The youngest to get pregnant on purpose?

Amber - posted on 06/22/2010 ( 111 moms have responded )

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I am just curious to know how old you all were when you actually tried to get pregnant, not a woopsie.

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Angie - posted on 07/05/2010

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i started trying to get pregnant when i was 13, got pregnant when i was 14 and had my son when i was15.

WowIDontWantToLiveOnThisPlanetAnymore - posted on 12/03/2013

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You tried to get pregnant under 16! You couldn't even get a damn job! Obviously those of you that. Are proud to have a child so young are not that intelligent!
All of you that are proud to have had your kids so young for what ever reason are just another statistic and stereotype backing up all the bad things said about teen moms because its not something to be proud of! You put stress on yourself, your body, your family, your friendships become strained and you put stress on your baby too!
Plus the financials it cost a lot to PROPERLY care for and raise a baby.

The ones who are not proud to have had a child so young I applaud you for learning and growing!
(I am not saying you regret your child but the age you had them at to clear up possible confusion)

Yur kids are all at risk to go through the same things you did/are.

I REFUSE to be a Mom right now while I am only 20 even though I want kids and my boyfriend of 2 years also wants kids. I want to have a nice house a nice job and be married and both my boyfriend and I agree that it is better. I don't want to have to struggle to pay bills or have to deal with the judgemental stares.

I do praise those of you that have learned from your mistakes and are doing your best as moms. I work with kids and I see how all situations effect children and I will be honest in my own experiance the best off kids come from well off 2 parent familys BUT I also see kids from GOOD teen moms/parents that have just as much chance at succes

Ashley - posted on 07/10/2010

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Aymee: I bag to differ i was 15 almost 16 when i had my first, my bf was 17, we had found an apartment and were living on our own! I was a full time stay at home mom, 6 months later i found out i was pregnant, right when i found out my bf and father of my other child left. At that time i moved back into my parents place for 6 months, and a few days after i turned 17 moved into my own place with my two children on my own. During all of this i was working full time, and had my kids in a dayhome as well as doing correspondence from home to finish school, with no help form the government or family! When my son was 4 months old and my daughter was almost two i met my fiance. I'm now 18 and he's 24 and we are expecting baby #3, he excepts both my children as his own and we are delighted to await the arrival of our new baby in December! I have now went back to being a stay at home mom and my fiance has his Class 1 and does trucking. Im happy to say i made it through all of it at a young age, yes i may have been young but i grew up fast, and now have an amazing family. So to all the young moms out there who happen to be younger then 18 or even older, dont let anyone tell you your too young or you can't do it! Best of luck to all you young moms out there!

Amanda - posted on 07/13/2010

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everyone who is discussing on how its not right needs to find another group/community to talk about it in. this is for teen/young moms. meaning its not for being critized for to choices we all as young mothers have made. it doesnt matter why or when we all had our children. the point is we did and we all are trying our best to be good moms. i sure u wouldnt like to be critized for something u think is right. so just talk about it else where and let us young moms do what we think is best. most moms do good jobs no matter what their age because they love their children.
im 18 got pregnant at 17. she was unexpected but i love her very much and am doing everything i can to make life great for her.

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Amanda - posted on 12/06/2013

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I was 13 I never tried I just got pregnant my mother never told me how babies were made I have a little girl that I love her name is Maria May lindenfelt it's hard because I breast-feed her and I'm in school i'm 14 now being a young mothers hard I wouldn't of gotten pregnant if my mother told me how babies are made I love her and I can imagine a life without her now.:) ;(

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 04/09/2011

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Ive never actually tried for a baby. Im 21 and im a sahm of 3 under 5. I agree with an earlier post but im not proud of having my kids at a young age, but i am extremely proud of how im raising them. They are the air that i breathe! I love watching them learn, grow and experience life. Although i regret the age i was when i first got pregnant, i do not regret my children.
Getting pregnant changed my life, but for the better!

April - posted on 04/08/2011

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Tried? Never LOL Both of my kids were surprises. I never expected to get pregnant it just turned out that way twice. Even though i was married, i didn't want a baby young but thats life for you LOL i'm happy being a mum though, love my kids. I had my daughter when i was 19, son at 21.

