who's last name?

Aolani - posted on 07/30/2009

i'm in the exact same position. i'm expecting in october and i've decided to give him my boyfriends last name. We also plan on getting married but he'd rather wait until he can give me a nice wedding and not just some wedding at a courthouse. I love my boyfriend and we know we want to get married and even if by some chance me and him don't work out i know he will always be there for his son no matter what so i have no problem with him having the same last name.

Jenny - posted on 07/30/2009

I'm 22 and my children both have their fathers' last name. Mind you we aren't married either. When I had my daughter at 17 I wasn't sure what to do about that either but I knew that regardless of whose last name she had we both loved her unconditionally. I also knew that regardless of what situation me and her father were in, together or not, I knew that he would always take care of her. We have been together for 8 yrs on and off now and I still think I made the right decision. I always new that whether we are together or not I will never take my children from their father. He will always have a relationship with them whether he deserves to or not. Besides that I wanted to know that his family name was carried on because he is an only child.

Keelee - posted on 07/30/2009

I was 18 when i had my son and when i found out i was pregnate there was nothing for us to do but make it right and get married. I guess i was raised old fashion. My son would have gotten his daddys name regardless because thats what we belive in. It doesnt matter if you get married now or later (its hard with a new baby so it will be at least a year before you can even plan a wedding) but its so much easier with all the paper work and school and other stuff like that. Even if yall do break up you should think about your child and no really the name. I know its hard being so younge and nobody stays together any more. But (now) my husband and i tell ourselves (when times get hard and you get frustrated) that no matter what happens we are going to make it work there is no way we're getting a divorce. But if thats not for you i would still atlease give the baby the daddys name. I have no regrets

I hope i helped some

Kayla - posted on 07/28/2009

I got stuck with my Dad's last name, even though he was never around to care or support my sister and I. I gave my son his Father's last name. I think that's the right thing to do.

Sue - posted on 07/28/2009

I was a teenage mother 19 years ago. I gave my daughter her father's last name....HUGE mistake!!!! Of course, when I gave it to her I thought we would be together forever (yeah right), blah, blah....short story..he bailed less than a year later. Give your son your last name.

Syndi - posted on 07/25/2009

I was 16 when I had my son and he is now entering the 11th grade in high school. I gave him his dad's last name when he was born and ended up having to change it recently. My child got older and his dad is no where in the picture and he wanted my last name. I wish I would have listened to my parents back then...

Kaitlyn - posted on 07/25/2009

i had my son at 16 and i gave him my last name, because my family was telling me to.

and now i regret it because his father will never change, whether he's in the picture or not.

I didn't give him both last names because he has two middle names and his name would've been extremly long. i wish i had given him my boyfriends last name, even though we have a rocky relationship, he'll always be his dad, he'll always love him.

Natasha - posted on 07/24/2009

my son has both our last names.

i wanted him to just have mine until we were married, but because i love my boyfriend so much and new it would make him happy, i gave him both

Annalyn - posted on 07/24/2009

If you're planning on being with the father of your baby then give the baby his last name.

Myrna - posted on 07/24/2009

Nikki, I was 16 when I had my daughter. I believe you and your son should be united with the same last name. In our state you have 1 year to change the babys name without having to pay any fee. Check into it in your state. I say who ever has the primary responsiblity for the baby gets to name him. If your BF steps up and marrys you all the better.

Kaitlynn - posted on 07/23/2009

I gave my daughter both mine and my boyfriend's last name. I don't regret my decision because it takes 2 people to make a baby so why should I not have my name in it and because he's in the army and will be gone for the first couple years of her life so I will be looking after her. My boyfriend is totally fine with my decision understand where I'm coming from. It's a tough decison but names can be changed.

Emily - posted on 07/23/2009

This is the situation I was in also, but I never even thought twice about it. Me and my boyfriend will get married someday, so our daughter has his name. Someday you will have the same last name too, so why not give that name to your baby to begin with? It will be a pain if you have to change your baby's name later on.

Jade - posted on 07/22/2009

i gave my son his dad/my boyfriends last name.
i thought it was respectful, and he had been there for us.

Tana - posted on 07/21/2009

i was in your same position, except for the fact that i'm 16 and my boyfriend and i have been together for 3 years. I was just like you not know weather to put his or mine but still wanted the baby to have HIS name.. so i just "-" it. our's don't sound that great together either but i thought for now it was a good idea. Also right now our relationship is super strong but i was thinking never know in the future what might happen and if things were to end up not working and when she got older i'd give her the choice of keeping her name the way it is or haveing her dad's or mine as her last name.. and too if we ever were to get married i can always pay to change it. Honestly i thought that was the best way to go.. but its truly up to you!

Best of luck!

