Young moms with few friends

Britney - posted on 03/12/2010 ( 85 moms have responded )

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I have my son and he is almost 2. And i've realized that i don't have many friends anymore, When i had my son, everyone didn't want to hang out anymore because of my son. They didn't want to go out to lunch and dinner because he would of had to come with me. Now it seems like i have my 2 friends that are young and have a child themselves. Or i hang out with my family... Im looking for friends that understand what i'm going through and on a day to day baisis

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Kayla - posted on 10/06/2011

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I know exactly how you feel, my daughter is also almost 2 and I have the same problem. If you need anything message me! :)

Nisha - posted on 10/06/2011

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Hey Britney,

we can be friends because all my friends disapear after i gave birth to my first child. I have a 3 and 4 year old girl and i love them but my friends don't call me anymore because i can't go party until 4am every weekend. you can email me or find me on facebook if you ever want to talk yfriedel07@gmail.com

Lane - posted on 03/20/2010

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i feel the EXACT same way. my son is 3 in October, and no1 stuck around. the only person i tend to spend time with is my hubby.where abouts are you?

Lane - posted on 03/20/2010

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i feel the EXACT same way. my son is 3 in October, and no1 stuck around. the only person i tend to spend time with is my hubby.where abouts are you?

Hayley - posted on 03/19/2010

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i dont have any freinds. i have 2 yr old girl. All my old freinds have moved away, Drinking, Partying etc. Would love to Chat xo Add me!

Samantha - posted on 03/19/2010

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im 19 and i have 2 little girls and if it wasnt for my boyfriend and family around id be really lonely. if you wanna chat just message or you can add me on facebook.

Brittani - posted on 03/18/2010

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i know how you feel. i usually hang out with my family. most of the friends i had in the past just kind of die off because i have a daughter and it seems to be too much of a tag along for them.

Kelsey - posted on 03/18/2010

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I understand where your coming from. My daughter is almost 2 and i have no friends or a life for that matter..

Leah - posted on 03/18/2010

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hi i am in the same position as u i onli have a few friends left and they have kids thereself ad they dont even live here they live hrs away from me i have a son whose 20 months old and im 18....where are you from?

Kalia - posted on 03/18/2010

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Anyone who won't hang out with you because you have a child is not really your friend in the first place. Just enjoy your time with you son. He is only a child for so long and later on you'll miss spending time with him. Eventually you;ll find a few people your age who have kids too.

Kristal - posted on 03/18/2010

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i do understand what your going through... i used to have tonz of friends.. now i bearly have anyone to talk to or hang out with.. its like as soon as i got pregnant it scared people off.. if you wanna talk just message me i'd love to chat :)

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I know how you feel. I have a son who is almost 1. I'm 19 and my boyfriend is almost 21. When I had my son I just graduated high school I had a lot of friends in school but once we all got out of school no one talked to me anymore. And I feel like my best friend is my boyfriend cause he is the only I see and talk to about everything and his mom. But I feel like I don't even have a life anymore just because I have a son and that is bullshit to me. So I know exactly how you feel I have been dealing with this for almost a year.

Joy - posted on 03/18/2010

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Girl I def understand where your coming from my son is 3 weeks old. Im usually sittin at home with my mother or with my boyfriend thats about it. They only other people I really talk to have kids themselves its just a part of your life thats going to change but it always changes for the better :)

Stephanie - posted on 03/18/2010

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I know EXACTLY what you mean. My boyfriend and I have a two year old son. The only people we hang out with is another couple with a son as well. I miss having friends. I don't have anymore girl friends and it's hard to socialize with people my age who don't have kids. Do you live in Jacksonville?

Nicole - posted on 03/18/2010

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hay im 16 n i dnt have many friend im expecting my 1st child il be your friend

Donna - posted on 03/18/2010

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hi hun i have 3 kids a girl called kerry-may she is 9,jack is going to 3 in april and josh is going to be 2 in aug and i am donna age 27 and i know and understand everything u just said. ill b your friend xx ;-)

Sharayah - posted on 03/18/2010

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I know exactly how you feel!! I guess it just shows you who your real friends are.

Leah - posted on 03/18/2010

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yeah same thing happened to me my daughters 8 months on the 21st. i had heaps of friends before i was pregnant and now its like i have hardly any.

Stevie - posted on 03/17/2010

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my son is going to be 4months old on the 23rd of this month..and i totally understand what you're going through..the same thing happened with my friends. but when you stop to think about it...the "friends" that arent there anymore wern't really friends at all. but i know how u feel. if u want to talk im here! =)

Stacey - posted on 03/17/2010

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hun i totaly understand apart from with the friends i do have (also with kids there selfs) i dont see because they dont live neer they live a couple of villages away and i have got a friend that lives in the same place as me but she dunt have a kid but she loves my lil one so i do see her but i lost all my friends aswell i mostly stay in at home with my boy and my OH and soon to be my eldist boy (hopefully). so i know how it fells hun and its not nice it makes me feel like a loner lol
pm me if you would like to chat hun your more than welcome and im only 20 if your woried about age lol
xx

Charlotte - posted on 03/17/2010

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my son is 19 months and i dont have many friends now, i had sean when i was stil at school and as soon as told them i was pregnant they distanced themselves from me. so i no how u feel. but just remember, u have something they havent. a gawjus baby. xx

Debbie - posted on 03/17/2010

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hiya i am in the same way as u love bt my son is only 7 month if u want to tlk add me n on fbook i am called debbie leanne moody

Hilary - posted on 03/17/2010

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hey, i know how you feel.. i feel the exact same thing.. ever since i had my daughter, i barely have friends.. i mostly hang out with my family, my bf.. and my 2 bestfriends.. things changed after i had herr.. but she will always be there for me no matter what.. so keep ur head held high.. ur a great mom, everyone is :)

Keighla - posted on 03/17/2010

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hey hun, my name is keighla and i tottally understand how you feel. im 17 and when i had my daughter (5 months tomorrow) alot of people came around the first few weeks, but once again.. i feel like i have not very many true friends. i talk to a few people. but i never go out and do anything because no one ever wants too. im here to talk and listen.

