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Anyone else ready to pull their hair out?

Kim - posted on 09/09/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )

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I have 2 1/2 year old b/g twins, and the attitude/defiance drives me crazy some days. I don't know what to do when they refuse to get dressed (they are capable of doing this themselves, I refuse to do it for them), throw drinks on the floor, won't pick up toys, etc. I know some people say "it's just 2-year old behavior, they're learning their limits, etc." I don't believe that in every case. They know the limits, it hasn't changed. And it's not every day, either. I'm pregnant with another baby, due next March, and I tend to get frustrated more easily than before I was pregnant; I feel like I lose my temper a lot, and my kids deserve a happy mom who doesn't constantly yell at them to do things. How do you deal with this?!

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Heather - posted on 09/09/2009

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Hi! That sounds like a really frustrating situation - and it is bad enough when you have one 2 year old in the house, let alone two!



It really is true that if you walk away, and don't get involved in the argument, that that will help, over time. How much time depends upon how persistent the kid(s) are. Also, if you just need to be somewhere, and they are refusing, then there are times when you will just have to do it yourself. I have heard of people who just plop their kids in the car in their PJ's or whatever, but that seems more motivating for older kids. A 2 year old probably won't really care if he/she goes out in their skivvies. If you have the time, then remove yourself from the drama. Give your marching orders (:-)) and leave. If, by a certain time, they have not followed the orders, then you dress them yourself, without any fuss. Be sure to praise them when they DO do the right thing, too. Keeping calm and matter of fact is the most helpful, but also much easier said than done.



Good luck! Get yourself some breaks, too. It really helps!

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