Sarah - posted on 04/07/2011

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Why is it that there are so many illiterate teenagers in this discussion purposely having babies?!
Being 13, 14, 15, and purposely bringing a child into the world is NOTHING to be proud of! It is an ignorant, immature decision to make and I don't see how anyone that young can claim to be 'mature' while planning pregnancy!
I was 15. I sure as hell was not proud! I was deeply ashamed and was amazed at how stupid my boyfriend and I were! What i am proud of is how i have handled parenthood to date. I am proud that I grew up. I got through my pregnancy, got through my traumatizing birth, and what i am most proud of is my beautiful 1 year old daughter, and myself for raising her and looking after her so well. I am also proud of my boyfriend for stepping up to the mark and being a great daddy for her.
Ceili was the best mistake I ever made, but I have certainly learned from it and grown from it and will always make better, and more educated decisions because of it.

Madie - posted on 03/29/2011

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I was 15 when I had my first daughter, (not planned) I was 17 when I had my son (planned) and 19 when I had my last daughter 18 months ago and she wasn't planned either. But I would never change when my babies came! I'll be 21 in August and planning to get prego that month:)

Krystal - posted on 08/19/2010

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I was 17 when we started trying and had my son five days after I turned 18. My husband has a daughter that was three at the time and I had to take on this whole new unfamiliar "mommy" role and we decided the best way for me to get comfortable being a mom was to actually have one of my own and it was the best decision we have ever made! =]]

Elizabeth - posted on 07/31/2010

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I didn't try to get pregnant but I was 14 But Im curious on why you would try to get pregnant on a whoopsie?

Sarah-Ann - posted on 07/30/2010

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had a so called "woopsie" at 15. had her at 16.
My daughter is now 13months, Im 17, and we are trying for number 2.

Wendy - posted on 07/30/2010

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why so young though, just curious...although I was young, there was so much in life that I missed out on...proms, spring break vacation, graduation....I guess b/c I experienced alot, I don't seem to understand why young girls want to give up all of there life to have children when there is so much more life for them to learn about....

Audrey - posted on 07/29/2010

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I planned my first when a was 17, she was born a couple of days after my 18th bday, My second at 19 and am Now pregnant with # 3 at 20. I turn 20 a couple weeks ago...

Kirsty - posted on 07/29/2010

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the only reason my comment was directed at brooke lang is because this isnt the first time she has upset people with her rude comments i personally think its discusting 13year olds having babies or anyone under 16 because theyre usually immature i was very immature i fell pregnant at 15 cos the condom split a 13 i was climbing trees i got into to the wrong crowd n everyone was doing it so i did it it was very difficult but i grew up very fast i had a very difficult journey and i lived inb a few hostels but now im 20 in a massive 3 bed flat with an amazing boyfriend who has a full time time job we have 2 cars were selling one our 2 beautiful daughters 4 years old and 11 months old both very clever our oldest is starting a very good school in september but hey thats my life alot of it was hard but i did it if either of my children came home pregnant i would support them in what ever decision they made accidents happen but i will also make sure that they dont have boys stay over or stay at boys houses and inform them of how hard it was and let them speak to my mum n nan and tbh i cant really comment further seeing as my oldest is only 4 thats like 9 years away i love both children wouldnt change them for the world and i think if u r as young as 13 and uv got the balls to bring up a baby and do it right then fair play having an abortion can effect anyone for a long long time adoption exactly the same only the child will then have issues whether they are good enough seeing as mummy n daddy didnt want them shit happens people have sex parents have different parening ways it is very sad to see children having babies but its happening picking at a young girl whos just asking for advice or joining in a conversation and and saying all this shit to her isnt going to drum into every young girls head not to have sex ever heard of peer pressure its cool to have sex now if ur not doing it then u get bullied and also if someone says dont push the big red button honestly it will make u want to press it to the point u either do or run away wondering why u didnt press or what would happen if u pressed it im not saying i agree with underage sex at all im saying leave us alone yes we had children young but weve done it cant relive the past or change so why abuse younger mothers

Maria - posted on 07/29/2010

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18 when we planned my son, but i was 19 when he was born. now im 20 and having # 2 in 8 weeks!

