Whats the hardest thing about being a teen mom?????
I think there are a lot of general things that make being a teenage mom hard. Money, the father, judgment by others, and so on. But I think the hardest things would be the personal things in each mothers' life. My mother deserted me because I wouldn't leave my boyfriend and I didn't want to raise my son the way SHE wanted me to. So I had to move to a new state with a father that I hadn't spent anytime with for the previous 5 years while 4 months pregnant. I finished high school online at a charter school because I didn't want to go through all the looks and criticism of being 7 months pregnant at a whole new school. I'm sure some women have had it harder then me, but these were the hardest things for me. That's not including being a state away from my boyfriend (my now husband) and all the family I ever knew, who was also judging me and made sure I knew how disappointed in me they all were. But I wouldn't change any of it because each experience got me to where I am now. No, I'm not exactly where I saw myself when I was 16, but I love my family and take each new challenge head on because I know they are behind me and they are the ones that matter, not all those other people.
Christina - posted on 05/17/2011
I was able to finish school as well. I was lucky and graduated HS at 16yrs old, so I didn't have to go to HS pregnant. However, I enrolled into school to become a nurse when I was 18yrs old. I graduated 6wks before my 20th birthday with an almost 2yr old and being 21wks pregnant with my second child. THAT was hard as hell. I managed to maintain 90 averages in all my classes. I studied with my son sitting on my lap, or after he went to bed. I didn't have help raising him. My mom wouldn't even watch him while I studied. She told me to figure it out, and I did.
Chrystal - posted on 05/17/2011
I disagree with Marty. Don't give up on school. I was pregnant my junior year and finished my junior year with a few months of maternitiy leave and then went for my senior year and graduated. This is one of the best things that you can do for you and your baby. There are many ways for you to be able to do it. If your family is supportive then they can help, I was lucky enough to have this option. Also many places have daycare assistance available to people who need help especially young mothers who want to stay in school. I have a friend who had two kids by time she was 17 and quit school and now it is her biggest regret. She is working very hard to get her GED 6 years later and needs it so she can get a job and support her children. I think that the hardest part of being a teen mom is having to learn to go without some things like sleep and a lot of nights out with friends and those times when you're not sure what to do. Circle of moms is great for that though and I think that it is one of the best resources for a young mom who isn't sure.
Tiffany - posted on 05/17/2011
I agree with the two previous girls, But I think the hardest things of being a teen mom for me was not having my mom around to give me advice or help me in the middle of the night when my son is screaming on the top of his lungs do to teething. The other is having my son's father in and out of our lives with my whole family not liking him and judging me when I allow him to see the baby.. Just try to give the baby the best you can and try to ignore the rude looks and snickers from strangers and even family, and just think of you and that baby! (: Good luck!
Christina - posted on 05/15/2011
Having to financially rely on your parents. You can't afford to move out and have your own home. Even though I paid for every penny of my son's expenses, and my own personal ones (like shampoo, clothes, tampons) I couldn't afford a place to live so had to live with my parents.
Marty - posted on 05/15/2011
kiss some of your friends good bye because a lot of them will think your not fun anymore.
kiss sleep and free time to yourself goodbye, school if you happen to be in it, boyfriends if you happen to be single, and don't forget a lot of people judging you and looking at you funny when your in public with your kid, trying to tell you what to do.
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