What do you REALLY think about Teen Moms?

Kayla - posted on 02/27/2010 ( 151 moms have responded )

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Hello, Im Kayla. I am 20 (almost 21). I got pregnant with my daughter at 17, had her 3 days before my 18th birthday. Coming from a teen mom herself, I find it hard to believe that all of us are "bad parents". But that's all we ever hear anymore. How 'bout some support? Its not easy, especially when that daddy isn't there. But I really want to know how people really "view" teen parents. From personal expirence I have alot to say on the issue. But for all you moms and expectant moms of ALL ages, please lets talk about the real life sitution that could one day could be your child telling you that they're pregnant.

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Adrianna - posted on 03/04/2010

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I am 18 and i have a 17 month old daughter. I am the best mother i can be to my child and i am doing a very good job ! I know there are other teen mothers out there that dont step up for there child but then there are alot of teen moms that do ! When i always hear people putting down teen mothers i just think there are plenty of grown women out there that dont take care of there kids ! So, as far as im concerned age really cannot define what type of a parent are you. There are good moms young & older then there are just as many bad mothers of all ages. So dont stero-type :)

Kerry - posted on 03/04/2010

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I had my first son when I was 19. he will be 2 in April, and I am expecting my 2nd child in June. I personally feel that teen mothers have it a lot harder than others. I feel that with the stigma of being a teen mother plus the possible absence of the father trying to go to school to better your life while working no one truely understands. Everyone makes judgements but they don't even know. I do know some teen mothers who I personally feel should not have their children and in fact act like they do not have children. I also no of some teen mothers who are such devoted parents it is amazing. I have devoted my entire life to my son. I do not feel that there is any such thing as the perfect parent especially the perfect mother. And that everyone just needs to pay attention to their own lives intead of passing judgement on others.

Katie - posted on 03/04/2010

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i am 19 years old and im expecting my first baby in 5weeks! i am super exicited! and i think its harder to be a teen mom, i am responsible and i believe im going to be a great mommy. i believe its the person not the age of a person that tells if they are a bad parent or not! we all need support and love i dunno y teen moms get put down so much because i know 30years old that cannot raise there children.....i give the most respect to all moms. because it is HARD no matter the age

Claire - posted on 03/04/2010

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hiya kayla, i had my first son, liam, when i was 15, i think bein a mum was what i was meant to do, and think iv coped better than some people twice that age, my skills as a mother have NEVER been questioned. i went on to hav a girl, kayleigh at 17 and had another little boy riley who is now 17months at the age of 28!! i work hard and have a brilliant man by my side, whos been there since we were 13yrs old. i was lucky to find my solemate early on in life and we have just found out we r expectin again, so that will b our family complete then. i dont think it matters what age u r, as long as u understand the enormaty of the responsablity, and r committed to doin the best u can, who can say its wrong. i think if my children came to me in that situation i would of course support them as my parents did me, but i dont think i hav cause for concern as riley has let them see what hard work it can b..lol..

Carrissa - posted on 03/04/2010

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I think teen moms are wonderful. If a woman thinks she is ready then she is ready. No questions asked.

Anthea - posted on 03/04/2010

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I think most teen mums are great coz there is nothing that can bring joy in a womans life than having ababy of her own.Even if it was a mistake but the moment that baby starts kicking in your stomach it feels so good to be bringing a life into the world.I got pregnant when i was 17,she's now 16months and i love my daughter so much and i also thing or know that im a great mother.I do agree that they are some teen moms who are bad but doesn't mean that all of us are like that.I actually think that 80 to 90% of us are great

Dawnie - posted on 03/04/2010

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I have a four month old Son. I am 17 years old. I got pregnant when i was 16. People think were bad parents just because were young. So what? You dont have to be old to be a good mom. I think im a very good mom. Im only 17 i will be 18 in three months. I take good care of my baby. I would give my own life for my Son. Just because were young doesnt mean we cant give our children good lives and happy lives. Ive had to grow up fast by having my baby but hes worth every bit of it. I look at him and think about how even if i am young, i have this beautiful perfect baby tahts mine and that has my whole heart and that i will love for the rest of my life. So whoever wants to say that just because we are 'Teen Moms' that we are bad parents, they can think again because they have no idea.

