ADHD signs in a 2yo??

Sharon - posted on 01/14/2011 ( 43 moms have responded )

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My 2yo DS (will be 3 in early April) is a very active boy, always busy and running & jumping. I think he is just an energetic little boy. However, the daycare seems to be suggesting to me that he might have ADHD. He regularly gets in trouble during their quieter group activities (coloring, etc) for not listening, not participating, or flat-out causing trouble (pushing other kids). Some days are better than others. They moved him to the next older room and he did better for a while, but now he is the oldest in this room and things are going downhill just like before. The daycare is never specific enough when I question for more detail; I might arrange a meeting with them. Our PAT Parent Educator says that 2 is too young for any kind of evaluation (they can start at 3 though). Should I be concerned? Should I look at other daycares? Anyone have a similar situation that DID eventually be diagnosed as ADHD?? Any advice?!?

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Christy - posted on 01/14/2011

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He's 2 and a BOY for crying out loud (this is towards the daycare)! Since when did the daycare providers have a PhD in early childhood development (is what I would ask)? I think too many people throw around a diagnoses of ADHD way too much when they don't have a clue as to what they are talking about.

My son did the same thing and eventually grew out of it. Your son is acting out b/c he can't communicate properly simply due to his age. That is what happened to my son and I got him evaluated (at 2 yrs old, BTW). It ended up he needed speech therapy to "catch up" and it has worked wonders. He now tells me why he is "mad" or "sad" and doesn't act out much at all.

Michelle - posted on 01/19/2011

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My son was opposite when he was little, when he was 2-3 he was laid back & quiet- that all changed in kindergarten. I was called to the school at least once a week for his behavior. He wouldn't follow directions & couldn't keep his hands to himself, he was always touching other people's stuff or poking at other kids. We resisted the school's suggestions to have him seen by a professional - we didn't want to think that something could be wrong. By 3rd grade, he had started to have anger issues & was picking fights with other kids, was openly defiant to the teachers and us. We had tried modifying his diet, putting him in sports to wear off energy, spending one on one time with him doing "special" things, like going to movies,etc. Nothing worked. We finally saw a psychologist (they can't prescribe meds) who worked with him on behavior modifications. She got to know him for about 6 months & also recommended we see her partner, a psychiatrist (they can prescribe meds) as he definitely had ADHD. I felt better by that point that someone had taken the time to get to know him before just slapping him on some drug. He's 15 now, takes a once a day med & is doing very well in school. No more anger, depression, or fighting. I don't regret waiting it out though. I would have always questioned myself if I had moved quickly to meds. Hope our story helps.

Melinda - posted on 01/27/2011

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I wouldn't jump straight to ADHD, as an educator, this is something best left to diagnosis from a doctor. If you are worried, speak to your child's doctor about the concerns. Based on what you stated in your plea, about your son doing better when moved to a high age group, I would first question whether the daycare is providing activities to meet his developmental and educational needs. If a child is bored they will often act out. Discuss with your provider the types of activities that are taking place and decide if those activities are just something your child doesn't want to do b/c they are too easy or perhaps they are challenging for him if he hasn't been taught a the steps in the process.

ADHD is going to so best when a child is unable to keep their eyes and head still. They will be darting all over the place even when you are actively engaging them in something they find enjoyable and exciting. They have difficulty sitting still. They may bounce their leg, wiggling their foot. They jump up to touch objects or to fix things very often. Behavior issues like aggressiveness is not necesssarily an indication of ADHD. ADHD doesn't imply aggressive behavior, but rather non-stop activity. If your child is exhibiting an agressive behavior such as hitting or screaming or throwing things, I would not take that to mean ADHD. Observe your child and talk to his physician if you feel it is needed.

Crystal - posted on 01/20/2011

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Don't let them medicate unless he really needs it! A LOT of teachers just want kids to be medicated so they don't have to deal with those who are more active. We put my son in a daycare program three times a week for a few hours to play games, get friends, etc and give me a break (I work from home, so it's tough.) They called us constantly. He's not the greatest speaker, but he can get his point across with signals and if you actually listen. We told them that he could make decisions and would he be allowed to. They said oh that's great and of course.

