Why have a child if you just want to party?

Sophie - posted on 07/23/2010 ( 97 moms have responded )

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Hi im 17 and i have a 10 month old little boy, i know quite a lot of young mums my age and every weekend they leave their child with a baby sitter and go out clubbing! i understand that every mum needs a break now and again and needs to let their hair down but these mums i know are ridiculous! If their babysitter lets them down they go off in a strop because they can't go out, i just don't understand why anyone would have a baby if they still want to go partying every weekend. I stay in every weekend with my little boy and i dont complain once! i love tucking him bed at night. I could go out if i wanted to as my boyfriend (jaydens dad) says he doesnt mind staying in with Jayden but i would feel bad leaving my baby every weekend to go and get drunk! anyone agree? i want to know your opinions xx

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Nikki - posted on 05/28/2013

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People probably wont like this but hobestly theres nothing wrong with going out without your baby 2 or 3 nights a month. Wether it is to go clubbing or to have a drink or go to the movies. If you're a young mother who does a good job and takes care of her child NO ONE has the right to judge you on what your release is. You DO have the right to party a few nights a month, smoke a joint or two take a few shots, as long as its not an everyday thing no one has the right to judge you on it. AND it is possible to be a teen/young mom and be a PHENOMENAL parent. All you people bashing mothers for going out and having some fun, SHAME ON YOU especially you are a mother yourself cause.you KNOW that as much as we love our babies they stress us the f*** out wether we were ready for them or not. If a mother has someone she can trust to babysit a few nights a month so she can go do what she needs to keep herself sane MORE POWER TO HER

Michele - posted on 12/31/2013

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I'm a grandmother and I'm tired of babysitting every weekend!!! I still have a 15 yr old at home. My daughter is 25 with 2 kids and she throws a fit and calls me names if I wont babysit. Sometimes she just drops the kids off outside and leaves leaving me with the kids. I'm 43, i work full time and raised 4 children 2 of of them are in college.

I don't know why she acts the ways she does, my other kids are self sufficient and they were all raised in the same house.

If your old enough to lay in the bed and have children then It's your responsibility to tuck them in EVERY night!!! I've decided I'm not babysitting anymore!! I've raised kids just about all of my life and I'm done!! My kids are all older, i's my time for a few years.

Grandparent get abused by their irresponsible kids who decide to have children at a young age.... JUST SAY NO!!!

Dennis - posted on 11/06/2013

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when a person decides they just HAVE to go partying 2 or three weekends a month,that person wasn't ready to have kids and probably shouldn't have.In fact it reminds me of a girl i spoke to recently who told me that when she has kids that she still plans to keep her party nights and attitude.sad attitude ya know?to other posters who claim they see no harm in partying 2 or 3 weekends per month,well,3 weekends IS almost every weekend!!chances are you're really meaning 3 instead of 2..right? it's sad to see that someone would want to raise children and yet feel the need to remain the partyin' teen.

Caitlin - posted on 11/16/2012

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This will be unpopular but I think the young girls here need to get out of the house more! So many of you have baby after baby! When you do nothing exciting outside the house at such a young age there is nothing left to do but have more sex and then more babies! I think being exposed to what most people your own age are doing in life is a GOOD thing. I think a lot of you are jealous of girls who don't have kids and have more freedom, so you decide never to go out and be exposed to it. Plus you don't want them to see the truth: that your romantic little baby fantasy is a lot more work and stress than you led them to believe. But the alternative in life is a good thing to see! It will discorage you from having yet another baby when you know that you can barely handly the baby you have! You need to socialize with people your own age also because guess what? You're still a child who is developing!



If a responsible babysitter or grandparent is willing to look after the child a few times a month, get out of the house!! Maybe clubbing is a bad idea, but a girl's night at the movies or out for dinner is a great idea! If you don't have anyone to help with the kids then you really should not have had a baby so young and without a support group! Allow yourself a little fun or your body and mind will demand it down the road when your children are older and your inevitable loss of control does real damage.

