young moms breastfeeding?

Sofia - posted on 08/18/2010 ( 26 moms have responded )

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i am a young mother, breastfeeding successfully. I am very proud because it was not so easy with my first two children and i gave in and switched to formula. I had no support as a young mother i was expected to formula feed right from the beginnng and NONE of my fellow young mother-friends breastfed either.Its not very common where im from and i get suprised looks all the time. I finally found a fellow young mother who has breastfed her daughter for a year and still going. I want to know all your opinions on breast or bottle and weather you felt supported or not. no judging!

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Delainie - posted on 08/18/2010

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My son is almost 7 months now, and I'm breastfeeding. All of my friends who have children formula feed, so I know what you mean about lack of support.. I was lucky, though, in that my mom, mother in law, church members and doctor were able to encourage me to keep trying in the beginning when I didn't think I could do it.

I can also relate to the strange looks, but I just ignore them. I know that I'm doing what's best for my baby, and I don't care what anyone thinks. If they don't like it they can look the other way!

Annabeth - posted on 09/14/2010

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Im 16 and i am breastfeeding my 11 day old son Alexander. I would like to continue to BF for at least 12 months because i think it is better for my baby then formula. Plus it is cheaper. I have a lot of family support when it comes to BF. I do get stared at when i do go out anywhere but frankly he is my son and i chose to BF so who cares what other people think

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Chelsea - posted on 03/26/2012

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I am also a young mother. I am currently still breastfeeding my 11 month old daughter. It is not easy being young and breastfeeding. Every one doubted me and told me that I most likely would not be able to do it for a number of different reasons. I feel tremendous satisfaction proving them wrong. I am so proud of myself for doing it. I work full time, and attend college full time, but am still able to give my daughter only breast milk. I love proving other people wrong. I think what kept me motivated was knowing that it was for my daughter. I wanted to give her the best that I could. So I never even considered the option of formula(not that there is anything wrong with giving your baby formula, it was just not the option I wanted). When it all comes down to it though, just do what you feel is best. It will not be easy no matter what you choose. You will be judged no matter which option you choose to go.

Mommalove - posted on 03/20/2012

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When my baby boy first came home i was breastfeeding after a while i stopped. I dont know why i did really i just did, i mean it was not a bad thing it just was not for me.I know people probably why did i stop giving him the good nutrients he need well it was not that it just didnt work for me because there were times i would get overwelmed with work and i didnt have time to pump so i used formula as a back up and kind of from there i just kept doing formula.

Tyasia - posted on 03/20/2012

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So just an update. Its march 20th and in 1 month and 7 days I will have been nursing for 3 years! I am 19 years old. :) I am so happy to be reaching my goal. Still going strong!

Stephanie - posted on 10/13/2010

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I had a csection with my baby and felt like i had failed him because i couldnt properly "give birth" to him even though medically i understand it was best for him to come out with the csection atm so i was determined to breastfeed him i got no help from any midwifes at the hospital the one time i asked a nurse to help me latch him on she just grabbed him shoved him on and walked away the only reason i knew how to properly attach him was because i study midwifery at uni and had learnt it in my classes. the first couple of weeks my nipples were so sore i literally screamed everytime he attached and would burst into tears from the pain i would be so scared everytime somebody said oh he is hungry eventually i got over that hurdle and breastfeeding was great and super easy until he was 3 1/2 months we took him to the doctor coz i thought he wasnt gaining weight properly and it turned out he hadnt gained any weight in 1 month he was only feeding for 5 mins on each breast every 3-4hours and would come of screamign refusing anymore i bought an electric pump to try and increase my milk supply as i had hardly anyhting left because of his short feeds i was so distressed that eh was hungry and that i couldnt get my milk back i was pumping every 2 hours 20mins on each breast even waking up during the night to do it and was still getting hardly anything eventually i gave up and put him on formula and i still regret it and hate myself for it thinking i could of giving him breastmilk had i only have kept trying but while i was breastfeding people would always give me funny looks if i breastfed in public and al my other young friends would say oh just give him a bottle for the night and come out or if i said i was tired they would want me to give him a bottle so someone else could look after him while i slept like they didnt understand how important breastfeeding is but now that my baby is on formula i feel like older mothers look at me like "yep shes a young mother of course her child is on the bottle" even though they have no idea why he as switched

Ro-selina - posted on 10/05/2010

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im 17 i breastfed my daughter for 3 months but then work got in the way i felt soo bad weaning her was horrible ! wish i had kept it up longer and not gone back to work so soon :( ur doing great!!

