Worst that happened to you during pregnancy?

Marley - posted on 10/04/2009 ( 54 moms have responded )

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We all know that we are looked down upon for being too young, but I want to know what the worst thing someone did or said to you during your pregnancy?


My story: I was pregnant and received the lead role in the school musical. Those who were going for the same part were furious and took it to the School Board, Newspaper and News Stations. They tried so hard to get me out of that play but I stayed strong!

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Christin - posted on 12/28/2009

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uh, i guess all the rude girls at school the whole shes a slut, its not even her bfs baby. umm hello we've been together && not broken up once, plus i've only been w/ him even though every one else around me at the time had like 6 or more sexual partners. but other than that i had toxemia and i had my son 3 weeks early.

Jennifer - posted on 12/27/2009

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most ppl tend not to say things to my face. except one lady at a store made a comment to me about if i knew who the father was. i was so shocked! since when does being young and pregnant automatically mean you sleep around? my sister jumped in and told her off for me! im usually never speechless!

the comments that really piss me off and offend me are the ones my dads relatives say to my mom. my father is a horrible person and not around. and every since my parents split his siblings, their spouses, and his parents have been so critical on my mom and how she raised us. plus they are extremely religious! anyways theyve made comments to my mom about how she didnt properly teach us right from wrong and no wonder this happened to me.

that just offends me the most. my mother had nothing to do with my choice to have sex! i was 19 when i got pregnant. that is well old enough for me to think for myself and not have to ask my mommy for permission! and i was on the birth control pill and we always used condoms. yet i still knew the risk of getting pregnant. they look down on my mom cuz i had premarital sex, when i know for a fact that each and everyone one of them had premarital sex too! my grandparents got married cuz she was pregnant! they need to get off their high horses.

Kristyn - posted on 12/27/2009

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i broke my foot at 35 weeks pregnant trying to kill a cocky in my bathroom it was funny but not good i ended up taking the cast of after 3 days couldnt handle it im now 40 weeks and its fine hAHAHA i got soooo many stares

Tuia - posted on 12/26/2009

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I had quite a few bad comments, but the worst one was something i received on myspace, through an application called "truth box" where people can leave you anonymous messages. the most disgusting thing i got through that was:

"you are a prenant whore, you should die yeah. i dont no why the f*** some bi c*** hooked up with you for.he is scum almost as much as you bitch, i hope you kill your baby, i hope you drop it on its head and step on it"

they've never step up and made themselves known.
as far as im concerned, who ever it was, is a pathetic disgusting person who is obviously bored with their lives.

Casey - posted on 12/18/2009

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the people at my church were running their mouths about me saying that i wasn't remorseful that i got pregnant. I was disappointed in myself but what else could i do the baby was already made. I told all of them to kiss my ass. Also my dad wanted me to get an abortion but I told him he's not the one carrying the baby around he doesn't have to take care of it that's why she has a father.My mom was disappointed but she didn't want me to abort it or put it up for adoption.That's about it basically.

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when i fell pregnant at the age of 19, i was worried about the weight gain as ive always been so concious of my weight. as i was in my second year of uni i was determined to go and carry on with the year. if i finished my second year, i only had one more year to go. sitting in the middle of a lecture, i was eating my lunch in a break & my best friend turned around in the middle of the lecture and said to me... 'are you exercising? coz you know its hard to get the weight off once you've had the baby..' my jaw dropped to the ground.. this was my best friend who knew my battle with aneroxia in previous years. my friends also said nasty things behind my back such as saying that i had gotten pregnant on purpose and that i wouldnt cope; they said that they dont want a crying baby in a lecture theatre yet now... they love my son.. who would of thought!!!. they will never understand until they are put in the position of a suprised pregnancy. they are little miracles and it doesnt matter how young people think you are; there is always younger having children. there is always dirty looks which are exchanged when you walk into a supermarket with a young child.