The problem was that he didn't get a choice. We were told that the kids got to choose to color or play house, got rewards, and so on. If he wanted to color, he was in the list where he had to go play house no matter what. And when he didn't play house - he instead got a book out to look at - he got in timeout and no snack for getting a book. They called me on that one. He'd get in trouble if he acted up or if he did something like say "no, wanna color" when told he had to go sit down and listen to a story. So they told me he needed medication because he wouldn't listen, argued, had issues with authority, didn't follow directions, and so on.

I pulled him out. They weren't doing what they claimed they would with him and he was miserable. He cried when it was time to go, and when I offered to put a couple of books in his backpack he said no and said the meanies wouldn't let him look at them. And I know he has no issues - yes, he challenges like any toddler should and pushes. But if we ask, hey, you wanna go to storytime at the library? He's all for it and is a perfect angel and listens. So we do crafts, read, and such at home and he plays with the kids here in the apts.

They wanted to put him on medicine and make that the only way they'd let him back in the daycare. So I took him out. Three weeks later the daycare closed down. Go figure.

If you feel something is wrong, then educate yourself about it. But make sure it's not just lazy teachers. There are some who are great and some who want little zombies.

Ali - posted on 01/19/2011

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ADD and ADHD are not diagnosable with concrete evidence so be very careful using that to determine a problem child from a rambunctious one. My 3 yr old does not stay still - she is a very lively 3 yr old who's wheels are always turning in fast mode! I agree with Christy - ADD and ADHD are thrown around way too much. The diagnosis for them are 100% subjective and the meds for these so called medical conditions are so toxic and possibly deadly for our children. Why not tell the day care to just understand that not all children will sit still during quiet time and to find another outlet for him. You can not expect a 2 yo to comply with what everyone else is doing. He is a unique individual and needs to be treated as such. You may want to look into other daycares that have a smaller child/adult ratio so that they can devote more time to him. Good luck but be careful with ADD and ADHD as a simple diagnosis of an energetic child.

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Arminda - posted on 08/27/2012

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Hi fellow mothers with super active kids. Big hugs to everyone! I am not alone! I believe our sons will be successful in the future. =)

Arminda - posted on 08/27/2012

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I am not a professional when it comes to assessing kids with ADHD. But what I can see is my son in yours. In my frustrations about my son's behavior, I went on a little digging about signs and symptoms of ADHD since I have been told as well to have my son checked. I know there's nothing wrong with my son because he can be focused at times but mostly he's so full of energy. As i dig along this overwhelming diagnosis of the kids having full of energy, I come across a blog of a mother who has the same dilemma over her son. And what she found out and shared is in the foods she prepares for her son. She tried to go all natural. Refining the food she's giving him. No food containing artificial coloring and all natural cooked food, no processed food. since my son is only two that time, i decided to do this as well, thinking i won't lose anything by trying but i may gain some. Turns our his energy level is somewhat leveled on normal mode. He's more attentive and listens to his teachers. Although he still plays but it was a revelation for me. What I only did was instead of giving him artificial juices, i make the juice. I cook real foods did not serve processed food and i see virtually what the blogger has been saying. i was shocked to learn that food colors alone contributes to their behavior. He is now 4 and is doing good in school but still active kid. I mean, come on, he's a boy. But the attention i want to see is there. I occasionally give him those foods i eliminate before but at a controlled and minimum level. and what i do today since he is four is to engage him in to physical activities. instead of investing in video games, i go on to physical games and my husband and i play with him during family times. I just wanted to tell you you're not alone, most kids (in my opinion) has been wrongly diagnosed or judged too easily as ADHD but then there's that glitch only. Hope i have enlightened you somehow.

Tanisha - posted on 08/21/2012

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My 2yo son yells at me,hits me back,throws things at people he doesn't even know. Im worried. What should i do.

