What do you REALLY think about Teen Moms?

Kayla - posted on 02/27/2010 ( 151 moms have responded )

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Hello, Im Kayla. I am 20 (almost 21). I got pregnant with my daughter at 17, had her 3 days before my 18th birthday. Coming from a teen mom herself, I find it hard to believe that all of us are "bad parents". But that's all we ever hear anymore. How 'bout some support? Its not easy, especially when that daddy isn't there. But I really want to know how people really "view" teen parents. From personal expirence I have alot to say on the issue. But for all you moms and expectant moms of ALL ages, please lets talk about the real life sitution that could one day could be your child telling you that they're pregnant.

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Jennifer - posted on 04/04/2012

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I learned I was pregnant a couple weeks before my 19th birthday. Having my daughter is a blessing. But I would have wanted her to come a little farther in my future. I love being a mother! Don't get me wrong. I've been blessed with a wonderful, healthy daughter and a boyfriend who is able to support all three of us on his own. I'm one of the lucky few who pretty much do have that 'dream come true' type of situation. I think that teens who purposely try to get pregnant for whatever the reason early on, are asking for trouble. For whatever the case may be, more often than not, girls get it into their heads that a baby will give them a happy family; someone who will always love them, etc. I personally know of many girls who have done this. Being a teen mother is already hard enough. From the moment you get pregnant, when most families are disappointed with the timing(but still supportive)(sometimes never supportive), to walking around with a super young face and big belly and being given the worst stares, to strangers giving you dirty looks when you tell them I have a kid, or so on, and constantly getting unwanted advice from any older parent on how you're parenting, etc. Not to mention all of the financial mess you get into. (Even if WIC and Medicaid pay for you). I have a friend who saw my situation and wanted to have a baby with her boyfriend because of it. I am lucky to have the boyfriend I do and a child who is healthy and relatively easy to care for. I am a stay at home mother. I have friends with babies. But no one ever tells you what you have to give up or what you'll miss out on. I tried going back to college this semester. Just trying to find a babysitter was ridiculous and utterly stressful. You never get to do anything by yourself, eat anything by yourself, or do things at a leisurely pace. Your needs are put on a back burner until you can meet those of your baby's. You lose friends and gain other parents. Not a whole lot of people want to hang out with you when you have a little baby all the time. The mental and physical stress is unfathomable. I was never conscious about my body until after my baby. I am perfectly fine with the weight but not the baby pooch I now have. There is no time to worry abbout working out or fixing myself super pretty. My daughter either licks my face or wants to try eating my hair. I think teen mom's can be great but I think there are a lot of teen moms out there for the wrong reasons. Anyone who says that being a mother, or a teen mother, is easy. Is lying. It might get easier with time. But these are some of the hardships. Please, no one take offense to this. It is simply my opinion.

Emmalene - posted on 02/27/2010

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I think many teen moms are great and it's the few who aren't that ruin it for the rest of us!

*Party* - posted on 02/22/2013

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I don't believe that all teen moms are bad .
In fact , I believe that age doesn't matter !
I'm sixteen and six months pregnant .
I know that I am going to be a better mother
than my own mother was at 30-years-old !!!
Age doesn't matter ,
it's the PERSON that makes the difference !
Even though I am a teen mom ,
I have the opinion that some teen moms are
just disgusting and annoying and immature .
I hate teen mothers who have Facebooks and
all they post about is how they want a man and
they can't wait to go to this party this weekend.
Like with a child , all posts ,pictures ,etc. are
usually expected to be OF YOUR CHILD!! Not
saying that everybody has to have tons of pics
and posts but c'mon , not ONE single pic or
post about your child ? Just about MEN ?! wtf.
And it's irritating . But that's not ALL moms , just
SOME of them :/ And other teen moms , I am
really disappointed are pregnant . They talk about
how excited they are to have their lovers' baby
and how they're going to get married and live
happily ever after . They talk about how their bf
is already figuring out which big house they're
going to buy for their new family . It's ridiculous .
That is just a dream . The dad is likely only there
because he has to be . And even if they are in
love , it's stupid to decide at FIFTEEN that it's time
to have a child !YOU ARE A CHILD ! I never CHOSE
to become pregnant . And I wasn't just not careful,
I honestly DID NOT want to do it that day :(
So although I am a teen mom , SOME teen moms
just piss me off when they think life is some big
fairy tale or whenever they act like babies are all
fun and games and they're an accesory like "I
can't wait I already got ten outfits ! This is gunna
be so much fun who wants to be godmom?! :D"
Like they don't even know realistically how much
diapers will cost or a crib or a stroller ! So
uneducated , uninformed , ignorant teen moms
piss me off . But I guess some thirty year old moms
could be that way too ? But at least they're ADULTs.
So even though I am a teen mom , I have a VERY
strong opinion on the subject :)


HOWEVER !