Krystin - posted on 02/01/2014

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Ok I Completely Agree With You I Do Not Find It Appropriate Defiantly When Your Teenage Mothers To Go Out Every Night And Party It Up Then Go Home Sleep And Do It Again The Next Day As Teen Moms Every One Expects Teen Moms To Give Baby To Mom And They Go Play While Mommy Stays Home And Plays Mommy For You I Couldn't Do That I Had A 3 Bed House A Stable Job A Husband, Whom Also Has A Stable Job, And A Child I Had A Lot On My Plate I Was Not Parting Every Night Now I Do Believe A Small Glass Of Wine To Your Self At Home While Reading A Book Or Watching A Movie After Kids Go To Bed Fine I Know Many Teen Moms Who Would Drop There Kids At My House And Not Come Back For Days I Would Call A Family Member To Come Get Them Cause They Were So Drunk Teen Moms Need To Grow Up These Game There Playing Makes The Amazing Teen Mothers Look Bad

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Nicole - posted on 05/23/2014

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I agree I don't mind goin out for a drink but as soon as I see it's after 9.30 I start to feel lost and want to go home to my baby even if it's just to be their to see her sleeping every week end is not cool once here and their but every week end seems excessive to me

Bunthea - posted on 02/01/2014

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Thats people now adays they just have no moral values because they werent raise right. I imagine my daughter growing up to these types of people knowing she will never fit in the new standards of this world. Its our jobs to give our child some morals that way they can carry on the traditions of a real women/future mothers.

Bunthea - posted on 01/31/2014

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My friends ask me to go out but i kno i rather be home with my kid. Motherhood comes first i realize that i shouldnt desire that life style. I want my daughter to grow up knowing that i was there not out trying to live that life.

Stephanie - posted on 01/07/2014

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Ever since I had my little guy about 2 and a half months ago I haven't really wanted to drink just to hang out with friends every so often maybe once a week I do the same sit inside all day long with my baby:) I don't mind but as long as I get that little break since we have no sitter im ok:)

Honesty - posted on 01/05/2014

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Omg thank you for your honesty this made me laugh but so true as long as u keep the two seperate if the father doesn't mind watching your baby nothing wrong with going out and having fun but not coming home messed up to your kid make sure the baby is at a safe place and have fun my god doesn't mean you have to throw your life away

Michele - posted on 12/31/2013

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report her to Child Welfare for the baby's sake!!!! then get custody of the baby!

Sandra - posted on 12/08/2013

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What does everyone think of a stupid 19 year old that takes a 3 mo. old baby out in a snowstorm every nite to hang out with friends? Different house every nite? One boyfriend after another? Thats my grand daughter. If she wasnt of age i would beat her ass and take the baby. What does everyone think i should do??

Elle - posted on 11/24/2013

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Hi there! :D I think it's completely okay to go out to the club if that is how you unwind. The whole point is that you need to make sure your child is a priority, not the club. If you make sure that child is well taken care of with his or her grandparents or a best friend that's like an auntie then I don't see an issue with it. Just because you need to take a break doesn't make you a bad parent. It actually makes you a better parent because you know that in order to be a good mom and not lose your patience, you remove yourself from the situation in order to wake up the next day and be an even better parent. Teen moms are just as good of moms as older moms. The main thing is that the child is provided for. There are plenty of older moms who are immature as well. Age isn't a factor sometimes, it's the personality of the mom. As moms, we'll do anything for our kids, but sometimes we have to take a step back and love ourselves, too. But it shouldn't be every weekend. Maybe 1x or 2x/month. :D

Bunthea - posted on 11/17/2013

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I think its dumb always going out to the clubs, grinding on strangers getting drunk and smoking weed. You are a mother now live by example but take a break when its needed have a lil to drink go dancing but not every weekend what kind of mom you know has it like that? Your kids comes first if not dont plan on having kids. Woman who wants that lifestyle should know why they are hitting clubs. I dont care if people do not agree kuz they know why. Life is hard cry me a river.

Vanessa - posted on 11/13/2013

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Yeah I also agree with you I became a mom at 19 and I stopped going out completely If I go out my baby comes with me no matter what I LOVE spending every Minute With her. I am now going on my 3rd baby and I go out but with my babies I would miss them way to much

Chile Adoptions Support NZ Parents. - posted on 09/09/2013

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What a great young 17 yr old Mum..... You are still a teenager, but good on you for been so very responsible, you are a great Model for teens who have not grown up yet.

