why are some girls so happy about being under 16 and pregnant.????

Jenna - posted on 07/21/2010 ( 104 moms have responded )

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im not trying to be crule but why are so many kids so happy to have kids, yes children are an amazing blessing, but how will the provide for there child? let alone be there when they are still in school? to me that is just being a playmate not a mum.
i was 16 when fell pregnant with my son and i had 30 pounds a week to get what i needed with him (EMA) his dad didnt wanna knw. it was hardernuff then. I tried going to groups with young mums like myself and some of the stories were sick
one girl was 14 had 3 abortions because she wanted a daughter not a son,

dont get me wrong some young mums are amazing but i hate kids having kids i think that you shud be atlest 16 b4 you bring another child into the world.

please tell me if you agree,im not trying to be bitchy, i just dnt belive a young girl or guy under 16 will understand the responsability or will even have the tym to b a full tym parent.

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Autumn - posted on 07/23/2010

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I was going to read this whole tread but then I decide to just answer you Jenna. I was 14 when I meant the man I would later marry. I feel pregnant at 16 by choice. I tried so hard and it was a challenge for me to get pregnant but I did it. I was 16 years old when I got married on May 27, 2008. My son is now 20 months old. He is bright and happy! He is healthy well taken care of and loved. My husband and I own a house and 2 cars. I got my GED just this year, not because I had to but because I wanted to. My husband is fine with me being a stay at home mom doing nothing more then washing the dishes and rolling on the floor with my son. We have never had any government help or family help. We have done it all on our own from the beginning.

You say it is sick to see children having children well let me tell you something. Everyone is different. At the age of 12 my mother almost died and I was talking care of my little brother and sister full time. I still manage to get up and to school everyday. You should never judge someone based on their age or the way they grew up. Your age and your life do not make you who you are. Your choices do. That girl you said was 14 and had 3 abortions because she wanted a daughter not a son is, lets face it, fucking out of her damn mind. You ask how children can provide for children then you have never read the laws. You can be emancipated at the age of 13 depending on the state you live in and how well you can take care of yourself. When you get emancipated you can get a job, housing, licence and even your GED. I don't agree with getting pregnant becuase you think it will solve your problems or you think it is cool but if you are ready and you know with out a doubt that you can take care of a child then cheers to you. I seen a qoute a few years back and fell in love with it. " Your life is not my fault, and my life is not your concern." I also noticed how you set the age limiet at 16. I am guessing you did that becuase you fell pregnant at 16. Do not look at the world through only your eyes. Look thought all eyes. I am sorry if I came off rude or mean sounding. That is not the way I inteneded it. You will have to forgive me. I don't get on circle of moms much so if any of you would like to message me about my post I will leave my facebook link below. Bless be to all of you. I wish you each well, and your children!

Mercedes - posted on 07/23/2010

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hey,
i understand where you are coming from but here's my side of it
i was 15 when i got prego & had my son about a month after my 16th b-day. My boyfriend was 17 & is turned 18 before i had him. he graduated highschool this past year 7 now has a job which pays 13.50/hr && i have 2 years left. it was an accident but he is a blessing & i wouldnt change my life for the world, he saved us from doing things we would have regretted! :) any questions feel free to ask :) -Sadies

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There are some women out there regardless of their age who are crappy mothers. If a young girl gets pregnant once and has the baby, kudos to her. I hope that she can then become a good mother and care provider. It's when women, typically younger women keep having children when they can't even take care of the ones they have that I get angry. I think the "happiness" comes from being in a situation that they are resigned to and making the best out of it. Why put an age cap on it? Something I have noticed about this chat room is that most of the women in here are uneducated. Look at your post for example. The spelling is horrid. Education is part of being a good parent. How can you educate your own children, and expound on ideas if your not educated? You spell like a teenager. I am just saying most of us have areas we need work in, and getting pregnant at 16 isn't a whole lot different from getting pregnant at 18. Until a person gets out into the world and is able to grow and mature love and lose, become educated, work, etc. they are immature and half grown. I feel that you are just picking here. There are crappy moms of all ages and races.