Christine - posted on 11/27/2009

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the worst thing my boyfriend cheated on me with my bestfriend when i was 6months pregnant and it was our 1 year in 4 day..but im still with him but if i could go back in time i would of left him!!!!!!

Amanda - posted on 11/26/2009

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Nothing really when I was pregnant just got looked at by alot of people. After I had my baby I took him out and some guy asked. How old is he? Is he yours? I said yeah and he said how old are you? I said 17 and he said Thats not good! and I saw him as I was leaving again and he was like what's his name? So I ignored him then he like stomped at me. I was just thinking what an ass

Nicole - posted on 11/26/2009

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i would say the worst thing for me was constantly body checked. i just wanted to be like yeahh its a baby in there get over it. it was like everywhere id go ppl were giving constant body checks..annoying! and some ppl asked if i were having twins. and when i said no, they said i was lying..ookayy whatever! and now that i have my little girl, it seems like none of my friends want to hang out..oh well i wouldn't trade her for the world

Cayla - posted on 11/26/2009

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phone calls from the babys daddy new girlfriend and her friends telling me they were going to "break me and my baby" if called him. ha nice people :)

constant prank calling at stupid times of night.

getting told the baby wasnt even his...

hmm the list was endless.

Kelcie - posted on 11/25/2009

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well nothing mean was ever said to me or anything, people just kept telling me that i dont really look pregnant because im 8 months now and im pretty much just now starting to really show, and the worst thing that happened to me was that i got a virus in my intestines and i was in so much pain it wore me out and i had to be flown to denver because the stupid hospital here thought that i was going into pre term labor lol so i got to ride in an ambulance, a lear jet. and 2 helicopters all in one day, and when i finally got there they wouldnt let me eat anything and all i'd been doing the whole night since 12 o clock is throwing up i constantly had to drink water in order to have something to throw up, so with the pain and everything i have no energy and they also won't let me drink anything until this last ultrasound (that took forever!!!!) . i couldnt even walk to the bathroom by myself i was in so much pain my husband had to pretty much carry me, and when they allowed me to have water i accidently drank it so fast that i threw it up but water had never tasted so good in my life lol sorry for the long story

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i didn't have too much comments when i was a pregnant teen but its the looks that bothered me the most, you sure learn who your friends really are, when i went to school people who were "friends" would just look at my belly not my face passing me by in the halls and would not speak to me anymore but ask my real friends if i was pregnant. The nurses at the hospital when i went to register would give me dirty looks, like i am not going threw enough on my own that i need to be looked down at. Now its great cus my son is a teen himself now and everyone says wow you look great and young, they don't need to know how old i was when i had him anymore, lol.

Meagan - posted on 10/26/2009

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I had a few things happen to me:



I was at work one day when iwas about 6 or 7 months pregnant and there was an eldery man in line, when he got up to me he said " wow it must have been a pretty cold winter" i was HORRIFIED when i heard him say that and i just walked right away from him.



I was in pain one night and i ended up going up to the hospital, my doctor had told me that i was toxic and was worried about the baby so wanted me if i felt anything at all to go up to the hospital. At this time I was about 8 moths along. The doctor on call came in and said she was going to see how diatlted i was, when she went to check she did not do it very nicely, it was the worst pain ever!!( and i had passed a kydeny stone when i was 33 weeeks pregnant, her checking me was wworse then the stone!) She was soo rude to me the whole tim because i was young and i was asking alot of question to try and figure out ehat was wrong with me.



After i had my daughter me, my mom and sister all went out for a lunch to a little cafe near my house. The waitress came up to take our order, when she looked over at me and saw that i had a baby she instently said " Your wayy to younge to be a mom!" i just looked at her with shock on my face. I could not believe that she had actually said that to me!!

Brandie - posted on 10/26/2009

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when i was pregnant with my second child everyone said i was crazy for having another one. i wanted to scream at them and tell them i didnt plan it it just happened. but in my town nobody believes the person thats pregnant only the ppl saying everything.