May be Coffee and lunch etc yes... however not all teens or not al Older Mums or dads who still like to think of themselves first and party often are simply selfish.

Clubbing is for teenagers,been a parent is for grown ups who can think of their babies or Children First "always".

Take care of your self treat your self out say every couples week or each mth fine .... but say no to Clubbing.

Lilianna - posted on 09/03/2013

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A few nights a month is great for the mom. But I think what she means is mothers going out every weekend to get drunk instead of taking care of their own child. Every mother needs time for herself but if you go out and get drunk and possibly get into trouble because you are drunk then that is not okay. Go out to dinner with a friend or go get your hair done THEN COME HOME TO YOUR CHILD.

Lilianna - posted on 09/03/2013

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I agree with you! I was 17 when I had my son and I rarely went out... I was still in school when he was born until he turned one so I did go to school dances but that is honestly it. I could not leave him every weekend to party and be with friends... I would much rather stay home with him. I dont understand what goes through these mothers minds if they think it is okay to do this.

Pam - posted on 02/14/2013

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Every weekend is too much, and clubbing is fun but for how long? I'm an older mom, I had my oldest at 27 and I'm 31 now, so the party is out of my system where every weekend is concerned but that doesnt mean I dont like having a couple or 3 glasses of wine in the evening with a funny show, or that I dont invite a mother with her kids over for a double sleepover, music, kids dancing and wine for the mommies from time to time. Birthdays, I like my wine with hordorves, or going to a movie then drinks afterwards.. I think the fun changes as you get older, and its healthy to find other means besides clubbing to have fun. Let your hair down once in a while, and other times, take it in moderation. Moderation is a great skill to have for most things in life. Sounds like you are doing a great job, and exceptionally well for a young 17 year old, good for you.

Tracy - posted on 01/18/2013

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Tengo: Unfortunately, I've known many mothers that if their own mother didn't agree to babysit, they would have just left the kid with the first person who said yes. One "friend" of mine was out dragging the boulevard and met a guy. Brought him home for the night and he never left. *Days* later he was babysitting her two kids while she was out dragging the boulevard again!! (I hadn't seen her in YEARS but had run into her when I found all this out. Never would I hang out with her after seeing who she had become.) Should my kids ever behave so irresponsibly toward their children, I would rather say YES over and over again than to wonder where my grandkids ended up for the night. Of course, I would also just be trying to diplomatically tell my kid to just give me custody to begin with so he/she could go run and play as they wanted but I would know the kids were safe.

Tracy - posted on 01/18/2013

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I completely agree and it happens at all age parenting. I was a teen parent and I always was with my son. Even my, much later, honeymoon was a whole one night away because I was not going to leave him. I am now 33 and can't understand how people my age are just now having kids and STILL prefer the bars. If you didn't have enough partying, then why did you consciously plan to have children?? Heck, I'm home all the time with my kids who are now 16 and 3. My husband just had a surgery today and so my 3 year old is staying the night with my parents tonight so he can sleep a little without her running around crazy like. Even my 3 year old knows that mommy's place is with her. When I dropped her off she hugged me and said, "you are going to miss me SOOOOOOO much!" LOL, then she told my mother to tell me goodbye and I needed to leave because grandma needed to go play with her. I totally understand needing a date night here and there or just an afternoon alone without someone yanking at you. But all the time AND drinking your butts off? I don't get it. My points of view is that is time that can be spent with family and, at least for my family, much needed money that can be used for a family event. Most of the moms I know that go out all the time do go drinking, which is expensive! And I can just never justify the time away. Even tonight, with good reason for the 3 year old to be gone (16 year old is at his girlfriend's high school play until late), I feel guilty for her not being here! How do mothers handle partying without feeling guilty?? A friend talked me into going to a bar with her ONCE and it was far enough away that a hotel for the night was the best option. She was pregnant and older than me. I was like 19 and my son was 2. I still don't know how she convinced me. My parents babysat for the night. I felt SOOOOOOO guilty all night that the next morning I made my friend drive me to toys r us and I bought an $80 wagon to take home as a surprise for my son. That was the last time I went out like that.

