After weeks of keeping it in, I finally told my husband that I'm battling depression....

Misty - posted on 10/14/2009

Your body goes through many changes even AFTER having babies... And having three kids, you are going to have moments where you are stressed out and every little thing they do is going to get on your nerves! It's NORMAL! :) But, if it gets to the point where you honestly think that you need help, you should really go see a doctor. There might be something that he can prescribe for you. There is nothing wrong with needing help. You need time off too - away from the kids. Do you and your husband ever go out alone and just be a couple instead of "Mom & Dad"? I know there was a long time after my first child was born that we didn't have any alone time, and it was extremely hard.

Good luck to you.

April - posted on 10/13/2009

Definately talk with your DR. I recently starting having these same feelings...3 kids, 14, 9 and 20 mos. Never had baby blues (even after 2 miscarriages)...but recently have been feeling on edge. Just one of those feelings like I'm not able to hold it together...weeks later I'm fine.. My doctor prescribed Prozac for 2 weeks before my cycle starts for PMDD. I was a young mom (am young mom -30), and then have been pregnant or on BC for the past 15 years...she is convinced my cycle doesn't know what to do now that I'm not pregnant or on BC...she gave me the option of estrogen, bc, or the prozac. I've been on the prozac for 4 months...love it..and I don't take it all month only two weeks. Offical diagnosis was PMDD...but talk it through, it will help to put it out there and acknowledge that something isn't right. Good luck.

Megan - posted on 10/13/2009

Stop and take a breath and remember your only human. Don't feel guilty for that! Its good you told him. Depression is like a 12 step program and your on your way with acceptance! Take your time and time for you most of all. I only have my daughter but I do have 3 step children and life can get crazy at times. You need to put yourself first. If your not in full form how can you expect to be able to take care of your family. Relax we all go through the same ordeal at some level. Don't think your wrong for how you feel. It takes time and one day you will start to feel like your old self again ;)

Janelle - posted on 10/12/2009

I have 3 earthly children; 16,9,2 and 1 Angel 1/19/05-6/20/06 I feel the same and its very hard sometimes. I cry a lot by myself!

Amber - posted on 10/12/2009

i am actually taking Zoloft to calm my nerves. I only get depressed around my period. the feelings usually last two weeks than the usual week. I dont think i am depressed per say, but i have feelings of sadness and just want to cry about everything, get angry at the silliest things, and start thinking about my life and what i am doing with it. I think a lot of it has to do with my hormones. I also have stress with working, going to school, and taking care of my son(although i do have my husband to help). the best thing is to just talk to the doctor about it. I was a little embaressed at first like i should have those feelings, but she told me that a lot of women of all ages have the same situation and a lot of to do with the hormones changing all the time. I like Zoloft(doing low dose) and it definently helps. at first it makes you tired, but after about two weeks of use you can see a difference. My husband said he can as well. i am not as snippy. :)

Michelle - posted on 10/12/2009

I felt stressed out and overwhelmed after my daughter was born. My daughter is now almost 8 months and my son is almost 2. I just couldn't get it all done and I wasn't really enjoying my time with my kids. It didn't help that my husband seemed to think that I have it easy and that what I do is easy and fun. I seemed to have changed things without the help of a doctor, but I know that sometimes women need that too (so if that's the case I encourage you to seek the help of one). I found that it helped to try to keep a schedule, but accept that there are times when it's just not all going to get done (let myself off the hook because I am not a super hero). It also helped strangely to get spend the money on memberships to my local zoo and children's museum. It gave us somewhere to go where there were things to keep the kids attention. Also taking a little time for myself. Which had the added bonus of showing my husband how much work it was having both kids alone. It's not perfect. Unlike your average tv show, there are good days and bad days still. It was a big help though. I enjoy my kids a lot more and I know that things are not going to be perfect all the time. Good luck to you! I know it's hard. Don't buy into what other people tell you it's supposed to be. It's easy to say that when you're not the one that actually has to do it all. Don't let what other mom's can get done make you think that you should be able to do it just like them. Every family's situation is a little different and every mom's different. Talk to your husband/boyfriend. Sometimes just venting can help some too. If none of these things help please talk to your doctor. You're not going to be happy all the time and you're not going to enjoy your kids all the time but you don't want to feel unhappy all the time or stressed all the time. That's not good for you or the kids.

Maxine - posted on 10/12/2009

Hi,

I too have three kids aged 6,3 and 1years old. I felt more than overwhelmed with each pregnancy. Soceity tend to have this perception that you are soppose to be happy, be at every beck and call of your kids and husband, and not complain or get frustrated because that's what A "good" Mom does. But reality is that you sometimes do feel overwhelmed ,frustrated, sad or depressed. I have come to the realization that it's OKAY. I just do the best I can and that's it. Im okay with not being SUPER MOM. My advice would be to do the same and also surround yourself with postive people with kids. Your Mom, sister's, other Mom's ect. You not alone.

Meri - posted on 10/12/2009

Hi, It's a terrible time that you are going through. I suffered from baby blues quite severely after both births. I was constantly crying for no reason for hours on end. Please go and see your doctor. I did and the medication was safe while I was breastfeeding and it gave me confidence to go on and face every day. There is help out there, you've already taken the first step to find some!

Naomi - posted on 10/12/2009

It is always easy looking in from the outside. I know I have good days and bad days and the bad days can be brutal! I try to keep my eyes open for the little flashes of joy, my ears for the giggles and endevour to take five minutes out of the daily drudge to engage with my boys and appreciate them for the little individuals they are. Slowly you stop seeing the negative and start seeing the positive. It can be a slow hard climb but you can reach the top.

Mel - posted on 10/12/2009

good on you hon you have gotten past one of the hardest parts by opening up and admitting how your feeling. The best thing you can do is talk to your doctor and they will be able to help you with treatment. good luck hon keep us posted

Laura - posted on 10/11/2009

If you recognize that you are struggling with depression and don't know what to do. Go talk to a doctor. See if there is someone or something he can recommend.

Jean - posted on 10/11/2009

Dont feel bad, this is not a bad thing you have three kids sometimes it does cause stress and fustration. I have three kids 1 is 10 2 is 2 1/2 and youngest is 1 and 4 mos.

I t takes alot out of you you are not the only one i feel 4 you. I understand.You and i have alot on our hands i am stressed all the time my daughter 10 yrs has adhd and thinks she is 15!My son the older one has developmental problems and needs therapy 1 time a week and is also hyper and the youngest 1 is always under my feet.the two boys constintly fight. there dad is handicapped so i dont get much help.it will be ok just raise them the best you can.I am really trying with mine. dont feel alone. every time you get the chance try to relax it up thats all you can do. hope you the best:) I know i am.

Jean - posted on 10/11/2009

Quoting Jean:

Quoting Diana:

After weeks of keeping it in, I finally told my husband that I'm battling depression....

What do I do?
I feel so sick, I have three kids..and everyone is telling me these are the happy times and I'm so stressed out that I'm not enjoying them like I should be. I hate that I'm feeling this way!

 

Jean - posted on 10/11/2009

Quoting Diana:

After weeks of keeping it in, I finally told my husband that I'm battling depression....

What do I do?
I feel so sick, I have three kids..and everyone is telling me these are the happy times and I'm so stressed out that I'm not enjoying them like I should be. I hate that I'm feeling this way!

Crystal - posted on 10/11/2009

I think the people that keep saying that to you either dont have kids or have grandkids. I have come to this conclusion because I have heard that many times myself and I am totally with you on that. In 20 years or so when we look back at this point in our lives it will be the happiest but right now I feel totally swamped and floundering. How bout you?