Esperanza - posted on 10/21/2009

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the worst thing that happened to me was when i was 3weeks pregnant i saw the father of my child get shot to death..=[ the worst pain ever still hurts to this day

Jessica - posted on 10/20/2009

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I was sixteen when i got pregnant with my son. Everyone including my mother told me to have an abortion. I wouldn't. My son and I have been through so many things together, and to tell the truth, he saved my life. I was going down a very bad road, and when i found out i was pregnant, yeah i had to grow up, me for the good. God does everything for a reason, i beleive that with all my heart. Keep your heads up, and take ahold of his hand, he will guide you in everything that you do.

Jo - posted on 10/20/2009

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wost thing that happended to me was my whole pregnancy. When i was in my first trimester, i went to the hospital like 5 times for cramping and gushing blood, they told me i was miscarrying. then at 31 weeks i was admitted to the hospital for preterm labor transfered to another hospital where i stayed to be monitored then they sent me back home. by the time it was getting close to my son to be born, my husband was suppose to leave on deployment plus we live on the other side of the country so no family at all. then when im about to give birth i have to have an emergency c section b/c my sons heartrate kept dropping so then did that had my son. he was born at 9 am i didnt see him until after 12 pm so i missed his first everything. then i ended up having a c section infection and had 4 more surgeries to correct it and wound dressings ripped out of me twice a day for like a month. i never went home until my son was almost a month old and was then transfered to another hospital because they thought i had mrsa so i couldnt even see my son. now we r ok and hes a happy 14 month old. but i have a c section scar from hip to hip because of it that still hurts to this day because they cut pockets right above my hip bones on each side that r healed now but still hurt if my hubby holds me the wrong way.

Cassandra - posted on 10/16/2009

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The worst thing for me was my ENTIRE pregnancy, I didnt have to deal with people calling me names or saying things behind my back. The day I found out I was pregnant I was admitted to the hospital nd was in the hospital until I had my daughter (a total of 8 months nd 3 days) my body didnt take to well to the pregnancy nd I couldnt eat for 8 months so I had a picc-line (a tube that went in my arm straight to my heart) nd thats how they fed me. I threw up all day everyday nd was in pain 24/7 because I had pancreatitus for 6 months. I had to have multiple surgeries during my pregnancy nd steriod shots for my babies lungs because my cervix started to thin at 21 weeks. Everyone was worried about the baby nd how all the medications I was on would affect the baby, but at 40 weeks I was enduced nd had a perfect little baby girl 7lbs 9oz 19in. She had to go to the NICU for a bit because she was having trouble breathing nd they had drain the fluid from her lungs, but now were home nd shes 5 months old already tryin to crawl. That was THEE WORST experience of my life nd I am truley blessed to have my lil girl.

Hope - posted on 10/16/2009

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The worst thing for me was when my fiance's father {my fiance is the father of my 2 yr old daughter, and the one I'm pregnant with now, and we've been together for almost 5 yrs now} asked me if I was positive my daughter was his son's baby. And recently, he asked me the same thing out of spite about the baby I'm about to have. HIs son then told me they made the decision, and Addison {our daughter}, Wyatt {our soon to be born baby boy} and myself are his family. I feel bad, but our love is what keeps us strong. I know I am young, but I have the support of my family. That's happened during both of my pregnancies, so it's tough for me because it makes me feel as if my in-laws don't trust me.

Elizabeth - posted on 10/16/2009

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The worst thing that happen to me was i was about 3 months pregnant and the father of the baby broke up with me and hooked up with another girl the same night and when i went to school the next day his girlfriend and him try to push me down the stairs and he kept dineing bout the baby and the funnie part i didnt want him no part with the baby and about few weeks after i had the baby her severed me with papers for vistion it sucked .