Rebekah - posted on 03/03/2010

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I was 18 when I found out I was pregnant and I had her when I was 19. In a sense it's easier because you are able to keep up with them and relate better. My husband is still around though and we got married 6 months before I got pregnant. I stay home with her and keep up with our place but no matter what age you are it's always hard alone or not. Teen pregnancy and mother hood isn't bad to me, but having sex outside marriage or before you're married is my only issue. All life, whether you're married or not, is meant to exist.

Alyssa - posted on 03/03/2010

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I think this world is over populated as it is and we don't need stupid little girl making it worse when they are 20 and have 5 or 6 kids. Close your legs. I think girl should have to be put on some kind of birth control until they are 21 or married if they don't want to do it then pay X amount based on income every year (that's not taxes). Girl think guys are going to leave them so they get pregnant thinking they won't and they do anyways then there you are stuck with a baby and no help. I don't feel sorry for girls like that. Now girls that are great mothers I give them props, but still don't support getting pregnant at a young age.

Brittany - posted on 03/03/2010

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I am going to be 18 in 3 days. I got pregnant at 16 and had my son at 17. He's now 6 months old (7 this month). I do believe that teen parents are judged and looked at harshly. I get a lot of dirty looks when I take my son out in public. I don't believe that all teen parents are bad parents but we all get looked at that way because there are some that legitimately are. I have seen a lot of teen parents grow up after they have their baby but I have seen just as many that haven't. Before I even had my son I was told I was going to be a bad parent, by a crack head of all things. Fortunately, my son's father and I have stayed together and he's a very good and supportive father. I also have remained in school and I'm going to be starting college in the fall. If my son ever came to me and told me he got a girl pregnant or if I found out from somebody else I would urge him to be there at all cost. If he wouldn't be, I would. Being a teen mother is hard, doing it alone is even harder and nobody should have to go through that. It takes 2 people to make a baby, they should both grow up not just one.

LLoma - posted on 03/03/2010

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i am 22 with a 3 yr old and a 1 1/2 yr old...i totally agree that there is a disgusting insulting stereotype out there about young mums...but to the all the people that beleive that ALL young mums are bad mums i say a big UP YOURS to every single one. i am a damned better mum then half the older mums in the world. hahaha.and im looking damn good while doing it ahaha goo the young mums!!!!

Violeta - posted on 03/03/2010

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Hello! Well I was 15 when I got pregnant and had my wonderful son. It was very difficult becaus my parents were not undersatnding so I had to face the decision of abortion, adoption, or keeping him. I was alone but yet I decided to keep my baby! I was looked down alot. I would walk and people would murmur and stare at my belly.. It hurt but al those little details and the shit people talked about me made me stronger and now I'm proving everyone that said I was a failure, theyre being proved wrong. My son is almost 3 and I'm enrolled in college majoring in Criminal Justice. I don't think I'm a bad mom because everything I do is thinking of my responsibilty to my son. It's not just me but it's both of us.. I wouldnt change nothing at all.. It's a blessing!!

Amy - posted on 03/03/2010

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Hi. My name is Amy Marie. I'm 17 and I had my beautiful little boy when I was 16. I ddin't ever expect to be a teen mother, but you know what? I'm damn proud. My son is my everything and I would never let him no any different. I have to say not all teen mothers are what statistics and criticism has put us out to be. Yes, we have had sex at young and of course we did end up getting pregnant, but it's never necessary to say we are "bad parents". I mean not all teen mothers are good and not all adult mom's are good, but to state that only and all teen moms are bad parents is just messed up. Teen mothers are no different than adult mothers. My mom was a teenager when she had my brother and we were all raised to be the people we are now. I think as a teen mom the criticism we get is just making us better then what is said by criticizers. And if anyone thinks we are all "bad parents" then I'd like to be explained why I have my son with me 24/7 and why he looks healthy and happy. I don't know too many teen mothers, but I can say all my friends and people who used to hate me before I became a mom see that my son is going to be raised very well. And I think if people think we are so bad probably don't either have to go through what we have or do obviously don't know. I don't support becoming a teen mom, but I support people who are.

Casi - posted on 03/03/2010

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I don't support BECOMING a teen mom, but i definitley support teens who are already moms. I got pregnant a month after i turned 18 and had my little guy 2 months before my 19 birthday, which happened to be a week after i graduated high school. anyone who thinks it is glamorous to become a teen mom is WRONG! being a mama is wonderful but it is not an easy life. The love may come easily but the work is a b*tch.

