What are your opinions on this...?

Amy - posted on 08/13/2010 ( 3 moms have responded )

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So me and my son's father are engaged we've been for almost two years and back in June he had graduated from high school and had to move for college, but of course after he moves from college he couldn't get in due to being denied of a student loan. And his mom just had a baby last month so there's no room for him to move back there, my house already has 8 people as it is and my step dad can't afford to feed another mouth which is why he made his son's go get work to pay rent until they move out, and it's impossible to get a place around here since I live in a small town type of deal. He doesn't live very far still in the same state, but about two and half hours away. He has a car, but of course he's trying to get a job to save up for an apartment and finally tie the knot with me and all the things that fall behind it. He does come up to visit me and our son and he does the best he can to help me, but it's not often and I feel like he's missing out on our son's life right now bec he's getting so big and getting smarter everyday and I wish his daddy could see this a bit more often. I do respect that he has no place to go other than living with his dad and that he's trying hard to get a job to officially make me and Aiden [[our son]] family and have us live how he thinks a family should together. Whenever he comes up though I get all emotional when he has to leave bec I miss him terribly and our son misses him to no end. I try to get him to stay up here longer, but of course job hunting is something he needs to do. I have to wait to get a job since that's my mom's rules so I can't make it easier for him just yet. Is it bad that I get all upset when he leaves and worry about his connection with our son?

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Amy - posted on 08/18/2010

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I actually have been trying to get someone thrown out since he does have money to move out, but he won't. I live with family there's no one in my house that isn't family. I have two step brothers who are both in their 20's and since the one just got a job I'll be expecting him to be getting a place within a year and the other one he's been working since he was 18 [[he's 21 now]] he has the money to move out into an apartment downtown, but he refuses to move bec it means less for him to pay for. I'm the only one who actually has goals out of the three of us to move out of the house. As for everyone else, my siblings are like 12 and 16 so it'd be pretty bad if I told them to leave and then there's my step dad and my mom which well I'm sure that'd be foolish of me to tell them to move out of their own house. Lol. I have to wait until he and I make enough money to get a place, which sucks, but I guess it'll be worth it in due time... I just hate that he misses out on a lot with our son bec he's getting so big and he's smarter everyday. I need more patience, but at least I'm getting work and he's getting work as well so I'm sure it will be probably about six months or so until I move out.

Kayla - posted on 08/18/2010

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if he matters so much why dont you have one of those 8 people living with you find somewhere else to go.... or are you living in someone elses home?

Jenna - posted on 08/13/2010

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im not in a situation like that but i think his and your son have a good connection no matter how often he sees him. there father and son and your son just knows that. babies are smart in their own way. everything will get better eventually