Alexa - posted on 07/21/2010

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I think its because teenage pregnancy is getting more and more acceptable, and is glamorized. I do not think that being a young mom will make you a bad mom (I'm only 19 myself) but I do not agree with how many teenagers are TRYING to get pregnant. I think if it happens accidentally and you decide youre going to keep the baby then there is nothing else to do but be happy about it. But dont try to get pregnant.... It's hard enough for me and I'm done high school, I cant imagine wanting to get pregnant before youre done high school.

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Britney - posted on 07/30/2010

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i just have a question for everyone!!! what do you want your child to be when they grow up?

Sarah-Ann - posted on 07/30/2010

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Because they are proud of the fact that they think they were mature enough to ahve sex, so instead of going off and getting an abortion adn killing a life, They are stepping up to the responsibility of being a parent, and giving there all to their children, I was out of home 3 months after i had my daughter at 16, and my fiance and myself are GREAT parents, im proud i did what i wanted and not what others thought was best, I made the right choice, i have an amazing 13month old daughter and im 17. And trying to ahve another baby.
Some teen parents are proud because they are good parents. others want attention

Im proud for being the best mum i can possibly be, and not murdering an innocent life just because it wasn't in my life plan. I found it easy as i was already out of school 4months before i was pregnant, working and all, i had friends and family supporting me, and a man who was over the moon about it all (he is 21) and life could not be better!!!

Britney - posted on 07/28/2010

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no one is stereotyping all teenage moms or saying they all can't take care of their children, all women on here are or have been teenage moms. it is just stupid when they plan to get pregnant or do not take care of their children on their own.

Charlotte - posted on 07/28/2010

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I totally disagree, why does it matter what age you are? as long as you are mature and adult about the situation why does it matter if your 16 or 50? some older mums are a disgrace to all mums, why does it matter if your 16, everyone stereotypes teenagers now, and its just not fair! not ALL teenage mums are a bad influence, so why should everyone put us in the same category? I for one, didn't plan to get pregnant, in fact i was planing on going college this September.. so am i wrong for making the choice to keep my baby, and wanting to become a mum just because im 16 doesn't mean im not going to be a good mum. And its not true that teenagers can't afford to keep their children happy, who says that teenagers can't get a job like you older people?

Shelby-Ann - posted on 07/27/2010

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I agree i hate girls like that. they give us young moms bad reps. Im talking about the ones who have there baby go out &party. Act like there not even a mother. I think it has alot to do with the show 16 and pregnant. They think its so wonderful and easy. I mean i am a young mother im 19 i have a 19 month old &expecting. It's not too hard for me im grateful to have support. But girls younger than 16 what are you thinking? You have plenty of time..wait till you get a older &your ready:)) this is real life &your bringing another life into this world. mke sure your 110% ready to be a full time mother

ALYSSA - posted on 07/27/2010

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At seventeen I found out I was pregnant (using BC and Condoms) and I had big dreams of going out of state to school and not worrying about anything but school. Four months later, in June, I miscarried and delivered a still born 5 inch baby boy. Then 18 that August found I was pregnant again different BC and miscarried him in October. February the next year I was pregnant with my daughter on yet again a different BC and condoms (Ughhh) and had her in the middle of my first semester of College. IT SUCKED!! My husband didn't help (unresolved feelings about miscarriages) and I was going full time to school. I am in my third semester somehow maintained my GPA with Jema at 10 months now; we can't find jobs and rent is so late and trying to find money for baby supplies is wearing thin. It has been the hardest two years of my life and it isn't getting any easier. My Mirena started to fall out and we had a pregnancy scare and all I could think was "NO WAY CAN I DO THIS!" Luckily my doc did a blood test and replaced the Mirena with NO pregnancy. WHEW! We don't have the help from family and we are all by ourselves. Nobody in my opinion can say that having kids and a life are easy. This fall I am going to try to find a full time job and go to school full time while taking care of my little bear. I know a few teens that suck money out of their parents or other relatives and don't try to work or go to school. But I do know others who have that try and try to make the best of what they can, but they still have really hard times. If at 16 they can provide for their children then yeah okay maybe, but if they just want to party and be a teen then they shouldn't have sex. Old enough to have sex - old enough to deal with the consequences and provide for the consequence.

