you are just proving their point that you are immature.

Sarah - posted on 02/18/2010

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I get looks at my college all the time. I am 19 (almost 20) and the school said that no one suppose to discriminate but I get it whenever I bring my son. I am still making my life possible and if I have to bring him here and there I think it should be fine. My teacher told me to miss my test because I would be a distraction to the class with I took my test OUTSIDE the classroom. And he has 5 kids. I cant go to events at my school because of my son. The school itself discriminates against me. Its so upsetting. I maybe be 19 but I would starve myself to feed my son. He is my world and the reason I am going to college to better myself and his future. People just need to grow up. Its our choices that we might/might not have made but we love our children and would do anything for them in a heart beat. I don't judge people because I know how it feels to be judged. Good Luck to all the mommies out there.

Hayley - posted on 02/18/2010

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I know exactly what you mean. I walk into wall mart and people look at me like I am some alien...MY GOD I HAD A CHILD!! Does she look upset? NO!! I wasnt allowed to go to a school function BECAUSE I had a baby...People need to understand Teen Moms arnt aliens they arnt some rare breed of people, We are just like everyone EXCEPT we decided to have our children not abort them. They should be congratulating us on making the decision to have our children and raise them...not stare at us and criticize.

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My fav thing to do with the old biddy's who give me a hard time is I ask them when THEY had their first child! My grandmother got married when she was 20 and had her first when she was 20 as well and that was the normal age to have a baby! So I simply smile and say I'm old fashioned wink and walk away.

Kari - posted on 02/18/2010

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I was a teen mom in 98. Let me tell you nothing has changed. The people older than you are always going to look at you like that. The thing to do is not to become enraged and scream profanity at them. Love your baby, take care of your baby and show them that you may be young but you are a great mom. Their opinions don't matter anyway. I had to learn to just let it go because the only opinion that matters is the opinion of that precious baby who relies on you. That is all that matters!

Abby - posted on 02/18/2010

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giving your baby up for adoption doesnt make you a bad person. just fyi. if you're in a bad situation and there's someone who could raise your child in a much better environment then it's one of the most selfless amazing decisions you can make.

Heather - posted on 02/18/2010

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The first step to being a good mother is keeping the baby. I think the fact that you didnt get an abortion or give your baby to some complete stranger shows that you can be a good mom. just because we dont have absolutely everything doesnt mean shit. I'm still going to school and raising my baby and he's healthy and extremily happy. He has never been sick yet and hes always smiling unless he's hungry and waiting for me to warm his bottle. I may not have all the money i need right now but i have enough to get us by until i graduate and get a good job. I hate the looks. I can't even really go over to friends houses with my son because their parents give me dirty looks and i feel unwelcome. Even my mom gets dirty looks when she talks about her grandson and then someone asks how old I am. I believe if its not your life dont make it your business especially since you dont know how i raise him.

Rachel - posted on 02/18/2010

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I'm 22 with two kids I get lots of looks too! Usually I get more looks from poeple my age and younger but I also get the looks from older people its very annoying! I just go on with my business and ignore them.

Laura - posted on 02/18/2010

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im 19 , and have a 2yr old and 1 due in april, wen i get dirty looks i jus giv them back , thn they usualy look away, i hada yound girl say to her friends the other week omg look shes pregnant, i was lik wa the fuk are yu lookin at ,yes iam pregnant it actuli gets me mad, i fink its normal these days to get pregnant yound as everybody is these days , i fink its quiet funny really i see these older mums with kids that actuli look like tramps , my daughter is always clean n dressed nicely and is wel mannered , i fink it makes u ugly if you judge us , i dnt no how its of any1 else bussiness really wat we do :)

lets do it for al yound mummys out there

Aliesha - posted on 02/17/2010

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i think it is about how you take it tbh. i got told today that i was crazy for having my son but i don't care because i know i'm doing a fucking good job at raising my son. just believe in yourself ae

Beverly - posted on 02/17/2010

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Honey, it doesn't matter what age you are you will always encounter those who have to disrespect and put their 2 cents in. There are wonderful teenage moms just as well as there are horrible ones... and that doesn't stop at teenage... I've seen tons of "older" mothers that truly should have thought twice about doing the "motherhood" thing.