Helen Katrina - posted on 07/21/2009

id give the baby your last name atm, just incase anything happens between you and your bf

Jamie - posted on 07/20/2009

well my sons dad was the last boy in both his parents familys his last name was warner-kinnersley and i didnt really mind much him having my last name and didnt want him to have a joined last name so i named him liam warner kinnersley..........would one of ur names be a good middle name? just an idea

Heather - posted on 07/19/2009

I wasn't married when I had my first people asked me to give her my name. I would Not. I gave her my boyfriends last name, it is only right to do so.

Kristina - posted on 07/19/2009

I let the father decide. He chose for her to have my last name (which now I am extremely grateful for) We were also going to get married but we didn't. We share custody but we are no longer close. So now when my daughter says her full name with my last name, it makes me happy!

Lyndsay - posted on 07/18/2009

My son has my last name. I figured that I nurtured him inside me and I pushed him out, so I can at least give him that. His father and I are still together and happy and he's not exactly okay with that, but too bad for him. I say change it when you get married -- you and your child should have the same last name, always.

Candyce - posted on 07/18/2009

That's up to you. If you don't have a problem with your kid having his father's name, give it to him now to save the time and expense of changing it later. As long as you wouldn't mind it if y'all don't work out, God forbid. My son has my name, simply because I knew his father and I were never going to work, right from the start. I eventually got married, but my son and I still have my maiden name.

Jade - posted on 07/18/2009

when I found out I was pregnant with my son I automatically said that I wanted my partners last name, and its the same now I'm pregnant again. I chose it for a few reasons, one I didn't want to have to pay to change the name once we got married, second, just as you said our last names didn't go together no matter how we arranged the name, and with the name we chose I just felt that my partners name suited him better. My family always questioned why I wasn't going to give him my last name. I think it all depends on what you feel comfortable in doing, if you want him to have your last name then go for it and change it when you get married x

Ashley - posted on 07/17/2009

i was 16 was i got pregnant and was with my daughter's dad. i gave her his last name and it was all my decision. we are not together anymore but i'm glad she has her dad's last name. in my opinion, even though we aren't together, he is her dad, and i wanted her to have his last name. of course at the time i was so sure i was gonna marry him, but that didn't happen, but im still happy with my choice.

Susan - posted on 07/16/2009

i was 17 when i had my first child and i gave the baby his last name i felt it was the right thing to do and we got married a year later had two more kids and loving life

Justine - posted on 07/16/2009

I recently had a baby and my family told me that i didn't have to givy my daughter my boyfriends last name but i did because i wanted to. I dont see anything wrong with having a baby with a last name that is different than your own. If your boyfriend wants the baby to have his name I would let him because that at least shows that he cares and even if you guys dont end up getting married he will probably want to stick around with the kid. I think it would be more akward for a guy to claim a child with another name than it would be for a woman to do so.

Misty - posted on 07/16/2009

If it was me I would give the baby his last name whether yall got married or not. That way incase yall decide to go seperate ways at some point he would be reliable to pay child support for the baby.

Jenna - posted on 07/15/2009

I wanted to give my son my last name but his father got mad at me at the hospital seconds after my baby was born because the doctor asked what i was naming him and i said my last name.. I had told him several times before Isaac was born that i wanted him to have my last name because we don't get along that well and i didn't see a future with him.. So now my son has both of our last names i think that was the best decision for us..but its up to you..if you really want your child to have your last name then thats what you should give him.. you could always change it later if you guys get married!

Gesanie - posted on 07/14/2009

I was 17 when I had my son and I gave him his daddies last name. We had the rockiest relationship too but it just seemed right to me. Now we are married and have been for three years. Just do what you feel is right.

Goldie - posted on 07/13/2009

I am also 19 and i had to go through the same thing you are. I decided to give my son my last name just in case me and my boyfriend decided to break up. But then on the other side, if we decided to get married, i could always change my son's last name.

Emily - posted on 07/13/2009

hey there!
My boyfriend & I had been together for almost 2 years now, and we have a 4 month old daughter.. I end up giving HIS last name to her cause we plan on marriage and plus we are living together & also, both of our last names are 7 letters lol, she has two names in the middle name, so it woulda been long! .. I was told though, that it is EASIER for the mother to make changes for the child is easier than for the father to do so.. It is YOUR choice, so really if you feel right about it..then do it.. :)

Leilanie - posted on 07/10/2009

Why wouldn't you not want to give that baby his last name. That is his son, and if you are just wanting to give that baby your last name to please your family waht does that say about you and your boyfriends relationship. So what if one day your son asks why you all have different last names, you simply tell him the truth. You never know whats going to happen god forbid you and your boyfriend never get married, but are still together it's just the right thing to do i think. Don't let your family make decisions for you they aren't the ones who are going to be with your son 24/7, stick up for your boyfriend and give his son his last name.

Chermetra - posted on 07/10/2009

I agree with alot of others! I think the child should hve the dad's last name! My daughter has her dad's last name, now even though your family might get upset this is your child not there's!!

Kristin - posted on 07/10/2009

My fiance and I have a 7 month old son who has my fiances last name. I wanted it to be that way but we are getting married in 5 weeks so that worked for us. Do what makes the most sense for you and your boyfriend should respect your decision. Good luck!

