Antoinette - posted on 04/28/2010 ( 72 moms have responded )
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Tanya - posted on 01/13/2013
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Why blame anyone? Why does there have to be a fault? A baby is a treasure, that was created and really doesn't need to be defined as a fault. I was a teen mom, and I accepted it and worked hard and treasure everyday that I have knowing that I was given a great surprise!!! So if it really needs to be labelled I will gladly say it is my "fault" cause, damn, I have amazing kids that make me proud every single day! :)
Evelyn - posted on 01/07/2013
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I happen to disagree that it all should be on the shoulders of the girl...unless she is raped or plans to do this for some reason like trying to keep hold of the guy.
It takes TWO! They are both responsible for it. They agreed on doing this and they should have had the protection. But if you are talking teens, they are not going to think about all this stuff and they are just in the moment. Then if it is teens, I think that the parents of the boy and girl involved are also responsible because they did not get the messages across no matter how they tried to do so. Adults who consent to have sex with someone both know what they are doing and going into.
Why should it be all on the girl or woman? The guy had some say in this too.
Krista - posted on 06/24/2010
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Girl unless you were raped.. Your fault. I have a son so I can say that. Guys have sex with you and even if they pull out they can have precum.. That isnt there fault. It is your fault for allowing unprotected sex. Period. If there is protection used then it comes down to an ooopsy.
Marlenne - posted on 06/23/2010
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I don't think it's so much of a "blame", but rather responsibility. It does take two to procreate. If you're looking on who to "blame" then it's really just a denile from yourself. A pregnancy can't be blamed if what it is can lead to so many joys. Of course, there are other circumstances where pregnancy sometimes can't be helped. For instance, a victime of a rape is an excellent example. Also, take me for example. I was a great student and a pretty damn good daughter but we didn't know I was bipolar. I had fallen into a manic episode, ran away from home, and randomly had sex with a guy I barely knew among other very stupid things. Of course, I'm responsible for my own actions, but had we known that I suffered from bipolar I, this probably could've been prevented. Of course, I would never take back the birth of my baby girl, but i would the pain I cause my parents. Alas, I'm not the only resonsible one here. If women could reproduce by themselves, men would be obsolete.
Cynthia - posted on 06/23/2010
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takes two to tango... i know i am at fault just as my boyfriend knows he is equally at fault. you cant just blame him and you cant just blame yourself either.
ALYSSA - posted on 06/02/2010
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if sex was consensual then - you are willing to have sex you are able to deal with the consequences, i was using BC and condoms still got prego but i miscarried him at 4 months in and delivered him at 8:06am Jun 17,2008 then same thing happened on a different BC and had my daughter Oct. 2009 I will be 20 on June 9. My husband and I take care of her and we just got a place the beginning of this year. She will be 8 months in two weeks.
Maria - posted on 06/01/2010
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both the mom and dad. it takes 2 to tango
Tiffany - posted on 06/01/2010
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Yourself and the person you laid down with..
Tuia - posted on 05/31/2010
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i think both people involved are to blame. except rape victims of corse...
Layla - posted on 05/29/2010
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exactly
Michelle - posted on 05/29/2010
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nobody but u because its ur responsibility
Shelby - posted on 05/29/2010
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Yourself and the father.
Layla - posted on 05/28/2010
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you cannot blame anybody at all but yourself, i am am 19 almost 20years old and was 17 when i got pregnant and i have always blamed myself as it was my irresponsibility that got me in that position. I love my son dearly and wouldnt change it for the world but its hard work and very tiring. why would you want to blame someone else for your mistake?
Lindsey - posted on 05/27/2010
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fault...didn't know there was fault in a pregnancy since it takes 2 to tango sooo...i would say...ummm BOTH OF YOU
Anastasia - posted on 05/27/2010
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BLAME? really?