I think teen mothers who keep their child are
strong and brave , because the nasty things
people call us or say to or about us are just harsh
and hard to live with . Especially for me , I was always
a party girl with TONS of guy friends and a few girls .
Now I have no friends really and am labeled the
world's biggest slut ( though I've had sex with ONLY
two people !!! ). So it's rough and reaallllyyy hard .
Especially finishing high school and leaving your
tiny little one in daycare :( It's so difficult not to cry !
lol so I give cudos to teen moms who DO NOT ABORT
and are strong and brave enough to keep their
children no matter what idiots say or or do or how
many friends they lose . And also , it takes some
maturity :)

Kira - posted on 04/04/2012

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My mother gave birth to me at the age of 19. I couldn't stress it enough when I say that being a Teen Mother these days are 20x easier than it used to be, why? Because of the resources! This was the late 80s, early 90s when I was a baby and my mother STRUGGLED. My goodness she almost killed herself to provide a good life for me and she did a pretty dam good job. She finished college,went to grad school and the first in our family to receive a Ph.D in Educational Psychology. She owns a beautiful 3-bedroom duplex condo, a lovely BMW and is married to my step-father. She is TRULY a case where she came from the bottom to the top and it is possible. Being a young mother doesn't mean that you can't do well for yourself. I know my fiances mother waited a little longer to have children and she's living paycheck to paycheck in a small 2-bedroom apartment with a lousy landlord and she always asks me how my mother did it. I wish I could tell her how! Go to school and get educated, and become successful. The teen mom remarks will be a thing of the past.

Brittany - posted on 12/14/2011

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I got married at 18 and no I wasnt pregnant. It actually took 5 years to have our first child. We were 23. I am now 25 and having my 2nd baby. I know i wasnt a teen but I was and am still young and I feel Im a great mother. On the other hand my brother in law is 31 and him and his wife are idiots when it comes to raising their 3 kids. They act like children, they wont get jobs and cant even buy their kids food or cloths so everyone in the family is doing it for them. Its sad. So I think it depends on your level of responsibility not so much on age. Dont get me wrong age does indeed play some part in it but not all. Oh and every fist time parent has no idea what they are doing at first, its something you learn as you are doing it, I mean how can you be a pro at something you've never done before.

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Mommalove - posted on 04/14/2012

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I am 17 years old i got pregnant at 16 by my boyfriend who i am still with, a lot of people judged me when i was pregnant and it made me feel very sad. I always heard from people telling me that i ruined my life and that i am stupid for keeping the baby but let me say one thing i am young and love my baby just like any other good mom would. I really understand what you are saying i want to know to how people feel because i feel like the age of a person does not make you a good mom.

Kelly - posted on 04/11/2012

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Me being a teen mother myself, I had my son at 17, he is now 3 turning 4 in two weeks with a sister turning 2 in July!! Any way, I finished school with my son on my hip and I was around A LOT of girls who were between 13-20 and were either prego or had their child. A lot of the girls still ahd the mentality that they're parents will stay home and watch their child while they can go and continue their party life. however there were very few that had the mentality of being a parent and knowing that, they cant have that life that they were living before they became pregnant. It depends. A LOT of people will look down on girls who are young and have children, ESPECIALLY when they see just you and your child(ren) without the father. When i was going to school to finish grade 12, i found alot of the girls who went through hardships and life altering events before they became pregnant, were more mature. although 3 out of those 10 girls were still very immature and had child services become involved. Either way, things happen in life, and only you can make the proper decision, do what your HEART tells you. If you think having a child is going to get the baby daddy to stay with you or your relationship will get better after baby is here, then maybe you shouldnt be having the child, under the unfortunate situations that life brings. but,you need to do whats best for you, and for the child. There are a LOT of great teen moms out there, but there are also some that just purely take advantage of the child to get Child Tax (thats what we get here in Canada once a month for our children).