Britney - posted on 07/27/2010

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no one is saying ALL teenage mothers can not handle having children just that that is way to young to plan for a child. this is a never ending battle that no side will ever agree with the other, sinmilar to the abortion debate.

Alyssa - posted on 07/27/2010

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As being a 15 year old mother I can say it may be hard doing all of this but if it wasn't for my daughter I never would have pushed myself to graduate high school a year early nor would i have found an occupation I like.
Some even women can't handle being a full time mom. Personally I believe it depends on the person because I know from experience I'm a better parent than older women. And I am still 15. Yes there are times I need to get out but what parent doesn't.

I don't think you should judge all kids as a whole. None of us are the same. If I didn't have my daughter my life would be heading towards a downward spiral and my later children would not have the life they deserved.
Some teenagers life revolves around only their children while others are still hung up on being a teenager. But I made my choice to have sex and I completely accept every single conscience that come with it..


SO IN SHORT I ABSOLUTELY 100% DO NOT AGREE!

Ambyr - posted on 07/27/2010

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you know i was 17 when i had my first child & 18 with my second and to be honest i dont think its as hard as alot of ppl say it is...i do agree though 14 and 3 abortions? thatsz terrible it shouldnt be used as birth control & it shouldnt be used as a tool to get what you want...it takes alot of patients time and money to be a parent hopefully some of these girls just come by it naturally like i did

Courtney - posted on 07/27/2010

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Teen moms are like a life style choice now. I was eighteen when I got pregnant with my twin girls, and it made me grow up fast, and hard. But majority of teens get pregnant for attention and still want to party after they have their baby. ...It's sick when I get on facebook and see the people I graduated with talk about party and getting messed up EVERY weekend, and they have babies. Those children are going to be the one's who suffer, while those immature parents keep telling themselves they are good parents...I stay at home and take care of my kids all day, every day. None of these kids asked to be in this world, so they deserve the best. Personally I don't deserve a break, I put this on myself, and it's up to me to tend to my responsibilities...Young mother's want baby doll's to dress up, and pin on their parents when they want to have fun....They don't want the responsibilities, just the very little perks.

Traci - posted on 07/27/2010

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I go on a young mother site www.bubbalicious.com and there are often 16yr olds saying they are actively trying to get pregnant! I think thats plain wrong. If it's an accident and you don't agree with abortion, ok but trying? when you live at home and go to school?! oh hell no!
I was watching that underage and pregnant and that Mollie was acting like a child and said "my mum will tidy my room when the babys born!". If that was my daughter I would have told her to either grow the fuck up and get her act together before the kid was born or get rid of the child. It's not the grandmothers job to do these things. If you think you're old enought to have a child you are old enough to clean up your own mess!
Sorry for the rant there.x

Hayley - posted on 07/27/2010

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yes i agree, sarah, abortion should be made illegal unless for medical purposes, i dont know how they can have abortions, i wouldnt live with myself, to me its murder

Sarah - posted on 07/27/2010

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I agree that they should not TRY to get pregnant! Thats just crazy! I was 16 when I got pregnant too, but it wasnt on purpose. That one girl that you were talking about the abortion and all is just ridiculous!! She is the reason that I think abortion should be illegal unless for medical purposes.

Hayley - posted on 07/27/2010

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i was 17 when i fell pregnant with my first, 18 when she was born and i really struggled, i dont know how some young mums do it, shes now nearly 4 and shes very polite and very well behaved, if it hadnt been for my mum i wouldnt have been able to cope

Andolina - posted on 07/27/2010

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i think 16 is still too young, ill be 20 in a little over a month, have a great job, and am still struggling at times. these girls need to realize they have a TON of time to become a mother.

