Uniqua - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 53 moms have responded )
Im A Teen Mom...&& Really Dont Know How To Feel About It
Uniqua - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 53 moms have responded )
Im A Teen Mom...&& Really Dont Know How To Feel About It
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Stephanie - posted on 03/08/2010
How is your life now? Why do you feel you would be a dissappointment? Are you putting the responsibilities of the baby onto everyone in your family? If so try your best not to do so.
Just do your best honey. Everything happens for a reason in life. Your baby is a blessing and you shouldn't feel like a dissappointment. Just try to read and educate yourself on how to be the best mom. Try your best not to rely on people to take care of your baby all the time. And, just be there for your child with love and education. Stay away from negative influences and negative people for you and your child. If you can just get through school and do your best you will be a hero in my book not a dissappointment!
Kathy - posted on 03/08/2010
I was a teen mom. Now my daughter is a teen. I was the first girl ever preg in my HS and the only peoson to have a baby out of wedlock in my family. I have been where u r now and it gets better. I am not saying it is easy the road is long and hard but drivable. Your family will come around U have to start looking ahead and not back you have a whole new furtue to plan. Good luck
Renee - posted on 03/08/2010
Im grown & my family is disappointed because of various reasons that I had children, but guess what? I dont give a (expletives). I know that at the end of the day, these children are not going "I wish you woulda ben a little older". They are simply interested in the love and care you have to give. Dont allow someone elses insecurities, jealousies, anger, frustrations....misery...be a reason to doubt yourself. You just be the best mother that your instincts allow & give that baby as much love as you can (but wait for the next kid if u can cuz its not easy raising a child so imagine another one). When its all said and done, u will have a reason to shun the nay sayers. And a bit of my own advice...dont be afriad to ask for help. Even the people who have something to say should still be willing to offer assistance if they can & if they cant...surround yourself with positive people who can and WILL be there when u need them. Even if it means cutting off the ones that are supposed to love u best
Amanda - posted on 03/08/2010
As long as your child is loved and protected and has a loving home, Age doesnt matter. And whoever says it does is shallow and cant see the forest for the trees. I can however see the fact if your parents are the ones saying this, it could be that they wished for so much more for you (I am a mum and I want this for mine) and are a bit dissapointed, but at the end of the day it is YOUR life you have chosen and you will be responsible for teaching, protecting and nurturing your baby/ies as they grow and showing them what is right and wrong. Be proud you can contribute to shaping a human being and enveloping them with hopes & dreams. You have taken on the most demanding role in the world. The biggest reward though is the little human who looks into your eyes and says I LOVE YOU MUMMY!
Cassandra - posted on 03/07/2010
I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with my son. It was so hard because my mom was really disappointed in me and so we fought a lot. She stayed out a lot and I didn't think I was going to be able to do it. Now my son is 21 months old, I'm 19, married, and pregnant with #2. It's so hard and frustrating and mentally draining. I still get depressed because I don't have a life anymore but it gets easier. Watching your baby grow everyday is totally worth it all.
