when I became a mother at the age of 18 my whole world changed...

Heather - posted on 01/22/2010

i no how u feel. i also graduated when i was about 6 months prego. before i had my son i was never home and always at my friends house. Now i am at home 24/7. i miss my old life but i look at my son and realize that he is totally worth it. It was hard for me at first being an 18 year old parent. It got even harder for me when my boyfriend stared drinking more and more. Now iu dont know if i should leave him or not

Nicole - posted on 01/22/2010

I know how you fell too. I am currently 19 with a 1 year old daughter. I found out I was pregnant 6 days before graduation. Most people didn't know I was pregnant, but I came from a very small town (about 13.000 people) and in my senior class there were about 13 seniors pregnant. Plus from Freshman, sophmores, and juniors. Pregnancy is like a disease in this town now and not too many people look down on it. My fiance was 22 at the time without a job still living at home when we found out. We had been together for 3 1/2 years already and talked about kids, but didn't want them this early. But now, I would not change it for the world. I did lose touch with alot of my friends, but alot of them have their own kids now too. It's not that I was a drag or I was looked down at, they just didnt' think I had the time to spend to go out. I went from living at home with my parents (mind you I was 17 at the time of graduation, but already had a full time job) to living on my own with a job and a baby. We now have our own house with 2 full time jobs each (working a taking care of Audrey). We love every minute of our daughter and don't really go out. Since we do work full time, we like to go home at night and the weekends and just spend time as a family. Every once in a great while we go out, but I would say MAYBE once every 3 months or so. So pretty much like everyone else has said, take some time to yourself every once in a while and relax whether it's a warm bubble bath alone or going out with some friends or just dinner alone!

Jasmine - posted on 01/22/2010

I totally feel u Devyn!! Like Lisa Marie I am 20 will be 21 in June and am expecting my second child. But unfourtunalty neither one of my children were planned. And because of this my life has been chaos.I love my son with all my heart but the relationship with his dad did not work out. So now I'm in a new relationship with an undexpected pregnancy tryna make everything work. Like u I work, go to school, come home cook and do it all over again everyday. But because of some minor support I have I do get to take a break and its important to do that we need it. Even though we have responsibilities that most don't have we still need to let loose and relax!!!

Tara - posted on 01/22/2010

I feel the same way you do, but I had gotten pregnant after I graduated and moved to a different state, but once I became pregnant I really lost touch with most of my friends, even my friends that were pregnant or already had children! I'm going to be 21 next month and have no plans. I'm the type of mom that would be with my children, but there are times when I would love to get out and go out with a friend or two just to have some girl time, and not have to worry about a fussy baby or changing diapers or making bottles. Every girl needs some me time and some girl time, and it's hard when you become a mom, especially a young mom! But I no exactly how you feel!

September - posted on 01/19/2010

When I became a Mother at 30 my whole life changed! I think that no matter what the age your life is going to change once you become a parent. I also had friends that are no longer friends, sleep over’s with girlfriend that became sleep over’s with my son and tons of added responsibilities that changed my life completely. I think what's most important is that you still take a bit of time to yourself whether that means a nice warm bath, a manicure and pedicure, a date night with your man or something that you really enjoy. To me it's all about the way that you look at life. You can sit back and be thankful and soak it all up or you can sit there and be miserable, it’s your choice. Motherhood does bring many changes :) It's a beautiful thing! Enjoy!

Devyn - posted on 01/19/2010

Thanks! its nice to know im not alone.

Lisamarie - posted on 01/19/2010

I no xactly wot u mean, I am 21 and a mummy of 2! My children were planned, but I did not think my social life wud end afta I had them! I dnt like leavin my babies (2 yr old daughter n 6 month old son) with ne1 coz I no wot they want like nobody else, I'm the best person to take care of them. My single friends r out exploring the world and even the ones in relationships and the few that have children r 2 busy wiv their own liives. Dnt worry, u r not alone, we all feel lonely sometimes, but remember a conversation wiv ur toddler can make up for a lot of missed friends. Hope this helps! :)