Denise - posted on 01/17/2013

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Smart Girl, I am 40 and had my babies at a young age (20) and up and I was the exact same way! I love my babies and still love being home with them!!! :)

Tengo - posted on 08/19/2012

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its really bad when your mother is taking care of the child when she should be telling you hell no you had it take care of it and show you how to be responsible. All you are doing is giving her motive to continue having sex cause once a man know you have a baby its easy access.

Stifler's - posted on 10/16/2011

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I have to agree a bit with "Me" the wanting to go out will come out one day. it's a busy time now with little ones but once they are grown up you will want to have the life you never had to be a teenager and go out on weekend. I've seen it a lot with people who turn 30 and their kids are older they want to be a teenager again.

Me - posted on 10/16/2011

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well you sound like you have the right idea, but talk to me in 5-10 years when YOU decide you have bein a mom to long....Grow up----your to young and it will come out-always does--always will. what is ridiculous is teen and young girls having babies--get a puppy and see if you can take care of that first. There is NO WAY that a 17 year old is going to be a good mother SORRY

Melody - posted on 03/09/2011

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I don't see a problem with going out sometimes, but every little chance you might possibly have and getting fucked up beyond recognition, or just whatever...I can't imagine going out all the time and leaving my children. Maybe its because I'
ve spent so little time away from them, maybe its because I trust few people with them....but its okay for people to go out sometimes, just remember that your children come first. Their health and well being comes first and you need to be able to function properly for them. Just because you wanna go get fucked up doesn't mean your kids should suffer. If you can keep them emotionally, physically and nutritionally happy and still have a great bond with them have at it. I'm just saying its not for me, and don't overdo it. Its easy to get lost in it

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True Amanda, but it really depends on who's involved in ur child's life. Like, if someone (the other parent or grandparent for example) has ur child every weekend, then there's nothing stopping you. I just think as long as your kid is left with a responsible person then why not. But obviously not alllll the time. :)

Amanda - posted on 03/08/2011

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This website is not narrow minded...No one said there is a problem with going out once in a while we are talking about the ones who go out all the time every weekend...Once you have a child you give up the partying and need to grown up.

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I go out most weekends, but my son goes to his dad's then. So it doesn't matter for me.
But when we were together, we used to go out maybe every other weekend. There's nothing wrong with it. Like Monique said, it doesn't mean you don't love ur kids.
I don't know about every weekend, I guess it depends really. Like I said for me though, he's not with me on weekends anyway.

Monique - posted on 03/07/2011

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it wont kill the baby to go out once and a whle, doesnt mean u dont love them. this website is so narrow minded.

Taylor - posted on 03/05/2011

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I 100% agree. I felt bad leaving my 10month old son with his grandma to go have a romantic evening with my fiancee. It irritates me that people are like that. I feel a better connection with my son then a bottle of alcohol...and there's no amount of alcohol that could make me feel higher then what he does.

Melody - posted on 03/05/2011

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I know what you mean. I am 19, and have two kids(no more for me) and I have quite a few friends with babies as well. I am always seeing many of them going out all the time and I wonder how they do it. I can't imagine going out al the time. Every time I am away from my kids(which is very rare) they are the only thing on my mind. I have only been away from my 2 year old daughter once overnight, and that was to take my son to the ER, and I have only been away from both at once one time for 3 hours then I had to come home to be with them. I have only had a babysitter 4 times. Yes I would like to have a few more breaks, but if I did I wouldnt go out partying, I would just want a little socialization, and adult conversation.

Julieanne - posted on 03/03/2011

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I completely agree with you i think it is wrong to go out and party every weekend, once in a while is ok...even though i don't. My mom offers to watch him, but i feel like it is my responsibility to watch him not my moms. I feel guilty leaving him behind, because if he isn't welcomed i'm not welcomed. I love going to the movies, and bowling, ice skating and the park but everywhere i go i take him with me. I know people who just dont go out on weekends, but daily while family watches their kids. They leave all the time to different states for days at a time. It is ridiculous.

Monique - posted on 03/01/2011

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I believe that too be a good mum you need to still be a teenager, because its not fair that by having a child that you miss out on a life. All the older people were to me "Monique ya lifes over hope you enjoyed it" bla bla bla. But i still get to go out with my friends now and then. And my babys daddy watches her. I need time away sometimes to be a good mum and laugh cause i do everything by myslf. But yeah thats just my opinion. If your goin out having a drink with ya girls its allgood but if u going out do drugs n shit i fins that wrong.