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I think that if a girl has a good support system in place, and someone to show her the ropes that she has a better chance at being a Great Mom no matter what her age. I think girls with little support and no one to learn from could be (could be, should be underlined) a recipe for disaster. My mom had me at 16, and I my first at 17. I have a wonderful mom... and like to think that I learned from the best! Now my sisters and their friend call me super mom. LOL. The thing is I had an awesome support system, and a family that held me accountable for my actions but also allowed me to be young still. They babysat when I wanted to go out, grandma attended doctor appointments with me when I was worried, took shifts at the hospital, got the grand baby when I was sick. Being a single mom wasn't easy and I don't recommend it but, being young has nothing to do with how you can/will raise your child.

Kirsten - posted on 03/03/2010

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Im 17 years old and am about to have my 1st Child,, i believe that teens can be good parents if they do what their suppost to do and not leave the child with someone else all the time to watch them.

Elizabeth - posted on 03/03/2010

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I am 19. I will turn 20 shortly after I have my baby, (I'm due in October). My boyfriend and I didn't plan on getting pregnant, but We did. We were using precautions (I was on birth control) and they failed. There's nothing wrong with getting pregnant as a teen, if you plan on caring for the baby, or doing what is right for him/her.

My boyfriend's mom is really making our choice to keep the baby difficult, (He is 21) because she wants him to 'join the service and grow up' but he won't leave me. We don't want to get married just because of the baby.

However, if you are a teen mom, don't go out an party, and push your kid off on someone else every night. I can't say I don't like the show "16 and pregnant" or "Teen Mom" because I love them. Sure, {most} of those girls do push their baby off, but a lot grow from it. Maci, and Amber are probably the two strongest of those girls, and Caitlynn who did what she felt was right. I think they try to show us that having sex at a young age isn't right, and I suppose they are correct. Children take a lot of work, but if you are prepared to give your life up and love someone else, then its fine. If you can really have a baby, and care for the baby, and not push it off on others, then go for it.

teen moms all the way.

Michelle - posted on 03/03/2010

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i totally agree with u. i was 18 when i got pregnant and had turned 19 a week before i had her, i had already graduated high school and was in college i went to school up until the month she was born and i worked my ass off literally until the day she was born. i never was a partier and thats the greatest thing because my whole life revolves around Danica, and i hate how the older people look at me like "arent you a little young to have a baby?" well guess what my daughter is dressed for the weather she eats when shes hungry and she has all of my attention. the sad part is that i have 3 other friends that have kids and they leave their kids home with their parents and go out and drink and party i actually have one friend that took her 4 year old son to a party in the woods and left him in the truck, well lets just say none of these girls are my friends anymore. my friend Larissa (she doesnt have a kid) and i both said "we will NEVER EVER raise our children that way" i do the best i can and if my fiance and i need to go out we will either bring her with us or if its to cold she stays with my mother or his mother and no more than 3 hours while we go to dinner and grocery shop. so dont be so opinionated because there are AWESOME teen moms out there and we know how to raise our children up well and teach them manners!! :)

Lisa - posted on 03/03/2010

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its a middle debate because there are wonderful young mothers who have worked so hard to support there children and then theres jus some that are not wanting to take on the responsibilty of having a bby so young i know both sides. but honest to say i know since ive had my son braxton ive matured and worked so hard. i got pregnant a month after my 17th birthday and had braxton 3 months before my 18th birthday. i graduated early from high school just this jan 2010 i am working part-time while dad works full time. i am usually always home with him unless i have to work or do errands. But me and my boyfriend have so much help from our parents and its wonderful and braxton loves his grandmas more than anything. He is now 6 months and im goin to college in august to be an elementary teacher its goin to be even harder than before but i know i can do it just seeing that little boy pushes me to go further with our lifes. when you are young and have a baby it changes you for the better, people may think youre young and irresponisble but being young aand having a baby usually makes you see better in your life. i mean you should wait but sometimes those things jus happen. my next kid hopefully will be 5 years down the road and i jus cant wait cuz seeing my little one grow up so fast excites me but to all the hard working young moms out there good job and i know we can do iT!!!

