am i the only one?? HELPP

Catherine - posted on 07/21/2010 ( 37 moms have responded )

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i have a 14 month old and not once have i had a full night sleep.. i have tried everything..(well everything i can think of) tried wearing him out before bed.. warm milk, a long story, dummies, juice, water, lullabies. i just dot no what else to do.! x

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Kathy - posted on 07/23/2010

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poor naps and a late bedtime will make children overtired and difficult to fall / stay asleep. make sure that he's on an age appropriate bedtime and taking 2 good naps.

PM me if you need more info/advice

Susan - posted on 07/23/2010

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I just let my son cry it out. It was a very frustrating and heartwrenching week!!!! But after about 15 minutes or so, he'd just fall back asleep and now at 2 1/2, hes sleeping through the night no problems.

Ashley - posted on 07/21/2010

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U may need to let him cry it out he will get used to putting himself to sleep which will benefit him in the long run. I did it with my son it was really hard but now at 2 and a half i have no problems he goes to bed with out a fuss.

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Lora - posted on 07/28/2010

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im goin through the same thing.! my 14mth rarely does a whole night in his own bed so when he does wake he just comes in my bed (i know some mums wont agree with this) because even if i let him go back to sleep with me then put him back in his bed he'll wake again. i think its just a faze they go through but i do find if i give him cold boiled water when he wakes at night hell sleep through the next few

Tracey - posted on 07/28/2010

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my daughter is eighteen months old still wakes about three times at night for a bottle no i should let her cry it out but just dont have the heart to do so hopeing she will grow out of it

Vanessa - posted on 07/28/2010

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My daughter is 20 months and doesnt sleep through the night, i jus dont have it in me to let her cry, But weve started shorting her naps and that seems to be helping :)

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CIO (crying it out) may help in the short term but here is one theory why it may do some harm. Babies are born without the ability to self-regulate emotions. That is, they find the world to be confusing and disorganized, but do not have the coping abilities required to soothe themselves. Thus, during times of distress, they seek out their caregivers because the physical closeness of the caregiver helps to soothe the infant and to re-establish equilibrium. When the caregiver is consistently responsive and sensitive, the child gradually learns and believes that she is worthy of love, and that other people can be trusted to provide it. She learns that the caregiver is a secure base from which she can explore the world, and if she encounters adversity she can return to her base for support and comfort.
Here is what some doctors thing about the phases a child goes through when using CIO:
The first phase, labeled “protest”, consists of loud crying and extreme restlessness. The second phase, labeled “despair”, consists of monotonous crying, inactivity, and steady withdrawal. The third phase, labeled “detachment”, consists of a renewed interest in surroundings, albeit a remote, distant kind of interest. Thus, it appears that while leaving babies to cry it out can lead to the eventual dissipation of those cries, it also appears that this occurs due to the gradual development of apathy in the child. The child stops crying because she learns that she can no longer hope for the caregiver to provide comfort, not because her distress has been alleviated.
We co-sleep with our son and I am able to soothe him back to sleep when he awakens. It works for us and I don't have any sleepless nights and I know eventually he wil be in his own bed when he is ready.

Jessicca - posted on 07/25/2010

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my son is going to be two and we still have that problem. The only way he sleepd good(only waking up once at night) is if he sleeps in our bed by him self. So dont feel like your the only one lol

Shana - posted on 07/25/2010

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My son is 19 months old and he doesn't sleep through the night either. Never has. He has bad stomach problems and I think gas is what originally wakes him up in the middle of the night. I've given up trying to get him to sleep. He goes to bed, wakes up screaming around 2 or 3 and i'll give him gas meds and either put him in bed with us or go sleep in the bed with him.

Marea - posted on 07/25/2010

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my 2 and 3 year old are toilet trained off the bottle but the sleep at night is good most of the time but they want to sleep with us, some night they just wake up and want to sleep in our bed so when that happens me and my hubby give them the bed and go to other room so they think it us when they feel each other.

Bonnie - posted on 07/25/2010

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My son has nightlights and a flashlight. He can turn the flashlight on and off whenever he wants to. We use rechargeable batteries, because if he leaves it on all night the batteries will need to be changed. He didn't sleep through the night until he had his flashlight.

DesiLynn - posted on 07/25/2010

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I agree with Autum on this one. My daughter will NOT fall asleep in her bed, she has to fall asleep in mine, when she is finally asleep, I put her in her bed then around 2 or 3 she will climb back in bed with me. Its easier than fighting her to sleep in her own bed, but at the same time I want her to get used to sleeping in her bed and not running into mommy's every night.