Rhonda - posted on 10/16/2009

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I am now 42 years old, and I got pregnant at the age of 16. My daughter was born just one month before the end of my Junior year. You could not tell I was pregnant, as I did not start showing until I was 8 1/2 months along, and by then I had gotten out of school to have her. I gave her up for adoption, and got to see her until she was three days old. She is now 25, and has found me. She has turned out fabulous, and I don't regret my decision. I got teased mercilously in school (I was a tomboy who never went to parties, did not date, did not even have a boyfriend). Several of the popular girls kept asking me if it was true that I was pregnant, and I told them, no, I am just going to get fat, and then go on a crash diet in nine months!! When I run into my old classmates now, most of them claim they don't even remember I was pregnant.

Christine - posted on 10/16/2009

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The worst thing to happen to me was my ex. He had a crazy new girl while i was preg they called every day threatining to kill me and the baby.Lovley people.Then when i had the baby he decided to drop by and look at his son.I was upset to say the least but what could i do . Then a few weeks later he called to let me know the baby wasn't his.Now i find such comfort in the was things turned out. Im happily married to a wonderful man my son is a fine young man im so proud of- and my ex..... still where he was 12 years ago, living of others and running from child support payments from 5 other kids he had the same way.

Jena - posted on 10/15/2009

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The only negative thing that happened to me was when I found out I was pregnant. I already knew I was and was sooooo happy [me and my husband had been trying] and the doctor came in to confirm it and said "this is what happens when you do what you did" I was in shock. He had ruined my happy moment. I think back now and think that I should have told him to shove it.

Demitria - posted on 10/14/2009

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I went to high school 8 hours a day, or whatever.. I asked my government teacher if I could go to the bathroom, he said no because he doesn't give out hall passes. I told him I was pregnant, (5 months at the time) and he said "How do I know you just didn't have too many donuts?" I told him he was being stupid and I really was. He made me get a doctors note that I was truly pregnant and my due date so I wouldn't use the excuse after I had my son. Hahaha

Tiffany - posted on 10/14/2009

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Wow those stories are horrible im sorry you guys had to go through that! I honestly cant remember one bad thing anyone said to me while prengnant. I went to school the whole time i was pregnant, and towards the end everyone i mean EVERYONE lol asked to feel my belly and it was perfectly fine with me i loved showing my baby off even before he was here =)

Pia - posted on 10/12/2009

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Worst thing that happened to me...my father wanted me to have an abortion and when I said there was no way in hell, he wanted me to give my baby up for adoption...Needless to say I told him to f off, and now I have a beautiful son, I'm getting married, own a house and am in university! I love my life:)

Tara - posted on 10/12/2009

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I just got the "that's her looks" from everyone! I was in science class and didn't understand something so i asked the aid to help and she told me if i wasn't busy being a slut I could understand this!!! I was told by my college professor that i should just drop up because i'll never amount to anything! i have to be frank with ya'll we have two babies we got married in 07 so we've actually been married for 2 years dating for 5.

I was 3 months pregnant with i graduated high school i'll been a stay-at-home mommy
my hubby works and goes to school full time! WE ARE VERY HAPPY! I think that amounts to something!!! All of our friends are now getting engaged and married and some are having kids, when we did it we were the first so it was really hard, but NOW everyone calls us for advice on OBGYN's and medical treatment and every little thing! PLUS i'm studying to be a mid-wife, we just bought our first house and WE LOVE IT we also just bought our 1st VAN! (lol) i'm a mini-van mom now! YEAH! ;)..I think we've done pretty good!
So for anyone whos going through this right now or already has i promise people eventually get over it! They also say those things because "we're" the ones that got caught, they are doing the EXACT same things they just didn't get caught yet!!!

