Why are teen mothers, always appointed as bad, irresponsible, or to dumb to be young mothers?

Callie - posted on 04/18/2011 ( 8 moms have responded )

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I'm 18, i got pregnant with my son e.j. when i was 17. Every time i used to walk down the halls of the high school, mall, or a park, students, teachers, parents of smaller and pre-teen kids would look at me in disgust. Look at me as i were dirt beneath their shoes, tell their children to look away so they don't see me and ask questions or say to other parents, my child will never turn out like her. They had no clue who i even was, and i didn't know them in return. It was even worse at school, students would look at me like i was trash, like i was nothing. But the teachers stared with that thought in their eyes " she will never graduate!" "she will end up like all the young mothers, on welfare and in the projects!" But i have proved them, my family, my teachers all wrong. I graduated 8 months early, with my regular diploma, i have a job to take care of my son and myself, i have my own place and i'm going to college for nursing in the fall. This conversation is for all the young mothers who walked in the same shoes i did. You don't need the world telling you your wrong or to young to make it with a child, because you can, i did. You have to make it for your children and for yourself. The biggest supporters i had were my fiance my mom and GOD. even though they doubted me, they still were there. if you need any advice, or have questions, don't hesitate to ask? I hope to hear from you guys, be strong and GOD Bless!!

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Bri - posted on 04/21/2011

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They are jus jealous bc ur a young hot momma lol i got pregnant at the age of 15 and had mine at age 16. i was a role model for girls in my high school to prove that you can have a kid and complete high school. so your AMAZING and dont let anyone tell you otherwise

Sumele - posted on 04/20/2011

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I completely understand and agree with you 100%. I was in the same shoes, I was pregnant when i was 18 and had my daughter when I was 19 and although a lot of people doubted me I knew that I had to become something that my daughter could be proud of. I am now a full time mom, full time employee, and full time student with my own place. I hate the fact that all teen moms are looked at negatively when in truth the ones that don't succeed probably wouldn't anyway regardless if they had children or not. It has nothing to do with mothering a child at at young age that makes it a bad idea. Its more about the mentality and maturity level of the person before they make that decision. I took part in a young moms group that met weekly at one point so I can understand where the stereotypes come from but I just think it's unfair to judge everyone based on the behavior of a few.
P.S.
I live in NYC so teen pregnancy is extremely common

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Heathur - posted on 04/21/2011

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Bravo! I was in the same shoes as you growing up. I got pregnant while on the pill with my boyfriend I had been with for a year in a half when I was 17. Had my daughter when I was 18. Everyone said horrible things including that I should have an abortion because a child would ruin my life. While I support women's right to do so, I could never do so myself. Against all odds, I graduated high school with the rest of my class, worked part time my entire pregnancy, & am STILL with my father's daughter. We are both 23 now & will have been together for 7 years this coming June. We have our own home in a wonderful community & maintain great relationships with both of our sets of parents. He works a great full time job that pays very well & has wonderful benefits & I work full time running an in home daycare so that I can be with my daughter when she is home rather than put her in a daycare. You are absolutely right- we are role models. I didn't expect to become a young mother (considering I had been on the pill for 2 years) but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. My daughter is a blessing & I am lucky to have her. The joke is on the neigh-sayers & ignorant people who labeled us as statistics. While I understand that the majority of teen mom's struggle- especially in this economy, all we can do is be the best mother we can, assure that our children are happy & well cared for, & make the best of our situation. It's VERY hard work but it's more than worth it.

Louise - posted on 04/20/2011

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I know peoples opinions are very blunt with young mothers these days, but go back 100 years ago and it would of been normal to of had children by now. I think you are a strong woman who knows what she wants and goes out and achieves it on her own. good on ya! but I have to say you are in the minority in this age range. Most girls do not graduate and live off their parents or welfare. It is very refreshing that there are girls out there that can have it all. you are a great mum and an example to us all.

Brooke - posted on 04/20/2011

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Its awesome when there are those few that can say they made it.. but unfortunately the sad reality is most can't.

April - posted on 04/18/2011

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Who cares what people think. It's great that you overcame what others put you through enough to show them that you are stronger and better then how they portrayed you and doing all this to give your child a better future. Good for you. Keep doing what your doing. God Bless :)

Amanda - posted on 04/18/2011

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Your a very strong young woman :) and i think you have done very well for yourself despite the obstacles that everyone put in your way! I have to say You Go Girl! lol and keep up with the positive attitude! :D

Rachel - posted on 04/18/2011

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all i have to say is well done u should be very proud of urself ... and a big... ha ha use were wrong ...to all the ppl that doubted u :)

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