Elaina - posted on 09/30/2010

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I tried breastfeeding but my daughter seemed to have troubles with it so i switched to formula and then she started to projectile vomit. i tried every kind of formula i could think of then i put her on soy formula. which is when i found out she was lactose sensitive. i should have expected it since i was same was as a baby. if she wasnt lactose sensitive i would still be breastfeeding

Tyasia - posted on 09/23/2010

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im bfing my 17month old , dont plan on stopping until he says hes ready to stop, my minimal goal is 24 months but really it just whenever he wants to stop, be that today for when he is 4, he will stop

Myetta - posted on 09/16/2010

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I have 4 kids...my first the thought didn't even cross my mind...my 2nd, I tried but she developed thrush aorund 3 weeks and her doctor told me I would have to stop...my 3rd child, I nursed for a month, but again she developed thrush and the same doctor told me the same thing....When i got pregnant with my 4th I started researching attachment parenting and decided I wanted to partake in the lifestyle, my way. So I was determined to nurse for at least 6 weeks because I knew how benificial it was for her health, and because I ended up having a really troublesome pregnancy and she was extra tiny...5 lbs, I knew I had to try my hardest to BF as long as possible. I talked to a lactation consulatant at the hospital who gave me the number of someone I could reach once I was discharged. I had a long battle with thrush *3 1/2 weeks*, and dealt with cracked nipples forever it seemed...but one day she latched on and I realized it didn't hurt one bit. And now it's been 4 1/2 months and I'm back at work and pumping, so she gets about 10 ounces of breastmilk at hte daycare and maybe 4-6 ounces of formula, then once I get her home she nurses until daycare the next day.
My goal is to nurse/pump until she weens herself, but even then I will try to maintain a decent supply by pumping and continue to give her that. My family and friends support me. My mom even has set up a nice little area away from everyone else I can put my feet up and nurse with snacks and magazines next to it, and she's always congratulating me on a job well done, as well as strangers when they see me ; a young african american mom in an urban area, breastfeeding. I feel very accomplished that I've made it thus far. I don't judge people if they breastfeed or not...to each their own I just have seen first hand how a child who breastfeed even if only gor 2 weeks will be healthier than a child has never breastfed.

Bianca - posted on 09/12/2010

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you should be proud for breastfeeding!!! i had my son 6mths ago n breastfed whilst in the hospital- he latched on but was extremely painful my nipples were cracked and sore and bleeding was even more painful then giving birth and i was so stressed about him not getting enough to eat that i gave him formula.. the midwives and lactation consultant tried everything to get me to breast feed but i was in so much pain i dreaded doing it. i was crying everytime he latched on although now i regret not breastfeeding him cuz i really wanted to, if i have another im going to try and push through the pain to breastfeed cuz i know its best for the baby :)

Kelina - posted on 09/08/2010

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I breastfed my son till he weaned himself off at 15 months. I never had any problems with support, or breasfeeding when we had our son it was the only option. We simply didn't have the money for formula. It was difficult, especially the first 3 days of no sleep but i managed!

Chrystal - posted on 09/08/2010

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I'm doing both formula and breast. I'm having trouble getting enough milk out and its hard to keep on my boob but i'm trying. I really wanna keep breast feeding until he is a year old even if he is getting a little cause at least its better then none

Hannah - posted on 09/08/2010

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im almost done weaning now, not sure how i feel about it, think im going to miss it...my little ones 15 months. your doing a great thing by breastfeeding! my opinion, breast is best! and it shouldnt be that so many bottle feed without trying! i wish more people would support it

Missy - posted on 09/07/2010

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I am 19 and breastfeeding my first child successfully for almost 3 months now. I get very strange looks from many people but I do not care. I just know that it is better for Emma so I just turn my cheek and let them think what they want to.

Tyasia - posted on 09/06/2010

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im 17 had my son at 16 and still bfing him, he is 16 months and my MINIMUM goal is 24 months with my overall goal being 42 month or longer since i am completely child-led weaning. but for now we are 16 months and still going very strong!

Sicily - posted on 08/22/2010

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i was a breast feeding mom. until my son was 3 months old. i switched to formula but not by choice. i didnt have the nutrients in my breast milk that my son needed. he hadnt gained a single ounce in the first 3 months. i tried feeding more and more often and nothing worked. so i had to formula feed for his health. but if it hadnt been for that. i would have continued breast feeding. i loved the bonding feeling i had with my son. and i think its much simpler to breastfeed. and its ALOT cheaper... and its much better for a growing baby.

Gillian - posted on 08/21/2010

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I was 15 when I gave birth (14 when I found out I was preg) I always wanted to breastfeed there was no question for me.
I didn't have any support from the Dr midwife's or any one like that, the only person that supported me was my partner and my mum.
I breastfeed my son for the 1st day then he started to refuses my breast like he didnt like the milk he started to lose weight and when I asked my midwife for help she told me to put him on formula and at 15 I thought it would be best so he could build his weight back up. I suffered PND and I believe it was due to not only feeling rejected by my son but because there was no help given to me when I asked for it.