Kathleen - posted on 07/27/2010

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This is what I think if 16 is too young then what about the 50+ year olds having children? 16 and younger I don’t like the idea of kids having kids but when it happens it happens own up to responsibility. Let’s be honest 16 year old's have their whole lives ahead of them prom, graduation, and first car.... BUT in the world today what about the older women who are 50+ having kids?! If we have a problem with teen moms shouldn’t we have a problem with older moms. They say the older you are the more risk you are taking. Let alone the fact that you have a child at 50, on your kids 18th birthday are you going to be able to celebrate it with them like you would of if you had them at a younger age? I was a teen mother to both my children it wasn’t hard for me at all, but to bash them think about other circumstances. You get told by society that by 25 if you’re not settled down married with kids your clock is ticking! So I don’t see the big problem. If the kids are provided for then there is no problem. All in all my point is 16 is young but you also are old enough to own up and take lemons and make lemonade. *don't get me wrong I am knowledgeable of the ones who don’t own up to responsibility and believe me it really disappoints me but I think all of us can agree we can’t be narrow minded on this topic*

Aishling - posted on 07/27/2010

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Well, to some degree i think you're right.. but not everyone under 16 is incapable of bringing up a child - it's not like on your 16th birthday you 'grow up', it's a process!
I was 14 when i became pregnant with my daughter, had her at 15. I bf her for 15 months, and i absolutely love her to bits! Yes before i got pregnant i was very immature and naiive, but pregnancy and birth really changed me! I'm totally different! I know what you mean about people thinking of it as a novelty, but i think you'll find it's not just teenage girls who behave that way.. some 'grown ups' do as well... I think it's more to do with personality, and personal situation than anything else...
My daughter was also diagnosed with cancer when she was 2 1/2, and i have been there holding her hand every painful step of the way. I would not have it any other way, because she is my LIFE.

Crystal - posted on 07/27/2010

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I think that the girls that got pregnant on purpose think it makes them sooo special, like the've made some huge accomplishment.
Tell ya what you raise your child responsibly, to have good morals and respect while holding down a full time job, going to school, and paying your bills, and we'll call that an accomplishment,

Megan - posted on 07/27/2010

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i believe you can be a good mum no matter what age you are some young mums are amazing and some arent but some older mums are amazing and some aren't, i dont belive that age matters as long as you have the understanding and ability to raise that child into a healthy and stable person and that you can give then all the love and support that they are ever going to need.
not every woman, teen or girl is cut out to be a mum and that is why we have so many children in the care system but that is not always down to age. and i dont think its fair to put that on to every girl who has a child under 16.
think about how people look at you for being a mum at 16, i know what it was like and i was 19 and i wouldnt put that on to anyone as it is the worst feeling in the world to be judged as a bad mum just because you are young.

Britney - posted on 07/27/2010

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then you have no reason to get upset. the comment was probably not meant directly for you. there are a lot of girls that can't or won't do that. if in fact that was the case then kudos to you.

Kym - posted on 07/27/2010

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Okayy. The only reason I got upset is because how can someone say that under 16's shouldn't have kids.. I was 15 and i've always looked after my son and not let my parents just look after my son and me not.. My mum never even looked after my son till he was 2!!!

