Not Listening to Me...

Melody - posted on 02/03/2009

I honestly also believe in consistency.  When I tell my daughter "no," I stick with it.  I refuse to cave in.  I have so much more respect for my parents because they never gave in after saying "no," and I truly am grateful to them for that.  I plan on doing the same with my daughter.  She may not like my decisions most of the time, but at least it plants boundaries for her, and then we get on with the day.

So many of my friends say "no" and give in anyway.  As a result their children don't possess the manners and respect that I command of my daugher.  I don't expect to raise a perfect child, but at least she knows where we stand in our beliefs as far as discipline is concerned.   She seems to be very confident in herself because of this.

Lauren - posted on 02/02/2009

It's funny...I never knew That such a little person could have such persistence. My daughter used to be such and angel, now she does anything but listen! I definitely believe, though, that this is such a tough time for these guys and it is totally normal and just something we ahve to be patient and consistent with. On a positive note, the strong=willed ones will grow up to be confident, strong adults, right? We just have to channel the energy for good instead of evil!

Annalisa - posted on 02/02/2009

Quoting Melody:

Boy do I ever feel your pain!  I have a two and half year old daughter, and boy does she ever use the word "no" with confidence!  I really think at this age our little people are really trying to be more independant, but sometimes that's just not an option.

Some times I have to ask my husband to back me up when I am trying to get her to listen to me, and make her mind.  I seem to be the only one she likes to test.  My biggest problem with her lately is changing her diaper and getting her dressed.  She fights me terribly, and is just short of acting Like Linda Blair with a spinning head.  Sometimes I just walk away, and my husband has to take over.  I am in the process of restarting potty training, and wow is she ever stubborn!  I have to just keep reminding myself that I am the one in charge, and eventually she will get thru this stubborn stage.  Thank goodness for nap time and bed time!  lol

 

Melody,

When I saw that sentence...I am so glad I am not alone in that one. Cause that is what she does. Regardless if my husband is here or not, she tests me. Then to I notice that when he is here, after I have told her to do something for the 3rd or 4th time. she looks at her dad like, are you going to back me or her?  It is interesting to see how they know how to try and do this to their parents!   So I just wanted to let you know that I can totally relate to your comment and just wanted to thank you cause it makes it a little better knowing that I am not alone in this stage!

 

 

Melody - posted on 02/02/2009

Boy do I ever feel your pain!  I have a two and half year old daughter, and boy does she ever use the word "no" with confidence!  I really think at this age our little people are really trying to be more independant, but sometimes that's just not an option.

Some times I have to ask my husband to back me up when I am trying to get her to listen to me, and make her mind.  I seem to be the only one she likes to test.  My biggest problem with her lately is changing her diaper and getting her dressed.  She fights me terribly, and is just short of acting Like Linda Blair with a spinning head.  Sometimes I just walk away, and my husband has to take over.  I am in the process of restarting potty training, and wow is she ever stubborn!  I have to just keep reminding myself that I am the one in charge, and eventually she will get thru this stubborn stage.  Thank goodness for nap time and bed time!  lol

Annalisa - posted on 01/31/2009

Thank you for that. I thought I was alone in this. I can get pretty frustrated sometimes by it.

Julie - posted on 01/30/2009

You're not alone. My 22 month old son is the same. When my health nurse came over to check on my second child I spoke to her about my son's behaviour, and she advised saying 'it's normal at this age' and that they can get so fixated on what they're doing or looking at that they literally do not hear us. It will get better, many others Mothers have told me that they're testing boundaries, for me apart from losing my patience I find I have to physically show him or take him to where I want him to go in order for him to listen to what I'm asking of him.