Dustardi - posted on 04/05/2012

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i have 2 kids that are 14 months apart and im only 18 alot of people look down onme cuz im so young wit two kids i dont have any support so i do the best i can on my own i dont really care what other peoplethink because i take care of both my kids the best way i can. If my child came to me and told me she was pregnant at the age of 16-18 i wound b eupset because i would want her to wait until she finished college but at the same time i would support her and any descision that she makes beacuse she still my child and no matter if shes right or wrong i will stand by her side

Melissa - posted on 04/04/2012

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i wasnt quite a teen when i had my son i was 19 when i got pregnant with him and had him 3 days after i turned 20, im 23 now, expecting my 2nd in november. i dont pass judgement on other young moms unless i see their children are obusuly being mistreated

Callie - posted on 04/02/2012

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I was pregnant with my son at 17 and had him at 17 to, but also married too. I'm a young mother, saying im a teen mom doesnt really sound to mature. And everyother girl is a teen mom. Im a wife and a mother, so im no longer a teen even though im technically 19.

Katie - posted on 01/14/2012

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I got pregnant at 17 and had my baby 2 months before my 18th birthday, I have an extremely bright 2 year old son (03/01/2010) that I wouldnt change for the world! He can walk, talk, we're potty training currently, he knows colours, names and all sorts! I don't have a lot of money at all but he never goes without, and I do it all pretty much by myself! I dont ask anyone for money or help and he's turned out perfect! I may be young but he's my greatest achievement ever and I dont think age has any factor in it at all! I know some absolutely lousy older parents, it's just a silly stereotype! Sounds like every teen parent here should be proud of themselves!

Bergerbytes - posted on 01/11/2012

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My mother was 17 when she got pregnant with me and 2 months from 18 when I was born - 36 years ago! She was a great Mom in providing a home, food and clothing, however, I now know she felt like she missed out on alot. By the time I was 10 she was partying all the time and I missed out on allot of Mommy time! I had my daughter 13 years ago at the age of 23 and it was tough! I didn't have a job or anything - the father was obsolete... Although, it did make me stronger, as I knew I had to support my girl. It was a struggle for sure! I had to go back to school for 4 years to get a College degree and raise my girl on my own! There were times I had no milk in the house, nevermind having any finer things in life! However, I did it and now I am 36, have an awesome career and a 15 month old boy, along with my 13 years old daughter who stuck by me through everything! There is nothing wrong with teen moms, as long as they realize it isn't about themselves anymore and are willing to do everything to make a great life for their child(ren).... Although, it isn't easy, being a mom isn't easy regardless but while being a teen yourself - it is much more difficult! There are many great teen moms though - they just aren't recognized because BAD is always what people notice before GOOD...

Brittney - posted on 01/11/2012

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I was 17 when I was pregnant, it was frowned upon in my parents home. But I know there is always two sides to a story.

Brittney - posted on 01/11/2012

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I was 17 when I was pregnant, it was frowned upon in my parents home. But I know there is always two sides to a story.

Melissa - posted on 01/09/2012

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were not bad parents all being a young mom means is that we have more energy for chasing our kids and we will be around for more of their lives

Liz - posted on 01/06/2012

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Depends on the teen I mean I've seen bad teen mums and I've seen good ones but I don't like the idea of a young mum sometimes because theres no much to do plus and the reactions of the world that bully them even though there is emense pressure for kids to grow up to fast and whats more grown up then becoming a parent? My sister had her son at 15 but she coped without the dad being there because we rallied round and helped. I'll only say being a teen mum is bad only if the person is not responsible or is doing it for all the wrong reasons like attention or trying to keep a boyfriend that wants to dump them.

Brittany - posted on 01/06/2012

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hey, im Brittany. I had my daughter when I was 18. I think it's horrible how people can judge every teen mom, not every teen mother is a bad mother. I know a lot of teen mothers who do everything for there child or children. I love my daughter and I stopped parting and going out every night for her. People should stop judging.

Rebecca - posted on 01/05/2012

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I got pregnant at 15 had my daughter 26 days after my 16th birthday. I knew what i was getting in to i have 10 younger cousins that i helped out with, so when i had my daughter all they had to show me was how to breastfeed her. and the rest is kinda just very easy for me

Luvmia - posted on 12/11/2011

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I think teen moms don't know what they are getting into.

I was pregnant at 17 and I had my son two months after I turned 18. I thought I had the support of my son's father whom was my boyfriend but sooner than later I found out I did not towards the middle of my pregnancy.

I was not a bad mom but like a lot of teen moms I did not know what I was doing and I was not ready to be a mom. But that does not make us bad moms.

I think if we had enough love, guidance and our fathers around to build up our self-esteem, keep us busy with activities, and show us that we matter, we would not look for love in all the wrong places because we would be fulfilled.

