More kids?

Meghan - posted on 04/25/2012

I am on my 3rd child and I have told my husband, hands down we will not be having more. I am getting a tubal with my c-section and no one will be changing my mind. He jokes that if it's another girl we will just keep having babies until we have a boy...or an all girl's baseball team. But I've told him I am done, my body can't take any more of this. I know my limits, honestly I'm terrified of THIS pregnancy.

If you don't want to get your tubes tied no one can make you, but don't get your hopes up about him changing his mind. Maybe he will, after the kids get older, but maybe two is just right for him.

Nichole - posted on 01/07/2011

We've discussed it since before my son was born 16 months ago. And we both agreed we wanted to have more, just would have to time it to allow for if the complications were to occur again. My first (and only) pregnancy was rough. The first trimester was full of cramping and fears of miscarrying as well as issues with my heartrate (it was all over the place). Then at 21 weeks I found out I was dialated to a 1, and those cramps turned into irregular weak contractions. At 24 weeks I went into labor for the first time. I spent a few days in the hospital while the doctors gave me medicines to stop it. I was also started on weekly hormone shots to encourage me to stay pregnant. As well as steriods to rush the baby's development in case he came too soon. I was sent home after the contrations were again back to irregular & mild. Then I was back in the hospital at 26 weeks, at was dialated to a 2. I went the whole process again, and was sent home when again the contractions were irregular & mild. And was given meds to take at home if they started to get regular. Then at 28 weeks I was back in the hospital, dialated to a 2 1/2 with 25% effacement. I went home again like the other times, but returned to the hospital at 30 weeks, and 32 weeks with no progress in dialation or effacement but strong regular contrations. Then at 36 weeks it all started again, but in my hospital they don't stop labor once you reach 36 weeks, they don't even try. So when I called OB to tell them about the issues beginning again. They said to relax and go for a walk and drink a lot water (to stop braxton hicks if that what it was or to progress me if it was real labor). So I did, and when there was no change, except more closer stronger contractions, I called again. They said relax, take a bath, or something....or come in, but if I wasn't far enough along I wasn't going to be checked in. So I took a bath, then went in. I was 4 cm 50% effaced when I got there at midnight. Spent the night laying in bed, then walking the hospital, by 11am I was only to a 5cm 75% effaced, and my water had not broken. So the doctor came in, broke my water, started pitocin, and got my epidural 45 minutes later. My epidural didn't kick in tho, so 30 minutes later I got another dose, that didn't kick in, so 30 minutes later at 12:45ish (thank goodness it kicked in cuz I felt like I was dying, I never would have been able to push in that kind of pain!). The doc checked me and I was to a 10 and 100% effaced....so she said time to go. And at 1:05pm my son was born. He swallowed some of the meconium so he had to have it sucked out right away, and when he choked a few times while in the hospital. He also was Juandice (like the color of a pumpkin with little lemon yellow eyes), and had a Hematoma on the whole one side of his head....no forceps or vaccum were used. But he was healthy otherwise. I suffered 3rd degree tears and it took 45 minutes to stitch me up. Shortly after getting out of the hospital I was treated for the UTI that wouldn't go away during my pregnancy, & was put on another antibiotic cuz the UTI led to infected stitches, then I had an allergic reaction, which led to different antibiotics & steriods, which led to a horrific yeast infection.... Now we are both happy & healthy. I would love to have more children eventually even with all the things I went through. It just scares me that it will all happen again, but it also is a strong desire to have more children. We actually have recently started ttc with no luck yet.

Tammy - posted on 02/16/2010

I waited 7 years after my first difficult pregnancy to have another, granted we had a few bumps in the road between the pregnancies, but the second time around was definitely not as bad as the first one. First one I was hospitalized at 28 weeks for being 3cm dilated. Second time around I went in for a routine ultrasound at 25 weeks and doc saw I was in labor. Luckily I hadnt dilated and she referred me to a doc who was willing to do a late term cerclage. I was hospitalized for 10 days for the procedure. After the cerlage was in place, I went home and went about my duties. Took care of my family, made dinner, cleaned. My water broke morning of my 36th week. We had a healthy 5lb 4oz boy whom spent no time in the NICU! Big difference from the first pregnancy!!! I say go for it!!! Have another!

Jess - posted on 02/14/2010

While it's always in the back of my mind that any future pregnancies may be difficult Im really focused on completing my family. I've survived it once, I can do it again and again and again ! I want 4 girls... call me crazy !



My partner and I can not agree on the number of children we want.. he changes his mind every other day. At most he will agree on 3, but I think I just earnt my 4th by agreeing to go back to work 6 months early. :(



I don't like the idea of ever permantly stopping any future children. Things happen and situations change and you may change your mind . I personally will not ever agree to any procedure !

Emma - posted on 02/10/2010

TBH I wouldn't do anything drastic because you may both change your mind afterwards and then obviously there wouldn't be much you could do. I had a terrible 1st pregnancy (towards the end) and this pregnancy has also been a little worrying but we haven't decided anything major as of yet. My hubby doesn't think he can handle me becoming pregnant again because I become ill towards the end and because I'm diabetic labor/birth is a little more difficult for me as I have to be constantly monitored and it scares him. I've come to terms with having another 'difficult' pregnancy because at the end we have a beautiful new life that we created and that's the only thing that matters. I just count my blessings that I became pregnant with my second because with my first I could have died. Also, there is alot more that can be done for those women prone to 'high risk' pregnancies, hope this is of some help.

Melissa - posted on 02/10/2010

Well...my desicion is not based on the difficulty of the pregnancy but the number of kids LOL :) If I end up with csection my tubes will be tied....if not Eric will get "snipped"



That being SAID...having had 2 toddler 3yrs old and 2yrs old during this incredibally difficult pregnancy I know I wouldnt do it again. Its been hard caring for my two and being pregnant. Im sad about things I missed out on and how much life changed for all of us.



That being said, I am thankful for these girls! And all that we have gone will be worht it once they are here and well!! I can't imagine it any other way!!!



If I were on the fence AT ALL I would do nothing permanent! Its easer to have it done later if that ends up the desicion then dealing with trying to reverse procedures :)



In your situation I would genuinly want Joe to wait just in case ya know :) Thats what birth control is for until that desicion is final :)



GOOD LUCK :)