What type of pain relief should I have?

Alex - posted on 07/08/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )

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im scared of goin into labour as this is my 1st, and im only 15, 16 in august, she is due in september but everyone is telling to have an epdurial as i wont cope with the pain any advise?

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Alicia - posted on 07/11/2010

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Had my lil boy at 17 went thru 28hrs (24 at home, 4 at the hospital) with no meds. By that time I couldnt take it anymore. Some ppl told me that the epidual would affect the baby but it didnt. So if u get to the point of no return get it. I enjoyed the rest of labor mush more when the contractions werent trying to kill me (lol). Good luck hunni!!

Sarah - posted on 07/22/2010

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sweetie no one can tell you what you should have as you honestly have no idea how you will actually cope when your in labour .. you might want all you can get .. you might be fine with gas and air.

i take this from experience .. at 33weeks i was admitted to hospital with a stomach bug .. i couldn't stop throwing up and had excruiating stomach ache and was hooked up to a drip .. i thought that if labour was as bad as this i was DEFINATELY going to get an epidural!

roll on 6weeks when i had my son and even though i had a 12hour back labour .. which absolutely killed to f**** .. i never actually had the epidural .. let alone gas and air or anything else for that matter .. because every time i rang up maternity they refused to believe i was in labour till my partner said look shes crawling around on the floor.

so yes labour is painful .. but you might just suprise yourself on b-day .. you might be like me and be able to cope without any form of pain med or you might think f**** it this kills just give me the epidural!! lol .. just try to go in with an open mind babe (bit hard when your in pain i know)

i'm 20 with an 18month old son and next time i possibly want a home birth =]

Krysten - posted on 07/21/2010

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i wanted to avoid the epidural at any cost, i had my son in may and im 17, i tried gas, it made me sick, i tried pethadine, it had no effect, i found that hot showers where the best for me, and walking around and stopping during the contractions and breathing through them, i was in labour for five hours, and alone for the first four. so it really depends on how fast/long your labour is, i suggest go with whatever your head tells you to while you're in labour. your birthing plan pretty much goes out the window when you're in labour.

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Rebecca - posted on 07/24/2010

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I was 15 when i had my first and a very hard labor. I ended up getting the epidurial and my labor went a lot easier and faster. i only had to push for 15 min. Im having my third now and i plan to do it all natural but i have to get any pain relief i would go with the epidural again. you do know when you are having contractions and you know when to push. But i would say go for as long as you can without it and dont be ashamed to ask for pain relief.

Mary - posted on 07/23/2010

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u cant let everyone tell u what to do they have pain meds for ur iv that helps but if that dont and its where u cant take it cause it will be then get one u cant listen to everyone casue they might be able to handle more pain then u or less pain then u so when u do then just do what u thank is right

Kim - posted on 07/23/2010

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Well im 16 and had my daughter in March. The epdural is great it works wonferflu and u feel nothing after they put it in so dont lision to anyone you choose what u want to do

Alicia - posted on 07/23/2010

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when I was pregnant with my daughter everyone kept telling me go the EPIDURAL!!! I was totally against any drugs and wanted to go natural towards the last 2 months of my pregnancy my blood pressure became really high so when I became induced 5 days early and my waters breaking the next day and going into full blown labour straight away with contrations 2 min apart and almost giving birth to my daughter on the toilet flloor coz there wasn't a room ready for me yet...By the time I got to the birth sweet I was told staight away by my midwife that i had to have an epidural because of my blood pressure me being me argued with the midwife coz I didn't want it in the end my fiance had to get in my face and say baby you need to have it ok..So I ended up giving in...By the time I got the epidural I was needing to push 5 mins later so it never made any difference to me at all..But all I can say Is go with what you body is telling you and listen to your midwife..Good luck :-)!!

Taylor - posted on 07/22/2010

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im 16 an i was 15 when i had my son i only had a shot of pethedine and the gas the pains not that bad at all. Just try as long as you can before goin for any drugs i'd been in labour for like twelve hours before i got any drugs so just go for it dont let anyone tell you you have to have it,, just see how you go then if you want it go for it

Emma - posted on 07/22/2010

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dont listen to anyone one else u know your body better than anyone i had my son at 18 and my daughter at 19 i had home births and everyone told me i wouldnt cope but i did i had them in the water even if u dont birth in the water the bath tub is a great pain reliever especially if u have back labour i am against pain meds so a water birth was the best option for me but it depends on what you believe make a birth plan but remember that if it changes during labour dont be dissapointed you will know wot is right for you good luck with everything and feel free to contact me if u need support or have an question

Jessie - posted on 07/22/2010

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you dont need anything i was 15 when i had my first child and i didnt take anything i didnt have anything with all 3 of my kids just be strong it will be ok

Charlotte - posted on 07/22/2010

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Pethadine didnt affect my child - and he was 5 weeks early he came out very well. All it does is make you drowsy - well thats what they told me.

