Toddlers and erections

Amara - posted on 01/04/2010 ( 38 moms have responded )

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I noticed that my 4 year old son has penis erections in the mornings... What bothers me is that he gets excited touching it. Does this mean my 4 year old is masturbating??????

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Carrie - posted on 01/07/2010

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As a mother of two boys (2 and 6), they have both gone through several stages of curiousity and exploration and lots of questions... who has weiners, who doesn't, and why... look at my weiner mom, it's really big!!... I just tell them that their private parts are for them alone. It's okay for them to touch them, and sometimes a parent or a doctor if something is wrong. But they are called privates for a reason. We talk alot about good touches and bad touches. My boys have been extremely curious and unashamed - and I don't want them to feel shame, so I just accept it as a normal part of growing up. If I were a boy and had that particular part, I might also find it facinating. You have to admit, it does interesting things all on it's own, so it's bound to cause some questions. My approach is to answer questions as honestly as possible without giving too much information!

Tracyld - posted on 09/17/2011

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All males have erections in the morning. They all like touching them. Congratulations, your kid is normal.

Bergerbytes - posted on 01/11/2012

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This is so normal as the other posters have relayed... My boy would have an erection at diaper changing time from 3 months on.... I was worried too, thought maybe there was something odd going on but it turns out it is a normal part of human nature.... ;)

Lizanne - posted on 01/04/2010

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Quoting Marie:

do not tell him its wrong!! it will give negative towards his penis!! of course tell him not to touch if you want to but use different reasons such as its rude or explain its meant for wee wee not touching!! but it is very normal and extremely common!!


I absolutely agree!!! Kids need to know there is NOTHING to be ashamed of!! But there is a time and a place for 'discovering' their bodies!

Aslirocky - posted on 02/06/2012

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MY HUSBAND SAYS THE SAME THİNG..BECAUSE HE IS LATINOOOOO!!!!!

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my son is 2 1/2 and when he touches it or pulls it he laughs and smiles and seems to enjoy it. i think it's normal for young kids to explore and as long as he is doing it in private then i wouldn't be concerned.

Tori - posted on 01/10/2012

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That might be. But don't tell him that it's "not right", "dirty" or "bad"! What he needs to understand is the when and where it's appropriate to do, not that his natural feelings are bad. Being told that it's "not right" to touch himself there may lead to lifelong psychological problems, and sexual problems as he grows into adulthood. He's probably too young to understand what his penis is for, to him it's just something that feels good. By telling him it's wrong, you're essentially saying (as far as his understanding goes) that feeling good is wrong.

The healthiest thing would be to try and establish boundaries if it makes you uncomfortable (I know seeing my daughter hump her stuffed frog makes ME uncomfortable), for example, "Don't do that around mommy" or "That's only for when you're alone in your bedroom", or suchlike.

Jay - posted on 09/11/2011

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from newborn boys can get erections during nappy changes.
never tell him its wrong, just explain a time and a place and let him know who he can come to if he ever has a concern or a question. (it's good to say yourself and a trusted older male)
goodluck :D

Vicky - posted on 09/04/2011

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To Erin, THANK YOU!! That sounds exactly like what my 3 year old said too and seeing someone else say it makes me feel sooo much better. I was a bit worried about it but when you see it written down it is actually quite funny. Thank you!

Mary - posted on 06/28/2011

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Just read this. My 2 1/2 yr had a extremely painful erection that would not allow him to urinate for a good 8 hrs. took him to urgent care and of course, he peed everywhere. doctors didn't know what caused it. anyone else experience this?

Colleen - posted on 02/06/2010

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His erections are normal and it's perfectly natural for him to explore his body at that age. You just have to explain to him that touching himself, while a nice feeling is not acceptable behaviour in public. Don't make a huge issue of it and keep it lighthearted.

Jane - posted on 02/04/2010

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yes he is. just tell him that it's something he does when he's in his room for a nap or bedtime.
our 2 yr old girl has been masturbating forever! i've gone thru hundreds of dollars to find a high-chair that she couldn't grind on and she still does it in her car seat against the buckle. it only bothered me b/c she wouldn't eat any food at the table. otherwise, as her doctor said, "they do it b/c it feels so good and wouldn't you if you could?"