Reb - posted on 03/02/2010

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Good question, Kayla. I was a teen mom myself about 18 ish years ago. My son is 18 and I'm 36. Have you caught the shows 16 and pregnant and teenaged moms (the first one started)? I think these reality shows help to put the issue out there. Being a teen Mom, doesn't make you bad or unsmart in any way. t's all about being young and not truly realizing or appreciating, the huge consequences. I had the teenager mentality, it won't happen to me. Well, hello? What did I think was going to happen having unprotected sex with my boyfriend? When I'm asked did you want to get pregnant, I always pause. It took me forever to be able to truly answer this question. Of course I didn't want to get pregnant but I also wasn't doing anything to prevent it. So the answer is well I didn't really think about it at the time. Wow, where do the years go. Hang in there. Beat the statistics like I did. Pay real close attention to your child throughout the years. I always told my son, after highshool which college do u want to go to? What degree do u want. What do you like...... So, he didn't think much of it. It is just what u do after highschool. The best advise, always stay in contact with atleast one teacher. Email works great for this. Stay in tuned and u beat the stats.

Kaitlan - posted on 03/02/2010

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I was 16 when i got pregnant, and now im 17 and he's 7 weeks. I think everytime someone talks about teens moms in a bad way i tell them to think about there grandma's and how old they were when they started having babies... There is NOTHING wrong with being a teen mom, its been happening for hundreds of years and if they choose now to say something bad about it, I say shove it up your @$$!!!!

Lyndsay - posted on 03/02/2010

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I know a lot of teen moms that are actually decent parents. On the other hand, I know of several adult women who are horrible parents. But, that being said, there are also a lot of stupid teens with kids who shouldn't have them. To me it doesn't come down to age... its all about maturity.

Kelsey - posted on 03/02/2010

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i am a young mom. i had my son just a month before i turned 19. i have alottt to say about this too, because i see how my friends are with their kids. i dont think that teen parents are bad. i am a single mom, and i think i am doing a great job. my son is happy, healthy and very well adjusted. i hate it when i hear people say that teen moms are bad moms. some may be. but not all.

Kirsty - posted on 03/02/2010

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i found out i was pregnent at age 15, when i went for scans and everything else, all the adults just stired. thinking what is she doing with her life, it is rather hard with out the babys dad here, but he cant afford coming from where he lives. and tbh it is very hard trying to cope just with you and the baby, i hate it when your out pushing your kid and people stir, i went up town aand because my baby is hyper, and happy chappy 24/7 an old women turned and said to him o shut up. well how is he ment to know what he doing all kids scream and everything else even if thr 5 or 6 a ten month old baby not going to know the difference is he, and most people just dont understand, its our life not theres. so they havent got nothing to say what nice so why say anything at all. i never did my gcse's because i was having him before they just started.. but i wanted to do college and everything but now am in a parent and baby group thing for teenage parents i lost a few my mates when i fell preg they all pushed me out on the weekends they didnt want to know me because i couldnt drink, i was a weekend binge drinker, but that all changed am glad it did i have my mates, my family and new mates what i have met who are also teenage parents, its nothing to be ashemd off:)

Janie - posted on 03/02/2010

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I was 14 when I got pregnant and had my daughter a month after my 15 birthday. All I ever got and still get is people saying rude comments. Not all teens parents are the same I just wished people would relize that. Ive tooken care of my daughter on my own from the day she was born. I've been married now for almost 6 years and have 2 other children. For the 9 years Ive been a mother Ive never asked anyone to keep her take care of any of my kiddos for any reason. I think it would be nice for the older generation to relize we are not bad parents because we are young. I'm 24 and still get rude remarks when asked my daughter and my ages...

Barbie - posted on 03/02/2010

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I was 16 when I got pregnant with my first son, 17 when I had him and it was difficult. Mostly because after he was born I was finishing high school through a night school program. I lost a lot of my "friends" from high school because of it, and only one has truly kept in touch and still hangs out with me. I think that hurt more than anything. I'm 18 now and I'm expecting again. I'll be 19 when I deliver my second son. It isn't going to be easy, but I've supported my first son with very little help financially. You just have to be ready to realize that life is no longer about you. Some young moms out there just want to party and they leave their children with whoever will watch them. They just don't want to take on the responsibility of what they have created. It's sad, but it's true. Any female is capable of being a mother. But you have to WANT to be a good one for it to happen.