Sharon - posted on 01/18/2012

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A year later, my now 3yo is still very active and busy. We have switched daycares and the new center seems to handle him better. He still has problems sitting for certain activities, but this teacher is more willing to let him go play by himself instead, or having him sit in the front row so she can frequently redirect him to the activity. Now his biggest struggle at daycare and home is that he doesn't want to nap (although he still does on most days....eventually). He has had no behavior reports at all, and he is super sweet at home and does great with his cousins (all boys) and new little sister. :) I am still concerned about his extreme activity level (compared to his cousins, etc), but I'm not going to pursue any evaluations until he is in school. He really does seem ridiculously active and even broke his foot already, so we're keeping an eye on him! Thanks so much to everyone for your stories and suggestions!!

MeMe - Raises Her Hand (-_-) (Mommy Of A Toddler And Teen) - posted on 01/18/2012

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My 13 year old daughter has severe ADHD, it has been a struggle for her and I. She was not and could not be diagnosed until she was 5 and in school....

Tiffany - posted on 12/12/2011

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the only other thing i can sya about this being i have two with adhd and three without is becareful because i seen first hand how dangerous my now seven yr old was when he was younger and bored, and it wasnt anything. i know kids get bored but i also know that there is things kids will and wont do and normally once a child hurts thenself bad enpugh from doing something they kind of stray away from repeating it. well not my jaylen, he hurt himself bad enoguh to where he needed sitches and i had a talk with him and i swaer that night he did it again. i was then concerned about him. I do know that the adhd and add gets thrown around and i personally was so against the meds part of it but once my boys got six and eight and in school i sceen what they needed. i mean at home i tolerate it due to the fact that im their mom, but i know my boys and now i hate sending them out to school without their meds simply because they are too smart for this district to put them in a smaller class so they are in normal big classes and without their meds their teachers cant teach. i must say i did my research and i see the difference in my boys when on their meds and its good. They go from not being able to concentrate and talking and making inappropriate noises to being the teachers helper and helping others. I was affraid of them becoming little zombies once medicating but that isn;t the case with my boys and i dont make them takle the meds on the weekend. i think if you can see the problem then you can see what it is you child is doing and what you need to do. i stress i dont recommend the meds unless absolutely needed but all is different

Erin - posted on 02/26/2011

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thinking about ADHD at this age to me would be crazy day care is onething and he is a little boy the first day my son start care the care said he was like a world wind i wouldn't be to worried about now he is to young and more than like trying to make sure all the other kids in his class know that he is the eldest and making sure the pecking order is right. dont be to worried about it he just being a boy and theres no need to stop for the time being

Heather - posted on 02/14/2011

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UM NO. If anyone begins to try and diagnose your child with ADHD before they are 5 get out of the situation!

MiChelle - posted on 02/14/2011

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He sounds like a typical 2 year old. Sounds like a lazy daycare... I would look for another!

Tiffiny - posted on 01/25/2011

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i noticed it when my son was about 2-3 yrs old. but they will not diagnose a child being adhd until 6 yrs of age you and the daycare people will have to deal with it until then ..... its tough but because there is soooo much testing involved you wanna make sure the diagnosis is correct b/c it is a boy..... but when you do find out for sure, make sure if they do start your child on a medication that you start off with the lowest dose and work your way up because you don't want a zombie