Britney - posted on 07/27/2010

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I was 17 when i found out i was pregnant. I was living on my own with a roomate, had a job paying my own bills since i was 12, and had a car. Was i ready for a baby? Of course not but i did what i could for my son and luckily we made it. Yes he did change me for the better but that is not every case. The reality is that most of the time when a teenage girl gets pregnant they are living at home (and continue to) their parents take care of them (and continue to) and the teenage father or "adult" father decides to leave because the relationship is not fun anymore. It is very respectable to take care of your child on your own or with help from the father but that doesn't make PLANNING for a child when you are a child ok. It doesn't matter how mature you THINK you are, truth is if you are really were mature you would not be PLANNING for a baby that young anyway. I agree that some young mothers are better mothers than older mothers but the reality is that an older mother can do more things than a younger one. To give a response that "beleive that maybe for some young girls espicially now its a blessing for them to be pregnant cause they can turn their life around and start going on the right path in life!" That is so very foolish, that is one of the saddest things i have heard on this site. Why should anyone be told it is ok to be a child having a child if it CHANGES you, no baby deserves to take on that responsibility. I believe that no woman should plan on having a baby at any age until she is able to support that child/children on her OWN, no family help, no man, only herself. Because at anytime you could be doing it on your own. To everyone on here getting so upset on some of these responses: for one read the headline before you click, for another to those who are getting seriously mad, you are really showing the people you are getting upset at how immature you really are. These are just opinions and words, if you are doing everything you need to do and none of these "harsh" things apply to you then you have nothing to worry about.

Kym - posted on 07/26/2010

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To Shae Skinner...
I dnt kno how yuu can say sum1 younger than 16 to have kids... Thats not right, Yuu dnt have the RIGHT to say that!! It has made me very pissed off!!!!!!!!! Its wrong to Judge people because of their age.. I am the best mother I could be, even if i was 20,30,40 or wateva.. My son has everything he needs and lots more.. & after reading that comment im very pissed off how sum1 can judge people without knowing them

Shari - posted on 07/26/2010

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i was 15 going on to 16 wen i fall pregant with my beautifull daughter i was on the pill and it failed on me i magend with the money side and everything i love being a mum and raising my child and i wouldnt no what i would have done with my life if i didnt have her she changed my life around..... At the time i was not in a good place in the head i mean wen i found out but my daughter changed my around and i belive if some one falls pregant that baby has chosen that mother and father to be its parents for some reason

Brittany - posted on 07/26/2010

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i was 15 when i found out i was pregnant and was really excited, i had my lil girl at 16 and she is know 3 months, i have no problem providing for her and beleive that maybe for some young girls espicially now its a blessing for them to be pregnant cause they can turn their life around and start going on the right path in life! yes i agree under 16 is a lil young to be having a baby but if its going to make them more responsible then good on them!

Megan - posted on 07/26/2010

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well i was 15 when i fell pregnant but did not have him to i was 16. i think i was not ready yay but i did grow up alot once i had my son so yeah some people cant handle it but others can i graduated high school a year early and are attending college in the fall its hats best i need an education to raise him and get a good job i provide for him very well he gets everything and anything he wants and needs if you work at it you can do it just dont give up but i think its wrong for you to judge like that because some people can do it

Vilka - posted on 07/26/2010

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i think the should atleast be 18 when they have atleast finishes high school and can maintain a job to support a child

Tiana - posted on 07/26/2010

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hi there i am an 18 year old mom of two boys well soon that is. i got pregnant with my first son at the age of 16 had him the month after i turned 17 and then i got pregnant when he was almost 5 months old. i am expecting mine and my fiances second boy for sept 20th. i agree that teens should not be thinking about getting pregnant. with both of my boys the were not planned and not expected but i wasnt gunna harm a human beings life because it was my fault they even existied.but i never ever wanted children young. i kknew i wanted kids but not till i was at least 25.for me that didnt happen but i wouldnt change a moment of it.i agree that teens under the age of 15 should not have sex on their mind what so ever and i dont think they should think its kool to have kids young. but see i benifit because my boys dad has stuck with us every min of every day so im very grateful for that. but most teen girls think these days is oh he said that he loves me now lets have unprotected sex like its disgusting to know that they use abortion as a back up plan. i feel bad for all those unborn babies that were killed outta selfishness

Britney - posted on 07/26/2010

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did someone say if your a teenager you should get an abortion? maybe i missed that. i am also completely against abortion, there is NO excuse for killing an unborn child. murder is murder no matter what age.