Alisha - posted on 07/22/2010

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I had an epidural, and it was nice because I slept during contractions after I got it! I also had stadol which was horrible because I couldn't understand what doctors and nurses were telling me and it didn't help with the pain at all! I think only you can decide what type of pain relief you should have because you're the one in labor! Go to a labor/delivery class to get more info and to know what your body will be doing that day!

Casie - posted on 07/22/2010

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I was 16 when I had my son. Yes lord, I had an epidural ( I think that's how u spell that, LOL). I also ended up having a c-section, and if I'd of had another child, i would've had another c-section. But i lost my second child when i was 3 months pregnant, God knew what I needed in my life. My son saved my life. I was headed down a long horrible path at 15/16 already. He is going to be 13 this November and he is such a sweet, handsome, thoughtful young man already. He loves it cause he's 2 inches taller than me already and can look over my head. Just keep your head up and follow your heart no matter what life throws at you. You are stronger than you'll ever realize!

Krissie - posted on 07/21/2010

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im 18 and plan on getting an epi. im scared to go into labour too but imalso not good with pain, plus it doesnt hurt the baby so thats the best choice for me. dont let anyone else tell you what to do though. if you think you can do it natural do it natural. being a mother means making your own choices and making your childs so this is a good place to start. good luck!

Taygan - posted on 07/21/2010

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I am 19 and also pregnant at the moment, I am due the end of october and also contemplating on getting an epidural or not. I am wanting to try with no pain medications, try do it naturally, but everyone is telling me to get the epidural, because if i wait to long i wont be able to get it if i want to. I think if you can make it far enough without to the point its to late then you can make it the extra little bit. But everyone is different and everyone has a different pain tolerance, so is all up to you when you are in the delivery room

Rosie - posted on 07/21/2010

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hi im rosie i had my 1st when i was 15 and its not that bad all i have was gas and air my m8 had an epdurial and she could not walk for 3-4 weeks

Angie - posted on 07/20/2010

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i had an epidural when i had my son (at 15)only because i had a c-section. my sister had her baby at the start of the month. she didnt have any pain relief she did it all natural. i think you should go natural, but its up to you

Stephanie - posted on 07/20/2010

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if u want no pain at all have epi dural. if u think ud like to try without, just have gas...if it still too painful get pethodene injection...and if all else fails u cud get the epi dural. i had gas and petho with my first and jus gas with my second. believe me petho is well worth easing it off a bit

Jamie - posted on 07/20/2010

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I used the bath tub to help relieve pain, along with that, I tried different positions to lay in, such as laying on my side instead of my back. Walking during labor is a good pain reliever too. I'm not sure about other types of pain relief or the epidural. I had an all natural childbirth, and it worked for me. Tons of women use epidurals in this day and age and if that's what you want then go for it.

Angelica - posted on 07/20/2010

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I was completely afraid of going into labour but I was surprised how easy it actually was. I had an epidural and I had a really positive experience. Good luck :)

Candyce - posted on 07/20/2010

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Don't let anyone tell you to have an epi if you don't want one. Your body can cope with the pain without it, it's just a matter of if you want to do that or not. For your first, since the labor tends to be a bit longer and your body's probably not completely developed yet, I'd say go with the epi. Without the pain, it's harder to be terrified, which makes things easier. The drawback is that an epi tends to slow labor, so they may have to give you a pitocin drip to speed things up again. If you're comfortable with the drugs, go for it. I had both, after two days of labor, and he came out maybe four hours after I got the epi. Just research your options and do what you're comfortable with.
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Amanda - posted on 07/20/2010

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I think labor will always be a little scary...and you may or may not need the epidural. My first labor wasn't bad at all. Only when it came to the stage where I felt like I needed to push. I asked for the epidural but it was too late, I had to push and about 20 minutes later my daughter was out. I did breathing techniques and didn't need any pain meds. Do what feels right for you.