Julie - posted on 01/25/2011

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There are lots of behavior sensory therapy options for very active children who have trouble sitting still and behaving. My son does not have adhd but is dyslexic so he has trouble sitting for long periods and concentrating. There are items you can purchase that he can use at daycare that will help him cope with all the rules he is not ready for emotionally whether he is adhd or not. If he is having trouble napping you can buy a weighted blanket that will help him feel more restful. if he has trouble sitting still you can consider a compression vest or a sensory built that will help him sit still. There are lots of options out there. if you google sensory therapy or any of the items I mentioned it may give you some ideas of where to get started. P.S.- I think anyone having the nerve to suggest that a 2 yr old has adhd is a bit ridiculous....doesn't mean it's nothing but that's quite a big assumption for a little boy who isn't old enough to even be evaluated. Also, even though they can start evals at 3 they can rule it out if he doesn't have it but even if they suspect it's way too young to tell for sure. It's wonderful that you are open minded to finding out if there is a problem, but just because your son doesn't fit this mold they want him too doesn't necessarily mean there is anything wrong with him. btw: he is old enough to get evaluated by your local school system and if he has any developmental delays cognitive or otherwise they will provide him with free preschool and special therapy services if needed! Good luck! Whatever it is or isn't it sounds like you are going to be a great advocate for your son from now into his school years!

Kacie - posted on 01/25/2011

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Happiness House is a school for children with disabilities....they have them all over, or if not known by that name there are other places that deal with children with special needs. I already have an IEP plan in place for my son when he starts Kindergarten next year =o) I am always up for talking to parents dealing with some of the same problems. Feel free to e-mail me at Rigelsmommy@hotmail.com and we can discuss more about this!

Monica - posted on 01/25/2011

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Hi Kacie, i've never heard of a Happiness House before, is this just for preschool children? My dd is 6 1/2 and is on Metadate CD and doing really well, but i wanther to work with specialists too and with her meds costing $130 AFTER ins, it's hard to find something i can afford.

And on a side note, i COMPLETELY understand what you mean by your childs behavior bringing you to tears! I was crying at least 4 days a week over it before she was medicated and didnt want to medicate. We had her un medicated on Sunday (long story) and i realized how much it is helping her and am now 100% onboard (not to say medication is for everyone). Anyway, I'm open to any info that anyone has for the therapy side of this a a lower cost!

Karen - posted on 01/25/2011

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My boy is also very active and hardly listens etc etc, its a boy thing and I don't think you need to worry at this stage. If he doesn't calm down by start calming down then maybe go for an assement. In my opinion the diagnos ADHD too quickly before the kids need to be. Don't worry just relax. He also might act out due to not being happy at daycare you chose or there is someone there irritating him. I changed daycare with my boy only because we moved and he is much happier and not so "angry" ie hitting people as before. I actually thought he liked the last one. It just takes one thing to unnerve them.

Kacie - posted on 01/25/2011

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I was in a very similar situation with people constantly suggesting from the time my son was little that he had ADHD (he is now 4, almost 5 and in a headstart program which has worked wonders) I tried to bring up the idea to his doctor when he turned 4 and they chalked it up to him being a normal 4 year old boy (this is where it irritates me on some of the comments by people on these boards because if you have never experienced it you can not say they are just normal boys......you have probably never been brought to tears by your 4 year old childs behavior)....a few months ago I found a doctor who specializes in children with ADHD. We went into his office for our first visit and he explained to me that in the US they have guidelines that will not let them make a clinical diagnosis of ADHD until they are 5 years old and they have to go through other channels first (such as determining if the issue is really ADHD or if it is an environmental or emotional problem first by sending them to psychiatrists to determine it). My son will be 5 in march and I have an unofficial diagnosis (because he can not write it until he turns 5 and the next step for us is testing out medication over the summer to see what will work best for him as he starts kindergarten next year. My best suggestion for you is that when your child turns 3 try to find a specialist to evaluate him (I think it is never too early) and if he is determined to have any sort of issue look into your local happiness house programs because they do work wonders for children (at the beginning of the year my son had alot of issues but he is slowly working those out...having ADHD can mess up other areas of a childs like like social/emotional behaviors, fine motor skills and so forth.....my son has fine motor skills problems because he can not concentrate long enough to learn how to do things. The happiness house has him in a 6 hour a day 5 day a week program that runs even when our local school district is shut down except holidays...2 occupational therapy sessions a week to deal with the motor skills problems, and a session with the schools psychologist every week to deal with emotional/social problems) It is a rough experience but with the proper tools and the right resources you can get through it much easier!