Hannah - posted on 03/07/2010
Hi, I can relate to how you feel... I had my first baby at the age of 16 and then got pregnant when she was around 2 months old and had a baby boy... they ended up getting taken away because their daddy hit his new girlfriend in front of them when they were visiting him.. my daughter was a year and my son wasn't even 3 months old yet..and that's when i had the hardest fight in my life.. I fought long and hard for over a year to get my babies back... when I got them back the judge stepped down and gave me a hug and told me that despite me being so young , i never deserved to have them taken away like that. && she was crying... after that i had to struggle with my son because he didn't know me as mom.. getting that bond back was hard but so worth it...So just focus on your new life with your beautiful baby and try to give him/her the best life you can.. because no matter what age you are your instincts will be to care for your baby and fight for them!!! I would of fought for my babies like that if i were 30, 25, 14, ....Age doesn't matter and that's what people need to realize... :) I am now 25 and have 4 beautiful babies.. I hope you feel better, I have read a lot of these posts and they're good... everyone is entitled to their own opinions, but it doesn't mean you have to listen to it. :D
Lucinda - posted on 03/07/2010
No as long as you do your best to be a good mom they will be proud of you
Diane - posted on 03/07/2010
Dear Uniqua: Of course you should not feel like you're a disappointment to those who love you most. Being a teenage mom is quite a task for you. Everything is new for you right now. Believe in yourself, relax and enjoy that beautiful baby of yours. There will be many people around you giving you all kinds of advice. You can listen to their advice, but if it doesn't feel right, you don't have to take it. You know what's right for your baby. Mothers young and old are blessed with a motherly instinct. Follow your instincts Uniqua, and you will be fine. If there are too many people telling you what to do, politely tell them you wish to raise your baby your way, but if you have any questions you will be sure to ask for their help. You should be comfortable with your child. There are many associations that can help you deal with the stress you are under right now. Contact some of them and they can be very helpful.
Vonzetta - posted on 03/06/2010
As long as your happy with you just love you and your baby and never mind what people think of you. Just because youve had a child at a young age doesnt mean that you cant take great care of your child. Be happy at this time and enjoy that bunddle of joy. This is a precious time enjoy because it goes fast.
Fallon - posted on 03/06/2010
Hey, just don't disappoint your baby and you're pleasing the only person that matters now that you're a mom.
Tullina - posted on 03/06/2010
Should you feel like a disappointment to your family? YES YOU SHOULD.....Seriously? Do you realize how ridiculous that sounds? You ARE NOT A DISAPPOINTMENT....repeat this over and over until you get it.....you are a mom...things happen for a reason....I mean come on...are you ashamed of your child? Of course not..you love that baby more than anything, right? That baby is a gift from GOD and you cannot be ashamed that GOD chose YOU to give this gift to! Don't you let ANYONE, family or not, discourage you from being the best mom you can be!
Stephanie - posted on 03/06/2010
I was a teen Mom, and my son is now 26 years old. I remember wavering between feeling embarassed, inadequate, scared.. a whole range of emotions. I was often an outcast at school and sporting events, because I was so much younger than all of the other parents. I was also a single mother and had many years of guilt for depriving my son of a normal two parent upbringing. There are a lot of feelings and barriers that you will face, but the most important thing is ensuring that he/she has a great childhood. Never regret your decision and always believe in yourself. I have never regretted my decision to raise my son, and it has been challenging but rewarding. Never doubt yourself.
Catherine - posted on 03/06/2010
never i didnt atleast you are not on the street doing drugs and you are doing something with your life better than throwing it away you have kids who love you and guess what you are devoting your life to a good cause
Uniqua - posted on 03/06/2010
Thnx Meghan That Really Helped Me To look At things Differently>>>
Andrea - posted on 03/06/2010
You should never let anyone make you feel bad. Your a mom you need to be strong for your child. If anyone has a problem tell them to get over it. What are you going to teach your child? Would you make your child feel this way? I hope not. Just put your child and your needs and feelings first. Stay strong and a good mother.
Vicki - posted on 03/06/2010
its ok it dont matter wat other people thinkn u r who u are and now u have a baby u r still the same person u shouldnt feel a disapointment who cares u still the same person and it dnt mattert to anyone dont need to be scared it will all be ok
Rhina - posted on 03/05/2010
Honestly, the feeling of disappointment is going to be there. I had my son when I was 13 and it was very hard on my mother (she is a single mom) She worked very hard so that my brothers and I had all we needed to survive. But the truth is that we aren't perfect and we can make mstakes, thats just life. The best you can do is to try to make it a positive thing. I had my son when I was a child myslef and I thank God for him, because he made me who I am today. I never gave up on myself and on him. I finished school and went to college. I proved to my family that I was not going to fall into the sterotype and I would work hard to improve myself and make them proud. I love my son more than anything in this world and life is never easy but you have to be strong and positive and break all barriers and be the best you can be. I wish you and all teen moms the best and hope for the best, because it is not easy, but have faith and you will make it!!!!