Jacki - posted on 07/20/2010

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Giving birth is scary but its a good scary, I hate pain im a big cry baby, all through my pregnancy i was to worried bout giving birth and the pain that i never enjoyed it. I was 2 days over due when the doctors decided to induce me due to some bleeding they couldnt explain, so at 4ish pm on the 14th of july 2009 they put some yucky freezing gel in me that was really itchy it probably was the most uncomfortable part of my labour. At about 6:30 7pm i was in early labour and it was the worst pain i have ever felt, it was like really bad period pain it was awful. I was given a quater of a pethadene shot in the butt that let me have a quick snooze before the doctor came in to check on me. the shot it self was like being stung by a bee. the doctor said i was about 8cms dialated and decided to break my waters, when he did i was then fully dialated and began to push, the peth had worn off and i was doing it with out pain killers, i found it not as bad as i thought it was going to be and what everyone had said it was going to be. Unfortunatly the only people who had been through a natural birth was my mum and mother inlaw 2 of my sister inlaws who had c sections tryed telling me what to do i had to stop myself laughing in there faces lol. once courtneys head was out i was able to catch my breath and i looked down, it was only the back of her head but it was the cutest little head i had ever seen then it was time to push again after 5 pushes the rest of her was out and she was on my chest i had a very small tear but my legs were like jelly, my daughter was in my arms and i had done it, i had never felt proud of myself until i had given birth to my beautiful daughter, she never cryed and was very drowsy but she was and still is the most perfect little girl i have ever seen. i never wanted the epi but never wanted the pain, the choice is yours alone research your options and choose what you think is best. personally i feel so proud to say i gave birth with no pain releif but i dont usually tell people that i was such a chicken that i couldnt go through early labour without it lol i wish you all the very best of luck and hope you make the right choice for you and your baby.

Stacie - posted on 07/20/2010

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I had my oldest at 15 n all i had was gas BUT we r all diffrent yu will decide wen yur in laber, n dont let any1 tell yu wat 2 do its up to yu. yu will know wats right for yu wen yu have bubb.

Brooke - posted on 07/19/2010

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This is completely up to you. Sure people will tell you what they think is best and that is fine but don't make any descisions until you can feel what you are going through and whether you can cope or not. There is nothing wrong with pain medication! Think of it this way, why would they offer you something that has a high chance of harming your infant?? they wouldn't. Whilst some of these drugs may have a short term effect it can be nothing compared to having to have a c-section because you lost all your energy in labour and couldn't push. Or something along those lines.

My advice, keep your options open and make sure your well informed about everything! Good luck.

Nicola - posted on 07/19/2010

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I was 16 when I got pregnant an 17 when I had my son. I personally did have an epidural but my pain got really back as I was being induced but I think had I not have been being induced I could have done it drug free. I lasted 2 hours with out the epidural and that was with intense contractions that were on top of each other. Bubs had no problems what so ever and nethier do I, to be safe an epidural shouldn't be given once your fully dialated. I say go in with an open mind I went in with the intention of trying to do it with out pain relief but if it got to much to take it and start from the bottum and work my way up. You do not feel the needle from the epidural and to be honest I couldn't feel a bit of pain after but I could still push. Do what you want to do!

Andrea - posted on 07/18/2010

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I was 19 when I had my son I did local stuff through my IV I didn't want an epidural I had heard bad things from friends and family about having one...all I'm going to say is get all the information you can...listen to Your body when your in labor and if you can't take the pain use something...don't let people scare you or tell you you wont cope with the pain every persons different!

Myetta - posted on 07/18/2010

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I would say just try and see how you do without pain meds. I thought that with the epidural everything would be a perfect, on pain type deal. well with my first birth at 17 the epidural was wearing off and on during my whole labor which was long. With my 2nd birth I got some kinda of concoction, I don't even remember, then an epidural not long after, then like 5 minutes after the epidural I pushed out my 8 lb baby girl. I thought okay epidurals are wonderful. When I had my next baby 3 years later, the same thing...I got my epidural and in like 10 minutes it was time to push, once again no pain. So with my 4th I knew going in I wanted the epidural...I was being induced unlike the 2 births previous...when i couldn't handle the pain anymore and wanted some relief they called the guy and he came...he couldn't get it in...once he did get it in after 25 minutes, he only worked on my left side from my foot to my knee...then my butt went numb...then nothing..he came back dug around in my back some more...they upped the meds...while waiting for him to return because I was feeling everything, I delieevred my 5 lb baby girl...the pain of him digging in my back was more painful then pushing out the baby...I wish i would have just toughed it out.
You're stronger than you think and once you see what you've created all memory of that pain is lessened...because now I can't exactly remember what it felt like I just remember the happiness and joy I felt when I look down at her.

