boys pee standing??

Cleaver - posted on 07/11/2012 ( 65 moms have responded )

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i want my son to sit while he pees for as long as i can but everyone keeps telling me to get him to stand, maybe its just me but i HATE urine on the toilet seat. opinions?

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Maren - posted on 07/12/2012

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While training my son I had him sit. I do not see anything wrong with it, they are going to have to sit to poop anyway. I feel when they are young and to short to properly aim just let them sit. One day he saw dad standing up and he wanted to try, it was a major diaster. He is still to short (this was just a few months ago that we started) and my husband is pushing the sitting more than me. My son is 3.5 now and I figure that before he turns 5 we will work on the standing and cleaning it up.

I am sure this can quickly turn into a hot topic and once again everyone will be telling how it should be done. I say do what you want. It is not a matter of being a right way or a wrong way. If someone tells you it is wrong let them know this is what you want and when you want their OPINION on something you will ask.

Michelle - posted on 07/11/2012

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I taught my son to pee sitting down and standing up, but I also informed him that is he peed on the seat or floor or anywhere that was not the toilet bowl he would be cleaning it up. So to this day and he is now 11 he still sits to pee unless there is a urinal.

Cleaver - posted on 08/30/2012

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i did some reading and it says that at first teaching them to sit makes it easier then if you want to work on standing lol they have these cute urinals that i saw on ebay that you just attach on the toilet like a urinal potty might get that after potty training if we decide to teach him to stand

Sarah - posted on 08/11/2012

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Dad sits, the boys sit. That said, once they start school they learn by example to stand. So I say, at school or out in a public bathroom feel free to stand...at home they sit. When they have their own bathroom and are responsible for the cleaning of it they may choose as they like. As far as all these men with perfect aim, I can only say it spashed everywhere...yuck.

Tamara - posted on 07/15/2012

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I have 3 boys that are 2 years a part and we taught the two older ones to sit on toliet backwards so we wouldn't have to buy a potty seat. They were able to use the lid to hold on to and always managed to get their pee in the toilet. Both of them sat this way for a long time until they felt comfortable enough to either sit forward or stand up. Now at ages 5 1/2 and 3 1/2 they both pee standing up. Next project is the 15 month old. Lol

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Kim - posted on 09/02/2012

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My son is six. He knows that the rule is that he sits in our or at other peoples houses, but that he should stand in public. That is his normal....

Joyce - posted on 08/31/2012

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My son is 2 and we're having him sit when he pees.

It's so much easier and allows for fewer mistakes.

Sonya - posted on 08/30/2012

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My son is 2 and I taught him to sit because at first he is still learning his body and what 'feelings' are for which movement and because he is too short, even with a step-stool, to reach his penis over the toilet. My husband has taken him into a public restroom and showed him how to use a urinal to stand, but when he is with me, I have him sit. When he is tall enough to, I'm sure he will do whatever is comfortable for him and because we have shown him that there is more than one way, he can make up his own mind.

Toni - posted on 08/27/2012

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While my son was learning when he needed to pee and when he didnt I had him sit down on the toilet, but he is now nearly 4 and he stands up because he wants to be like daddy. He learnt mostly just from watching daddy go to the toilet. Never seem have a problem with him missing the bowl, either he doesnt miss, or he cleans up after himself. Im not sure because he tells me to go away when he pees now, lol

Shannon - posted on 08/23/2012

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My son is just getting the hang of using the potty and I still have him sit. He's comfortable with it for now and the way I look at it is if he is using the potty and not in his pants, I don't care if he sits or stands. I see no need to rush the standing position. He will eventually start doing that, I don't think it matters. You do what you are comfortable with and what your son is comfortable with and ignore other comments. The important part is that he's using the potty, not what position he's in when doing it!

Ali - posted on 08/22/2012

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What a topic you moms are discussing about, "boys stand or sit to pee"! So let me tell you some thing then, not bad if you know that in my culture the male people avoid peeing while standing! In my country it's so, as my religion has recommended not to pee while standing, and to do it while sitting or squatting. I know there, they teach the kid when he can stand up, how to pee while standing, but it's not so here. However, I am male and quite healthy, but I don't pee while standing. You should consider that there are many different ways and theologies around the world.