Annie - posted on 03/05/2010
try your hardest to forget about what other people think but i know exactly how u feel. in my dads eyes im a complete disapointment after having 2 children at a young age. its upsetting but hey if he cant be proud that im a good parent then he isnt a good parent himself.
Gina - posted on 03/05/2010
Feel proud, not of the decisions behind you, but the decisions in front of you. I had my son when I was 16, instead of following the stereotypes all around me, I defied them. I went to college, married a wonderful man, and am still only 34. My son is now almost 17 and has grown up with me and we share a relationship that only comes with that growth. Stay true to yourself and know that things happen for a reason. Stay strong and stay proud.
Toni - posted on 03/05/2010
I think mistakes, or surprises happen. It is how you handle it, when you were pregnant did you take care of yourself and the baby? And what about now, are you taking care of yourself and the baby? It is prefectly ok for ppl to help you, but they can't take care of your child for you, that is your responsibility. I think that is all that matters, as long as you are responsible for yourself and your child, going to school, working and being a good mom, and I am sure the ppl that love you see that too.
Tammyca - posted on 03/05/2010
Im a teen mother twice over 1 @15 and again @ 18! I felt that way for a long time! But truth be told they love you no matter what! Dont let anything bring you down. The only disappoint would be not doing for your child! More then likley they are disappointe din them selves, you just need to let them know it has nothing to do with them and you love them and appreciate them! Bein a teen mom is hard enough, dont sweat the small stuff! Take care of yer baby and yerself and the rest will follow! Good luck to you! ♥
Stephanie - posted on 03/05/2010
Well what was done befor is done. And now You get to show how much You have learned and how much You love Your baby. Your baby needs You to look to the futur and be happy that You have him/her. And hopfuly later on if they feel that way now they can get over the thought of You being a disappointment. Your doing great things now.
Megan - posted on 03/05/2010
NEVER!!!! I had my first son when i was 16 yrs old! And i never look at it that way, yeah you made a wrong choice but look at what you got out of it! You now have a wonderful baby! Never think of yourself being a disappointment because your not!!!
Deanna - posted on 03/05/2010
I got pregnant with my oldest when I was 16 and pregnant with my second when she was 6 months old. I felt like a HUGE disappintment and I wallowed in the fact that I let my parents down.... but then I realized who cares???? I was alive and breathing with 2 beautiful, healthy happy babies who depended on me. When I stepped up and showed everyone what I great mother I was, and that being a great mother wasnt linked to how old you are, people gave me alot more respect in the end. Was it hard? HELL YES! Did I have to work a crazy amount of hours to keep them taken care of because I was a single parent? Oh HELL YES! But here I am now, turning 29 this year, with a wonderful husband and 5 of the most happy, well taken care of and beautiful children in the world. The price I paid was worth it, when they hug me with their cute little smiles and tell me what a GREAT mom I am!!!
Veronica - posted on 03/05/2010
i was 20 when i had my son and people looked at me differently because i was so young. I lost all my "friends" and i was depressed for a long time then one day i deceded fuckum!!! i found new friends (ones with children) people who know how it was i found a great man and im doing better. if your"friends" left you well then they werent really your friends now were they (better find out now then later) if its your family then they will understand and if they cant get past it then they lose out on 2 great people.
Carrie - posted on 03/05/2010
I had my daughter at 17yrs old, and it was the hardest thing ever, I made a lot of mistakes. It's not east being a teen mom, you lose sight of everything you were working towards. No matter how everyone see's it, or how you feel about it, you made the decision to sleep with someone and now the result is your child. It's hard to swallow and I'm not trying to sound mean, it's just a fact. You have someone a small child who loves you unconditionally, and this wont change. You have to be strong for you and your little baby. It is very disappointing for parents to feel disappointed with you because of the dreams they saw for you, but you can't change it. All you can do now is take care of your child. Your family and friends should love you no matter what. It will feel differently later. BUT they should feel thankful you are doing your part and taking care of the baby instead of being irresponsible. Keep that thought, that you could be different, that you're doing the right thing. Keep your chin up it will get better, your future your childs future is what you need to look upon now.