Jennifer - posted on 07/17/2010

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I'm 19, just had my son 5 months ago. I wanted to have a natural labor and i did for the most part until they put me on pitocin, after 4 hours on pitocin i finally got an epidural and the baby was born 15 minutes later. I didn't think the pain was all that bad. most people are afraid of pain but if you just relax and dont tense up its not that bad. everyone told me i was crazy for doing it naturally but thats only because they were too afraid to do it. don't worry you'll be fine. you can wait til your in labor to decide anyways, you'll have plenty of time you dont have to decide right now

Ashley - posted on 07/15/2010

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I was 19 when I got pregnant 20 when I had my son and I wanted nothing to do with any type of pain relievers! My contractions were pretty much nothing to me but the time came whether to get one now or I wouldn't be able to get one if I really wanted it so I decided I wanted to go through with having a epidural. They also had to give my pitocin because my contractions were slowing down. My doc had to break my water and then 20 min later my gorgeous little man arrived :) Honestly don't be scared! The only pain I had was after he was born. Its all worth it in the end :)

Chantelle - posted on 07/15/2010

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its better to not have any type of pain relief which they can cause trouble later on in life and trust me labour gives you enough to deal with its not as hard as it may seem i was 17 when i had my beautifull daughter wanted the epdurial so bad but so glad i didn't have it, its not so bad as everyone makes it thou and the only natural pain relief i found was when i was in the hospital they had a shower with a shower head with warm/hot water spraying on my back and lower stomach it helped alot i hope this help and good luck its such a beautifull experience ♥

Stevie - posted on 07/14/2010

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i just had my 1st baby and i had the epidural i didnt want it but because i had pre eclampsia and got induced they made me have it and im so glad they did it was the best i didnt feel any pain xcept when they didnt top it up to see if i was ready to push soon and even that didnt hurt much just felt like i needed to go toilet im not good ith pain i cry when i get a paper cut lol and all u feel is pressure with the epi...good luck xx

Charlee - posted on 07/14/2010

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I'm 17 I just gave birth to my Beautiful Baby Girl, when i had pain relief i had gas, the gas makes you really out of it, my advise talk to your midwife and talk to other people, i freaked out about labour too but serious just think about when that baby is laying on your stomach. Good luck All the best

Bri - posted on 07/14/2010

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well i was 19 when i delivered my 1st daughter and i had a epideral and yea it was relaxing and fast but in the end when it was time to push i couldnt feel to push so i had to have the doctor tell me to push and it even complicated my pushing my daughter got stuck and they had to use suction cups to get her out bc of her heart rate so when i got pregnant with my 2nd daughter i kept telling myself i would do as much of the labor at home and try to cope as much as possible without pain relief and then if i needed it i would get the epideral and when i did that i went through 7 1/2 hours at home and then by time i got to the hospital i was 8+ cm dialated and i kept saying i wanted a epideral but they kept tell me i need a certain amout of fluid through a iv before i could get a epideral and by time i got all the fluid in me i was prety much 10 cm dialated i only had a little cervix left before i could push and they said u can have the epideral but told me in their opinion i went that long without it and i looked like i was coping very well with the pain and that i would deliver with in the next hour so i chose not to get the epideral and yea it took me more than a hour it ended up taking 3 hours to deliver but i did it so i was very proud of myself when my 2nd daughter was born and i did it without pain relief so i suggest to try the same thing bc everyone copes with pain different but if you do it then in the end you will be extremely proud of yourself but dont feel bad if u do need the epideral cuz some moms do and either way you will be proud of the life you gave to your child. Good luck with everything and i wish the best for you.