Ava - posted on 05/27/2010
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It's the fault of the girl who is pregnant. Everyone would like to blame the father, I'm sure, or the parents. But the fact is, unless it's rape, the girl has the option to say no or to take birth control (and if her parents don't allow this, then the burden of fault is 50/50). When I was in school, there were quite a few girls pregnant as little as eighth grade, and in ninth grade, one girl treated it like a fad ('How come nobody is doing it with me this year? I'm the only one pregnant!'). . . the fact is, except in cases of rape, conception can be prevented by abstinence, and that is the choice of the girl who ends up pregnant.
Laura - posted on 05/26/2010
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both partners and no one else cause u maybe stupid as a teen but u know what u r risking
Nikki - posted on 05/26/2010
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you and the father to be..obvioulsy
Marilyn - posted on 05/26/2010
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it takes 2 to tango like my mother says.
so for me getting pregnant at a young age i would have to blame myself and my fiance.
Charity - posted on 05/25/2010
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both people are to blame. it takes two to get pregnant so if neither person took an action to prevent pregnancy than both are to blame.
Anitra - posted on 05/25/2010
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it shouldn't be who is to blame for getting pregnant. no matter who you blame the situation wont change. so instead of blaming accept the situation for what it is and try to do what is best for your child.
Amber - posted on 05/25/2010
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yourself. we have brains we made the decision it is also partially the fathers fault equally unless you were raped of course
Kayla - posted on 05/24/2010
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There is no one to blame wwhen u get preggers bc even if u are responsible and use protection u can still get preggers.
Amber - posted on 05/23/2010
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Yourself, I got pregnant at 14 and everyone knew it was my fault. I think it is stupid that my boyfriend (now hubby) has been in all kinds of legal trouble for it all these years. People automatically blame the guy!
Trisah - posted on 05/23/2010
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i think u and the guy are to blame he is just as responsable as u no one is forcing the other to make choices
Terri - posted on 05/23/2010
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I think that it is a two way street. Two people played a dangerous game when they decide to become intimate with each other without thinking about the consequences in the end. I for one knows that one day my two sons will no longer be virgins, but I constantly tell them to make sure that you are protected because you don't know who she has been with before you and then some. You have so many young people having sex like playing Twister and you know in the end everybody falls down
Karin - posted on 05/23/2010
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Everyone involved is responsible. It takes two to tango
Alicia - posted on 05/23/2010
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1. The person who is pregnant- for having sex at a young age, for being sexually active and not using birth control, and for being sexually active and not practicing safe sex by using condoms.
2. Father of the baby-for having sex at a young age, for not practicing safe sex.
3. The parents of both the mother and father to be. They should have informed and educated their own children on sex and babies. And for not being more involved in their kids lives.
To many kids are getting pregnant and don't even understand their own reproductive systems. Not even to mention the number of STD's in the world.
Plus I think people should stop watching 16 and pregnant. With a reality show obsessed world we live in today, its just an added cause for teenagers to get pregnant so they can be on MTV.
Sofie - posted on 05/23/2010
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I was one month away from being seventeen when i gave birth, i dont blame anybody. yes it would be nice to get out more but i think, what would i rather do, go clubbing and to town and be stupid and drunk whilst at college like everyone else my age, or be a proud Mum and have something to show for my life? This, to me, is the best job, hobby and life i ever could have asked for. I would rather spend my youth raising my son and being able to run around with him.
I think if you're a young Mum with the right attitude and you still have your partner beside you that is something to be porud of. My Mum brought all three of us up on her own and just because i had a baby younng too does NOT make her a bad Mum. If anything she over-protected me but I have NEVER slept around. It wasn't a mistake, it was a lovely surprise!
Jessica - posted on 05/22/2010
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when a girl is a teen mother i say her mother is to blame, obviously she didnt educate her daughter enough about the concequence's of sex, and didn't take proper measures to ensure her daughter wouldn't get knocked up by some punk. if the girl is over 18, i think its her own stupidity, like why wouldn't u protect yourself? its for your own good for christ sake. Yes i know children are miracles (im a young mother myself but i waited until i at least graduated highschool to have my daughter) but if i could go back, i probably would have chose differently, because now i realize how much i appreciated being young, my sleep and my sanity. Dont get me wrong, now that im a parent i do love it, and i love my daughter very much, but i do feel that my life is way more complicated than it was ever meant to be.
