13 month old screams himself to sleep!

Martha - posted on 08/20/2015 ( 9 moms have responded )

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My son never had any sleep problems until he turned 1. Now all hell has broken loose when I try to lay him down for naps and bedtime. He used to love rocking with me but now he's associated rocking with going to bed and cries and squirms off the rocker, so that's cut out of our routine. He freaks out when I start singing his lullaby. He starts screaming when we get to his crib, spits out his pacifier and thrashes around, stands up and reaches to me, wanting to be picked up. It breaks my heart when I leave the room with his screaming in misery and I don't know what to do. It takes almost 10 minutes of hysterics before he gives up and goes to sleep.

He's also started waking up in the middle of the night and cry but that isn't that bad, as I don't get up immediately so he settles down after a couple minutes.

I used to let him cry for 5 minutes then go in and comfort him, but now that just winds him up more and I have to start the process over again. He's been super clingy lately and usually only wants me, his daddy (my husband), or grandpa to hold him. I don't know if it's separation anxiety or just normal toddler behavior.

Please help, I feel like I'm torturing him...

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Cait - posted on 08/20/2015

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I've been having the same problem but with my almost 3 year old. She hasn't had the most healthy sleep routines and now we're trying to enforce one and its been so difficult. Some nights she'll cry for almost an hour and I just feel terrible. We go in there to calm her but nothing will settle her. She either wants to go on a car ride (to fall asleep) or is completely against the idea of bed time all together. I have no idea if we're doing the right thing but what we're doing is giving it time and sticking to our guns. I've read that this method of sleep training, refered to as the Ferber method, has no lasting impression on them. It's simply a fit. Them not getting their way and not calming down until the fall asleep or get whatever it is that they want. I still feel awful about it but every night the crying gets less and less. I believe it will stop and she will learn to fall asleep alone. If I'm wrong or if anyone has tips please share.

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Patricia - posted on 07/25/2017

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My 2 kids had the same problem around that age. It is normal because they are more consious with what is happening around them. Some tips I learned in this process: keep the same routine, it works the best. Try to put him in bed before he is too tired. When they are too tired it is more difficult to fall sleep and they have more energy. Good luck!!

Bonnie - posted on 07/19/2016

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Take a look at the website www.Feingold, org. Changing your child's foods( ie coke to 7up)willl make sleeping a worry of the past.

Snow - posted on 06/07/2016

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My daughter went through a similar phase around that age. In the end I decided just to change her, give her a bottle while I read her a story, brush her teeth, then plop her in bed with a glow in the dark soother that I always put in the same part of her crib so she knew where to find it once she calmed down. It took a few weeks before she started doing better with it, but it eventually improved. It sounds like he is going through a phase which I assume is quite normal for a toddler his age. He is probably just pushing to see what happens; whether it gets him out of bed time. I'm not sure if u have one, but a night light might be useful if the room is too dark. I also recommend against co-sleeping, as it is a very difficult habit to break and compromises the quality of sleep of all parties.

Julie - posted on 05/31/2016

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You may want to consider co-sleeping for a little while. After awhile you could slowly try to ease him back into his own room.

Asatryan - posted on 10/15/2015

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I believe it will stop. If there is no problem with health, it will pass.Many problems coming from our gens.

Asatryan - posted on 10/15/2015

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I have a daugjhter 1,9 year.She is almost like to your son. I thing it is normal in this. age.

Melissa - posted on 08/20/2015

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Bless your heart! My son went through this phase too. I think it's just part of him getting older and learning more. My recommendation is to stick with the same routine every night so he knows what to expect and his crying should fade. If he knows you aren't coming in every 5 minutes to pick him up, he'll stop. I know it is sooo hard to hear them cry, but for everyone in the house to have restful sleep, you need to stick to a plan. This article about kids and sleep might help too! http://bit.ly/1LlK2Y7

Hang in there mama!

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