Julie - posted on 07/14/2010

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only you and your doctor can decide what pain releif to think about becuase the side effects people try to scare you with dont always crop up in everyone. some people will tell you horror stories other will tell you its not that bad. each person is different. the main thing to remember is to relax and breath as they tell you honestly it does help. the one thing with labour pain is that you know it will be over and you will have something special at the end of it. dont worry millions of people have been through it and come out the other end just fine. your mum would be the best person to talk to about your fears because remember she had you. good luck and dont be scared. enjoy your pregnancy and enjoy your baby. wishing you well

Amanda - posted on 07/14/2010

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I was going to try to do a natural del. I was on the pit drip for bout 5 hours when I stoped dilalating. I was in a great amount of pain and stuck at 6cm. It came time that my son was starting to struggle so they talked me into getting an epidural. I was 10+ within half hour. They had to turn it off because I couldn't efficently feel my contractions to push. SO I still felt all of the birth. My son was in the hosp for a week for complications not related to the epidural in any way shape or form. I was glad that I got the epidural or I would of been forced into a c-section! The choice is yours... I would wait and see what kind of labor that you have to base your decision!

Kayla - posted on 07/12/2010

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well it is completely up to you if u feel u can do with out the epidural then you should do it i had an epidural with my son and it was the best because i was in labor for 13 hours and by my 10th hour i was so exhausted that when they gave me my epidural i fell asleep which was great but if u feel u can do it with out then u do what u feel is right its ur choice no matter what happens u are the one who gives the say so

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Don't base your decision on what people try and tell you. How do they know you won't cope? I got induced and people had me so scared of it saying it's so scary and the worst pain ever I went in thinking for sure I would need an epidural. It ended up not being nearly as bad as I thought. The nurse recommended morphine so in the end I got two shots of morphine and it was fine. I only had to push for around ten minutes and the nurses told me most women who get the epidural have to push for an hour or two because they can't really feel what they are doing. I don't know if that's true since this was my only labor but it makes sense in theory haha. Good luck!

Dominique - posted on 07/11/2010

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Psh, my own freaking midwive told me I wouldn't be able to do it without a epidural. I looked at her and told her watch me. I did it without. The part that was hardest for me was the contractions by the time that it was time to push I had experienced enough pain and that was just the light at the end of the tunnel! The only pain relief I would suggest would be yourself keep your head up and tell yourself you can do it. My 15 year old step sister did it without the epidural also so its very much do able! GOOD LUCK!

Ashley - posted on 07/10/2010

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I say try and do all natural for as long as you can. I have had two labors so far and on my third pregnancy. I had an epidural with my first at 15 and would definitely not say to get it! It slows down labor i was stuck at 7cm for 6 hours, when before i got it my labor was going along at a pretty steady rate and you can feel slight contractions but can not tell when to push at all aside from when the doctor tells you! My daughter had the cord rapped tightly around her neck twice, and doctor said every time i pushed it would tighten on here neck and with out the epidural there wouldnt have been such a strain on her due to it talking to much longer to deliver her! With my second i was 17 and when all natural no drugs at all, my labor went a lot faster and in the end felt a lot better over all! Yeah sure you feel the pain but its an amazing experience! I'm on my third pregnancy now, and am going to go drug free again! Good luck! And hope everything goes well for you!

Hannah - posted on 07/10/2010

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hey im 19, i was scared too! i think everyone is...all through the pregnancy i thought i would have any and every pain killer i needed during labour, why be in pain when you dont have to?! but in the end i was drug free...it sucked ass but im so proud of myself that i didnt have to have any..if you need it then take it but try not to worry about it to much. good luck!! hope everything goes well for you

Megan - posted on 07/09/2010

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I had the epidural for a very short time but it was awesome and I would do it again.
If you don't think that you will be able to handle the pain then get the epi... It does not hurt you or the baby. And yes you CAN feel when you need to push and you tell when you are having a contraction minus the pain...

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dont listen to them! sure...if u need an epidural u need it, but u might have a quick labour and go naturally like me! i had a natural water birth. sure it was painful and hard, but it was the most amazing experience of my life. i say give it a go, try for as long as u can, and then if u cant cope thats the time to consider drugs :) best of luck and feel free to add me!

Sandra - posted on 07/08/2010

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im 18 and i didnt have any pain relief except for the gas as i went to antenatal classes and the side effects on the baby can be really bad ... epidural isnt that bad but if you have pathedine the baby comes out sleepy and drugged which really scared me. my advise is that if you want to take pain relief ask your midwife or doctor all about them and get good information and if you decide not to take pain killers try having your baby in the water... thats what i did and it helped so much with the pain.
try not to freak out too much about the labour yes it hurts but when its over its over and you will have a beautiful baby.... you will forget about it in no time spend your time now just looking forward to being able to cuddle your baby and getting everything ready. good luck

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