Nicolasena - posted on 12/09/2011

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I have nothing against you or any teen mom, you asked what we really think about them... Well, I feel that any young person having sex before legal age is threading on unstable ground and ultimately making a poor choice. Because as an adult getting pregnant it was hard and I was Married!!! So I cant imagine a young person dealing with that intentionally. Did you purposely get pregnant? Not many teen moms do. They may just be having fun and not thinking of all the things that unprotected sex will bring the least deadly being pregnancy :( The ones who do it do it for the wrong reason and dont fully understand the magnitude of the entire situation. Motherhood to me is one of the highest callings and a teen who is not ready or fully prepared is going to have a harder time than maybe an older more mature woman. Now I am not saying that all older women are better moms Ha! I know some younger/single moms who are doing a great job! and I can tell that you are one of them. Another thing, if we always worry about what others have to say we will always have worries because there will always be someone with a negative.... thinking about my 10 year old and six year old daughters getting pegnant as teenagers is hard but a reality that it could happen. I do feel that as a good parent I would express my concerns but be very supportive of them and guide them as best as I can. one thing I always try to teach them is that there are consequences to whatever we do So education on the fact that unprotected sex can give you std's and get you pregnant will be known to them. I will have to trust them to make roper decisions for themselves. More mothers need to be supportive of their daughters and if they make a mistake be willing to share so that your child can learn from it not do it and then feel condemned by it. I know I have said a mouthful... I hope I was able to help you understand from my point of view :)

Krystal - posted on 12/09/2011

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I think that age does matter i was 18 when my son was born and I will be 20 a week from today and I am expecting a little girl in February...But my cousin and his girl friend had their son 6 months after me and they have lost custody twice now for neglect and they are two years older than me! Age matters but more your mental age not your physical age lol and I like being a young mom! The way I see it is if my kids start having kids when I did at least I will be one hot grandma!!! Lol JK

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I think being a mother has nothing to do with age, its to do with how responsible and mature you can be when it comes to being a mother. I had my son 2 months before I turned 16, and I feel I coped as well as any mother of any age would. I did get alot of judgement from older people, but not nearly as much as what some other teen mums seem to experience. I think this is because I always acted appropriately and with class when out with my baby, I dressed nicely, and respectably, I speak very well, and I made sure I was very knowledgeable with all aspects of parenting, and I think alot of people would have assumed I was older than I was because of this.
Alot of teenage mothers I see still dress in skimpy little teenage outfits, and act and carry themselves like teenage girls when they are in public, and I know its not right to judge because of this, but people assume that if your young in the way you behave, that you would be less capable of looking after a child, and be less responsible and knowledgeable.
I also knew a couple of girls who had babies at 15 or 16, and didnt look after themselves properly and continued smoking marijuana throughout their pregnancies, and continued this lifestyle after the child was born, and they acted like trollips from the ghetto in public, drawing attention to themselves. These mums are the ones that give all young mums a bad name.
If your a good parent then id say not to give a second thought to judgement from others, they dont even know you!

Brennan - posted on 09/06/2011

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I moved out on my own at 18 and married at 19. Had my first child at 23 and my 2nd at 31. I made some not so great decisions. At 23 I thought I had everything under control and some how we made it, but it was a lot of work. Every pay period (which in those days was not much after we paid health insurance and taxes) we would take out enough money to buy formula and diapers first and would have little funds for anything else. On the other hand my best friend who was a single mother received assistance from the state. She always had her hair and nails done nice clothes and stayed home with her child. She and I never discussed this, but I did get bitter as none of this was an option to me because I was married. As a society I feel we don't teach about the money needed to take care of a child and if you need assistance where the funds really come from. One time shopping with her she said "why do you pay for all of that, I get that for free". I don't think that she actually relized that nothing is for free. She went on to have more children who are all supported by the state (tax payers). I get really frustrated when I see that my grandparents who have worked their whole life not get their life saving drugs filled due to their lack of funding and yet she is grown and some how continues to not be responsable, but has more children who all receive full paid insurance and aid. I think that no child should do with out, but their parents should be grateful for the blessings our country gives to them and know that it is not FREE. It is a fear to me that one day this funding will be depleated and kids will do without, but then I think back to those times of hardship we had and some how you always find a way for you kids married or single. My husbands mother was a single mom and in those days if you didn't have anything you just did with out. Growing up there were times they lived out of their car and he stayed by his self as a young child while she worked. She told me one time they were in the Arizona desert with no shoes no money or gas only the clothes on their back trying to find a pay phone to call her mom to come get him cause she was at the end of her rope. I'm sure for some this is still their reality. My point being raising kids to be responsible is one thing, but we are the biggest influence to them and they learn from our reality. Stay strong and guide them, because times may get worse and our kids will not have these safety nets set for them.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/06/2011