Bryce - posted on 07/26/2010

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I agree is some ways. But i am 15 years old , and having a baby girl. She was completely unplanned but i am against abortion. I'm not trying to be bitchy either but just because someone is 16 does not mean they know more about having a baby then anyone else my age or under. People take on responsibilties they know they can handle. Like myself I have family to support me , and i live on my own with my boyfriend. We are both underage but we rent from a family member.

Britney - posted on 07/26/2010

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i would just like to say i have not seen anyone on here say teenage mothers are bad mothers or that they should get abortions. just that they are to young to plan for children.

Jamie - posted on 07/26/2010

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I am a firm beliver of life is what you make it!! I had my daughter when I was 17 and it really wasn't my choice to get pregnant. But it happened and I delt with it, her father and I are married now with 3 other children. Life can be hard if you chose to make it that way. Not everyone is in the same place in their lives when they are 16 so I can't say that all 16 year old should not be mothers/fathers. I do not believe in abortions so that was never an option to me and it makes me sick to think that someone would use that extreme to chose the gender of their child!!

Kathleen - posted on 07/26/2010

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I was 15 when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. I had her right before my 16th birthday. When I found out I was pregnant I was shocked! I honestly think that the way i was raised made me the wonderful mother i came to be. My brother was 10 years older then me, so he took care of me and offcourse made me act more mature and grow up a little faster then the avg. child. When i was 11 my brother passed away leaving behind my 2 year old nephew. I took him under my wing and helped raised him. I always was taking care of kids since i can remember. So in my case it was a little different, I am still with the father of my first daughter and had a second child with him when i was 19. My kids have never wanted for anything he supports us to the point that i dont need to have a job and i can stay home and take care of the kids. I dont party nor have i acctually ever even seen the inside of a bar. Now I completely agree with you about these teen mothers most of them are not ready and find that its more of a baby doll then their child. I watch that show on MTV all the time and it absolutely makes me wonder why child services arent taking some of those kids away. So all in all I do belive that 16 is too younge but also think that in the way the kids are raised plays a big part in how they react to being a teen mother/father.

Sarh - posted on 07/26/2010

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I think you should be intelligent to bring a child into this world. Age has nothing to do w/it. There are 25 and 30 yr old parents out there that should not have children. I had my daughter at the age of 16, I'm not proud of it and I did not plan it. But now I would never trade her for the world!! I couldn't imagine having an abortion just because the baby is not the sex I wanted it to be. What the ... is wrong w/people!!?!?!? I agree w/you most 16 yr olds do not understand the responsibility, time devotion, trying to provide for their child, etc! Most of them think it will be like baby sitting. I wish they would just listen to adults and realize that it truly is different and it is best for them not to have children so young!! I know you are against young mom's, but I reassure you that I am an excellent young mother. I am now 20 (21 in 1 month!), I am engaged to a wonderful and just gave birth to my son 6 weeks ago. Both of my children live w/me, they have never been in harms way nor have they been neglected, I have busted my butt to care for them both. It is NOT easy!!!

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i agree with Britney. Everyone on here aren't here to judge, ( well i hope not anyway) I hope everyone's here to help or get help. I so think that 16 is too young to PLAN for a baby because i fell pregnant at 17 and i don't regret keeping my baby, i just regret getting pregnant at that time. I wish I had waited. but hey mine was a happy accident. i'm not going to tell him that because its not nice hearing you were an accident. I was planning on getting pregnant when i could afford it, when i had settled down with the man i love and have his baby. not 17 in puppy love that ended in him telling me to get an abortion at 6months gone (??? idiot.)

Britney - posted on 07/26/2010

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i haven't seen anyone on here (maybe im wrong) judge other teenage moms, they are just saying it is way too young to PLAN for a baby. also you are not getting through to them when you talk about them as well. don't let what they are saying get to you, be confident in who you are. and if you are a teen and planning to have a baby, please just think it through first.