Sandi - posted on 03/05/2010
It's really hard not to seek approval from your loved ones. Especially when you have a constant reminder of how you have disappointed them-your baby. No matter how hard any of us try, we will never be able to please all of our loved ones. Focus your time and energy on your child. Just be the best mom you can be by putting God first and focusing on pleasing Him. He is always willing to forgive our mistakes, even when the people around us won't.
Sarah - posted on 03/05/2010
I was a 17 year old mother for the 1st time. It has held me back in some areas but thats the sacifices we make for out children. People look at me all the time like I can't be the mother of an almost 11 year old child. BUT our relationship is the most wonderful thing I've ever felt. His dad was killed in a car accident 2 years ago and now his grandparents thank me everyday for the blessing we gave them. People talk about everyone!! too young, too old ect.... whatever. If you are doing your best then feel good about yourself because I know your child does.
Diane - posted on 03/04/2010
I would love to say "quite feeling like a disappointment" but it isn't that easy to stop unfortunately. Just remember these people who truly love you will love you no matter what. You are a Mommy now and your focus is on raising a great child; focus on making the best choices you can to make yours and your baby's life great. Don't worry about the past; it's the past and can't be changed.
Anna - posted on 03/04/2010
You feel however you want because trust me there are a plenty of them out there, there is always gonna be mixed feelings of emotions trust me no one is perfect and you are not alone I was a teen parent of two had two kids before 17 and no you shouldn't feel like you're a disappointment to people who loved you because if they really did loved you they would support you all the way and not judge you or look at you different...
Sandra - posted on 03/04/2010
No, you shold not feel like a disappointment. Just take care of you and your little one. Your loved ones will come arround. Deep down inside, they just want what is best for you, even if they don't know how to show it they still care. It will be hard, but it is worth it. Their little smiles can brighten any day. How old is your baby?
Heather - posted on 03/04/2010
WELL FIRST OFF DID YOU WANT TO BE ALREADY... ALSO YOU CAN'T LET PEOPLE GET TO YOU.. THE PEOPLE THAT LOVED YOU BEFORE STILL LOVE YOU IT JUST HURTS THEM THAT YOU DID WHAT YOU DID.. JUST LIVE YOUR LIFE WITH YOUR LITTLE ONE AND PEOPLE THAT LOVE YOU WILL START COMING AROUND.. YOU MADE A MSITAKE THATS ALL NO ONE IS PERFECT NO MATTER WHO YOU ARE.. DO WHAT YOU HAVE TO, TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND YOUR CHILD.. STAY STRONG NO MATTER WHAT
Angela - posted on 03/04/2010
I AM A STUDENT AT UNIVERSITY AT THE AGE OF 39 - I HAD MY FIRST SON YOUNG. IT IS ONLY NOW THAT I KNOW WHAT I WANT TO DO - SINCE HAVING HIM I HAVE HAD ANOTHER 2 CHILDREN AND WOULDN'T SWAP THEM FOR ANYTHING. I FELT LIKE MY FAMILY WERE DISAPPOINTED - BUT HEY - THINGS HAPPEN - JUST LOVE YOUR CHILD - AND I BET ONCE THE SHOCK IS OVER - YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS WILL SUPPORT YOU - LET THEM KNOW HOW YOU THINK THEY THINK AND I BET YOU YOU ARE NOW WRONG - YOU JUST HAVE TO GIVE THEM TIME TO ADJUST AND GET TO KNOW AND REALISE THAT THERE IS AN ADDITION TO THEIR FAMILY - THAT WILL MAKE THEM PROUD AND LOVE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE. UNFORTUNATELY, DUE TO CIRCUMSTANCES I HAVE 3 CHILDREN BY 3 DIFFERENT FATHERS - AND MY FAMILY AS THEY ARE HAVE ACCEPTED Y CHILDREN FOR WHO THEY ARE REGARDLESS. I AM PROUD OF MY CHILDREN AND SO ARE MY FAMILY. AND NO I AM NOT A PROSTITUTE OR A SLAG - BELIEVE IT OR NOT I AM A CATHOLIC AND PROUD OF IT. IT WAS JUST CIRCUMSTANCE AND MAYBE A TOUCH OF UNLUCKINESS AT THE TIME. I AM FORTUNATE IN THAT MY YOUNGEST CHILD''S FATHER SEE THE OTHER 2 AS HIS OWN AND TREATS THEM AS SO - HOWEVER I HAVE BEEN HONEST WITH THEM AND THEY KNOW HE IS NOT. I ANSWER THEIR QUESTIONS AS THEY ASK THEM.