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I got pregnant at 16, it is way to young to have a child but that doesn't mean we can't be good parents. My oldest son is now 14, I have raised him very good. I consider myself a great parent. Both of my kids a well behaved wonderful kids. My oldest sons father wasn't there for him and he is deceased now. But I was lucky to find a great man when my son was 3. I don't encouraged anyone to be a teen mom. But things do happen and I feel like we should do the best we can for our kids. I got looked down on for being such a young mother. But I held my head up high and raised my son. I still look way younger than my age so people look at me crazy when I tell them I have a 14yr old. I don't want my sons to become teen fathers, but if it happens I feel I am raising them to be responsible men. And I will make sure they take care of their responsibilities.

Vanessa - posted on 09/05/2011

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I had my daughter when I was 18 and never did I regret her, but I do think there are way to many girls that have kids and don't know how or even want to take care of them. It's like it's cool to say your a mom, but not act like one. My daughter was my life the minute she came into the world and that's not always the case. Kid's also shouldn't have baby after baby when they can't support the child or themselves either.

Monta - posted on 07/30/2011

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Well... I was 16 when i had y bby boy Alex.. Hes now 20 months old.. I just turned 18 and im pregant again..
I'd say i know a few teenage mothers that im actually thinkin im so sorry for the babies because they act like babies teir selfs.. But i know really good moms at teenage age. So its hard to say i guess it depends on a person. Well if there is some1 who ever try to tell me im a bad mom i could go crazy because i know im good at being a mommy.. I know im not perfect and we all have our bad days when we want to just relax and stuff..
I'm not going out much and im livin alone with my baby and i can suport myself so i guess im not doing to bad.
All the people ho are saying your bad because your so young... well let them look at few 40 year old mothers who doesnt even look after theyr kids and s drinking all the time and stuff.. So no matter what age you are you can be a good mother. Them people who actually does think we are bad just because we are young... well they are so wrng.. But sure im not really bothered about what they say because they dont know anything.. Wish you and all your babies good luck.. ;)
If ya wanna chat feel free to add me.. ;) xxx

Jessica - posted on 07/28/2011

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People are crazy! I'm 18 and I want way more kids . Not yet because I hasn't got the money but if I did I would have more . I love being a mom and I am a great mom . I am a single hard working mom and I'm mentally alot better off then most older women I know. I wish I
Could afford to have more kids . And I'm even donating eggs to a family who can't conceive and I will be the childrens aunt . I love being a parent

Angela - posted on 07/27/2011

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I was a teen Mom at the exact same age as you Kayla! In addition I got pregnant again at age 20! I am now an older Mom to a 3 year old at age 44! hee hee hee.

I give the upmost respect for teen Moms, because yes most are doing it alone, their is a stigma on them and you don't have the advantage of money, and experience as many older Moms.

I think teen Moms can be just as good Moms as older Moms, but I do wish their was more support for them. I have seen awful Mom's at all ages.

So to all you teen Mom's I give you props. You did not take the easy road but that did not stop you and never let it! It is harder to finish school, do a career etc but you can do it. The most important thing is that you love your children.

Again I wish more would give support and if any of you teen Mom's need to talk just message me. I was a single teen Mama, had not any support from family or the BD. I did it all alone up until I got married 5 years ago and had my Claire , age 3 with my husband.

So I was a single teen Mom who raised my now adult girls and have a baby now too!

Tammy - posted on 07/25/2011

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You really want to know "What do I REALLY think about Teen Moms?" What I think is that you are a human being, not an animal, thus you have self control. Why don't you use it? Why are so many kids getting pregnant???!!!

Tammy - posted on 07/23/2011

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I think it depends on the individual. I have a niece who got pregnant when she was 18, and she is a pathetic mother. She hasn't done a single thing for her daughter since the day she was born. On the other hand, my mother signed for my sister to get married when she was 16, and she had her first baby when she was 17. She is a great mother. She and her husband were flat broke, but they worked hard, graduated high school, went to college, and have raised two wonderful boys. My other two sisters were both 19 when they had their first baby, and I think they were both good mothers. I just had a baby at the age of 39, and I definitely know that they struggled much more financially by having kids when they were young, but I think all of my sisters have been excellent moms. Do I think it is wise to have a baby when you're a teenager? Ummm...NO!! However, that doesn't make you a bad mom, just one with more challenges in front of you. Every parent, regardless of her age, deserves to be judged on their own merits. I've seen good and bad of all ages. That goes for moms and dads both.