Ericka - posted on 07/28/2010

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My fiance and I started trying to get pregnant when I was 17 and he was 18, We had already been together 2 years and were engaged. We had our son when I was 18 and our daughter when I was 19.

Brooke - posted on 07/26/2010

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purposely and accidently are two completely different things. I don't believe that a 13 year old should be planning anything that is life changing.
BUT if its an accident and it's a case of she didn't know what was happening then no she should not be punished she should be taught.
So im not sorry for my opinion. I only voiced mine cause everyone was sharing theres.
And as for the girl picking on spelling and grammar... I don't think you can talk.

Lucienne - posted on 07/26/2010

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how about this everyone, instead of fighting about young women making choices lets just all agree on something....

no matter what age you are when you have your baby
just try to be the best mom you possible can be.

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Angie - posted on 07/26/2010

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all the people putting others down, SHUT THE HELL UP!! this group is for support, not bashing or being bitch...amber asked a simple question and wanted simple answers...she did not ask the question so others could answer and get yelled at treated like crap for their answer...and brooke lang, i do think you are being a horrible person. i do not want my daughter coming home pregnant at 13 but if she did i would support her. i would not turn my grandchild away or give it away...thats cold hearted...and jenna sherman...just because some one gets pregnant young doesnt mean they should be punished...you obviously got pregnant young or you wouldnt be in this group...so SHOULD YOU BE PUNISHED????? i am not promoting planning to get pregnant at 13 or hell even 17 but if it happens ( i got pregnant at 17) then it happens...get over it because the people who are posting on here that the got pregnant young and did or did not plan it are not your kids so stop judging them..you have no say in their lives...people like the ones here who are bashing really piss me off...just because people have kids young doesnt mean they are bad parents or are going to be bad parents...so either be supportive or go somewhere else and bitch to some one who shares your opinions

Sarh - posted on 07/26/2010

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I became pregnant at 15 which was the woopsie, but at 19 I became engaged and we decided that if it happened it happened if not oh well.

Steph - posted on 07/26/2010

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In responce to what Jenna Sherman wrote no offence but if you cant spell parents and should right and hav around 15 spelling mistakes in your comment and are still critising other parents for choices they make and are saying that they should have their children taken off them and be punished then i dont think you should be commenting on here
this is a place for positive discussions for young parents to feel safe about discussing things like this

Aymee - posted on 07/22/2010

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and it's because people don't take the time to stand up to young girls and teach them about life and be honest about it and stand up for what they believe in that girls end up in this situation. The last thing on my mind when i was 13 was sex. I was a KID i wanted to hang with friends be goofy be YOUNG whatever. My little sister is going to be 13 in a few months and there is not a chance in hell I could see her having a baby! And she's a pretty well rounded girl. The thing is she is YOUNG. mature, but still young. Idk i guess its obviously not up to me to decide what you guys do with your lives but I definitely plan to instill in my daughter that she should respect her body, respect her goals, her life and the lives of others inc. a baby. My daughter doesn't need to be having sex at 13 and I'm going to be the mom that makes sure it doesnt happen because it doesnt need to at that age. My kids love me, we have a ton of fun and im young. But I'm not naive. I want my kids to have fun but they are going to understand that there's a line you don't cross.