Cassie - posted on 07/26/2010

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I Agree With Amanda . Well Said Love .. Dont Judge People When Your A Teenage Mum Aswel .. Whats So Wrong With Having A Baby So Young ay ? Am Mature Enough To Look After My Daughter .. What Bout All This Stuff With BABY P. His Mum Treated That Poor Baby Like Shit && The Stepfather .. Most Teenage Mums Look After Their Children Better Than Some Older Women .. And Having Kids After 19 And So On .. Excuse Me You Got Your Heads Up Your Own Arses Tbqh , I Finshed School In Year 10 Had Home School I Have An NVQ 1 In Health & Social Care & Childcare , I Am Learning To Drive && Its All Thanks To My Daughter Because If I Didnt Have Her Id Be Drinking & Doing Drugs Like Most Of My Friends .. Ive Grown Up && You Do When You Have A Child.. I Was So Happy When I Got Pregnant I Dont Regret It At All . I Still Have Fun With My Mates And My Daughter Is Looked After She Has A Happy Home && Coming On Lovely All Ive Got To Said The Girl That Posted This Must Be Jealous && Unhappy That Us Teenage Mums Are Happy & Have Such Beautiful Children ... LEXI FOWLER 01.09.08 BEST DAY OF MY LIFE .

Puja - posted on 07/26/2010

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So... you think somone thats 16 suddenly know everything about being a parent? LOL well, just because you bcame pregnant at 16 doesnt mean that its not to younge. 16 is younge for having a baby. Your still a teen.. in highschool. intill your 19/20 and even then its hard. So if you get pregnant b4 the age of 19 then any age under 19 should be okay. Because its all the same. Your still a kid having a kid weather its 14 or 16. So dont say that kids having kid b4 16. 16 is a kid to.

Malaysia - posted on 07/25/2010

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i definatly agree although i really dont kno how much 30 pounds is compared to american dollars but im sure its not much..... but i am also a teen mother i was 18 wen i had my daughter n its hard n im not in school so i cant even imagine being 16 and having to balance the two..... but i think that young girls like that jus see the glory of having a child and not the hardships especially since most young boys that sleep with these girls are not willing to take part in the responsibility. But like i said they dont see that part or they dont believe it will happen that way to them its a real sad thing if u ask me

Jenna - posted on 07/25/2010

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When you are under the age of 16, where I live you cannot get a job and you cannot live by yourself. So exactly how do ou plan on supporting a child if you plan on getting pregnant. I agree with some of the other posters that if you find out you *are* pregnant there is no reason for you not to be happy but trying to get pregnant when you have means to support a child and you are still just a child yourself is not just selfish but unfair to the people who do support your child and to your child.

Jenna - posted on 07/25/2010

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I think that an immature person without means to take care of a child should not be actively trying to concieve. I understand accidents happen, but a child under a certain age shouldn't really even be sexually active. I don't know why anyone would want to get pregnant when they don't have a way to support their child, not even the ability to get a job or move out on their own. If you show me two people who want to have a baby who have no means to support that child, I will show you two immature selfish people.

Amanda - posted on 07/25/2010

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im sorry but id have to disagree.
i think having a baby is a peice of cake. im pretty much new i was going to get pregnant but i didnt care. im a teen mum UNDER the age of 16, love my daughter with my whole heart, love waking up to her 3 times a night she has everything she wants and thats that. IM PROUD!

Samantha - posted on 07/25/2010

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I agree and disagree. Honestly, its not the age that fully matters. Yes, you have to be 16 for the most part to get a job and have money for that baby, either way that baby will have everything it needs. As the disagreement part, its maturity that counts. I just turned 18 and while I was still a senior in high school when i discovered i was pregnant. but i have a few friends who range 14 to 17 who are already mothers, some are good moms who devote every last possible minute to their child but along with them there are a few you arent great moms but believe that they should still have time to be a teen, that part i dont agree with. however, young girls can be TERRIFIC mothers despite how much money they make or not.

now as for the part about the girl who had 3 abortions solely cause she wanted a girl, well i hope she reads this comment because she should be kept captive in some type of facility for heartless cunts. she laid down in bed multiple times to make a baby and the 3 times that she didnt get what she wanted she killed them. she is clearly self-centered. and has no gosh darn morals at all.

