wat im going through

Kerri - posted on 04/24/2010

sweetie, it seems llike the best thing for you to do is to move away. Whilst you're stressed, its passing to your baby! You need to do something about it darlin, if he doesn't want to move then let him stay there, and tell him that you won't let your daughter be treatred that way before she's even here! i too moved when i was pregnant, and my bf followed me. it worked out well as we got married just before i had our baby :) I understand about ur dad, i was abused by mine, and go nowhere near him now, he's not in my life at all. I don't know anything about the state of affairs in america, but if u live in england, go to your local council, or the equivillant where you live, and tell them that your house is overcrowded, about to have two more babies born into it, you don't get on, and the stress is affecting your baby. you're gp or ob can help you by writing a letter. Other than that, i don't know what to say, just that i'm here if you need to talk darlin.
Very best of luck
Kerri xXx

Lindsay - posted on 04/24/2010

the father needs to take responsibility. and as a mother you should take more responsibility. i moved house 2ce while i was pregnant because it wasnt working out, and my boyfriend only moved in with me 2weeks before our son was due to be born. you need to show him that its a bad situation.. take steps for yourself and show you are serious... look for a house. get assistance from the government. and get everything set up for the baby and YOU!.they father will follow.. men are generally scared of change. my boyfriend and i lived 330kms away from eachother (i think its about 200ish miles?) for 2and a half years before he finally made a move. I had to get the house. i had to set everything up. I had to work for everything my baby has..but its working right now. and thats what you need to thik about doing. my boyfriend is a complete comitaphobe too

Kia - posted on 04/22/2010

your boyfriend afraid of responsibility? he should of thought of that before you two got pregnan,t just saying, for not only your sake, but your childs you should get out of that house, you have problems with your dad, your mom, his family, why have your child grow up around such hate, try to break that chain & start over new :) i really really hope things work out for you & your child, goodluck.

Kristen - posted on 04/22/2010

i would never go live with my dad...I wont even be alone with him...It just to scary...

Kristen - posted on 04/22/2010

Im currently looking for a job but no luck...He had a job but got laid off...He is planning on joining the navy...He doesnt see any reason for us to move...I think hes afraid of responsibility...We have our own room and all but i hate it their...

Kelina - posted on 04/21/2010

Have you talked with your baby's daddy about moving? That much stress and negativity in your home will seriously affect your baby. I could see staying if it sounded like you were going to get support from his family but it doesn't. Next have to talked with him about the baby being his? You said he wants it to be his so that sounds like he's not sure. I know it hurts but I think maybe talk to him and don't just tell him that it hurts. TRy and make some parallel in his life becasue he probably doesn't understnad. Next your mom. When an addict doesn't realize they are an addict, saying stuff like that won't register with them. Don't sweat it too much. Just make sure to reiterate it when your baby is born and stick to it.
Making up with your dad is wonderful in theory but will probably be a little harder in reality i'm sorry to say. I went through a similar situation with my dad becasue he's an alchoholic with a temper and was very violent when I was a kid. Just make sure you're honest and expect it to take time. I hope everything works out alright! Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy!

Andrea - posted on 04/21/2010

Kaos! Get out of there, your not happy...Baby won't like it either, shes tied to your emotions. Do what you gotta do...mend relations with you Dad. Hes probally had enough regret for what he did to you in his past, im sure things will be different now you two are adults. I dont see another alternative for you....18 people?! How can you even breathe?? I feel bad for pushing the thought of going back to your broken father, but its seriously unhealthy to be in an atmosphere your are in currently. You are in need of a nurturing, comfortable enviorment...and thats not in that house with those angry people.

Lyndsay - posted on 04/21/2010

The first thing that I think of here is why the hell are you living in a home with 18 people? I can understand financial difficulties and all, but seriously, unless its in a mansion I don't see how you can fit everyone comfortably.

I know you're reaching out here, and I apologize if I'm not the most receptive, but it seems like the obvious solution would be to move.

Kayla - posted on 04/21/2010

Wow sweetheart your life seems to be filled with drama!!! First off is there ANY way you could get your own place? Do you or your baby's daddy have a job? Some places are based on income which can help make it affordable to you. I think it would help to get out of your house situation you deff. don't need to be raising your child there. The situation with your dad is gonna take time to trust and forgive. You need to supervise his time with you daughter until you trust him. Everyone in my opinion deserves a second chance however if they fail to prove that they want to change then there's not much hope. If your dad is wanting to try then let him as much as you can just trust your heart. I can relate to the situation with your mom however in my situation it was his mom. Kyle's mom is let's see: an achololic, a HEAVY smoker, addicted to perscription pain killers, bipolar, sucidial, and abusive (mentally, pyshically, and verbally) . We tried to get her to change while I was pregnant and she told us she's wouldn't. Well she proceeded to come to the hospital drunk while I gave birth. She kicked Kyle out of the house because he wouldn't bring Elaine to see her. She called and harrassed my parents. She didn't want to change for Elaine one bit so Elaine will be 2 next month and she has NOT seen her since her birth. To your boyfriends mom this baby is YOUR baby you set the rules. I understand where you come from with spanking I don't like to spank my little one either. This is your choice and you need to make sure it is being followed. This is also another reason maybe you should find somewhere else cuz I wouldn't want to leave my daughter with her if she's not gonna follow your rules. I'm sorry to hear about his grandpa it seems to me that you like him? Hopefully things will get better but if not it's not good for him to suffer.

I don't know what else to say but I'm here to talk...message me if you want. I've been told I'm a good listener **hugs**