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Amanda - posted on 06/18/2011
Well, I got pregnant only 10 days after turning 17. I had been with my then BF for 6 months. we were just about to break up over him cheating with a girl i thought was my friend, but then i found out so i opted to try and work through it. being pregnant was horrible for me. I was sick all the time (from week 7- delivery) I had low b loodpressure and fainting, then broncitis, then fell down stairs and messed up my tailbone and hips, then treatened labour, preeclampsia etc. all of this made it impossible for me to go to school. especially since i was on bed rest for the last 3 months. I was due in may so my entire pregnancy was through the school year. I got a lot of looks, cruel words, etc. my mom adjusted and was okay with the pregnancy after a month. but my now exs parents were VERY angery. he put off telling them and when i was 3 months they found out through someone else.
having him wasn't plesent either, they had to do a c-section at 39 weeks. he was 9lbs 8oz. I had to be knocked out because the needle wouldn't go into my spine. when i finally got to go up to my ro and see my baby boy, my ex left and my mom stayed the night. the next day he left again to go out with his parents... that was my first mothers day, alone, in bed, barley able to move, with a new born. joy.
following he wasn't much better but my mom helped. I attempted breast feeding, even though the nurse told me i shouldn't because im a teenager and i can't go out if I'm breast feeding. My son had nipple confusion from the botte they gave him at birth (he had low blood sugar). I kept it up supplimenting with forumla until he was 3 months. I wasn't producing enough, we were moving, and at 3.5 months he started having seizures. so breast feeding stopped.
I was not only dealing with being a teen mom, i had a child with seizures, I was moving across the country, i had a bf who was barely around (too busy sleeping around).
when we moved i was with out any friends, my ex took an extra 1.5 months to come out. when he dd he wouldn't let me work, he barely worked. I was stuck living off my mom. but i had this happy little baby boy whom i adored. we started seeing specialists about his seizures. at 8 months however me and his father split. and 2 weeks after i found out i was 6 weeks pregnant again. so, pregnant single, child with seizures... at 9 months Jake started seizure meds. he's 3 now and still on them. my second pregnancy was a bit better. no one was happy about it except me, because i was determined to remain positive for my little girl. my ex was bouncing between "shes not mine" and "she is mine". I know she is, I didn't sleep with anyone but her father until well after she was born.
she was an induced Vbac. it was a lot less painful then the c-section recovery had been. she was an easy baby, brestfed exclusivly, was insanely attached to me, and strangly afraid of men. I had to stop BFing at 3 months because i was in hospital for a week and she found she perfered the bottle. I started dating when she was 4 months and it was a long list of failed dates. the month she turned one and just after i hit 20, my son was diagnosed as autistic. his speech had been behind and i was concerned about if the seizures had been effecting him.
all through all of this their father was not helping with payments, he had moved back to our home town and just met my duaghter for te first time 2 weeks ago when i went out there.
all in all its been a rough road. I'm now seeing someone, but its not serious yet. I'm happy raising my babies by myself. my son is making big strides in his autism therapy. I'm in collage, the kids start school in late sept, i get a job in oct.