Arminda - posted on 01/20/2011

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you just probably needed Jo (supernanny). ^_^ my son is just as wild. he;s turning 3 this 29th but he's just the same. hitting/kicking/running/playing/not listening to his church's playschool. (btw i didnt put him yet to playschool vuz he's just TWO! he just attend our sabbath school for kids his age once per week. and will enroll him when he's 3). but i think kids (esp boys) are like that. they'll outgrow that. What i do with my son to "tame" him so to speak is once every week i bring him to the park. he runs and runs and plays with other kids. i just look at him from a distance. what i noticed with this is: if i let him play at least once every week to his heart's content, his energy is released. the rest of the days in that week really lessened his intensity in playing too much. i mean really, kids these days are full of energy from what they eat(even kids' biscuits have energy boosters now) but never really burn them. they're young, eager to explore and healthy and strong. they eat the healthiest foods there is. so i guess their energy just needs to be used. it helped my son a lot to focus on his activities. i myself, introduced him to coloring. and shapes. it just has to be PATIENCE on our side and for the teachers as well. simply because a kid is playing to his heart's content doesn't mean he has ADD/ADHD. besides, maybe he just loves going to playschool and he's still in awe of everything. trying everything. doing everything. next, try to avoid SWEETS/SUGARY FOODS near supper. they will tend to sleep late. and generally lessen sugar contents on his meals. esp. chocolates. which has caffeine that boosts energy. try shifting to natural sugars found in fruits. sometimes too quick to judge these hyped kids are just assumptions that can lead us to complications. always talk to your son with eye contact. talk to him on his eye level. it's a HARDWORK but you'll see, he'll learn to listen and you'll have more patience.

if you feel something wrong, don't hesitate to ask the right persons. but in the meantime, try the NO-MEDS methods shared by parents here in your post. ^_^

Cyndel - posted on 01/20/2011

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Maybe he is just more advanced for his age and is bored? Should they try bumping him up again? I don't know?
Wish I could be a better help!

Beth - posted on 01/20/2011

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Kids are labeled to much with ADHD these days. They are kids & need to be allowed to be kids. Just because a daycare, parent, caretaker doesn't like having an active kid around they label them & start them on meds to calm them down all the while taking the spirit of these kids away from them. If a child is 6 or 7 & having trouble then yeah by all means get them some help, but when they are1, 2 to even 5 let them have time to grow into themselves. Leave them alone & let them be kids. I am not saying to not raise them, punish them, teach them, etc. Just let them be what they are & that is a KID!!

If they are overly active teach them calmness, if they are angry teach them how to control their anger. He's 2 & I am sure can't express himself that well so teach him his moods, teach him some signs to show his moods. He may not be able to handle the activeness of so many kids around.

I am the mother of 5 kids 2 of which have ADHD now, but may not of had it if I knew what I know now. Sorry, but I feel bad for these little kids & wish that I could help others know what I know now.



BTW I have a 17yr old daughter that has never been medicated & gets A's & B's at school!

Monica - posted on 01/20/2011

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We had a LOT of problems with my now 6 1/2 yr old. She was sactually kicked out of a preschhol because they just couldnt handle her. She had a diagnosis of enocpresis at the age of 3 and still struggles with this. This condition usually comes with behavior issues due to thier frustration. We had her in counseling and working with a few experts and her most recent therapist, after working with her for about 8 mo asked if we have ever talked with her Ped about the possibility of ADHD. So we got the ball rolling on that with the Ped along side thetherapist and got the school involved as well. Her Kinder teacher didnt think she was ADHD because she had "selective" attention problems. But come to find out, that is a symptom. No one at the schhol suggetsed it because the whole thing was masked my her other condition. Well, as it turns out she IS ADHD and after a lot of rseach and trying natural methods, we recently started her on meds and she is doing amazingly well... My point is that you need and expert to really spend time with your son to get to the bottom of it. There are so many other conditions out there that kids have like learing disabilities and school seem to jump to the conclusion that ADHD is the problem. He is too young now to really know, but you could talk with his Ped about things that may be frustrating him, like maybe he has a hard time comminicating? If it is ADHD, you need to assume it's not for the moment and rule out any other possibilities first. Any steps you woud take for ADHd wouldnt help him much until he's in Kiny anyway... As the main reasons for medication are to help them in learning and retaining information and/or helping them to fit inwhich isnt a problem until Kinder age and up. Medicatio DOES help with behavior, but this should not be the reason for medicating (in my opionion).