Brandy - posted on 07/10/2009

I find it funny to read this because I am the same age and I live with my boyfriend as well. I had to make the same decision. My family disagreed but I gave him his fathers last name because I feel that he has his father's blood in him and that his father is in his life and will always be there for him so he needs to have his father's last name.

Toni - posted on 07/10/2009

I say yours for sure. after you get married you can change it. i gave my son his dads last name and i was so mad at myself for that. sick up for yourself. anything can happen and you dont want to have a different last name as your kid. it just does not look good. i did end up getting married to my sons dad and we are 100% happy so, i am not just saying that. my son and i do have the same name now. i just think you need to have boundries.

Sarah - posted on 07/10/2009

I gave my daughter my husbands last name but my middle name if it had been a boy we would've done my last name and his middle name

Brittany - posted on 07/09/2009

i gave my son my boyfriends last name. we were ony together for 7 months before i got pregnant. there were people who wanted me to give my son my last name just in case we broke up. but i felt he sould have his dad's last name because even if we do break up he's still his son. it's a hard decision but it's really up to you.

Jessica - posted on 07/09/2009

Im due sep 23rd. my baby girl will have my last name. the sperm donor and i have nothing to do with eachother.. and that was kinda my way to "get back at him" but in the end it makes sence cause what if i get married later on, and i have one last name she has another. id stick with yours for now.

Cyndi - posted on 07/08/2009

In the end I guess I'm saying why make things harder by having to have it changed later. The father is the father no matter what the name.

Cyndi - posted on 07/08/2009

I gave my oldest daughter my last name, however, I eventually had wished that I didn't. Her father and I got married, had another child ( which had his last name). We did not have the money to have the 1st childs name changed. Later we divorced, and then my oldest told me one day that she wished she had her dad's last name so that everyone would have been the same. Last but not least, if you don't stay together and the father has to pay child support, then the courts can rule that the child gets the fathers last name. However, they don't do that unless it is brought up in court along with child support.

Megan - posted on 07/08/2009

I have a son and a daughter by the same man, my ex-fiancee, and they both have his last name. It was given to them at birth, and even though we aren't a couple anymore, he is still their father, and I see no reason to change their name simply because their father and I didn't get along.

Terri-louise - posted on 07/08/2009

i agree shud av there dads names

Bunky - posted on 07/08/2009

Give him his dad's last name, he will be the dad whether you get married or not

Terri-louise - posted on 07/08/2009

i give my daughter her dads last name.. my mum done the same with me n my brothers.. i just think its the write thing!

Sarah - posted on 07/08/2009

either way if you get married .. you'll have to change his birth certificate so that he would be classed as a child of marriage.

so yeh as bethany says i think its a good idea if for now you give yopur little boy your name ...

my son has his fathers name .. didn't want mine as its my mums ex husbands name and he is nothing to do with that family

Chessie - posted on 07/08/2009

me and my boyfriend have been together nearly 3 years.. i gave my daughter my surname and will change it if we get married.. all of my family told me that i should give her my surname and i did it doesnt take alot to change it

Yolanda - posted on 07/08/2009

Let your baby have your last name. Just in-case anything happens. I learned the hard way! So good luck in choosing. :)

Courtney - posted on 07/07/2009

i aint married to my bf! weve been today over a yr and our son has his lastname!

Emma - posted on 07/07/2009

I have a personal experience on this as both of my sisters chose to put the ex partners on the babies birth certificates and both of them have split up. My eldest sister b/c her boyfriend started to beat her after having my niece and my other sister b/c her boyfriend ended up being a complete arse but I was married before I had my daughter so her name was automatically Wallis. Personally, I think you should wait until after you get married as Bethany as a really good point I would prefer to explain to my child that "your name was the same as mommy's when you were born, but daddy and i grew to love eachother more and more and when we got married we both got daddy's last name" rather than having to tell them that their dad was a complete nutcase lol not that your partner is but you get my jist lol hope this helps. But it is your decision, good luck

Cindee - posted on 07/07/2009

ANDD another thing, until you are married, if you have your last name in your son's, it will make it much easier seeing as you may choose or have to travel at some point. If your last name is not in there, you are required to have documents signed by a doctor, lawyer and im not sure who else, to even be permitted to take him on an airplane or across any country border without his father.

Cindee - posted on 07/07/2009

I decided that my daughter is going to have both last names, they dont sound the greatest together, however I would much rather have to take away a name than change it completely around on her. Her dad thought it should be my last name, and i thought it should be his, and once it came down to it i kind of said screw it, and put both last names, really once she gets to school, she will probally only use one anyways, so im really not that concerned about it. I hope it helps a little bit. Its a tough decision but ultimately it is your decision. He will not look at you when he is able to speak and say mommy why is my last name one or the other or both. sorry if this got a little long, ive just been in the situation very recently :)