Amber - posted on 02/27/2011

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I agree with you completley, I have 3 children at 22 and the only times they have ever been left with someone other than me or their father (on quick trips to the store or something) is when I was having another child or when the 2 youngest had to go in for surgery in wich case they were with their grammie or their aunt who also has a kid their age. Me and my husband have been on 2 date nights since the birth of my 4 year old and again they were at home with their aunt for a couple hours most. I could never imagine leaving my kids every weekend! I love our friday nights of having snacks and watching a new kids movie (or sometimes one we have seen 100 times before lol) Its young moms like those who give the rest a bad reputation. When you become a mom its a good thing to get new friends who wont do drugs or are drunks ( i dont care at all if they drink on weekends or what ever if they have no kids) Since becoming a mom that is now all my friends are is other GOOD parents that we can go out and do something fun AND kid friendly.

Fran - posted on 02/26/2011

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i agree with you 100% i was 18 when i got pregnant with my olderst little boymckenzie who has now just turned 1 i new a couple of people who were pregnant around the same time as me and as soon as they had them within the firs week they were out down the clubs rollingin at3/4 am this happens every weekend and makes me angry you need to realise once you bring a child into the world your priorities change and that you now live for your kids not live for the weekends i fell pregnant with my 2 and a half month old 4 weeks after having my oldest boy i found outi was pregnant at 17 weeks even though i didnt know i was pregnant i didnt once want to go out i wanted to stay n with my little boy put him to sleep be there for him when he woke up and to give him cuddles when he wanted them i didnt want to be at the club getting off my face on alcohol these people that want to go outdrinking theres other ways to have agood time ive only left my 1 year older once that was for 2 nights when i went into labour even then i tried getting home after id given birth unfortunatly i was not in the best of shapes so i couldnt leave.

Ashleigh Jade - posted on 02/25/2011

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I agree. Im 21 with 3 kids. I go clubbing maybe once a year on my bday. Thats it. I agree we need "mummy time" but that doesnt need to be drinking. Each to their own i guess though. I have never used a babysitter, if i ever need me time my ex or my mum will watch the kids for me. A relaxed mum is a good mum. The young mums that get drunk all tge time and go out and leave their kids with random people is why everyone judges young mums. Not all of us are the same! I love being a mother. Its what i was born to do

Nikita - posted on 01/28/2011

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depends really im pregnant and i love goin out drinkin but mine wasnt planned i didnt think i could have kids and by the time i turned around i found out i was pregnant i couldnt live with myself to get an abortion and i cudnt give it up for adoption but im definately missing my partyin life but im sure wen i see my babs that will all go away.

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Totally agree. It makes me sick when girls to this every weekend. I know a girl who had her second kid at 18 and went out to get drunk when her baby was just 5 days old. what the hell!

Unshell - posted on 01/27/2011

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Amber you couldnt have said it any better they call themselves a mommy but never have there kids and those be the ones who have alot of children because they know they can just drop them off somewhere my mother dont play that and I honor her for that yea she gives me time to myself but she has a life she have to live as well take time with your kids partying hanging out ect is going to be there kids are kids only once....

Amanda - posted on 12/31/2010

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omg i sooo agree with you. where im from there are A LOT of teen moms. its funny bcuz i dont understand how they even conssider themselves mothers. they have a baby, live with their parents and pawn the kid off on them. all these "moms" are constantly partying and getting new boyfriends and it just makes me sick. i honestly havent partied once since i got pregnant with my son, my life has been completely dedicated to raising my son. once you get pregnant i think that if your going to keep the baby then thats the exact second you are no longer a teenage anymore. ya i understand a break every ONCE IN A WHILE but even EVERY weekend sounds to much to me. some girls disgust me. especially when the child thinks their mother is their aunt or cousin or something because she is never around.

