I have a 16 month old son, and he's just starting the terrible 2's. He throws a fit when we try to get him to do almost anything! We try to dress him, he throws a fit. We try to get him to sit in the grocery cart when we go shopping, he throws a fit. We tell him not to smear peanut butter on his 1 month old brother's hair, he throws a fit. He's also super clingy. I can't walk through the house without him clinging onto my ankles and screaming bloody murder. I think all of you other mothers who have gone through this can relate to me when I say: AAAAAAAAAAHHHHH!!
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Folakemi - posted on 02/23/2009
Laureal, you might not wanty to say that out loud, spanking (or even the slightest form of suggestion of it) is frowned upon in your side of the world (UK, i think). Growing up, i think it was "the look" that made me sit up. and kids are always looking for how to push the limits on how far they can push you. I was told that my mum once let me throw a marathon tantrum in a supermart for like 30 mins. the whole throwing myself on the ground, rolling up and down, screamming my lungs out. my uncle said my mum just sat down and watched me till i had worn myself out, picked me up and we went home. according to family fables, that was my last major tantrum. who knows, may be that's the way to go.
What worked 4 me was a paint stirrer. We were in home depot 1 day n my son decided 2 show his tail off i was in the paint department n grabbed it n 2 my surprize he staighten hiself up real quick because he thought he was gonna get hit.Good luck!
my little boy is 2 next month and he started throwing fits around your sons age. I found that when we where getting in the car or shopping set i would have dried fruits or some so he could eat it as we where driving, and would talk to him about driving like " we need to sit in the car because it is dangours if we don't" within a month i didn't need the food. know he will walk to the car and put himself in the car seat. but you need to take your time don't rush him let him do it!!!!!
Roberta - posted on 02/11/2009
One of the bits of advice I got that NEVER worked for us was to ignore the tantrum - that it would end faster! Yeah, right! I read somewhere that the average tantrum only lasts 2 or 3 minutes - but my daughter would through herself down on the floor, fully prone, and scream and cry - over anything. If I tried to distract, or comfort it passed much faster, but trying to ignore her only prolonged it and there was one that lasted over 25 minutes - Just long enough for me to contemplate running away from home to join the circus! Different things work for different kids - keep trying until you hit on the thing that works for you and yours - but remember every kid goes through some sort of tantrumming time - don't blame yourself - do what you can to keep your sanity until he has more ways to express himself.
Megan - posted on 02/10/2009
My daughter throws fits as well, I think the mother of any 2 year old will say the same thing...I've found the best way to deal with it is distraction. By getting her distracted with something else, whether it's "helping" me do something or by getting her involved in another activity she loses focus as to what she's screaming about. I've also found that talking to her helps as well-kind of trying to "confirm" what she's feeling to her. These things don't work all the time, but it helps! :)
Alexandra - posted on 04/28/2009
i think thats just part of the terrible 2s folks !! im havin the same trouble with my 2 year old , half the trouble these days is we spoil are kiddies to much , they have things we never had has children ,when i think of me has a child i didnt do half the things kids do today , its like if you gave a child 10p today they would look at u as if u was havin a laff its more like a pound or a fiver
Tesshea - posted on 04/02/2009
To Andrea I understand where your coming from and one this that may really help is offering an alternative. My son is 19 months & exactly the same way. He just knows he is a big boy and can do it all. The best trick I learned is while "no" isnt the enemy it can be replaced with " can you" , "how about" and " would you like to" If she want to cook ask her to make you something special and give her pots & pans. Show her how to pretend. Singing helped a lot too you may look like an idiot in the grocery store singing what is on the list but it helped, and when I got to where the item is I would let him find it. Praise for doing good at the alternate activity makes them happy and proud. Its hard and not everything works for everyone but think outside the box. Look back on things that happen on a daily bases & make an action plan to do it differently the next time. Stick to it and be patient...... oh and about the neighbors trust me everyone knows what its like to have a child (even if they dont have any personally). I found that being friendly and keeping them informed often helps in apartment setting.( if you see them out say hello and appoligize for any excessive noise but that its her time of expression) they will usually laugh it off and show understanding. Good Luck!
Andrea - posted on 03/16/2009
i have the same trouble with my 18 month old daughter she wants to do what she wants and therer is nothing anybody can say i am having such a hard time with her with everything she is a real girl and she wants to do big girl things all the time and when you tell her that she cant do something she has very bad tantrums and half the time i give in to her because i dont want my neighbors to complain and i dont want to get kicked out of my apartment so now she is even more spoiled then be4 she basically runs the house and i want to get her out of this now before it gets worse can anyone help give me some tips please
Jennifer - posted on 03/07/2009
I also have a son at the other end of the terrible two's, but i know how you 're feeling... there is a lot i can relate to... I have a consistant phrase that relates to what my son does which states 'this is rude, it's disgusting and it's going to stop!!!' I am strong when i say it and i also get my son to repeat it back to me by finishing off the statement in thirds... he will state the words, rude, disgusting and stop, to the best of his ability... as i repeat it back with the blanks... and at the end i say 'sorry mummy' which he will usually say back and gives me a cuddle... although i still have the 'tantrums' I think I am getting through to him... i hope this helps...
Monica - posted on 03/03/2009
hey i have 3 boys! the oldest boy never had tantrums,but my middle son have all the time! i now how you feel hun! i use timeout on my kids and it works. i made the kids sit there for 3 minutes for oldest and middle son 2 minutes. it work,but it take time!
Amanda - posted on 02/07/2009
It only seems like yesterday when my oldest (now 4) was doing everything that Blanche described...and now im going though it all again with my youngest, who is 2 this month!!! Believe me when i say that, this behaviour does pass....but the memories of it all dont pass as quick.........lol It all gets better with time.
Tracy - posted on 02/05/2009
I can't really help, apart from let you know i know how you feel. My son is two and half and driving me up the wall, everything is such a big deal, getting in and out of the car seat to do school (a fight everytime) so embrassing. In the middle of the playground screaming blue murder and laying not getting up when asked. See i know what you are going so i thought, i would just so you some support. Tracy
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