Amanda - posted on 07/25/2010

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your saying think before you have sex kids? we already have children isnt that why we are on this website. & like everyone else has said we 14, 15, 16, 17 etc year olds could be more mature then half of people your age, and could even provide more for them. Unless you have met someone our age and know where we are coming from dont judge. Im 15 and have a month old daughter i dont find it hard at all im loving it and she is too. I do not regret a thing... dont judge us because we love being mums? we dont judge you.

Amanda - posted on 07/25/2010

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im 15 years old and have a daughter whos 2 months. Ive been with the father for 2 years now and still am. My pregnancy was not planned but im not going to lie and say i had no idea it was going to happen as we never used protection. I beleive having my daughter was the best thing ive ever done + infact shes saved my life, i had a bad group of friends we did the wrong thing 24/7 my schooling was poor and my attitude sucked. My parents tried to change me and stop me from being like this but i wouldnt. The morning i found out i was pregnant it was the biggest reality hit for me, i stopped socialising with those people and me as a person completely changed. I now have one best friend whos my boyfriend and i can honestly say im happy that its just me, my boyfriend, and my daughter. I have a stable house hold and my parents are very supportive. My boyfriend works fulltime and earns enough to support us... im finishing my schooling next year at tafe and my daughter grace is coming with me (its a class were children are aloud with their mums) i know from everyone elses veiw we're all getting pregnant because we want to and we can but for me its not like that, and im sure im not the only one. Im vvvverrryyyy happy i had my baby she saved my life and at the same time shes got a very happy and optimistic family to grow old with despite age. Tbh from what ive heard about some elder mums me and my boyfriend alone are more mature then half of them, we dont drink we dont party, we help eachother out, we spend time as a family + we're doing just fine. In some ways yes i agree because more then half of teens mums dont act like one, they still want to party and do stuff any normal teenager would do, make their parents baby sit while they go out all the time, but theirs the very few girls out their that're like me and grew up soooo much faster.

Megan - posted on 07/25/2010

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i understand what your saying but i have serval friends who were and are in such positions and most them tell me its bc they want to feel loved...with the things on tv and in music most kids and teens today develop an idea of what life should be like and how they think their life is because of one falling out with their parents...they feel like if they have a child that the hole they feel in their hearts will be filled by haveing a child that loves them no matter what....if things some how get worse in their perpective then they want all the love they can get...which usually leads to the decision...im not saying that they're are right but its more the emotions they feel are lacking in thier lives that want returned to them....they want a strong bond and love for someone and with a baby they think they'll get it

DesiLynn - posted on 07/25/2010

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I was 18 when I had my daughter. 2 months shy of graduating from High School. I was on bed rest from 5 months on. Missed 3/4 of my final semester of school and my tutor didnt know what the hell I was learning, nor did I. But I still graduated with my class. Now Im 21. Im a single parent, working and going to school. Miley is almost 2 1/2. When I got pregnant I chose to keep her, I was thinking about giving her up for adoption to my brother and sis in law because they were unable to have children, but then the second I felt her kick, I couldnt give her up. Her father is...a piece of work. I texted him to check on her yesterday-he said he was camping and didnt know where she was, except she was with his parents. Oh, and his definition of being a good parent-buying diapers and spending one on one time with Miley. If thats what it takes to be a good parent, maybe we should take pointers from him! *rolls eyes sarcastically* And here I am busting my ass to give my daughter a better life, he gets it easy and can pawn her off whenever he gets her. Age has nothing to do with how good a parent you can be. If you really want to be a good parent you will. My sister had her first at 14, and she was a great parent. She went to school, took her daughter with her, and still graduated with her class. Its hard being a parent so young but if you have the resources needed to bring a child into the world, then who are we to stop them?

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