Aymee - posted on 07/22/2010

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I don't understand why this is so heated. No one was bashing 13 yr olds getting pregnant all we are saying is that it is wrong. Plain and Simple. There is no reason a 13 yr old needs to be TRYING to have a baby. I understand full well that accidents happen (hello, i admitted it happened to me as well) and I don't understand why you all think I'm bashing people. That was not what I was doing at all. I completely understand that you can be 16 and be a wonderful mother to your child and 17, 18, 19 but MEDICALLY your brain has not matured enough to be able to handle a child at a young age of 13. It is a proven fact and actually not me and others trying to sit her and just put down other girls. The meare fact that everyone gets defensive over a simple discussion shows the maturity level. There is no reason to be arguing or trying to prove yourself to anyone. The fact is fact. At 13 yrs old you are TOO YOUNG to handle having a child and do not have the means to provide for the child yourself. At 13 you can not get a job, you can not hold a license, you can not have your own house, etc etc. You can't even have your own checking account at that age without a parents' permission!!! So how on earth does a 13 yr old provide for and raise a child on their own based off these circumstances?! This is nothing but a fact of stating the obvious. At 16 you can have a job, you can drive a car, etc.. you have more capabilities to provide for a child. And just because I said i wasn't "mentally mature" enough for my child at 18 doesnt mean that I'm any different from most of you. It makes a HUGE difference when the father stays in the picture. and for those of you who's baby daddy has stayed in the picture thats awesome! What I am saying is that at 18 with a baby daddy that left me and I had had no prior training with having my own baby (as most 13-18 yr olds havent) it's very natural to not be mentally ready for it. I was VERY mature for my age and this still happened. If everyone wants to sit on here and pretend its just been a walk in the park sniffing the roses that's fine. But at least I'm able to admit that I wasn't ready. That doesn't mean I didn't make the best of it and do everything in my power to provide for my son and I did. I worked 3 jobs, had my own place, paid all my bills, etc. BUT IT WAS HARD. and it's not something at 18 I was ready for. I did it cuz i had to. But I cant see a 13 yr old doing those things. Its just not possible.

Amanda - posted on 07/21/2010

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i was 19 when my boyfriend and i had our son. three weeks later, i turned 20. :)

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I actually tried at age 16 b/c my boyfriend wanted one but then gave up b/c i thought i couldn't have kids but then we accidently got pregnant right after i turned18 and im glad i finished school before we had him, we think it happened that way for a reason :)

Meghan - posted on 07/20/2010

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i was 18, had my daughter when i was 19, shes 5 months now. it only took 1 month

Samantha - posted on 07/20/2010

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Brooke Lang I am not supportive of teen or child pregnancy planned it doesnt make much sense to me but some times it happen for a reason I am also not supportive of putting people down on there decisions adn trying to tell them they are messed an are going to be a horible parent because thats even more disgusting and wrong. She has made her decision to keep that baby and be a mom it will indeed be hard for her but I am sure she has lots of support and it will mature her very much. You are not the bad person in our eyes but what your are saying is your opinion and you have a right to it but I dont think this is the place. We are here to support one anoher not put down eachothers choices.

Cassana - posted on 07/19/2010

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I was 18 when I fell pregnant and he wasn't officially planned but we both knew what we were doing and didn't use anything. we were both happy to have a baby at that point. we planned our second 3 months after our first was born and then our baby girl was born 18 months after our second boy. xx

Brooke - posted on 07/19/2010

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I never said I knew anything better about her child then herself. Plain and simple, I believe purposely getting pregnant at 13 years of age is WRONG! what is wrong with everyone?? why am I the only one that sees this as something bad.
Just because a 13 yo seems more mature and can't go out drinking does not mean that she will be an educated mother. I'm not talking about school Im saying atleast a 16yo has had experience with people, with life. It's still young but 13 is a child.
I just don't understand how everyone can be supportive of a planned CHILD pregnancy!

Steph - posted on 07/19/2010

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just because a 13year old gets pregnant does not mean she her parents done a bad job raising her! accidents happen and if so then atleast shes taking some responsibility and living up to what shes done, purposly getting pregnant at 13 is silly but i know 13year olds that are just as mature if not more than 23year olds and atleast they cant go out drinking.

you have no right to come on here and critise other young parents whether or not you are one! this is a community for us to get support from other young parents who understand our situation not to be abused by people who think they know whats better for other peoples kids!

i think good on you to all the young mums on here that can be civil towards everyone else and who stick together!