Kit - posted on 12/22/2010

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Omg all my friends are the same but it's more than every wkend it's everyday! I don't understand how they do it and because of that we no longer have anything in common and I rarely speak to them wich is sad because I still have the good memories from before we all had kids but I just have to say to myself I'm doing the right thing and so are u! Ur obviously a good mum and keep it up:) sometimes I wonder if some of my friends are missing their maternal instincts altogether because when I was pregs I couldn't bring myself to drink or smoke but my friends did and continued drinking and smoking the day their babies came home from hospital:( makes me so sad. But mums do need time out once I had two Kids i felt the need to go out occasionaly but was still breastfeeding and couldn't I've gone out 3 times in 3 yrs and only for a few hours but I'd also lost what I

had in common with my friends and they've moved on with new ppl so I'm not realy missing out when they go clubbing lol Keep up the good work

Laura - posted on 12/22/2010

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i agree with you i have 3 girls and im 19 now almost 20 i cnt leave them for a few hours let alone a night i dont mind my mum offering to have them for the night so i can relax but i still stay in home and im always textin my mum to see if the girls r ok as i love them soooo much my eldest starts school next year whic will be wierd as i normally have her all the time until recently as im now retraining at college so my girls go nursery for the hours im in college.....i think if teens want to party all the time they should not be gettin pregnant as there is plenty of contraception about now a days ( i had a problem with the pill but i have the implant now and it brill btw lol ) so there aint really an excuse with some young mums i hate how some get prenant moan thru the pregnancy and then soak up all the atention i hated gettin attention when i was pregnant as i wasnt doing it for attention seeking i accidently fell pregnant due to the contraction (condom, pill and the morning after pill) failing on me and i couldnt go thru with an abortion im against them unless it is nessary like mother life is in grave danger and then i had some people now falling pregnant for the attention n when i asked what contraception failed they said aint been using any and they are extremely immature thats why the brilliant young mums hu work there asses off for there kids get a bad name cuz of the ones hu decide having a baby is a fashion statement....rant over sorry if a bit long lol xxxxxx

Amanda - posted on 12/22/2010

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@melissa I also only ever leave my daughter with her daddy or grandmother when im at work oh and for christmas shopping too lol. I think i have gone out maybe 4 times with her daddy/my husband and her grandmother watched her. She is now 18 months old and the first time i went out wasnt until she was 9 months because my husband took me away for the weekend for my 21st b-day and i cried because i missed her and i said we could only go if i was home on my actual bday so i could spend the day with her. I dont understand people who enjoy being away from their kids all the time.

Jessica - posted on 12/21/2010

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AND YES GOING OUT ONCE A MONTH OR 2 IS FINE YOU NEED THAT TIME ALONE BUT EVERY WEEKEND IS RIDICULOUS

Jessica - posted on 12/21/2010

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most def again! if you want to keep parting then they should of given the baby up for adoption

Stifler's - posted on 12/21/2010

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We hardly ever stay home on the weekend. Ever since Logan was born we've been traveling with him on the weekend, one of us goes out and the other stays home (usually me going out), going to friends places for bbqs and stuff. There's no need to not have a life just because you have kids.

Amanda - posted on 12/20/2010

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I soooo agree, I never go out either but its ok because i much rather do night night time and be rested to wake up early and see my daughters first smile and here her scream HIII

Tina - posted on 12/18/2010

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yes! i know a couple girls my age that are out a couple times a week drinking instead of taking care of their babies. I am 20 with a 17 month old baby girl she is my light she is my everything! like you i like tucking her in at night. i look forward to getting out of class and going to get her from daycare. that smile makes my entire day. i often get asked if i feel like i have missed the college experience by having a baby. the answer is no my baby is the reason i have the courage to continue. i am starting my own business to better her life. being a mom is my number one priority and number one joy. dont get me wrong there are times i need a break. i have been out with friends a total of 4 times since her birth. other than that the times i am away from her is when i am working, in class or doing something else important. i have only missed a couple firsts that shes done (none of the big ones like talking and walking) and them were when i was at work or in class. anyway these couple girls that i know. one of them uses the excuse of being a single mom as a reason to get drunk all the time. now i am not a single mom so i cant say first hand how hard it is but i cant imagine its easy. but thats no reason to be a drunk thats a reason to get off your butt and work hard to be a good mom. another one only sees her kid a couple times a year. she is allowed to see him more than that but she tells the dad no i dont wanna see him. ok thats fine but dont play head games with your kid oh moms here today but you wont see her for months after. and the last one lives with her son sees him everyday but she just plain dont do everything that she should he eats fried foods all the time no home cooked meals. and all three are drunks. drives me crazy because there are some of us young moms that are great moms. and we get the judgements because of those that arent. all i have to say is thank you to those of you that love and care about your kids and do everything in your power to be the best mom you can be :)