Sofie - posted on 05/22/2010
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No one is to blame, pregnancy is a beautiful thing and it should be a good thing. Not bad enough to blsme someone! chill out!
Jill - posted on 05/21/2010
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I'm sorry I have never understood the need to blame anyone. I got pregnant at 18 yes it was random and no i didnt exactly plan my son but I never once blamed anyone. It happened. I used condoms and birthcontrol and I wasn't supposed to be able to have kids and yet I was 2 months preg. Why waste energy blaming someone? You have someone else you need to think about.
Shae - posted on 05/21/2010
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Nobody. A baby is the best thing that can happen to a person and you should be greatful for such a gift. Some women would kill for babies but have the inability to have children.
The word "blame" makes a baby sound like a disaster when really, its the complete opposite.
Sonya - posted on 05/19/2010
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They're right... only we can be held responsible for getting pregnant bc number one we probably weren't even supposed to be having sex yet, and second we probably didn't bother using protection, It's ok tho don't think our children are a problem... they are our blessings sent to us to make us better people. :)
Elisha - posted on 05/17/2010
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it takes 2 to tango.. :D
Staceyanne - posted on 05/17/2010
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. We all know what sex leads to , right? so why should the mother or the father take sole blame. It does take two to tango. The women cant make a bloody baby on her own and the man had to have had some bloody contribution! IMO both are RESPONSIBLE but no ones BLAME. a life wether your 15 or 35 is still a life.
Lindsay - posted on 05/17/2010
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I believe it is the fault of the man and women who has intercourse at the time.
Mei-Li - posted on 05/17/2010
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It's not anyone's fault. If you want to blame someone then you blame yourself and the father. It takes two to make a baby. (Unless you were raped. That's never the girl's fault.)
Samantha - posted on 05/11/2010
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takes two to tango sweetheart its not all you but you definitaly should be taking at least half the responsibility unless you were raped or something
Sarah - posted on 05/05/2010
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exactly like many of you have said .. you've only got yourself and your partner to blame .. now one else ..as they say it takes TWO to tango .. we would have become young mummy's if it wasn't for our partner as well.
and i know that i'm to blame for becoming a young parent .. but i love my son conditionally and wouldn't have it any other way.
Carmen - posted on 05/05/2010
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I agree with Katarina Reandy. Yourself is the answer. You choose to lay down with a guy and not think about the consequences. I was 15 when I had my first son. I made my choice to be with an older man and til this day I am still with him, married for 4 1/2 years, and we have two little boys. Only you can be responsible for your actions.
Erika - posted on 05/04/2010
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Yourself. If you didn't use protection, that's your fault. No man can force you not to use protection.
Danielle - posted on 05/03/2010
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you both are to blame it take 2 ppl to have sex so noone should be playing the blame game unless one of you did it on purpose....
Kamie-lee - posted on 05/03/2010
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you of course
Shiloh - posted on 05/03/2010
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there is noone to blame but yourself AND the father. u both could have done more to be protected or you could have just said no. so there is no one else to blame
Ashley - posted on 05/01/2010
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it takes two to tangle...and honestly, its both the girl and the guys' fault because neither of them thought to use protection.
Erica - posted on 05/01/2010
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Nicole - posted on 05/01/2010
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when i got pregnant at 15, my boyfriend (now husband)'s mom blamed my mom for me getting pregnant.
Alyssa - posted on 04/30/2010
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Yourself unless you were raped bc you could have said no or used protection or birth control.
Korey - posted on 04/30/2010
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Well...who do you want to blame? God? Family? The guy? The person/place that was supposed to chaperone? If everything was consensual, then two people get to split the blame 50-50. (That would be the genetic donors).
If the birth control failed, so what? Both parties consented to having sex, knowing that birth control is not 100%, and therefore both parties are equally responsible.
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