worst teen mom

Rosa - posted on 03/05/2011 ( 30 moms have responded )

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I hate when people talk about married moms like they're the only good moms in the world! Like i could be having a conversation with someone about moms who beat their kids or moms who don't take care or their kid or moms who have eight freakin nannies and someone will say "well atleast their not a teen mom. What does that mean! A teen mom is worst than all of these other moms! geez! I'm so sick of hearing that. I was a teen mom and I married my "baby's daddy". Some of us DO make responsible choices for our kids! They just assume that we don't know who our baby's father is and we don't take care of our kids.Some moms don't take care of their kids, but it's not just teen moms!

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Kelsey - posted on 03/09/2011

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being a teen mom is just a lot harder than being in a stable married relationship. it doesn't make you a bad mom, but you will definitely learn some things the hard way.

Melody - posted on 03/05/2011

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That is definitely something that bother me as well. I mean, not all teen moms are going to be terrible parents. A lot of us are better than older parents. I mean, just because we are young doesnt mean we cant care for our children.I am a teen mother of two, and you know what? My children are healthy, happy and gifted. My daughter was crawling at 5 1/2 months, walking at 9, and now at 2 years knows most of the alphabet and can count to ten and add/subtract any combination up to three lol. She speaks sentences, is polite and knows well over 200 words. My son is crawling backwards, sits up perfectly, ad is the happiest(and most flirtatious) baby I know.

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Jessica - posted on 03/27/2011

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Doesnt matter how much of a good job youre doing they'll find something to pick on ( even if they have to make it up). I just laugh because theyre going to waste their time bitching about me. I dont find myself that interesting =)

QUARNITRA - posted on 03/18/2011

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I'M 15 AND HAVE A SON WHO JUX TURNED 1 LAST MONTH N I'M EXPECTING AGAIN.I'VE BEEN THE BEST MOTHER I CAN BE TO HIM AND HE'S KNOWS THERE'S NOONE WHO CAN TAKE HIS PLACE.THE OLDER MOM ALAWAYS TALKING DOWN ON US TEEN MOM AND THEY AINT DOING AN GOOD JOB THEMSELVES.I GO TO SCHOOL,I WORK,AND HAVE TO SUPPORT MY BABY ALLDAY EVERYDAY AND DONT ASK MY MOTHER FOR NONETHING AND 4 DEM 2 GET OUT HEA N SAY TEENS MOMS AREN'T FIT 2 HAVE KIDS WELL THEY IS LYING THROUGH THEY TEETH AND I JUX WANTED TO SAY STAY A GREAT MOM YOUR CHILD WILL ALWAYS APPRICATE YOU AND GOOD LUCK

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P.S I'M ALSO ENGAGED TO MY BABY'S FATHER OF 6 1/2 YEARS SO DNT WORRY

Amber - posted on 03/18/2011

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ya i know what u mean im 17 and i have a month old daughter but im wit the baby daddy. and we r engaged. i have olny been wit ONE guy so not all teens r bad...

User - posted on 03/18/2011

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I hated all those comment about teen mom too I heard it all! I had my first when I was 18 and my second at 20! But I was determined not to be a push over and let people treat me like I was stupid! Everyone is a first time mom, no matter the age! I knew more than older first time mothers, I even breast feed without any trouble! I actually gave advice and had more confidence too! It was especially hard on me because I was a Christian too! The pastor use to preach alot of negative thing about being a teen single mom, how my son would be gay, a druggie or in jail or even a teen parent himself! I DID NOT let those comments put me down I'm proud to say none of my kids are not anything like they said they would be! They didn't offer me any help what so ever! But some of the married parents of kids the same age didn't turn out so well! I don't think people should judge whose going to be what. But offer help to those in need! Especially people who call themselves Christians! I'm married to a great man now and have SIX kids, my two oldest are in college and doing great! I'm still a Christian, but I got out of that church! So to all the teens who find themselves in this predicament and want to be a good mom you can be, don't let people discourage you!

Julie - posted on 03/17/2011

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Good point - but sweetie - you are rare!
The highest rate of child abuse is amongst teen moms...