KERRY - posted on 03/04/2010
girl i was a teen mom too and i was scared of what people would think of me too.. but after everyone found out i was pregnant and it got out there i didnt care what anyone thought.. all i knew was that i loved him more than life itself and thats all that mattered to me.. what people think about yu and your baby dont matter.. your baby is your buisness and no1 elses.. so just keep being a good mother and thats all that will matter...
Stacey - posted on 03/04/2010
Hi, dont worry about who you have disapointed, all that matters now is you and your baby, you are the most important person in your baby's life so you need to be the strong person thats going to always be there for that child. Yes so your young, you were old enough to create this baby so you are be old enough to raise it. All that matters is what your child thinks of you, no-one else.
Irene - posted on 03/04/2010
From my perspective...
If my daughter were to come to me as a teenager and tell me she was pregnant, I would feel sad, angry, and disappointed. Not only that, but I would wonder where "I" went wrong in raising my child, since that is not what we wanted for her. Sex as a teen in general is, in my mind, ridiculous. And yes, it would take me a long while to get over it.
That being said, I would have to make a choice, to continue to be disappointed with my daughter and ruin our relationship or get over it. I love my baby, so, even though I wouldn't like the situation, I could never just give up on her. I'd let her know her options and would hope she'd make the "right" one. But I would support whatever decision she made.
Yes, your parents are probably very disappointed in you. However, they will eventually get over it. You have to do what is right for you and your child. Make sure you finish your education. Be proactive is securing a future for the two of you. Make sure the father provides required support, and try to get him involved in other ways as well. Children need BOTH of their parents, whether you are together or not. Think of what is best long term for you.
You are at a point where being disappointed in yourself is useless. You've already made the mistake. What you can do now is prove to yourself that you can do what's necessary to make yourself successful. Like I said, finish school, get a job, and support you and your baby. Learn, grow, and live your life. People are going to judge you. That's how society is. Just don't allow anyone's opinion of you determine who you are.
That's all I've got.
Erin - posted on 03/04/2010
If others are disappointed because YOUR decisions then they have an issue. If you are not a disappointment to yourself then you are fine. Be the best mom you can be and that is what counts. Its takes a strong person with a heart of gold to decide to care for another instead of taking the "easy" way out.
Jennifer - posted on 03/04/2010
You def should not think you are a disappointment! People make mistakes everyday and do things that not everyone may be happy with, but in the end it's about what makes you happy. All that matters now is that your being the best mom you can possibly be, your family loves you and will support you even though they may have been disappointed at the beginning. Hang in there and take care of yourself and your baby and don't worry about everything else! You never realize how much you can love something until you have a child...it's an amazing feeling and if the people in your life can't support you and love you no matter what then they are the ones missing out!