Cara - posted on 01/20/2011

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My youngest son was diagnosed with ADHD at the age of two by a psychiatrist. He could not focus on any one toy for more than minute and would bounce off the walls if someone was not there redirecting his focus. He has gotten better since the dx due to focus exercises etc. I am avoiding medication until hopefully 1st grade. He had been attending preschool, but his new teacher was not working with him. Once she 'hinted' that he needed medication I pulled him out of there. It is preschool for goodness sakes! They are supposed to be doing hands on learning, playing with friends, and working out their wiggles! Why would I medicate him for a half day of that??

Cyndi - posted on 01/20/2011

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In my opinion ADHD (especially if its being forced on you by teachers and daycares) is just a cop out for not wanting to cope with overly active children and want them medicated. My son, who will be 2 in 3 weeks, is one of these children and I am home with him right now, I find that if he doesnt get to go outside and run (yes he runs ALOT) at least twice a day, he is completly out of control. He is always on the go, never stops moving even in his sleep! But I will never let any teacher or daycare talk me into "labeling" him as ADHD and/or medicating him. I speak from experience. My older son (now 14) was having issues in kindergarden for other reasons and rather than find an answer, the doctors just decided to medicate him until they found one that worked. He went from completely violent on one med to a zombie on another, Eventually I had enough and just decided to stop the meds and all the craziness and just let him be himself. He ended up calming down with age, hes still a bit different but there is nothing WRONG with these children. In my opinion (and not to be disrespectful at all) find another daycare who is willing to let your son be who he is. If he doesnt want to sit still, he shouldnt have to-especially at that age!!

Yvonne - posted on 01/20/2011

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My son he's 4 years old and I seen signs of adhd when he was 2 years old I'm not saying this is the case but I'll put him/or her in another daycare and if they say the samething don't ignore it...get him/or her the help they need

Jennifer - posted on 01/19/2011

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Schools are really bad about this! It is normal for a two yo to be very active! Before I stopped working to stay home with my children, I worked in a psychiatric office with multiple doctors and they would not even consider a diagnosisbof ADHD in any child under 5 yo. When my oldest daughter was in first grade they wanted her evaluated for ADHD. She did not have it, she just likes to talk. Also, keep in mind that these teachers are dealing with many kids and are much quicker to try to get kids that are more active than they'd like diagnosed as ADHD. I would refuse any sort of evaluation done by the school and insist his regular doctor examine him, then refer you to a psychiatrist if necessary.

Beth - posted on 01/19/2011

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I have an almost identical situation-My son who is now 3 1/2 is a high strung very active little boy who socializes much better with older kids than those his own age or younger, His energy level and "fidgetyness" is so intense I have repeatedly tried to get help from his pediatrician-who keeps telling me that I pretty much have to "tough" it out until he's 5. He says he agrees that my son either has ADHD or ODD or both but wont medicate until he can start kindergarten.Ive made another apointment with another Dr who has more experience with young social disorders, So Ill have to keep you posted after we go for that apt. Good Luck and I hope you find some help for your young son and yourself-I know how trying an energetic toddler can be!

Amanda - posted on 01/19/2011

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I had the same issues with my son, everyone wanted him to be dignoased as ADHD, I refused. Even when he hit school the school wanted him on medication, it took 3 years of fighting with the school (and a great new principal) to get them to test him for a learning disability, sure enough he has very slow rapid memory timing, not ADHD.