Hayley - posted on 03/17/2011

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i love being a teen mum and i cop it all the time about being to young blah blah blah , these days i just ignore what anyone says to me because i know im doing a much better job then alot of other mums out there , my son and my daughter(in my belly lol) will always have everything they need , and i think its better to have kids young because you will be able to see them grow up and be able to play with them more because your more active, my kids do have diffrent dads but i say my sons dad is my partners child because my son hasnt seen his dad in almost a year

Kayla - posted on 03/17/2011

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I agree that the "teen mom's" I know tend to be more attentive parents. My son's dad took off and I've been raising him, working, and going to school. And at 3 he will have a full conversation with you (which started at 2) says please, thank you, cleans his own room, helps me clean, is anything but spoiled, cause well if we can't afford it... But I do get help from the state. And it always pisses me off when people down people who get state assistance and how lazy they are and all they do is spit out kids and don't ever take care of their kids or work! Jesus really? I work full time, am a mom full time, and go to school for nursing. So yeah if I get help. People get over it, were not all "stealing" your tax paying dollars!

Chelsey - posted on 03/16/2011

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Yes. I have to agree with everything you said. My baby's grandparent on my current husbands side wouldn't come to his baby shower because they said me and their son wont married. I was so mad because they put the mistake that me and their son made over their grandson. It was crazy. They still didn't come even though he had already proposed to me. They were nice to me for the most part, but you could tell that there was underlaying blame that they had against me, but now that me and their son are married they act like we are the best possible parents in the world now. It's real booshie. I am curious to see what they are going to do once they find out we're pregnant again. Will they come to this babies baby shower or will they stay away? To be honest it will piss me off if they decide to come to this shower just because we're married. That would mean this child is more important in there eyes than my son is.

Tiana - posted on 03/14/2011

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Hey marrying your babys father isn't nescessarily a responsible choice. I mean I agree withu on everything else but you say that like marrying the babys daddy is the only responsible way to go.

Kelligrace - posted on 03/14/2011

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I had my son when I was 18. I new when I was pregnant with him that I would be responsible and be a good mom. I didnt marry my baby's daddy because we werent ready and we still arent. I am a pretty good mom and a lot of people think so. But I know a lot teen moms that party all the time and rave a lot and dont have custody of their kids and that drives me crazy how they can not always be there for their kids

Shelby - posted on 03/13/2011

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kalie, i seen something like that. i think it was the show your cut off or something like that. the lady wouldnt do n.e thing but play w. her child((if she even did that much)) she made the father do everything.

Kalie - posted on 03/12/2011

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i was watching a tv show about girls who come from wealthy families and one girl has NEVER changed her 4.5 year olds diaper...oh and her child is still in diapers and uses a bottle...because she has nannies for that.

Rosa - posted on 03/12/2011

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exactly Kalie! and what about the housewives that are being glorified on bravo? they don't work and they have nannies! but no no no teen moms are worse than them. urgh.

Kalie - posted on 03/12/2011

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i definitely had a problem with that a few days ago. i stay at home with my son while his dad works and i got told i was a bad mom for not working. my response was "well, havent you been watching the news? everyday a child gets murdered, beaten, or hurt in some other way...by their parents...who are over 25. sorry im 19 and a good mom." seems like people these days think if you're a teen mom you can't do anything for your child. and i dont even like the term "teen mom." teens go out and party, i dont. i chose to be an adult and grow up for the sake of my child. therefore, i expect a little respect. i could be like some other parents who just dump their kids on anybody and do whatever...but not all of us are like that.

Tina - posted on 03/12/2011

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That's mad. The only reason a teen shouldn't be a mum is for the reasons pointed out such as abuse. Age and marital status has nothing to do with it. Any one can be a good or bad parent.

Shelby - posted on 03/11/2011

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i know a lot of teen moms that take better care of their children then most of the older married moms do.
but a lot of teen moms that are bad mothers make the teen moms that are good mothers look bad. some teenagers are just not responsible enough to take care of a child && dont know to put their child's need first. but there are older moms that do the same thing. i hate it when older married mothers assume i am a bad mom just because i am young, i mostly hate it when older mothers start telling me how to do things && what to do.