Vernette - posted on 03/04/2010
You should feel good about yourself. Don't try to please other people. You have a beautiful baby that loves you and you love your child. The people who loved you the most will still love you. They might be upset but they will get over it. Don't let your loved ones bring you down or make you feel bad about yourself. You need to love yourself, take time for yourself and take care of your baby the best you can. You being healthy and happy will make your baby healthy and happy. KEEP YOUR HEAD UP AND LOVE YOURSELF FIRST
Meshelle - posted on 03/03/2010
Sweetie, I don't know your situation but I have some words of advice for you. I was a teen mom, and I was scared and ashamed. But my daughter is 14 now and I am the proudest mom! I know I have made mistakes, and I am sure you have too, love is forgiving. You are a mom now. The little one you are now responsible for is all that matters. Take the best care of the baby as you can and never look back! Don't set boundries for yourself, set goals, and take it one day at a time.Love yourself and your child. Stand tall and look everyone you meet in the eye. You will be amazing at everything you do. Good luck. My thoughts are with you.
Natalie - posted on 03/03/2010
i was 15 when i had my daughter and i think that it is great having a baby at a young age. It has got nothing to do with anybody else, you will still love your baby as much as any older mum. My mum was a bit disappointed but she just said whats done is done and she couldnt change it. So i had my little girl just at the start of year 11 and still managed to finish my GSCEs, and eventually went to collage. I really do think tht being a young mum is best, and i love getting the dirty looks old old people!!! lol. You ust concentrate on your baby, they are the only person that counts. xxxxx
Michelle - posted on 03/03/2010
Uniqua, It seems like you feel like you are a disappointment to yourself. But you can change this around. Yes, you do have special challenges being a teen mom, I am not going to lie to you and say you don't. But you can still be a GREAT mom, and it sounds like you are on the right path by acknowledging the special circumstances you are in. Your heart is in the right place, now you need to use the other half of you, your mind. Do some research on your situation. For example, kids born to teen moms are more likely to use drugs/alcohol, not finish high school, not go to college, get involved with crime, and become teen parents themselves. And you are both more likely to live in poverty. I am not saying these things to be mean. Far from it. To give yourself and your child the best chance of avoiding these problems, you have to know that they are there and you are more at risk for them. BUT now that you know, you can empower yourself to overcome these obstacles. I would advise you to find resources in you community for teen moms who can help you. Read books or take parenting classes to learn about child development. It sounds like common sense but learning about how your child develops and learns will make life much eaiser for you as a mom in general. From personal experience, it was eaiser for me to care my child when I knew exactly what was going on with her. It helps bc it increases our patience with our children and gives us greater empathy for them. Both are crucial to being a good parent, no matter if we are teen moms or middle-aged ones or somewhere in between. If you are still in HS or have not finished HS, finish HS or get a GED. You are so incredibly special to your child and he or she will learn by your example. If you give good examples for your child to follow, your child is going to have an eaiser time in life bc you are helping your child to make decisions, good ones! Take pride in your accomplishments, continue to set goals for yourself and work to reach them. You still have your own development too (we all do, no matter our age, we develop from before birth until we die, and the human brain continues to develop until we are 25 years old!), and your child will benefit from your own development as well. Lastly, try to connect with other moms too. Try to find both older moms with more experince and younger moms who may have the same concerns and questions you do. But look for moms who you think make good and responsible choices for themselves and their children, who can help give you good examples to follow. Avoid impulsive acts and decisions. Lastly, and most importantly, tell your child everyday that you love him or her. Tell them how happy you are to be their mommy and even though you are not perfect, you will always try your best to make the best decisions and to always make sure your child knows that s/he is LOVED and WANTED! Never say othwise, even in tough moments when all your patience is gone. In those times, put your child someplace safe, like a crib, and go into another room, listen to some peacful music and take slow deep breaths for a few minutes. You will be able to better handle afterwards. Good luck, you sound like such a caring and smart mommy already :)
Sheryl - posted on 03/03/2010
if your a good mom that all that really matters. i was 20 when i got preg. and i had some friend who got preg. even when they were younger. but see them being a good mom is that matter. i think that what really matters to most families. is that the you do a good job. i raise my son from birth with my husbend and no help from family. they say that i turn out to be a better mother then what they thought i would be. sometime just talking to them helps out. tilling them how your feeling. hope that helps some and good luck. being a mom is great and a big blessing.
