and how do i keep myself calm during all of the tantrums that the terrible 2s brings??

Niki-Dee - posted on 01/26/2009

I son turned 2 in august. He used to throw the worst tantrums ever. But seriously, it is all about discipline! I taught him that we do not throw tantrums and if you want something you need to ask. it took a good 3 months for him to get the idea but now he maybe throws 1 tantrum a week tops! and when he does he goes in the "naughty spot" . If you can discipline your child then you don't need to worry about "terribe 2s" because it is not that terrible for me. If anything he is so much more calm because he is learning that it's not right to act like that and when he wants something he asks "may i please have ..." rather then throwing a fit. And when he doesn't get what he wants if he throws a fit he knows he is going in time out.

Jolie - posted on 01/25/2009

I went to school for this type of thing. And let me tell you books dont teach you anything!  :)  I learned through expereince.  A tantrum is a cry for attention from You, no matter the situation.  I have learned the best way to dela with them and stop them fast is to ignore them.  Turn your back or leave the room.  This is the opposite of what they are looking for.  If they follow you, tell them you would be happy to listen to them when they calm down  and until then they need to go back in the other room or to the couch.   I was suprosed how fast the tears and screams stopped and the talking began.  good luck!  i hope this helps!

Sonya - posted on 01/24/2009

breath slowly and deeply. thats the only thing that works for me right now. lol. my 2yr old threw such a tanrum this week, daddy was holding her hand and she went to throw herself backwards and dislocated her elbow (nursemaids elbow), needless to say i had about 2 hrs at the docs office of deep breathing...

Amy - posted on 01/23/2009

If I'm finding it hard to keep calm when my 2 year old has a tantrum I leave the room, take a deep breath and count to 10 and go back to deal with it! I find it helpful if I'm having a bad day! Otherwise when she has a tantrum I ignore it and don't even make eye contact with her. As soon as she's finished being grumpy and the tantrum's over I make a big fuss of her and that usually helps too xxx

Jennifer - posted on 01/23/2009

Its so hard I know, all I do is turn away and count, I some times reach the hundreds, but it s all you can do really cos as I am sure you know if you shout they just shout louder, just try and remind your self that it will not last forever. Good Luck

Jennifer x

Nicole - posted on 01/23/2009

If you are able to tune it out, you will realize that they will quit. They just want more attention. My daughter is now learning that throwing herself on the ground, and crying or screaming is not going to get what she wants. I won't say that she has stopped this behavior all together, but it has calmed way down. I just walk away and ignore her.