My reasoning for refusing was that when my son was at home, he was an angel (the school would not believe me when I would tell them he was the best behaved child I had at home LOL).

Dora - posted on 01/19/2011

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To be honest with you it sounds like your son is acting like a typical 2 year old little boy. My son is 2 1/2 years old and he has his moments in daycare. I think it comes down to how the daycare runs their rooms. My sons teacher is wonderful. The way she speaks to the children really helps. If they are doing something to one another that they are not supposed to, she will ask them to stop hurting her friends. She doesn't like to see any of her friends hurting and they actually stop. She also has a great reward system in her classroom and it consists of if they do what they are supposed to do then they get to play with the toy they brought to class from home. She will also allow them to choose activities and keeps them interested. Your son also sounds like he may be "mature" for children his own age and maybe gets bored easily. I had my son moved up in an older class and that really helped. The kids are only 6 months older than him but it has been working. Too many people seem to be using the excuse these days of ADHD/ADD instead of actually letting kids be kids and teaching them with patience. Kids are not perfect and neither are we. Don't let people convince you that drugging your child is the way to deal with him. He may also need a more structured environment to help him out. Try looking into another daycare and see if that works for you and him. Good luck.

Michelle - posted on 01/19/2011

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my kids both had, have speech therapy needs, which can cause acting out and frustration....all kids are being quickly labled,...try to not worry about his teachers,...maybe finding another school and a more patient teacher can help him too.

Michelle - posted on 01/19/2011

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WELL, i understand completely. my sons baby sitter began saying things like, you should get him checked out when he was that age. boys are more energetic in general i've learned and it is harder to focus for some. it does not mean that these children should be labled as adhd...Elijah is turning 7 this weekend and was labled with combined add and adhd. his k teacher was shocked and wanted to know who labled him. and then after medicating him for 2 weeks i decided he is to young and until it effects his focus in school, im not doing anything....give him fish oils. when he can swallow a pill...the omega 3's are great for brain development and focus....

Kayla - posted on 01/18/2011

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Considering that you said he has the most trouble when he is the oldest in the classroom I believe you have nothing to worry about. He's just bored with the fact that he can do everything better than the other kids in the room already. He's just ready to be challenged and moved up to the next class. This can't always happen immediately because he may not be able to move up til he turns 3 or whatever the youngest he can be to move up. No worries when he moves up he will be challenged again and back to paying attention. Also in daycares the curriculm is often repeated every 6 to 7 months and he may be hearing again the same stuff he learned when he first moved to this class and doesn't feel like he needs it again. I think your little man is just to smart and needs to be challenged. As he starts school make sure he's got a good teacher who will keep him occupied in new activities and always learning new stuff without alot of repetition.

Tiffany - posted on 01/18/2011

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WELL SHARON I WENT THROUGH THAT WITH MY NOW 7 YR OLD I SEEN HE WAS A LIL MORE BUSIER THAN NORMAL SO WHEN HE WAS RGEE HE SEEN A THERAPIST WHO THEN DIAGNOSED HIM , NO MEDS, BUT WAS ABLE TO HELP ME KEEP HIM SAFE AND OUT OF TROUBLE. AND IF IT IS ADHD HE KEEPS GETTING BORED WHEN HE GETS IN THE MOST TROUBLE. I HAVE TWO WITH IT AND TWO EXTRA BUSY SO I REALLY KNOW THE DIFFERENCE

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Do not put him on medication...he's only two and that is how they act..lol. All children go through phases.."terrible two's" is not a myth..lol. He will grow out of it...and even when he's 3 he will still be active..doctors automatically assume a pill is going to cure everything..i hate that.