Jennifer - posted on 03/02/2010

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I'm Jennifer and I was 15 when I had my son. I must say with out my supportive family I wouldn't been able to manage on my own. I made my son my first and only priority not to mention the father wasn't around. I finished high school with a 2.9 While working part time. :-( An now I'm in college and also have my own place and got married. It's possible to make it thru the trials and tribulations, but your gonna need God and your family. I feel that some teen mothers can handle the responsibility, but there are some teen mothers that need to get theirselves situated because no baby asked to be born into this wicked world. I have lots to say but If your going to be a teen mother prove to yourself and others watching that you can do it, and that you sencerly care and want your child to amount to something than putting your child that you gave birth to onto your parents grandparents etc. Just keep faith and strive.

Maricela - posted on 03/02/2010

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i was 18 when i got pregnant. my daughter is 6 month and i want her to tell me mom not grandma when i get older, i want to see her child's and be able to play with them, be able to run with them and them pushing my wheelchair. is hard for all moms with or without the father and is hard to all of us no matter at what point of our life we get that wonderful bless. i also hate older people that when they see that you are a parent look at you like you are a bad person. part of my family don't spoke to me just because i have my baby. been a mom is grate and that is one of the most wonderful things that can happen to us....

enjoy it!!!!

Tonya - posted on 03/02/2010

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Hey, honestly i hate it when you're like walking through wal-mart and you get those nasty looks like you're too young and you shouldn't have kids and you're a horrible parent. I was just over 18 when i got pregnant and he's now almost 4 months and he's honestly the best thing that has ever happened to me. I watch after him, buy him everything he needs, spend plenty of time with him playing and just having as much fun as i can before he gets older. I also know that some younger moms aren't very good parents but that doesn't mean that all of us are.

Genevieve - posted on 03/02/2010

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I got pregnant with my son shortly after I turned 18 and had him a month before my ninteenth birthday. Everyone thinks I'm crazy but he was planned. I'm not 23 weeks with my second baby and I just tuned 20. This baby was planned as well. My ex and I were each others first. We made plans to get married before we got pregnant but decided to spend our money on babies rather then a nice wedding. At 20 I look like I'm 16 or younger I've been told and you wouldn't believe the dirty looks I've been getting since I first started showing with my son. I've just learned to ignore then unless I'm feeling especially hormonal that day. Then I usually tell them that age doesn't define what kind of a parent you will be. I hate people who judge others by looks. They have no idea my real age or if I'm a good parent or not. I have a great job, I was a stay at home mom until my ex and I separated. My son is in the best daycare in town and he loves it. He's the happiest, healthiest, smartest baby in his age group. Way ahead of most babies his age. I'd like to think that all those days I spent with him helped. I love being a mother which is why we decided to have another. My ex and I are doing counceling so we can be better to each other and to our children. Right now we're just trying to make sure that we can stand as individuals before we stand as a couple. The biggest reason we separated was because of money and family problems, but we're almost past all that now and getting ready to move into a really nice place to raise our family before the next baby is born. Everyone thought we were too young to work past it but everyone has relationship problems at any age. Just like there can be a 30 year old mother neglecing her child, not just a teen/young mother. Bad mothers come at any age, and the same with good mothers. In the fall I'm going back to school to be a dental assistant and Branden is going back to school as well, he's just not sure yet what he's going to be studying. But for the time in between, and probably while he's going to school he's going to be working in a union. We provide for our son, he is very happy, he is very smart and we love him unconditionally. I think that's all that really matters. Right now it's hard because my son is living with me full time and I'm the sole provider for us until we figure things out with his dad so I know from both sides it's hard doing it with support, it's hard doing it by yourself. I'd rather be trying to make it out there with a baby then by myself though, because Leo's the best thing in the world.

Kayla - posted on 03/02/2010

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im 18 ad have a 4 month old son. i dont believe you are a bad parent if you are a young parent. you just have to work harder to prove you are responsible enough to raise your child right. i dont know about everyone but i am and know a lot of teen mothers who are better parents than the older women i know with children. it isnt your age that shows how great of a parent you are its how much you care and take care of your child right. i know people who drank and smoked while being pregneant, that is what i think is already starting as a bad parent if you cant take of them while they are inside of you what makes you think you can take care of them when they are here. i know one person who feeds her one year old son ketchup and mustard for dinner when he doesnt want to eat. that i believe is wrong. it isnt how old you are its how much you do for them.