Katie - posted on 03/11/2011

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That's horrible. I love being a teen mom. It makes me learn from my mistakes. A lot of my friends r teen moms. & there's nothing wrong w tht. All of my friends are with the baby daddys & the ones who r nott they r great moms with out thr daddy. Ppl shouldn't put down the teen moms. We do just as great as older moms

Ashley - posted on 03/10/2011

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Its all worth it I love being a mom there is nothing like your childs love or the way they look at you. You are their life and your all that matters. I mean I still hang out with a few selected friends but most of the friends I have lost because I can no longer hang out and we don't have things in common. Immaturity is a big thing also I have had to grow up a lot faster then my friends and I know how hard it is to be a parent but I also know the joys of being a mother too.

Melody - posted on 03/09/2011

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I agree it can be harder to be a teenage mother. Not just from what society puts on us, but we ourselves are developing physically, emotionally growing stronger and learning new things about ourselves every day. It may be harder, but wouldn't you agree that it is worth it? I look at all the friends I have lost, and their immaturity. How when I run into them we have nothing incommon and it doesn't make me feel bad. In fact I feel wonderful, because I know what it is like being a parent. I know the feeling of the ultimate love, the ultimate sacrifice. Nothing comes before my children.

Ashley - posted on 03/09/2011

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Its so sad how teen moms are underestimated. I'm a teen mom i just had my son four months ago, just because some teen moms still go out and party doesn't mean that we all do that. I'm a single mother going to school full time with no help all day long. My mom helps me out but she doesn't get off work until 5:30 so all day long i'm taking care of him by myself while also trying to do homework. I go out maybe once a month while my mom watches my son for me. BTW, i do know who my sons father is but i chose not to stay with him because i wasn't in a healthy relationship and people may say i'm weak for leaving and not trying to work it out but he's still in my sons life just not mine

Melissa - posted on 03/09/2011

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In most undeveloped countries it is normal for a teenager to have children. So why is it so "bad" for teen/young women to have a child in more developed countries?

Georgie - posted on 03/08/2011

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im a teen mum im only 19yrs old and i had my girl at 17 and to be honest i hear that saying from old women and it gets my blood boiling, i think people should either but out of what other people are doing and get on with there own lives its stupid the fact that they judge us young mums when they themselves were probably young parents. people are so quick to judge and dont think of what the person there slagging of is really like no1 noes what goes on behind closed doors so they should really just keep there noses out and let people get on.

Chloe - posted on 03/08/2011

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That is totally true my mom just thinks and other adults too that after i have my baby that my boyfriend is not going to come see the child they don't realize that teenagers can be in love and have a boyfriend who cares they just don't understand

Brandi - posted on 03/07/2011

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Some people are just like that. They love to bitch. Just do your best to ignore it.
I know a girl that thinks she is so much better then everyone else just because she got married, and yet all she does it bitch and moan because she cant do anything and she needs a break bla bla bla. So even married moms can be different. Being a teen mom is hard, and the teen parents that do not take care of their kids and sleep around while still pretending that everything they are doing is alright give the good teen parents bad names.
I do know who my "baby's daddy" is, but he took off. That doesnt mean Im a bad parent for his choices. Im going to school, taking care of my daughter, and doing so many other things in between to give both of us a good life.
It really bugs me when people throw the fact we are a "teen parent" in our faces like its a bad thing. It was a situation in our life and we handled it to the best of our abilities.
Who are they to judge.

April - posted on 03/05/2011

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The best thing to do is to ignore people who make those types of comments. Just focus on your child/ren. The more young mothers complain about things like this, the more immature we seem. It sucks to be stereotyped like that but who cares what they think, as long as their opinions don't effect how you raise your kids, let them say whatever they want. We can't change peoples opinions on this subject but we CAN prove them wrong.

Melody - posted on 03/05/2011

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Good job on being a good parent to your child, and proving to society that teenagers can be good parents too

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