Amanda - posted on 07/16/2011

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I am 19 I have a 22 month old son and 9 month old girl. married, and have our own place. I think that teen moms most of the time are the better moms. people that judge and say crap behind your back are stupid. My husband is native american, so my kids are 1/2 and I always think about how the natives back in the day had it having kids at 13. Society says getting pregnant before 18 is wrong. I don't know how it came about, but people did used to get married and have kids at a young age. life expectancy I guess. I don't go by what society says it's a bunch of bull. I didn't get pregnant with either of my kids on purpose, but I would never take it back.. they are my life. I'm one of the teen moms that don't go out. I stay at home with my kids. and if I want to "party" with some friends they come to my house after the kids are asleep lol.. me n my husband haven't gone out for a couple months. if my son or daughter came up to me to tell me that they were pregnant. I would support them. but I would also talk to them about it to try and prevent it.

Lalisa - posted on 07/15/2011

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I think most teens who have children now adays are immature and arent ready to be parents so they make bad desicions. But there are the rare few that are very good parents and take wonderful care of their children. I believe that teens parents can be wonderful to their kids if they have the right guidence. I personally wont recommend it.

Erika - posted on 07/15/2011

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i was 16 when i had fell pregnant with my first and had him when i turned 17 and had my other son at 17, i dont see anything wrong with been a teen mom aslong as u know what ur getting ur self into and its not for a fasion item like most girls get pregnant for! its hard work, im lucky because i have my partners support:), yet theres so many people out there that judge and think we cant be good parents because were young! thats rubbish any one can be a good parent at any age, age is just a number after all, but being a mum changes ur life dramatically, i hardly get to spend any quality time with my partner, no going out anymore, etc, but tbh id ather sit in and be the best mummy i possibly can :) so yes i think being a teenage mums fine and u shouldnt get judged unless ur doing something to get judged for and thats not by having a baby young :)

Libby - posted on 07/15/2011

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I wish i could speak from an unbiased point of view...but because i got pregnant at 16, i cannot. Life was beautiful my freshman year of high school, i could go out and be with my friends, i could wake up 20 minutes before i had to be at school, and I could shower whenever i felt like it... During my sophmore year in high school i had a pretty serious relationship.. It was good at times... but as a 15-16 year old it was a lot to handle. He was an alcoholic and abusive at times... but being so young, i was nieve enough to think that i could change him. So i stayed. And with that i found myself pregnant as a junior. Having a child so young isn't the only trying thing i went through... i also delt with the fact that my dreams and goals were getting put on hold.. which was heartbreaking, because here i am 4 years later and i've yet to go to college.. i graduated HS early, thank god.. because i wouldn't have wanted to go back. Babies are tiring, and frusterating at times. And All over a lot to handle. i see shows like Teen Mom out there who whether they think so or not are glamorizing teen parenting. It shows the hardships and hearbreaks that come along with it... but everybody wants to be on TV..and some will go anything to get there.. In my opinion, getting pregnant as a teenager is heartbreaking...in any case... it's what you do from that moment on that determines your situation... I am presonally very proud of the mother i have become, but more importantly i am proud of the little man my son is learning to be.. i love watching him grow and teaching him new things every day... children are like sponges.. they soak up every bit of information they recieve.. and most of us only realize that when our kids start acting like us =D Teenage pregnancy is tragic.. but the outcome can be so rewarding.. not only to ourselves as mothers.. but to our family around us.

Melissa - posted on 07/13/2011

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i got pregnant with my son when i was 19 and had him 3 days after i turned 20. ppl my grandmas age are supportive because in their age it was normal to be married at 17 and have kids by 20. but people my age and my moms age look down on me saying i should have put him up for adoption. most of us are great moms, its just the select few that make the rest of us look bad just because they wernt willing to grow up for their child like we did

Serenity - posted on 07/12/2011

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I got pregnant my senior year of high school and had my son the day before my 19th birthday. I love being a parent but it is hard out of high school that's for sure. You know I don't really think it's age it's more like maturity. Teen pregnacy is not encouraged but if it does happen I would support my son if he came home and said he and his girlfriend were having a baby. I know how hard it is and I know I wouldn't have been able to do it without the support of my familyand my now husband who is 3 months younger than me. One of my teachers had the nerve to tell me to put him up for adoption so that I could go to school and keep on the path I was going but I told him I was not giving up my child and I wouldn't change that for anything. Being a "teen parent" doesn't mean anything it is just a title. All that matters is how the person handles the situation.