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I AGREE WITH CHRISTY. MY SON HAD THE SAME PROBLEM, THE THING WE ALL SEEM TO BE FORGETTING IS THAT KIDS NEED TO BE KIDS. I WAS EVEN TOLD THEY WERE GOING TO KEEP MY SON BACK, I TOOK HIM FOR ALL THE TESTS AND EVEN THE DOCTORS SAID THE TEACHERS NEED TO BACK OFF THERE IS ABSOLUTLEY NOTHING WRONG WITH MY SON. THEN LAST YEAR HE GETS HONNOURS IN MATHS AND ENGLISH. THESE TEACHERS DO NOT KNOW WHAT THEY R TALKING ABOUT. THE MAIN PROBLEM HERE IS THAT THE CLASSROOMS R TO FULL AND THE TEACHERS CANNOT COPE WITH ALL THE CHILDREN IN THE CLASS!!!!!!!!! MAYBE OUR SCHOOLS NEED TO MAKE SMALLER CLASSROOMS LIKE THE OLD DAYS. 15 IN A CLASS. STICK IT OUT THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR CHILD HE IS JUST EXPLORING AND BEING THE CHILD HE IS SUPPOSED TO BE.

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I would have a meeting with the daycare providers and find out more information. Are there certain times/activities where he is not listening or causing trouble? There might be other reasons for his behavior. Since he is the youngest in the room are things too hard for him? Are there some things that he is having a hard time getting/learning? Would there be any hearing or learning disablilities? Or is it more of a behavior issue? What is being used for discipline? How is discipline carried out at home? Are these issues also being shown at home? Getting more information would be helpful to you to piece things together and figure out the root cause. ADHD is a real thing and some kids do struggle with this and it can be a real horrible thing for them to have to deal with. That being said sometimes ADHD is over-diagonised and people think just because there is an issue it is linked to ADHD. When kids are little and have a hard time learning or getting something they act out because this is the only way they know how to say they don't understand something. Sometimes there is a lack of consistancy in the child's life so the child does not know what is expected of him/her or what is coming next so they act out in a negitive behavior because that is the only way they know how to release their emotions. For some kids foods will affect them more easily then others, so maybe watch the sugar, caffinee, and red food dye. See if that makes a difference. I know for myself I can drink as much Mt. Dew or caffinee drinks as I want to and still fall asleep as soon as I hit my pillow. My sister on the other hand will be up all night if she drinks 1/2 a can of Mt. Dew hours before she goes to bed.

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Hi. I had a very similar situation. My son is now 6, but ever since he was 2, every daycare he went to he was always, what I call, "the trouble maker". He was extremely energetic, but also had problems following direction without getting off task quickly. 2 is definitely too young to get him tested, but you can definitely talk to his pediatrician about your concerns. My son was diagnosed with ADHD last year and has started on medicine that is helping, but it did take 4 different kinds/doses before we found one that worked for him. There is a wonderful website - www.additudemag.com. that all kinds of helpful suggestions. It has a checklist that you go by to see if your son has the symptoms of ADHD. Since he is too young right now, another thing you may consider is looking at his diet. There are certain types of foods - like chocolate, that can make them worse. Things like protein in the morning are better for them to help them focus. You can do a little research on that. Good luck

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hi sharron i was being told to have my son checked for add, adhd since he was 18mts old its not very nice when somone approches u and says that about ur child belive me i was ropable! but i knew there was somthing wrong dso at 2 i got him elvaluated they said they dont diognose children under 3 but they were pretty sure he had it ! after he turnd 3 i returned for more extensive evaluating and yes my special little man did get diognosed with adhd.... his behavour was bad biting kicking rocking running and headbutting brickwalls screaming for no reason and down right naughty i was at my wits end .... i chose to use natural products for him and changed his diet bigtime ! im glad i have a diognosis now as i know now i can at least try help my baby! it is very hard to live with but he your son ! i wish u luck in everyway it will be hard and a rocky road but there is plenty of support for u !!! i have been living with his diognoses for nearly 6 mts now ....... i am here if u would like to know anymore good luck and stay strong!

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Are they making an well-informed guess or hoping that you'll medicate your son so that he's less trouble for them to discipline? You should be very suspicious of a daycare worker who attempts to make a medical diagnosis. They're no more qualified than you or I.

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