When I found out i was preg with my daughter once again I was determined to BF. I was more nervous this time incase she rejected me too. When I was giving birth I had gas and air and after she was born i felt sick due to it so when the MW said are you ready to feed I asked her to give me 10 more mins as I didn't want to be sick on my daughter while she was feeding, I then went to the toilet when my partner came back to the room and when I came out he was feeding her a bottle the MW had give him I asked what he was doing and he said that the Mw told him I didn't want to BF at all and to give her formula. I was so angry but let it go and thought I could BF the next feed. When it came to it I asked for help for her to latch on well the came with yet more formula
So once again I had no support at all

I wish I had the strength to carry on or even start but it is so hard without support and I think I didn't get it due to my age and that not many people of my age BF

Shahn - posted on 08/21/2010

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I miss breastfeeding very much. i got lots of support and never really cared what anyone thought about it. it is natural and the very best. but my daughter was eating and eating most of the day and half the night and so i tried to mix feed her. she took herself of the breast about a week later and now sleeps through the night so i guess i did the right thing... but still i miss it. my 2nd child is on the way and im determined to breast feed for at least 12mnths.

Melinda - posted on 08/21/2010

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im still breastfeeding my 21 month old son, im very glad i stuck it out i dont care what other people think

Taylor - posted on 08/21/2010

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I was 18 when i had my son and my mother was strongly for me breast feeding. I being so young and uneducated in that area was extremley nervous and scared. After reading all of the benifits of breast feeding i decided it was the best thing for him. He latched on wonderfully and was a great sucker! My whole family supported me and thought i was doing a great thing. Honestly i loved every minute of it...to me it didnt hurt...it felt good and refreshing...although it was a bit inconvient i still will do it with my second. Girl my husband is a bullrider and when we would go to the rodeos i'd be up in the stands with a blanket over my shoulder feeding him haha. I am now bottle feeding him and it is so much easier to just make a bottle and feed him in public without people looking. I miss the bonding of breast feeding very much.

Melissa - posted on 08/21/2010

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I was 17 when I had my daughter and I breastfed her for almost 18 months. I never asked anyone's opinion. I knew it was better for my daughter and a heck of a lot cheaper than formula.
It hurt at first and I know that's why most people decide not to keep doing it. But about 16 out of the 18 months didn't hurt at all so it's really not that bad.

Noreen - posted on 08/21/2010

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I hardly have any support when it comes to breastfeeding with my family. When I had my first, I was pressured into giving my son a bottle a day at 10days old so that I could go to College and work part time. We didn't have much money, so buying a good pump was out of the question. I did buy a cheap hand pump that didn't work at all! So that one bottle a day was a formula bottle. That one bottle eventually turned into two bottles, that turned into three and before I knew it, my son was 3months old and completely off the breast and on formula bottles. I kicked myself in the butt everyday for that and regreted it SO BAD. :(

When my second son was born 19months after my first. I was DETERMINED to breastfeed. I refused all bottles and didn't even take the free can of formula home with me from the hospital. I was going to breastfeed for atleast 6months with a long term goal of 12months. We invested in a 300 dollar medela pump instyle advance so I could pump for comfort. 6 months came and went with a snap of fingers. At 10months, my son was having "issues" with gaining weight and the doctor scared me into giving him formula. He was a very sick baby. HE was born 4wks prematurely and went into respitory distress at an hr old. He also had rsv, phenmonia, croup, and all kinds of respitory issues his first year of life. So we don't know if the weight gain issue was because he was sick or if my breastmilk really wasn't good enough. But at 10months of age, he was diagnosed with asthma, put on asthma meds and was fed 4ounces of high caloried formula after each breastfeedind session. At 12months, he weaned himself because it was easier for him to drink from the bottle. Atleast I made it to my long term goal.

My daughter will be 11 months old in 2 days. She has NEVER had a bottle or even a drop of formula!! I am determined to keep it that way forever! I have no plans on weaning her anytime soon and plan on nursing her until she self weans or 2. My short term goal is 12months with a long term goal of 24months.

Malissa - posted on 08/21/2010

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So glad to see other young mamas breastfeeding. I felt like I was the only one. It has been very easy, they only thing I am having trouble with is being comfortable enough to do it in public. Its funny how people assume just because I am young I formula feed. When I was at her pediatrician they asked what formula she was on instead of even asking if she was bf or ff.

Caitlen - posted on 08/18/2010

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my daughter is nearly 11 months old and i am still breastfeeding her, i can't really say whether there is much support in my town or not cause i did what i wanted and what i felt was right and didn't worry about what anyone else thought about it, congrats to you for still breastfeeding your bubba!!!maybe you could act as a support person for other young mums wanting to bf where you are???

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