Erin - posted on 03/17/2010

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i know exactly how u feel, my daughter is 16 months and im expecting again in july

Erin - posted on 03/17/2010

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i know exactly how u feel, my daughter is 16 months and im expecting again in july

Jennifer - posted on 03/16/2010

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i have the same problem-except none of my friends have children, so all i do is hang out with family and my son and fiance. so i cant be your friend :)

Jenny - posted on 03/16/2010

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i am the exact same as you...but i dont really have friends, very few...my friend's were my son's dad's friends first and so none of us talk anymore..my son is almost 2 also

Elizabeth - posted on 03/16/2010

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my daughter is 13months & I feel the same way, when i was pregnant my "friends" would ask i am and things about my pregnancy... stuff like that but when i actualy had my daughter no one came to see me at the hospital and only 2 of those " friends " have made the effort to even meet her.... no one asks how i am anymore or cares how im feeling. Its very upsetting at times to feel like i am alone and also wish i had friends who know how im feeling.

Alicia - posted on 03/16/2010

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i understand what you are sayin i stay home most of my days wit my daughter and although its fun i need people my age to be around

Lauren - posted on 03/16/2010

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Hi, I was in your postion when I had my Lil girl 61/2 years ago.. Im a young mom but I came to realize that the only people in your life that matter is your child & your family... Cause when it comes down to it they will be the only ones there.It may be a little lonely. but it will pass. If you ever wana talk Im always here!

Gertrude - posted on 03/16/2010

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I know how you feel... Everyone left except for the one with kids (or expecting)... I'm feeling kind of lonely sometime. And I'm looking for friends too but there's no one living in Montreal... :( So I stay at home with my 3months old daughter...
Anyways, if u want, u can add me on Fbook.

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I know the feeling. I have my family and a friend that lives an hour away and it's hard to even hang out with her since she's always working. Funny thing is, she doesn't have a kid and my other friends who do have kids live closer (like a few minutes away) and we never talk to each other. So it's always me and my 18 month old son playing toys and peek-a-boo. I feel weird when I'm not with him because I'm wanting to play peek-a-boo with whoever I'm out with. LOL I feel so sheltered and out of the loop

Amanda - posted on 03/16/2010

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I don't have many friends either. here in denver i only have my boyfriend and 2 other people. my best friend from High School is in Seattle and i have a handfull more other places.

Julie-Ann - posted on 03/16/2010

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i think that there are alot of us in the situation and if not for some of these fb pages and friends i dont know what i would do

Michelle - posted on 03/16/2010

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i am the same im 20 with 2 boys. all my friends bailed on me when i fell pregnant coz i could go out and party with them, then i had my son and my so called best friend wasnt allowed in the delivery room so she want and told all my other friends i didnt ever want to see them or for them to see my baby, im still trying to mend what she did, but my friends r more understanding as time goes by and they grow up more. i hope u find some comfort in knowing alot of other young mums r going thru the same thing. xxxx

Sasha - posted on 03/16/2010

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im the same way. my sons 2 and i dont have many friends.. it seems like to fit in you have to drink and stuff or my other friends are starting to have more than one kid so going out is the hardest for them..

Sabrina - posted on 03/16/2010

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i know how ya feel... i used to ahve lots of friend and now i dont its loenly being a young mom... if you need to talk to any one .... im here :)

Tanya - posted on 03/16/2010

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I know how you feel I have a 2 month old and I dont have anyone to hang out with either it gets lonely some times! I just think about when my son gets older and I can just have fun with him more!

Toni - posted on 03/16/2010

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i know how you feel, i had a close circle of friends but when it came to my daughter being here i found i was suddenly left with two, i have a 14 month and no friends with babies so i'm here if you want to chat :)
my msn is tonii.maii@live.com
xx

Kristi - posted on 03/16/2010

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I will be your friend, im a 16 year old with a 10 month old daughter and i have definately noticed the same thing.

Heather - posted on 03/16/2010

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I feel the exact same way!! I've got two kids and I feel very lonely b/c my friends have no kids and most aren't married...

Christina - posted on 03/15/2010

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I totally hear ya. I only seem to have two close friends now and days too. It's like once you have a kid your friends dont want to hang out anymore because you would have the baby. I have a one and a half year old girl and a six month old boy. I would so love more friends. :)

Lynsey - posted on 03/15/2010

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My daughter is going to be 2 next month. i chose not to have friends because i have found very few people my age that i can relate to, my old friends like to party drink and smoke. and iv never been into any of that and now that i have i child i chose not to associate with those people... I had a friend that got pregnant around the same time as me, but she doesn't have her priorities right and i don't like the way she lives her life having a child, and putting all the responsibility on her mom.

Christina - posted on 03/15/2010

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I know exactly what you mean. cept i drifted from my friends before i got pregnant, a few of them came around after the baby was born and we still hang out every once in a while but for the most part im by myself alot cause im a SAHM. I have two boys ages 2 and 6mo. + me if you want

Melissa - posted on 03/15/2010

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I know exactly how you feel. I'll be your friend :) I try to hang out with mom's my age becase they understand what life is like when you have children

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