Ignore their ignorance and enjoy your child(ren). Be the best mom you can be and nobody can say jack about it! Fill their world with love and kindness and teach them to love back and be kind to those who need it most and you've done your job honey. Nobody is a perfect parent at ANY age!

Katarin - posted on 02/17/2010

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i get that all the time, although in my area its from girls my age and younger. whats funny though is the looks are from the types of girls that walk around in basically their underwear

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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i know how u feel.. the looks are overrated. just because we are teen mothers doesnt mean we are horrible. people still tell me i cant do it... but... i think i doin a pretty good job of raising my son .. :)

Kayla - posted on 02/17/2010

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i know those looks or the people who say ohh what a shame ur so younge like its so bad that i have a baby i can still go to college and make something of myself even though i have a son

Jessie - posted on 02/17/2010

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I will be 21 in August, i have a 4 year old Daughter, a 19 month old son and am 23weeks pregnant, i get alot of the looks and am very much over it.. my 3 children all share the same father.. i live by my self with my child! i have rasied them all on my own. i am a 24/7 mother. i hate it.. i am a dam good mother and would do anything for my kids. some people have no idea but yet they still judge me.. well my thoughts to them are FUCK YOU.. it really pisses me off too..

Jane - posted on 02/17/2010

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im 20 i was 19 wen i have my lil girl and i get loads of bad looks and yer it pisses me off i say stuff loudly 2 the person im with so they here me and get the message but its not going 2 stop young mums will always get the look!! xxxx

Allie - posted on 02/17/2010

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I agree, and what's sad is that I am only like 3.5 months pregnant. I told some lady off the other day for giving me nasty looks when I was looking at baby clothes. Like, wow, it's not as though it's any of your business if I am pregnant. And I think the worst is the judgemental old women who are SOO Catholic. Isn't it better that I am going to raise my child and love it, rather than aborting it or something, since they are just SO against that. Yeah, I thought so.

Sybil - posted on 02/17/2010

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Me and my friend have sons that are 1 year apart and when we go into stores together they look at us the same way but I dont look 19 but i am and she is 18 going to b 19 and they look at us like wow yong girls with kids wtf! Well things are different these days its not like the old days when it was unexceptable to have a baby then.

Karissa - posted on 02/17/2010

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i agree! there is no age at wich you become a good mother and in my experiences the teens that choose to keep their baby tend to be the best moms. i know its hard but just remember that you want to set a good example for your daughter so try not to let it get to you.

Caitlin - posted on 02/17/2010

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Ugh, it's HORRIBLE! I was at the mall yesterday with a friend of mine, and I didn't even have my daughter with me (my mom offered to baby sit for a little while so I could help my friend pick something out for her vacation). I mentioned how I missed my daughter, and a sales girl just stared at me with this "wow, what a slut" look. I could have punched her! But instead I told my friend that everything in the store looked too cheap, so we left. I know it was petty, but I felt it was necessary at the time.

Tori - posted on 02/17/2010

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I always get that. I have a picture of my daughter on my server book, and people are always like OMG she's so cute. there's no way that's your daughter. i don't care how old i am. i'm a great mother. age doesnt determine that. your mind set does.

Katie - posted on 02/17/2010

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I absolutely hate it when people assume that because we're young we must be horrible mothers. That's just ridiculous. Yeah, some young moms can be horrible mothers, but so can older moms! It's just stupid stereotypes. I've stopped letting it bother me. I take care of my daughter as best as I can. I graduated highschool while pregnant, and I'm plannin gon going to college. (I took a year off.) Teen moms can do it all if they have to and have to motivation/drive to.

Abby - posted on 02/17/2010

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I agree with your dr. drew comment...he was going on and on about how teen moms "simply can't do it all" umm, yes we can!

Stephanie - posted on 02/17/2010

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I worked at a nursing home when I was pregnant and I used to get told to my face how horrible it was that I was having a baby in high school and out of marraige. I am also sick of Dr. Drew on Teen Mom saying that almost no teen mom can make it raising a child and getting an education.

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