Jessica - posted on 03/03/2010
I'm a young mom, I got pregnant 1 year out of high school with my best friends baby. It is a very hard ajustment to make. Im sure the people who love you the most, are disappointed in the situation, because it's always sad when a young girl loses Her childhood because "the baby is having a baby". I'm very sure those who are close to you know the situation l, and they are VERY PROUD of you for choosing probably the hardest path a young girl could take. I think you should be proud, because only good moms second guess everything that has to do with their child, not know what is best or how they should feel. Why does it matter what people think of you anyways? you made a decision that was right for you and your child. Just because your a young mom doesnt mean you are not capable, ive seen many women who are at least 30 and way worse parents than any young mom i've seen. Keep your head up. a little piece of advice that has always made me feel better was "to be a parent is a privledge, not a right, someone chose you to be responsible for another human being" also remember, god wouldn't give you anything you cant handle. Be strong, and if you ever need to, you can message me privately. i would love to chat cause sometimes, i feel the same way
Jessica - posted on 03/03/2010
I got pregnant when I was 17 hadn't even stepped foot in a school as a senior.( I am now 27 and have 3 beautiful girls.) When I found out I was pregnant, my dad disappeared for about an hour and the pressure was unspeakable! I found it in me to accept this responsibility and be a good mom. THAT is all that matters, what YOU choose to do from here. Sure I had to grow up real fast... but my daughter is worth it! Turn that disappointment into pride! Step up to the plate and make a wonderful life for you and the baby.You will not regret it! In life I have found that raising children is the most valuable thing one can do. Good luck sweetheart!! Hope this helps~
Erin - posted on 03/02/2010
here is an older perspective, i was 18 yrs when i had my daughter. i was a single mom who worked and did the best i could. some of my friends walked away, and some of my family thought i should have given her up, but now that scared young mom is married and happy, and that baby girl is 11 yrs. old, (and a great kid) and everyone loves her and tells me how great she is and how proud of me they are.
point is it may seem hard and lonely and you can't do anything right, but if you do what you can and rember at the end of the day what matters is you are doing what you can it will all work out down the road.
Jessica - posted on 03/02/2010
Don't feel ashamed with being a teen mom. Just be the best mom you can be to your child. We all make choices in our lives and we have to live with those choices we make. You can't change what happened. I am proud of you deciding to keep your child.
Audrey - posted on 03/02/2010
I dont think there any shame in being a teen mom. Im 19 and expecting my second child. As long as you do what you need to do to love, suport and raise your child the best that you can you are going to be a wonderful mother! .. Sure we all make mistakes but ur child isnt one of them. .. And if ever you need help or support there is no shame to getting the help you need. Ex: Local Clsc or other.
Casey - posted on 03/02/2010
Keep your head up!!! I was 18 when when I became pregnant and 19 when I had my daughter. I felt like I let my family down but in the end I was like, who cares i'm not living for them i'm living for myself and my daughter. Just keep your head up better days are coming. Only one person is important and that is your baby.
Ashley - posted on 03/02/2010
It is a hard adjustment!! I was upset after I had my son because our lives were no longer the same. We were 18 when he was born. My husband and I were very prepared and have lots of experience with children, but it was about sacrificing our lives for him. This is probably not easy to hear, but we quickly realized that it was no longer about us anymore, but all about our baby. When you just accept that your life is different now and you can't change it, just make the best of it! Have a great time loving and caring for your baby, and prove all of those people wrong that think you can't do it because your a teen mom! Your doing great!!