S - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 15 moms have responded )
My sister in law is getting married next month. My mother in law called to tell me that our toddler daughter is not welcome at the reception. She told me that the couples wants an adult only reception and do not want children there. I can understand not wanting everyone's children there, but this is their only grandchild/niece. I feel so badly because my daughter is family, but not being included. We live out of state and do not often see them, so I just assumed they would welcome the chance to see their grandchild. I am very hurt by their request. Throughout the process of the wedding, I have been repeatedly told not to bring her to functions. My mother in law asked me not to bring her to the bridal shower as she said it would take the spotlight off of the bride. I am just appalled at what they are saying. Mind you, this is the same woman who practically berated me that I must bring my daughter to a another family members wedding when she was exactly one week old. I would like to hear some unbiased opinions to see I am wrong or justified in my feelings. Thoughtful insight and past experience is very much appreciated! Thanks!