Cassana - posted on 03/02/2010

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I was 18 when I ha my first son, 19 when I had my secon son and 3 weeks after my 21st birthday I gave birth to my Daughter (now 4 months old). I think so many people are very narrow minded, there are older mothers who are awful mothers too and it's down to the person not their age. my mum was 21 when she had me so not a teen mum but still young as far as todays world goes but we are so close and she was/is a fantastic mum. I like the fact that we're close as so many of my friends have older mums and they just can't talk to them as there is just too much of a generation gap. some of my friends would even come and talk to my parents about things. I'm still with the father of all my children and we got married last april. I am so happy with my life and I would never change a thing! It's down to the type of person you are not how old you are xxxx

Katelyn - posted on 03/01/2010

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i had my daughter exactly 2 months after my 17th birthday and i feel i was a bit young but i am glad i had her because she changed me for the better. i am who i am today because of her and love her to death. i am glad i had her she is my twin thats what everyone says lol

Leighann - posted on 03/01/2010

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i had my daughter 13 days before my 17th birthday she is now 10 months old i dont beleive teens moms are bad moms although people look down at us. from my point of view i think you should wait till your older and have evrything ready as it can be hard you have your whole life to have children i would never ever change what has happend because my beautiful girl is my whole world and nothing could make me more happy! i do think that some people have babys for a house or money ect.. but what about the people who cant have children ?? you should always love your child and make the most of them as some people cant have the love and joy that we have .. dont take advantage!

Samantha - posted on 03/01/2010

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i was 18 when i got pregnant with my daughter and 19 when she was born.I also had a son when i was 20. I was always a little more mature than others of my age so i didnt really feel i have to grow up fast. I have been with their father for 4 years now and we are getting married on our 5th anniversery. I had a wonderful support system and a great boyfriend who helped every step of the way. My mother was wonderful when i told her i was pregnant for the first time. I was a crying mess and she was laughing at me saying whats done is done and we will get through this. I think teens make great mothers when they have the support from friends and family.

Taran - posted on 03/01/2010

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I was at the tail end of the teen moms... I had my first daughter five weeks before my 20th birthday. It was an INCREDIBLY major adjustment, going from "just dating" to "OMG I might spend the rest of my life with this person," getting our first place, basically transitioning from childhood to parenthood without intervening steps. I was, at least, finished high-school (actually in my second year of university). I think having a baby during highschool would have been incredibly hard, not just for social reasons. At university I was able to take one or two classes the first year after my daughter was born and only 3 at a time after that, which let me keep my grades up despite the extra responsibility of being a mom (and I definitely worked harder at school after I found out I was pregnant). I think the hardest thing was being so darn poor... my husband worked part-time at minimum wage jobs, and we were on social assistance that first year (not an experience I care to repeat)... I remember one month paying my rent and bills (electricity and phone... no cable or other frills) and having $27 left over to buy food for the entire month. If we hadn't had massive support from our parents, I don't think we could have done it. I don't regret having my children young---as a younger parent you have more energy, and a more direct understanding of childhood because you remember it better. But it certainly made many things a *lot* harder, and I would say we're financially 3 or 4 years behind many of our friends who didn't have their children so young. I am also incredibly lucky that things have worked out well between my hubby and I; spending the better part of your first year together pregnant is tough on a relationship... really, really tough.

Being an "older" teen mom, I don't remember getting any obvious flak for my age outside of my family, although my 14-year-old sister in law, who did a lot of babysitting that first year, got the worst looks when she was out with the baby... ;).

I don't think it's impossible to be a good teen mom, but I do think it's incredibly hard (and harder the younger you are), and maybe a little sad to end your childhood so early. Having a strongly supportive family around you helps immensely, but there's still that line between accepting support and not pawning your baby off on friends/relatives. Major kudos to everyone who manages it... but I definitely hope my daughters are a *little* older than I was before they try it out.

Megan - posted on 03/01/2010

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I am 19 and pregnant with my first child. She is due april 13th. I think that just because your a teen mom doesn't make you a bad mom. I mean come on some teen mothers make better mothers than older women do. Teen mothers have it harder yes but how does that at all make them bad parents?