Amanda - posted on 10/12/2009

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with my first: well it didn;t bother me much because she looked like an ass and no one would belive anything that came out of her mouth anyway...

i had a girl who use to be a friend until she messed around with my bf and kept him away from me while her bf was out of town. anyway she told everyone who would listen that i wasn't really pregnant and i'd bribed the doctors (HAHAHAHA) when the ultra sound was done and i had picture proof (not that i needed it i showed FAST) then she changed ti to i got pregnant on purpose to keep my bf around (complete BS). THEN she was pregnant (same amount as me.. strange,,,) but her bf beat her and she lost it (i know her bf and i know he's beaten the crap out of guys who hurt girls and he loves babies..) she was always trying to take what i had..bf,attention over the baby, attention from my friends parents, even my old friends.. of course most of them told her to screw off when she tried to talk to them!



as for done to me... my ex slammed me into a door and the door knob hit me in the back when i was pregnant with my first.



with my second i was told i would ruin my kids life because i was young.. and that i had no way to take care of them.. the girl who said this barely knew me. but she was quickly shut up when a bunch of my friends turned on her and gave her a good earful correcting her saying i was an amazing mother and she was just an idiot. lol

Jenneth - posted on 10/09/2009

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what is the big deal you was pregnant not the living dead if it was a law against getting pregnant we wouldnt be here ourselves some people r so petty get a life and let u create yours

Erika - posted on 10/09/2009

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got pregnant one a one night stand and when i tried to tell the dad he wouldnt answer the phone so i had to leave him a voicemail then he called me back and told me to get an abortion... i dated somebody while pregnant and he broke up with me the month before i had my daughter. i was so upset i almost had her premature...

Bianca - posted on 10/09/2009

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The worst that happened to me when the father of my dhild's mother told him not to claim the baby after she is born. that truly hurted me but i wil soon be aright!!! because she is not important to me my daughter is!!!!!

Amanda - posted on 10/09/2009

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I remember being at work (I was a waitress) and getting told by an older couple that the would 'pray for me'. I know that they (hopefully) were just trying to be kind, but it really offended me.

I also had nasty rumors going around at school about how I must have tricked my boyfriend into getting me pregnant.

And I had really bad morning sickness, so I worked it out with my teachers that I wouldn't come in until 3rd hour... I got a doctor's note and everything, but my assistant principal made me 'truant' for not going to those classes and I ended up in Saturday detentions for 2 months because of it.

Mary - posted on 10/09/2009

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Once you get pregnant (at any age) people feel the have the right to get into your business. It's probably been that way since the beginning of time. Sometimes people want to be helpfull, if that's the case take their advise. If their advise sounds ridiculous, it probably is. But you have to decide. As for the rude comments, they are just going to be out their, some people are just rude and sometime is good to let them know just by say" Man, that was really rude and uncalled for." I was married, had a full time job (Military) first kid at 25, but then had 2 more back to back. I loved the family we're creating. the one that would really bother me was,'Do you know what causes that?" I would just smile, but I wanted to throw them off by saying" Yeah, I'm a nimpho." (sp?) What would really get to me was when it was Pro-Life people making the comments. Just remember YOU chose to have the baby, so make sure it knows how much you wanted it to be in this world..

Sheri - posted on 10/09/2009

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The worst thing that happened to me during pregnancy was actually my labour.

I was in true labour for 13 hours and planned on going natural but then sometimes during the labour (cant remember when) I started running a high fever and mine and the baby's heart rate went up.

I went up to 10cm dilated abnd pushed for an hour before they came in and told me I was going to have to have a c-section.



The scariest part of the fever is that I have an 50% chance of having an inhearted disease called 'malignant hyperthermia' which is when you have a bad reaction to anastetic and it starts when you get a fever.

Deeanna - posted on 10/08/2009

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the worst thing that happened to me was actully right after i delevered.See i had my baby girl 5 weeksearly due to pre-ecamsia(spell check) the prego dieses and a girl that i thought i was close friends with went around telling everyone i was on drugs is the my daughter was born early

Ashley - posted on 10/07/2009

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When I was pregnant with my daughter I was looking through her clothes and it felt like, if a person did a pencil dive and pushed off the bottom of the pool to go back up, on my right side over and over for like 30 mins. It hurt so bad.
NOW...
with my son the only thing that happened was I started to have contractions at 6 months but nothing like with me daughter.

