Melanie - posted on 12/02/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )
My husband and i seperated 2 months ago because he told me he had been having an affair with his ex for 3 months. Our son died on Nov 10th from complications of Leukemia and on Nov 27th i gave birth to twin boys Elliot and Adam. We also have a 3yr old daughter Hannah. For the last 2 months since he moved out he has been living with his ex. Now that the twins are here he has been here every day all day to help out as much as he can. I appreciate it but now he has it in his head that we should get back together and be a family. I still love him very much but i do not trust him. He was willing to leave his pregnant wife and kids for his ex. How do i know it will not happen again. I do not trust him anymore but he is the father of my kids. Part of me feels like i should try and make it work but he is still living with his ex and goes home to her every night. He says he is willing to change, will do marriage counselling again and be a proper father to the kids and husband to me. He told me he would never cheat again if we got back together and woudl cut off all contact with his ex as well. Do you think people who cheat can change or will they just cheat again? Also do you think it is a good idea to get back together just for the kids sake even if it is not what you might want in the long run? I want some good advice because right now i am not sure if it is my hormones or whatever but i feel like it is hopeless to even try again.