Cathy - posted on 02/04/2010

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I only just saw this post. It is normal for children to enjoy touching themselves - it feels nice to them. But it is not sexual as they don't think that was when they are young. It is not just boys -my daughter likes to touch herself too. I just tell her that she needs to do that in her bedroom when she is on her own! My daughter is 2 and a half

Cinda - posted on 02/02/2010

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My son is only 13 months & plays w/ his penis every time his diaper is changed. He even tries to tear through his diaper some times to play w/ it. He actually had a little erection last week in the morning. I think it's just a natural part of the process for little boys & is nothing to be concerned about.

User - posted on 02/01/2010

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its natural for boys to explore, they grow out of it and dont make a fuss over it. i noticed someone said u may want to tell him that its not right i would advise against that, he'll feel that its dirty and can give him a thing about it later in life or problems with relationship etc, there's no harm in tellin him to leave it alone but in a nice but not to tell him its not right.

Amara - posted on 01/08/2010

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Thank you for responding to my question, i feel better now knowing its normal and not weird......thanks ya all.

Franquell - posted on 01/07/2010

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I'm glade that I'm not the only one wondering whats going on with my son and his erections.

Arimaselis - posted on 01/07/2010

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no! its just what men would call a "morning wood". pretty much when they wake up and they have to pee, their pee pee would get hard. my son has those "morning wood" and of course it is sensitive so when they touch it it feels good. it does not mean they are masturbating. little boys do not know what it is to masturbate. i hope this will give you a little relief. lol, i use to get bothered seeing my son touch down there but its just they are curious as to what is going on with their anatomy.

Tracy - posted on 01/07/2010

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this has been happening to my son since he was a toddler, he also used to cry when it was hard, but he seemed to grow out of it by he was about 7 or 8. hes nearly 11 now.

Lisa - posted on 01/07/2010

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boys usually always wake up with an erection. it doesn't mean anything except they have to pee. It is a very random thing that happens to boys of all ages to get an erection at anytime of day for any or no reason at all. we as adults associate erections with sex but this is actually rarely the case in kids. also they will always play with it because it does feel good you need to explain that if he wants to do that he needs to go to his room or the bathroom that is something for private time not just anywhere and be careful not to make a big deal out of it it is perfectly normal and nothing to worry about. if you are still concerned talk to his pediatrician about it ok

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My 3 year old will touch his self if he has no underwear on (usually after a bath or changing clothes) he tells me "Mom, my pee pee is really big!!!" One time he told me it was soo big it was scaring his baby brother, I just laughed really hard on the inside and told him not to touch it and it won't get big.
Its normal for him to explore his body.

Tanaya - posted on 01/05/2010

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i have notice the same about my son. me and my husband being first time parnets dont know what to do....so have have learned just to not pay attention. or try to get his mind on a tv show or a toy.

Jamie - posted on 01/05/2010

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My 22 month old always wakes up with erections....i just try not to pay too much attention when he touches it like anothr mom said. But i learnd a valueble thing from MY mOM to teach him or Her the correct term for there parts and to be aware of them because as they get older if they were to ever get approachd by a person who try's to "touch them" they will know to say.."thats my penis and it's private and you don't touch iT" i know it;s kind of random but it would scare off a perp to know that the kid is aware of there parts. As for kids touching for pleasure..well we do what we can do kids are curious.. (this is only one mothers opinion :) )

Michelle - posted on 01/05/2010

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No!!! He's just figuring out his body!! Of course he's going to touch himself, it feels good to him, in the same way that you rubbing his back or what have you feels good. It would be unhealthy for him to not be getting these erections, and not be touching himself. First of all, little boys often use their penises as a comfort item, totally normal. Secondly, unless you believe masturbation is wrong, some people do, be careful not to reprimand him for touching himself. This will implant the idea that touching himself is wrong and bad, which it's not!!

Side note-- my son likes to try to stick his back in LOL it's so funny!!! He thinks it's so funny that it won't stay pushed in :-D

Stephanie - posted on 01/05/2010

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HI My name is Stephanie and My son Jace gets erection in the morning and its called pee hard on that mean they still not quite done pee. If you have anything question just email me at flowergirl2004@msn.com.