Marley - posted on 10/07/2009

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I feel for you guys! My "friends" stopped talking to me and treated me like I was scum. I've also gotten the "you don't know who the father is" thing..when I've been with the same guy for almost 2 years. People are so immature.

Cassandra - posted on 10/07/2009

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Uhh.. When I was going to school while I was pregnant and was there all time, sometimes more than my other friends in my class... All my teachers said I wasn't there everyday and so they failed me...And now on my last report card they complain that I should put my baby in daycare and that I have no more excuses to miss class..Thankfully it's my last year but still trying to put my baby in daycare but no room...Yupp..

Nichola - posted on 10/07/2009

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I think really the worst thing ...other then not being able to do gynastics my sr year was when I found out that my bf's mom told him that he should get a paternity test....after we had been together on and off for like four years

Christina - posted on 10/07/2009

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my dad doesnt talk to me anymore..... but no regrets im gonna love her no matter what.

Shameka - posted on 10/07/2009

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Truthfully the worst thing that happened to me was when right after i had my son and a social worker came to the hospital and told me to give my son up that teen moms arnt good moms that they more than likely lose their kids anyways. Also my entire family except my mom and a few good family members told me that it would be best to give my baby to my uncle whom couldn't have kids with his wife, because i have no future as a teen mom.

Courtney - posted on 10/07/2009

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Thye worst thing that happened to me while pregnant, was the fact that everyone told me that I wasn't gaining enough weight. I talk to my Ob/gyn at every visit concerning my weight gain, because I'm afraid of gaining weight. My doctor has told me that my steady weight gain is absolutely perfect each and every month.

When I started showing, which was at like 3 months, now everyone comments on the "big" belly. Some have asked me if I'm pregnant or just getting fat, which was completely rude.....

It doesn't make sense to me. it's either i'm not gaining enough for everyone, or i've gained too much for everyone! it's awful too, because most of the people who tell me those things have already had kids, and already gone through it multiple times.....

it's confusing, but I know that my baby girl is safe and sound in my "pregnantly plump" belly. she moves around constantly, and kicks all day long, so I know she's happy.

Melissa - posted on 10/07/2009

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i too didnt show, i had really bad morning sickness and lost alot of weight at the start and i didnt show it a couple of months along..

Caitelyn - posted on 10/06/2009

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I went in to my school one morning to pick up some of my work, and I walked up to my group of friends. One of the other girls who I was friends with but not really that close to, after seeing me, turned and said to everyone "I don't talk to sluts" and walked off. One of my good friends, had to go after her as she was his step sister. He felt so bad, but he couldn't help it, she would've made his life hell, and his parents didn't want him talking to me (we went to a catholic school, the school itself was really great but some of the people were just dicks.) and then, after my son was born, I took him in so that my teachers, who had all been soooo excited, could meet him, and the silly little cow had the guts to come up to me, and ask me if she could hold him. I turned around and told her that I didn't want my son to be affected by her malice. Then promptly passed him to her step-brother!

Stefani - posted on 10/06/2009

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The worst thing that Happened in my pregnancy was the Morning sickness i was sick from 5 weeks right til the day she was born . the only plus to that is i never Gained any weight that wasnt baby weight

Chelle - posted on 10/06/2009

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its not the things people say its the way they can sometimes look at you. no one has really said anything out of order to me. but sometimes i will go shoping with my daughter in her buggy and the older mums will look at me then look in my buggy and have a dirty look on there face or will shake there heads as if me having a baby is wrong.



i do remember when i was in labour with my daughter i got a taxi to the hospital and the driver told me i looked like i was having twins. i told him it was just the one and he said "well i dont think so. i reckon you have another one hiding in there. lol

i still fitted in size 8s u.k (4-6 us) so i didnt think i was that big

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