Sarah - posted on 07/24/2010

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It is far more common for children to NOT sleep through the night than for them TO sleep through the night!

Autum - posted on 07/24/2010

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I know not alot of people are going to agree with me but I like to cosleep. When he woke up I would just pick him up and bring him to bed with me. Then try to fall back asleep, if he was asleep before me then I would try to put him in his bed but if I fell asleep then it was no big deal, more sleep for the both of us. I think the fact that I was trying to sleep too made him feel comfortable and then he felt like going to sleep. But when I was just trying to get him to go to sleep singing/rocking him and I was still wide awake and stressed because he was keeping me awake he sensed it and stayed awake, like 'I want to stay awake with you mom' but if I calmed down and held him and tried to go back to sleep then he was like 'Were both sleepy and it feels so comfy to be held and loved. I want to sleep like this all night'

Lisa - posted on 07/24/2010

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I have JUST got my 13 month old to sleep through - my older boy also did not sleep through unitl after 1year. I believe that all children will EVENTUALLY sleep through if you leave them BUT this may not happen until they are much older. If you can cope then run with it!! If it is bothering you though (and there are not really that many people who can happily/sanely face the prospect of indefinite night waking) you can try a number of things - my advice is READ as much as you can and keep an open mind. I used a few strategies from a number of sources and despite having doubts about how succesful I would be my son slept through the night after ONE night and has done so ever since (a month now)!!!! You have to do what feels right for you as everyone is different and so is every baby :)
I use music, I talk to my son and tell him what is happening, I changed his feeding pattern for the final solids and breast feed of the day, I do NOT offer him any fluids or solids overnight and a couple of other minor things -fingers crossed it keeps working !!

Katrina - posted on 07/24/2010

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My daughter gave us a hard first 18 months of her little life. She's just barley over two and is just now getting the hang of it. We just adjusted her schedule a little and did a lot of praying. My mom was kind enough to take her every now and then so that my husband and I could get a good nights rest. We stopped letting her take two naps and only let her take one good one. We also kept her awake for about 30 min. to and hour later. So bed time is about 8 or 8:30 now. We make sure that she has had a good supper. Sometimes we give her a bath with lavendar J&J bubble bath to calm her down if she still needs to wind down. The last thing we do is read a book or watch one show of her favorite cartoons while she drinks a warm sippy cup of chocolate milk. Everything combined finally gets me and my husband a good nights rest. Good luck.

Emma - posted on 07/24/2010

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yep think u nd 2 let him cry it out i did this with my twins and they slept through from 11 weeks old! no probs now they know when bedtime is bedtime and go asleep! i didnt let them cry too long though cause i knew they were still young! but at 14 months they dont need night feed or anything so he probably figure if i cry long enough mummy will come and get me! may be a hard pattern to break but if you stick at it he will eventually get the message that its sleep time! good luck!

Atiesha - posted on 07/24/2010

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Both of my sons sleep during the night..... but the bby could still be hungry dats y they dont sleep during the night becasue i had to start giving my son potatoes for him to sleep during the night because dinner didnt hold in his stomach

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I agree that a schedule is key`, My daughter is an early riser and my frioends have said try putting her to bed later and that just does not work, she was still up at the same time in the morning..lol..But when its her scheduled bedtime which is 6 pm she is more than ready,I also give her a bath after dinner and b4 bed and this seems to help calm her. Good luck!! Consistency is key=)

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I have a projector that lights up on the ceiling and plays lullabies that I have used since Ocean was born. Sometimes she fights going to bed but she has a set bedtime and we have always kept her on schedule with that and also making sure naptimes aren't too late in the day may help. Ocean goes to bed at 6 pm and sleeps straight thru until 6 am. She has one late morning nap. I may have to go in a couple of time to lay her down if she is standing up in crying. I just tell her night night, I love you!! I also go in around 9 or 10 pm and change her dipaer where she sleeps so long this avoids her waking up with a soaked diaper.

Amy - posted on 07/23/2010

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A sippy cup by the bed and a fan in the room are my secret weapons as well. My daughter sleeps "hot" and needs that fan and water!

Brandy - posted on 07/23/2010

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my 18 month old still wakes up in the middle of the night for some water!! once she has a drink she goes back to bed, so i keep a sippy by my bed! I recently put a fan on low in my room and shes actually sleeping better.