Brooke - posted on 07/18/2010

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Samantha, I have an amazing life! I think the best actually. I have a beautiful daughter who is so well behaved and smart.. I have a handsome man who adores his little girl and myself. he provides for us as much as I provide for them.
I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I don't drink. My addiction is toast.
I have the joys of being a working and stay at home mum. I work 5 early mornings as a nurse 6am to 9am then 1 day that is 6am to 1pm. Before you hang me for palming my child off... I don't! She is asleep between 6 and 9 so daddy is with her before he goes to work and for the 7hrs a week her nan gets to spend time with her.
My partner and I are paying off our own home, we have a new car aswell as an older one.
I have only gone out a few times with friends out of 18 months. Where ever I go Hailey goes with me.
So this is the reason for the bad stereotype on teenage mums??
About the 13 yr old.. It is horrible and its sad! But this is my opinion, not yours. If you don't like it then don't read it. But think about this.. That girl obviously had a lack of parenting in her life, how is a child supposed to raise a child without properly being raised herself? THIS IS SAD! Yes she needs support but she also needs to know that it was wrong! maybe if she learns this then she can prevent it from happening with her own child and future children.

People all ways make the best of what they have. Life isn't fair, trust me. But we cope. But it's not fair to put ourselves into such in depth situations where we are going to influence so many others lives.

Brooke - posted on 07/18/2010

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Samantha, I have an amazing life! I think the best actually. I have a beautiful daughter who is so well behaved and smart.. I have a handsome man who adores his little girl and myself. he provides for us as much as I provide for them.
I don't smoke, I don't do drugs, I don't drink. My addiction is toast.
I have the joys of being a working and stay at home mum. I work 5 early mornings as a nurse 6am to 9am then 1 day that is 6am to 1pm. Before you hang me for palming my child off... I don't! She is asleep between 6 and 9 so daddy is with her before he goes to work and for the 7hrs a week her nan gets to spend time with her.
My partner and I are paying off our own home, we have a new car aswell as an older one.
I have only gone out a few times with friends out of 18 months. Where ever I go Hailey goes with me.
So this is the reason for the bad stereotype on teenage mums??
About the 13 yr old.. It is horrible and its sad! But this is my opinion, not yours. If you don't like it then don't read it. But think about this.. That girl obviously had a lack of parenting in her life, how is a child supposed to raise a child without properly being raised herself? THIS IS SAD! Yes she needs support but she also needs to know that it was wrong! maybe if she learns this then she can prevent it from happening with her own child and future children.

People all ways make the best of what they have. Life isn't fair, trust me. But we cope. But it's not fair to put ourselves into such in depth situations where we are going to influence so many others lives.

Megan - posted on 07/18/2010

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i was 15 when i got pregnant it wasnt planned but it isnt a mistake either my little boy would never be a mistake no wayy he is my world and when he is born it will revolve around him ♥
but i got pregnant when i lost my virginty and it wasnt the greatest thing that happened to me but now i am excpecting my little man it has made it the greatest time of my life ♥ x

Samantha - posted on 07/18/2010

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Okay well Brooke Lang no I am not trying to promote 13year old girls being pregnant or trying to be or even having sex, but I also don't think this is the place to put down anyone. I also unlike you will not promote someone else. If my daughter ever came home pregnant at 13 I would be atonished because when you are an actual parent top your children and know whats happening in thier life that normally doesnt happen. Though if my daughter did end up pregnant I would completely support her as it was her choice to have sex so now her and the father would be raising the baby and I would be making sure my daughter also still gets her school done. No this is not a contest on who has bigger and better but you want to make it sound to all these young moms that there life is hell and they wont make it I did nothing but try to encourage other young mom's that they can make it through this. Obviously you are just another young mom that is reason for the bad sterotype of partying and drinking while you let someone else raise you child/children. So yeah I agree with these other mom's telling you to go somewhere else you may also be a young mom but your are rude and negative.