Melody - posted on 03/01/2010

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I've been there too. I truely believe that everything happens for a greater purpose (not always religious either). A mother is a special person who has been chosen to raise another generation of life. She needs to be supported with or without a partner because it is the hardest job on the planet . We are not born just knowing what to do. I don't think of young mothers as bad parents at all, they just need someone to ask questions and bounce ideas off of sometimes. I have been in the situation of being a teen mom and now I have a daughter who is one too. I have a wonderful grandson and I couldn't be happier he's here! I want to be the grandmother that I needed for my own kids. I can't imagine not supporting them. Babies are wonderful and raising them is HARD work......

Trenesha - posted on 02/28/2010

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i had my son when i was 17 im 18 now. i think bein a teen mom is wonderful even though i was still young it was a process of growin up fast. cause i had another life to take care of.. my son keep me going he's the reason y i wanna do something with my life...yes it hard but its just challenges thats gone keep me on the path of greatness...without him ill b lost...

Brooke - posted on 02/28/2010

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I have seen a lot of good and bad teen parents. Thats just it. It is the person not there age. We each define a good mother diferently. For me one is who puts there child/children before anything else. That can be in a number of ways! Putting them in pre-school so you can work to put a roof over there head. oing to school to well educate your self. etc.

We hear of the bad statistics more because there are more mothers out there who are to young (mentally) to cope with a child.

I forever see children in dirty old prams, wearing the same clothes as yesterday, food all over themselves etc. How hard is it to clean the pram? buy a new one? put clean clothes on your child. wipe there face!

Under no circumstance do I believe a girl (yes girl!) under 16 should be having sex, it happens but it shouldn't. Nor do I believe they should be having children. I don't care if you have some disease where if you dont have children in the next 5 yrs you will never be able to concieve. Go see a Dr! Have some eggs frozen.

I am 19. I have a 1 yr old. I chose this life, I have no regrets. I was 18 when I had my daughter. Before the age of 16 I hadn't even kissed a boy! I was innocent. I wish I hadn't have had sex until I met the person I was trully comfortable with, my partner.

Most teens don't have a life where they can support a child, which is fair enough. They shouldn't be expected to. but they should be preventing pregnancy a lot better than what they do.

Kodie - posted on 02/28/2010

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I was 15 when i fell pregnant, gave birth not long after my 16th birthday. My son, cooper, is now almost 4. I don't regret it for a second, my life changed and definitely for the better. I think the stereotype we get, and mostly from older mothers, is completely unfair and their opinions are mostly uninformed nonsense. I continued school at this fantastic place called Albert Park, i was able to take my son along with me once he was born and several other young mums attended so it was a great support network. I graduated from year 12 in '07 and am now about to start university. In all honesty, i have come across more older women who don't deserve to be parents then i have younger ones. Several of my friends have had children and they have dedicate their lives to their children. Just because we're teen mothers, it doesn't make us bad mothers. You can be a crappy mother at any age.

Regan - posted on 02/28/2010

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Well I have to say, I know some SHITTY arse teen mothers. But better yet, I know even more great ones! It doesn't matter what age you are when you have your baby, if you're a good Mum, then age shouldnt come into it. I also know some grown women who are crappy Mothers and don't look after their children, go out drinking and partyin etc.

I had my baby 6 months ago at 18 years old. The father was a one night stand, and is not in my daughter's life, but alas, I'm LOVING life. I love her than words can say and I wouldn't take anything back. I like to think of myself as a good Mum, and just because I'm 18 doesn't mean that partying is still the most important thing to me. My daughter is.

I don't think age has anything to do with how you be a parent, I think it's just got to do with how you put your priorites and etc.

Teen Moms are viewed badly, thought of as sl*ts and dirty and whatever. But who are "they" and to bring us down? The good Mums know they are good Mums, and the bad ones know they're not so good at it. No matter what age any of them are.

I think "teen Mum's" should be cut some slack. Because their are plently of 30 year old Mother's out their who couldn't give two shits about their children!

Courtney - posted on 02/28/2010

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I got pregnant a month after my 16th birthday with my boyfriend of a little over 2 years..I had her 2 months b4 my 17th birthday...I think that i did good..I finished highschool and even took a college course (C.N.A). I think that it is fine to have a child that age..although i wouldnt recommend it, its very hard to do.I feel proud to be one of the teen mothers who finished school and everything with a child! I also had another baby with the same man 4 years later 2 months before my 20th birthday..We are doing perfectly fine! We do get help (med card and link) But we are working our way up and need less and less help. I think that shows like ''16 and pregnant'' are horrible and are what put out there that we are not good parents..They show all these teenagers that are horrible with their kids and still ''want to be a teen'' and go out all the time leaving their child with their parents..We are not all bad parents! I think that we are the same as the older people that have children..Some of them are not so good at taking care of their kids..So who are they to judge?

