3 yr old acting out towards daddy

User - posted on 03/04/2017 ( 2 moms have responded )

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So my 3 yr old daughter has had a change in behavior that started when I was pregnant and is only getting worse now that I've had the baby. Which we expected, but not to this degree. She has always been high strung and strong willed but she is all of a sudden acting out all the time. She is constantly climbing on my husband, hitting him, pulling his hair, throwing things at him, acting awful in public, and at the same time wants to cuddle with him, hold her on the couch, demands that he carry her everywhere we go, wants him to do bedtime. I experience none of this behavior aimed towards me. When she was younger she used to bite and scratch him and her older brother but also, none or that was ever aimed at me and the behavior has majorly escalated to the point that my husband cannot even sit on the couch with her as she WILL NOT leave him alone. She has also started destroying things in the house, pouring her drinks out on the floor, even from spill proof cups, throwing her food everywhere, and just generally being a constant tornado. She has just become out of control. We provide her with as much attention as we can, but we have started sending her to her room for timeouts, she gets the occasional smack on the bottom, we take things away, and vice versa we reward good behavior. I breastfed her until 28 mos and we have been trying to get her out of our bed since that time also, and I spent a lot of one on one time with her before the baby came along. I know it has been hard on her to lose all those things and definitely expect some level of this behavior, but the acting out towards my husband and flat out obsession with him, and only him, is driving us all CRAZY. Anyone else experienced anything like this? Advice?

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April - posted on 03/12/2017

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Hello. Parenting can be tough, and it is hard to know what exactly should be done sometimes. It sounds like your daughter is needing something or acting out for a reason. While I can't offer some great words of wisdom, I wanted you to know you are not alone. I pray things turn around for you and your family. *hugs*

Melissa - posted on 03/08/2017

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I completely understand how you're feeling. When I had my youngest son, a year ago. My precious daughter - 2 years old at the time, didn't take to it very well. She was never much of a tantrum thrower but all of a sudden - she was hitting, screaming out and attacking myself and her father.
She became somewhat aggressive and disciplining her only made the whole situation worse. I knew in my heart she was struggling with change - having a new baby around is a difficult thing for toddlers to get their head around.
I wanted her to feel secure in amongst all of this change so I decided instead of reacting to her in an authoritive way, I would sit with her and ask her calmly to use her words. She wouldn't stop screaming but I would stay there, unmoved by what she was doing. I sat there and when she sounded like she was getting tired of it - which they do. I would reach out to her and say "Are you ready to talk to me?" Keep in mind she's still grumpy at this point but I knew she'd used up so much energy already and would probably not lash out at me. I would speak to her about what she was doing and most times I'd realize it was something tiny..like when I accidentally gave the baby, her special blanket. You get my jist! I realized that she needed me and that I HAD to make time for her. Make her feel like shes still important. If your little one is acting up with her father - perhaps he could try to sit with her. Be with her! through this rough time and maybe take things one day at a time.
One change at time etc So that she doesnt feel so overwhelmed. I hope this long splurge sheds some hope on your situation. Take care xMelissa

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