Dorothy - posted on 01/04/2010

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He just is a boy. It happens to my son and he is only 2 1/2 and figured out that his penis fits perfectly into his broken plastic flute. They just like stuff like that and they realize at a young age that it feels good to touch it. They arent putting that much thought into it. Dont worry, you dont have a mini pervert... lol. Even my 1 year old laughs and giggles every time I try and clean him up during a diaper change. lol

Kasha - posted on 01/04/2010

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I agree with most on here. Its totally normal for boys to explore this early. My son simply plays with his as if its a button. He even told me once look my figure is stuck and to get it out. Of course he was joking. We laughed and I walked away. I told him when he playing to close the door and it was his private moment. Then my paranoia kicked in and I explained to him...his body is beautiful and only he touches it.

I use these moments as teacheable moments because perverts etc...look for these innocent moments to prey on children.

I digress. Again nothing wrong with what he is doing, just teach him there is a time and place.

On another note. MEN as adults fondle or adjust themselves all day. :)

Sheryl - posted on 01/04/2010

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i think it's just a kid thing! my husbend laughs it. cause the first i freaked out. my husbend and my father in law just laugh at me! cause i asked if it was normal! i grew up with girls. but anyways i wouldn't worry!

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I agree totally with Temeka, She is right, they have NO IDEA its a sexual organ. My son, who is 3 1/2 loves to touch his after the bath or when he gets undressed. Its natural and he think its funny. At this age it is purely innocent. They are just trying to figure out what that funny looking thing is dangling everywhere.

Temeka - posted on 01/04/2010

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Quoting Lizanne:



Quoting Marie:

do not tell him its wrong!! it will give negative towards his penis!! of course tell him not to touch if you want to but use different reasons such as its rude or explain its meant for wee wee not touching!! but it is very normal and extremely common!!





I absolutely agree!!! Kids need to know there is NOTHING to be ashamed of!! But there is a time and a place for 'discovering' their bodies!





I mostly agree with both these statements.  The only part I disagree with is the part about the "wee wee not touching"



 



EVERY child will explore ALL of their bodies and it is perfectly normal.  The child will develop a complex if the parents react.  From my research it's common practice to ignore it and treat it as normal development.



My son tells me it tickles...oh gosh!!  I just remind myself he has no idea it's a sexual organ and to him it's purely innocent.  



He has yet to do anything in public being that he's usually too busy doing other stuff - it's when he's at home just out of the bath or has just ripped all his clothes off, etc etc!



Enjoy these uncomfortable moments...he'll be a teenager in no time locking himself in the bathroom!!  

Sandra - posted on 01/04/2010

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My son is almost 3 and his is the same way in the mornings. I don't think it means anything. Maybe it is bigger than most kids his age. He is growing fast. My husband laughs... He says because our son is latino!

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My son has recently "discovered" himself too. Children are curious and it's natural for them to "explore". I would ignore the behavior unless he does it in public in which case I would tell him that he has to keep it private when he is in his bedroom and no one else it around. We can't make them stop and I don't want my son to have hang ups over it thinking it is wrong so that's why I am ignoring it for now.

Marie - posted on 01/04/2010

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do not tell him its wrong!! it will give negative towards his penis!! of course tell him not to touch if you want to but use different reasons such as its rude or explain its meant for wee wee not touching!! but it is very normal and extremely common!!

Lizanne - posted on 01/04/2010

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omg, I freaked out when I saw my son playing with himself, and he's only 1 1/2!!! I figure, they need to figure out what that thing is, it's just as important as their nose or feet! Right? As long as he's not doing it in public, it's fine with me! And we don't pay too much attention to it when he does fiddle with it - just be happy everything is in working order down there!!!

Lindsay - posted on 01/04/2010

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I don't think you have anything to worry about. He is just being curious. I don't have a son but a daughter and she is curious all the time with her private part. She is always playing with it when she uses the bathroom and when she takes a bath. She just turned 4 years old on December 2. You just may want to correct that and tell him that it is not right to touch himself there.

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