Chelbie - posted on 07/18/2010

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Jeeeezzzz your mean. i dont agree with a 13 year old planning pregnacy either but im ot going to attack her for it! I am 19 with a 9 month old i hadher at 18 and im just a regular 18 year old maybe slightly more mature than girls my age but i was certainly marture enough and still am mature enough to take care of my daughter and will be for my son who is due end of october. Just because you personally werent "mature" enough at 18 doesnt meant that the rest of us or those gi9rls who are yonger cant learn to be or arent. dont you think? everyone is different its just a mind set really not an age thing. If you love your child or a child it dont matter as long as yu do what yu can to give hem the life they deserve for a 13 year old if they want to keep the baby its okay to get help from mom and dad so yu can go to school and finish but also growing mature enugh to realize you cant go party and get a job when you can at 15 or 16....you dont have to attack a little girl and totally rip her feeling apart and out her down its not right

Chelbie - posted on 07/18/2010

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I was 18 almost 19 whe me and my husband tried to get pregnant. We had a daughter unplanned of course shortly before this we had only been together for 2 or 3 months when i got pregnant so we new it wouldnt take much to get pregnant lol it took that month to get pregnant when we started trying lol

Kristen - posted on 07/18/2010

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i was 17 with my 1st and pregnant again at 19 with my 2nd. my husband will possible be deployed for this one

Amy - posted on 07/18/2010

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Am about to turn 17 in 2 weeks with my first child, Wasnt planned, And was actully quite a shock, I wouldnt change him for the world and ive not even met him yet! (Overdue by 5days, Induced tomorow) - I also agree with the 13year old statement, at 13 a dont know about all you girls but I sertanly wasnt even intrested in boys, I was more into make up & shopping! Boys werent even on the agenda!!!

Brooke - posted on 07/17/2010

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no the fact a 13 year old knows what sex is or has participated in it is disgusting. So are all of you saying that if you had a 13 year old daughter you would be ok if she had a baby? I wouldn't! That baby would be going to a home where a happy couple would look after them.
By the way I didn't know this was a contest of who has bigger and better...
And to those who say that this is a group for young/teenage mums, stop telling me to go else where cause I have every right to be here. I was 18 when I had my daughter.

Samantha - posted on 07/13/2010

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Alright holy crap there is a lot of drama over this question for Aymee Brndt, and Brooke Lang I would love to tell you all your being quite rude to this young girl its disgusting she has obviously choose how to live her life, for Aymee guess what I am under the age of 18 raising a 9 month old little girl and I am doing just fine with a 3 bedroom house and a big backyard for her to play in and I have my highschool almost complete I am actually ahead of people that are my age still in highschool with a whole year left, so no my child would not be better off with another family sorry I have a heart and am not a partyier and never was my daughter is my world and is my best friend I raise my daughter better than some 28year old women out there

Samantha - posted on 07/13/2010

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I was two months away from turning 16 and my now fiance was 2 weeks away from turning 20 when I got pregnant with my little girl she wasn't exactly planned we just didnt use any b/c at all I wasnt worried if I got pregnant and I wasnt worried if I didnt

Aymee - posted on 07/13/2010

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@brooke lang... that was precisely what i was trying to say is that at 13 you can't take care of a child when u are a child yourself. I really think the only reason there is back lash for it is because they are so stuck in their ways and think it's fun, cute, makes them grown up I DONT EVEN KNOW WHY! I think it's insane.

Brooke - posted on 07/12/2010

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Ok Im sorry I didn't write down my age...
I was 17 when my partner and I talked about it and later decided to go ahead. I was 18 when I gave birth to my daughter. I am now 20, my daughter is 18 months old, we have plans on trying for another in the next months or 2.

Brooke - posted on 07/12/2010

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kristy osbourne: No I don't mean well when a 13 year old falls pregnant on purpose. It is disgusting and she needs to know that! How could she possibly have a healthy motherly relationship with her child if she is literally a child herself, barely a teenager. I can say what I want I will say what I want. I don't care if you or nobody else likes it.
I had good intentions on my first post... I co-operated and told my story. But Im not 13..not even close!
When I read that post I was horrified!! That girl couldn't possibly give that baby the life it deserves without giving it a better home. This is just my opinion.
DISGUSTING!

Caroline - posted on 07/12/2010

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me & my partner were 16 when were discussed it, we did try but then thought bout it and relised it was going to be a bad idea but it was too late i was preggers,LOL love it every moment of it, wouldnt take it back for the world!!

Stacey - posted on 07/11/2010

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i was 17 when i got pregnant with my son and he was very much planned just didnt expect it to happen so soon :) and my 2nd baby was planned to

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