Jade - posted on 12/18/2010

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I know a girl that goes out every single saturday and reckens she leaves when her son goes to bed and is back before he wakes up so its ok, i dont think so i goe out once like every two months and when im out im always ringing my partner to check on my daughter, it really pisses me off when people are immature when they have a baby. When you have a child you dont have the right to act like a child anymore

Amanda - posted on 12/18/2010

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I agree with you completley. But that's how majority of those teen moms are. I was 17 when I had my son and his father was always trying to get us to drop our son off at his mothers and go out. I always said no, you can go out if you want but I'm staying home with my son. I have quite a few friends who always are going out every weekend, getting sitters, leaving their children with just about everyone because they want to go out...it's ridiculous! I've honestly watched a handful of my friends kids, just so that I knew they were taken care. It's getting pretty pythedic when you NEED to go out all the time. I can understand special occasions, or family gatherings or maybe once a month just for some alone time with your other half...but constantly wanting to pawn off your kid just to be able to go get drunk is pretty bad parenting...I mean if you didn't want the responsibilty of a child, than maybe you should of given that to someone else who has already had their share...

Melissa - posted on 12/18/2010

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i'm 24 so i'm not sure if i'm considered a "young" mom, but i just had to say it's so awesome to see someone young actually taking responsibility for their child. i know a lot of moms, too, who go out every weekend, leave their kids at home, get upset if they can't go out, it's just ridiculous! once you have a child, that's it, that's you're life! that's not saying parents can't go out and enjoy themselves from time to time, but their children need to come first. my son just turned a year old and i've gone out of a total of 4 times, and every time i make sure he's fed, changed, in bed and sleeping before i go anywhere. i don't leave him with anyone but his father (my boyfriend), my mother or his god mother/aunt. i don't hire sitters, and i'd never leave him with anyone i don't know. i can't tell you how happy i was to read your post because so many times i get so upset at how little parents seem to care these days. your post definitely gave me a lot of hope for all of the parents out there :0)

Holly - posted on 12/18/2010

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i personally feel the same i have a 1 month old named Noah
and i adore carin for him.. ive gone out with my girl... once... and i missed my son so much i came back after being out for an hr. sure i miss partying but i chose to have this baby now im going to be the best responsible mom i can be at 19 :)

Toni - posted on 12/17/2010

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I have a little routine that I have. Every day, i get my boy up in the morning, make him breakfast and myself a coffee. I let my fiance sleep in as much as possible as he works night shift. I go about my day as usual, entertaining my boy, cleaning, ect. untill my fiance wakes up. Then I make him a tea, and I go for a walk by myself.
That is my alone time. About 15 minutes a day, I walk. This gives me exersize, and the alone time I need to stay sane, lol.
I did not have a child to just leave with a baby sitter every weekend for hours at a time. I dont think that is right, but every parent does need some time to them selves.

Nikkole - posted on 12/17/2010

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Me and my husband go out every Saturday or every other Saturday just depends! But we go out to eat or out to eat with friends or bowling i think the last time i went to a club was 6months ago and that was for my friends birthday! I HATE going to clubs i dont like getting hit on by drunk stupid guys! I am 22 and have 2 kids my son's name is Jayden too ;) and he is 3 and my daughters name is Bella and she is 5months they stay with my mom because she asks me to bring them over i dont ask her! And when we go out on Saturdays we go to my mother in laws house and help her fix things around the house so its not like were out partying! I agree i think once your a mom you have responsibilities to your child or children you shouldn't go out and party EVERY weekend that is horrible! But going out every once in a while i think is fine! I mean heck you can have fun without leaving your house you can invite friends over and drink casually not get hammered and play games or watch a movie thats what we do a lot of the times and everyone that comes over loves my kids! But like i said earlier i dont like the club scene its just a bunch of drunk people looking to hook up or just act like idiots sorry if you go to clubs but thats what i see when i go and i would rather stay home with my babies and do crafts or cook with them or watch movies PLUS that saves money :)

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