Jennifer - posted on 07/12/2011

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I am writing this without looking at what anyone else has to say. What do I think of Teen Moms????? I think that they need all the support that they can get. No matter the reason that they got pregnant. All moms in the world have the ability to be good or bad parents and we all need support. Just I think for a teen to be successful they need extra help so that they can still get a good education and good jobs. They need to be given a chance and not just thrown aside. If it were my daughter, we would support her no matter what.

Yukiko - posted on 07/12/2011

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I strongly believe that no one has room to ever judge a young girl or lady for wanting to have children or conceiving a child at that age. We should always think in the best interest of the mother and the child once a baby has been conceived. I'm not saying that I'm proactive towards teens whether it be males or females wanting children at such a young and fragile age. A word of advice from me is....(1) Live life to the fullest before making life changing positions. (2) Should you find yourself pregnant as a teen try to be the best parent to that child God willing. Don't ever feel like the ball is not in your court because you still have control of making your next BEST move. Good luck young ladies.

KENDALL - posted on 07/11/2011

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I had my daughter at 14 and the looks and behide my back talk i got almost broke me. I am proud to say yes i daughter and i am still in school and im going to college and have my CNA and gradute earlybecause of all those people who said i couldnt.I had my princpal of my school tell me if i keep my baby i will never amount to nothing and be on welfare for the rest of my life. I been living on my own since i was 15 and now 17 and have my own place and only have my one kid. Plus me and my husband make to much money to even be on welfare. I am somewhat a speaker for teen moms cause we are not all the same. I made it and i know that others have to. I just wish other people would see the wonderful people we are and not for what we have.

Chantelle - posted on 07/11/2011

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I was 17 when I had my son. And I got alot of strange looks from many people and I even heard some people talking about it pretty much right in front of my face. They would say things like well obviously her parents didn't raise her right if she's got a kid at her age or they would come right up to me and ask me how old are you and I would tell them 17 and they would look at me weird and say oh I thought you were younger, perhaps 15 years old. But honestly I always brushed it off and went on with whatever it was that I was doing. I had alot of support from my Mom. She was behind me 100% of the way and in any decision I made she supported me and told me do whatever you feel is best for you. My son is the best thing that has ever happened to me. He is my world and I wouldn't change any of it. Me and my boyfriend (His father) have been together for 4 years. I'll admit it we have had our hard times when it comes to being parents. But who has ever said it was easy? No matter how old someone is I don't think anyone would ever say it's easy to raise a baby. Being able to raise a child comes from the level of your maturity not your age, (Not saying its okay for anyone to get pregnant at a young age) But I mean things happen and whatever they choose to do about those things is their decision & honestly whos business is it for someone to tell another person what they can and cant do. I get people have their opinions but alot of people make Teen Moms out to be worse then they really are. I raised my son the best way I could. Hes healthy, happy and has a home and food in his stomach and that's all that matter regardless of my age. (I'm now 20)

Constance - posted on 07/07/2011

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I was 16 when my oldest was born. I think the biggest problem beyond not having the money and life experiences, is the teens parents. When I chose to keep my child my mom told me she would help finacially and with care but she was my baby and I would be the one who took care of her. She had raised her kids and would not raise mine. If I was doing something and she needed a bottle my mom would give her bottle if she wasn't busy. If I wanted a night out I had to hire a babysitter. She went to a sitter when I worked and when I went to school. While everybody else went out on Fiday night I was home with my daughter taking care of her. I had a couple of friends that also had kids around the time I did. Their parents took care of their kids they could go out when ever they wanted. They weren't forced to take responsibility of being a mom.



I do think most teen moms are good moms and yes we all need support. We need help so we can finish school. But we have to take responsibility for our own decisions.



For the few teen moms who don't do anything at all give all teen moms/young moms a bad reputation. It isn't fair to the moms who really do take the responsibility seriously.



For everyone that read my post before I actually read it myself. I apologize for what it said before I fixed it.