Ilana - posted on 07/23/2010

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NO, you are not alone. I have a 15 month old and I still need to get up 5 times during the night. Have actually gone as far as to order some homeopathic du du drops. Will keep you posted whether it works or not

Mary - posted on 07/23/2010

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make sure they are full when u put them to be thats what i did and my kids started sleeping the the night at 2 months i know doctors try and tell u what to do and the only one who know best are the moms so u do what u need to do

Katherine - posted on 07/23/2010

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My 15 month old stayed asleep (short of a few cries out without moving or opening her eyes) from 8pm to 8am last night -- and I think it was the first time ever that I haven't gone in to get her all night long. Of course, I'm 6 months pregnant, so I was still awake myself, running to the bathroom.

She usually wakes up a couple times and I go in and give her a hug, pacifier, lovey, blankie, and she lays back down again herself -- sometimes wants me to pick her up, but it only ever takes a few minutes. She's just looking for comforting...and I'm ok with that, but the other option would be CIO so she learns to do it herself.

If baby is awake and taking a long time to go back to bed -- could be looking for comfort still, CIO is still an option (and we had to do this around 9 months old otherwise she only wanted to sleep WITH me so was waking up ALL night long) but you may want to play with sleep times -- sometimes they need less sleep to sleep better, and sometimes they need MORE sleep to sleep better.

Once they've learned how to sleep themselves -- if mine is waking up too much (which isn't often) I normally assume something's bothering her and give her some motrin. But if it is every night, at this age -- I'd assume baby just wants comfort/help sleeping -- otherwise baby should be fine overnight -- baby doesn't need water/food/diapers/etc during sleep time - baby is supposed to be sleeping.

Rachael - posted on 07/22/2010

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You might try to shorten his nap during the day and putting him to down to sleep an half an hour later. I used these tricks and after a week or two my little one started sleeping through the night and was so easy to get to sleep in the eveing.

Sherrie - posted on 07/22/2010

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Just an idea.If he has less sleep he will sleep also.So concentrate on the timing of his sleep routines.YES, you need to sleep mom, or you cannot help him yourself or anyone,soon you'll get worn down(if not already).I had to do this with my 18 mo. old when she was about this age.I kept her up as long as i could during the day and gave her one shorter nap(like 1 hr.) at the most,of course way before bedtime because routine is the key, for bedtime.But for now try keeping him up as long as possible and very active,i found a big ball is something my daughter loved and we played for hours!I hope this helps.It did my daughter now we sleep and so does she, so it's a win /win solution.Good luck hun!Sher

Linda - posted on 07/22/2010

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I agree with you on the pacifier because my son had one for along time messed his teeth up now he is 15 and has beautiful teeth. My second son well he did not have a pacifier for long. I learned my lesson!!!!

Natalie - posted on 07/22/2010

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we did the cry it out method and it worked a treat, we hardley ever have to get up now unless i think she has had a bad dream or something and she might really need me.I think you should take him over to a trusted family member or friend for a night and get yourself a full night sleep!!!!! Hang in there.

Ella - posted on 07/21/2010

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I know its hard but you may have to let him cry it out. I did it with my daughter when she was 6-9 mo. old. At 6 mo I put her to sleep and then let her cry it out when she woke up through the night but when she hit 9 months I let her cry herself to sleep from the very beginning. She has been getting herself to sleep and back to sleep ever since.

Carisa - posted on 07/21/2010

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My girls were both bad sleepers. I had to just let them cry it out (sometimes for a couple of hours) Within a week, they were sleeping through the night.

Erin - posted on 07/21/2010

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Honestly my son didn't sleep through the night until after he was two. And then I had my new baby and started the whole situation all over haha. But I think its completely normal for them to wake up and its only for less than 30 minutes so I just don't let myself fully wake up.

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My daughter was exact same. We didn't sleep of well over a year and a half. She's an early riser anyway but 5 am is too early. Well finally let her cry it out. It took two nights of her crying for about 30 minutes and that was it. No more waking up. I'ts extremely hard and your stomach is in your heart but sooooo worth it.

Catherine - posted on 07/21/2010

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yes ive tried all that too.. think its just the waiting game now then..! actually i desagree with the parifier him being too old for it! but thats my opinion! yes i have a sippy ov water with him.. he just still wakes after he had a drink!

Kristen - posted on 07/21/2010

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Its common for kids to not sleep through the night until they're 2 or later. You can try soft music playing in his room, lovies (blankies with the stuffed animal attached), etc. Is he waking up and needing something or just awake? That will make a difference too. If he's waking up because he's thirsty, keep a sippy of water in there with him. At 14 months he's too old for the pacifier, so i wouldn't do that and Juice/milk are never good to have in bed with them

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