Heidi - posted on 01/07/2013 ( 3 moms have responded )
Ok, I need some advice. My daughter is going to be 2 in a week, and for the past two months we have been dealing with her hitting us (mom and dad). It started that she would kick when she was angry, and we would tell her "no kick" and put her in time out. Since then, it turned more to hitting and not limited to situations when she is angry or frustrated. She was an early talker and can understand things pretty well, but we still try to keep things down to a toddler level when discipline is involved, such as "No hitting". I do admit that we have swatted her bottom for hitting and put her in timeout. We keep her there for about one minute and then ask her if she is ready to talk. When we "talk" we tell her why she was in time out, and ask her if "hitting" is okay. She then has to say sorry to the person she hit (mom or dad). We then give her a kiss and tell her we love her and forgive her. The thing that really has me puzzled, is that in the past month she will come up to me and start gently hitting at me. If I try to ignore the fact that it is a hit, like saying "oh, are you giving mama five?" or something along those lines, she will "make it obvious" that she was hitting. For example: at one of our Christmas celebrations she came over to me, and started tapping my arn with a toy. Each time she would say "mama" before tapping my arm. I said "Oh, do you want to give me five?" and tried to give her five. She continued tapping me with the toy and finally slapped me in the face! She was immediately placed in time out. My husband says that this is normal 2 year old behavior, but it reminds me more of the behavior students that would be at the school I worked at for 6 years. When she hits, she wants me to know that she is hitting. If someone could please give me some advice, I would appreciate it so much! I know God gave her this personality for a reason and I don't want to break that, but I don't want my child to grow up to be rebellious and disrespectful. Hitting your parents, is NOT okay.