Martina - posted on 02/28/2010

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i was 18 when i got my son - i think that's ok, i finished high scool, the summer before, my parents helped my while going to college, so i didn't have problems organizing the matters.
but i think it could be hard, especially fo the young ones without school graduation, without father, without help from other people - and thats the major problem of very young mothers.
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and the media doesn't help to get rid of the major prdjudices of the 15year-old, associal teenage mums. with shows like (in austria) "teenager werden mütter" everybod thinks that young ones are either stupid, a hazard for the child or both - I HATE IT!!

Lisa - posted on 02/28/2010

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well i was 16 wen i had my lil boy whos now 5, and i was told by all my teen mum support and my health visitors that i was a great mum and they didnt expect me to b so natural, they thought they would have to help me with everything and stuff like that but i knew what to do now hes 5 and to b honest iv seen some children his age and they are really naughty, i feel so proud not just of my lil bpy but of my self too because i made him the polite caring little boy he is today, so no not all teen mums are bad, i had no help from family i did it all myself and didnt leaave him with any 1 till he was 7 months, iv just had my 2nd and hes just cuming up to 4 months old and i now work part time 4 hours a day 5 days a weekand his dad takes care of him while my oldest is in full time skool. so i love trhe fact i was a teen mum and wen they are old enuf i will still b youg enough to still enjoy my life.

Emmalene - posted on 02/27/2010

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I think many teen moms are great and it's the few who aren't that ruin it for the rest of us!

Elisa - posted on 02/27/2010

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I was 18 when I got pregnant and 19 when I had her, but I was also married at 18(and still in my senior year of high school) I still think that being a teen mom is like an oxymoron for MOST. Not all of us are bad moms, but lets face it, your teenage years come before your adult, lets get married and have babies years for a reason. Once you have a child your life is dedicated 100%(or should be) to your child. As a teen thats rough to adapt to a totally new lifestyle. You want your freedom, especially if you were a partier, and you should have it! but not as a Mom. It's frustrating to see those teen moms out there that have a baby and then push it off on someone else so they can "get back to their life" I think if you make the choice to keep your child, you need to grow up. I dont regret getting married or having my daughter so young, but I wish i wouldve waited to get married, I didnt get my "freedom" I was a wife instead! But had I not done it I wouldnt have my precious daughter who I couldnt breathe without. Avoid it if you can I guess, its not some glamourous life thats on MTV, its hard and it sucks, especially alone, and sad truth: some people just cant step up to the plate. For those Teen Moms out there that did/do-WAY TO GO! KEEP BEING A GOOD MOM!!!

Phoebe - posted on 02/27/2010

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i think some teenage mums do it for fun and because they have no one to love, im only 18 myself and my best friend had a baby at sixteen she is now nearly five!! if my son/daughter told me and my partner they were expecting a baby i would support them no matter what!! some people just judge because they cant look at their bad parts!! i do agree its hard for single parents..

Erin - posted on 02/27/2010

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i was 19 wen i had my first daughter, ive jus turned 21 now n im expecting again in 4 months, i love being a young mum n wuldnt change it 4 anything, it pisses me off wen olda ppl frown upon young mums, jus because were young doesnt mean were bad parents at all, my daughter comes from a loving, caring home, shes properly looked after

Amber - posted on 02/27/2010

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Hi i have a 4 month old daughter and i was 16 wwhen ifell pregnant and just shy of my 17th birthday when i had her. Shes a true blessing and i wouldnt have it any other way I look a her and think all the choices i made WERE RIGHT because shes in my life and no matter how old i was and am i love her with all my heart and she couldnt have come at a better time. BUT when i sit there and watch her sometime i think what if its her coming to me in 16 years and saying MUM im pregnant. I would honestly want to cry. It reall does change your perspective when you become a mum. Its not that i would think she was too young although that would play on me, its also the fact shes my baby and i have sos much plans for her. ITS SO HARD i guess i understand where my mum was coming from. From my point i dont think i was too young but if Isla (my daughter) WAS to get pregnant at 16 i sposeit would be a whOLE nother story..ITS SO HARDD!

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