Stephanie - posted on 07/06/2011

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i turned 20 only three days before my boys were born, so i guess i wasn't a teen mom, but i am a young mom and i was pregnant as a teenager. I don't feel that teen moms are always bad, yes, I agree that sadly alot of the time, they are not prepared or equipped to be mothers, but then you get other teenagers that and a million times as ready as some 30+ year old parents. It's not far to judge by age, I think it's total crap.

Cortney - posted on 07/06/2011

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my mother-in-law was 15 when she had my brother-in-law, i was 19 when i got pregnant with my daughter. there is nothing wrong with having kids at a young age and there is nothing wrong with being a teen mom.

Teresa - posted on 07/06/2011

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I think teen parents have their work cut out for them and while some do a great job of parenting, most are not equipped to do the job. They dont' have the life experience, patience, money, time etc to raise a child properly.

Natasha - posted on 07/05/2011

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I was 17 when I got fell pregnant with my daughter and had her a month before my 18th birthday, now I'm 19 and 27 weeks pregnant with a baby boy. I, myself coming from a family of teen/young mums don't have a negative opinion or attitude about teen parenthood. I find people are very quick to jump the gun though and accuse me of being "irresponsible" and passing comments such as "well obviously they didn't use contraception!", which bugs me a lot because when I fell pregnant with my daughter I was actually on the pill and I was part of the 1% of women that it can fail for. People are incredibly quick to judge and I don't think it's fair. Regularly I get the whole "oh they've only had children to live off benefits" - PFFT!! I work my ass off everyday at work, as does my partner. I've just finished college and I have a place to start at university in September 2012 and my partner is just about to take his third year at uni. I pay rent, I pay my gas, water and lekkie bills. The only thing I have in terms of benefits is child benefit - which all mothers in the UK get anyway! People need to stop judging us. Fair enough if teen mums/dads/parents don't put in the effort they should and they don't actively help their child then yes I guess people do have a small right to pass a comment. However, teen parents are NO DIFFERENT to a woman who has a child in her late 20's/early 30's. As long as we provide what does it matter our ages. BACK OFF STEREOTYPING ALL YOUNG MUMS!!

Casey - posted on 07/02/2011

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You hear more often then not about the bad parents and the ones that dont finish school and live off wellfair then you do the ones that have jobs finished school and do the best they can. I was 17, only 9 days shy of 18 when i had my son. I finished school and also worked almost 30 hours a week on top of that. I wouldnt of been able to do it without my moms help. I would get up with him at night and everything. I would get up right before or at the same time as him to get ready for school so my mom would take that feeding. Then wed be out the door by 8 am for the sitter and school. Id get out of school at 230. (didnt have to stay for 8th hr study hall) If I had to work before anyone would be home to watch my son hed stay at the sitters until my mom got off. I go to work and more then likely not get to see him until he was alseep. Like i said it was hard but I DID IT!
I would tell anyone wanting a baby at a young age to think again. I didnt go out much so i didnt feel like I was missing out. If i did want to do something he went with me. I went to school with a girl that never had her child. Her mom took care of the baby. It made me sick. I dont know how any parent could do that. well thats how I feel.

User - posted on 07/01/2011

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I dont think any teen really wants to have a baby but their are many who just do it so someone will love them. i got pregnant when i was 16 and found out about it after my 17th bday my mom and boyfriend help take care of my 3 month old son but it is still hard now i cant wait to celebrate my 18th bday with my son in 1 week

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 03/11/2011

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Im 21 with 3 children. Aged 5,3 and 1. I was born to be a mother.

If my daughter tells me shes pregnant, il stick by her because i no how hard it can be.

Not all younger mums are bad, its just those few bad ones that ruin it for us.

I love my kids and wouldnt change a thing

Allison - posted on 03/10/2011

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I gave birth to my dd just before I turned 18. I don't think you can group all teen moms together.. There are those that think their child is an accessory or a source of entertainment (eg, a woman who uses the same daycare as I is 17 with an 18 month old, and she likes to squirt hot sauce in his mouth because the face he makes is "funny").
My daughter is my world. I spend all of my free time with her. But there ARE teen moms that just pass their children off to their parents so they can go party..
I never judge a mother by her age, only by her actions.

Melissa - posted on 12/01/2010

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I find it really offensive when people I went to high school with bash teen moms on their facebooks. The majority of their pictures r of partying & drinking. They aren't in school or doing anything with their lives. But they choose to bash girls that work hard for their families, juggle school & work, just because they had babies young. It is really sad. Teen moms deserve more credit for choosing to raise their children and not get abortions in my opinion. Also I realize that all teen moms aren't good moms but the same goes with all older moms also.

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