wanting opinions.. another baby?

Lindsay - posted on 09/06/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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i just had my baby 7 weeks ago, a little boy. i have been recently thinking and i am feeling like i want another one already...and im not sure what to do or if its even a good idea lol.. any help or comments would be great! no negativity please!!! if you have a problem with it please dont comment... thanks!

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Megan - posted on 09/21/2010

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Girl let me just tell you as the mom of a 4 year old and a 6 month old, the gap HELPED. Its challenging no matter what to have a baby...but two? I would wait:) The couple years was perfect, not only do I get to baby my baby, but my 4 year old is a great helper! Good luck:)

Brittany - posted on 09/21/2010

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Hi my advice is too wait a little while longer, i went through the same thing after my son was bron i wanted another baby very soon, i wait, and then i realized that i needed to wait until he was older bc a baby is a lot of work and my best friend had her kids just a year apart and i see how she struggles, my son is now 15 months and i am wanting another one now, i believe i have waited long enough but i am not really sure yet. i get really paranoid when my periods are late and i run to the store for a pregnancy test and its always negative. well anyways this month i was supposed to start on the 17th and its now almost the 22nd and i still havent started. not sure why i am tellin you all of this but i guess i just need to get it off of my chest! thanks for listening!

Rachel - posted on 09/09/2010

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I don't think you should do it just yet.. You need to give your body some time to heal. Having kids too close together can mess up your body and uterus. Its really not healthy.. So in my opinion I think you should wait.. But hey it is your body and your decision but talk it over with your docter.. Either way good luck..

Brooke - posted on 09/08/2010

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Almost every mother goes through this feeling and you will go through it many more times. But realistically it may not be such a good idea. First how was the pregnancy, labor and delivery of your son? Do you and your partner have your own house? do you or your partner work? Could you afford to have another child? etc... if you can't answer yes to all of these then I would say wait until you can.. A baby doesn't just need love to thrive..
Also another issue is health. You are supposed to wait around 18 months after the birth of a baby to fall pregnant. But this is your decision, if you think its a good idea then do what you feel is best, but in my opinion I wouldn't go there. My daughter is 20 months and my fiance and i are going to start trying now, we would like to have another little one before we get married in november next year.

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you know i love ya but from what you tell me about your current situation with your parents and how crowded you guys are sometimes..i would wait. focus on the little guy you got now and get out on your own before thinking about it or considering it. you wouldn't want another reason for your parents to get on your case about. plus what does dad think about another little one? i'm' here though if you wanna talk about things! you know the number! :-)

Kelina - posted on 09/08/2010

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You should probably wait. Right now you're body hasn't recovered from your first little one, and having another right away can carry serious risks to both you and second baby. I think the recommendation is to wait at the very least a year to give your body time to recover, if not two years. I would wait, enjoy your little boy, and start trying again when he's almost a year. That way you're not dealing with night feedings, lack of sleep, a demanding new schedule every 3 days and a tired pregnant body on top of all that. Good luck!

Jamie - posted on 09/08/2010

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I felt that way after I had my first. I was so sad I wasn't pregnant anymore...I ended up getting pregnant and having my 2 kids 15 months apart. Its hard at first but they are close now. It cost alot in the begining so i would wait...2 kids is so much harder than 1...I am talkin while I am 8 & 1/2 months pregnant with my third...I waited until my youngest was almost 2...I am happy my kids are close but its alot of money and daycare is horrible

Lisa - posted on 09/07/2010

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I felt exactly the same!! Haha I thought I was crazy and so did my partner I thought I was the only one lol.
I felt like that strongly until Mia was about 3 months old and now she is a handful and a half and shes only 7 months lol. We're going to start trying again after christmas because we'd like them to be close together. But its funny how scared you are at first and then so so keen to keep going i'd have a million if i could!! Goodluck hun.

Jennifer - posted on 09/07/2010

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I knew I wanted another after my son was born as well. I wasn't financially stable at the time so we decided to wait. If you feel that you are physically and emotionally ready for another one then there is no problem with you having another one.

Brittany - posted on 09/07/2010

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The same thing happen to me and i held off on trying, to get back to normal and now that our son is almost 8mths we have been trying for 3mths! If you think you can handle it GO FOR IT!! and GOOD LUCK!!!

Toni - posted on 09/06/2010

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I wanted another one almost as soon as my boy was born.
I wanted to have another pretty quickly, as it reduces the chances of jelousy between the kids, but we have been trying for nearly 2 years and nothing.
If you have the energy to handle 2 young children then go for it.
Hope everything goes well for you :)

Regan - posted on 09/06/2010

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I don't have a problem with it. As long as you have the support, good health, and lots of love, You will be fine. Have you talked with you partner about it? What do they say about having another one so soon? If so then all the decision is is when to start trying.

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