To my own, peeing while standing is a nasty actions, also it does not feet a man's character, that's like you imagine a respectable man standing up still some where, his penis is out and his piss line in front of him! Who made the rule that males MUST stand up while urinating? And don't relate it to the nature, potentially many things are natural as an ability; one can bring it out (gun), aim and kill, but he has choosing power, although he has the ability, but he may not do it if he is sane; one can just bring it out, aim and piss, but does it mean he can not do it in a way but that?

Why stand to pee? Why aim? Aiming is for the time when you are distant to your target and can't be close to it, but when you can be close to it, and if you are sane, you prefer being close to your target than aiming to the target. So sit down and be relax, the name of the place you are doing that in, is rest room! And why you waste your time and energy in cleaning bathrooms? You can save it for more useful affairs by reducing the need of bathroom to be cleaned!

As for those who say "peeing while standing is of a few pleasures of a man!", I should say that a man is more valuable than way of peeing places as his pleasure and property! It does not fit a man to consider that as his worth! Men have more valuable special abilities to be mentioned! And as for those who say "peeing while standing is much easier than doing it while sitting or squatting", I should say that bending over and pulling down pants, and keeping a part of panties down for a while and aim for a while both need an attempt; and the fact that which one is easier for a person depends on habit. The way in which one's habit is based on, is easier for that one, and to which you habit, it will be easier for you! As God has made the ability of peeing while standing easily in guys, it must have an advantage, and yes it has. In men's jobs some times urgent situations happen, and some times they have to do some thing in a short time when the speed is important, and some times men have situations that they can't sit or squat or are in places where sitting or squatting is not easily possible; in such times they can use their ability of peeing while standing easily. But these urgent times just some times happen, not always! So I think there should be a project for men to stop, or to say better, manage peeing while standing. One group are already doing that and their site is: http://www.mapsu.org . As I mentioned, there are some occations when it's needed to pee standing up, then it happens for both men and women! So what should women do? So easy, they can instantly pee standing up using a small device, one is here: http://www.travelmateinfo.com/page002.ht... .
However, it will be great if the current way of peeing of guys in toilets and bathrooms, in the most parts of the world changes.

Laura - posted on 08/20/2012

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A friend had trouble with her husband and 2 sons not making the mess; she was a major neat-freak. One morning she sent Ed to work and the boys to school, drained and dried inside the bowl then painted a bullseye on the bottom...new habit begun...they all loved it and no more mess....

Kathie - posted on 08/20/2012

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My boys are 4 & 8 and they both still sit to pee while at home but i taught them to stand when in public or someone else's house. For the sake of germs and all, you never know.

Samantha - posted on 08/18/2012

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Thank you! My son is 11 too and still sits to pee unless its a urinal or in the field lol. I thought he was strange for doing so but makes me feel better that he's not the only one out there!

Gina - posted on 08/15/2012

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I don't think there's much us mothers can do about it! once they make up their minds to pee standing they usually preffer it over sitting and there's no going back. However, you are on the right track by encouraging that he sits, experts do advice to teach boys to sit first, and once they master that, move on to standing.



My 2.9 year old just started potty training a few weeks ago, and I taught him sitting down because it prevents messy accidents in the early stages, (especially when they aren't sure if they need to poop as well!) however, apparently, he recently observed his Dad (and maybe some boys at his preschool) stand and has decided to try it. So now sometimes he sits and sometimes he stands, I would advice to let him have his way on this one, after all it's about whatever he feels most comfortable doing. Accidents will happen no matter what method you use. The important thing is that he doesn't feel pressured one way or the other. The positive thing about him standing is that if you take him to pee in a public bathroom it will be a bit easier and more sanitary.

Amber - posted on 08/13/2012

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My son peed sitting down for the longest time but now he is standing up. Let go as he wants to. That is what i am doing

Kerri - posted on 08/11/2012

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I know when B was potty trained he obviously did everything sitting down, however he has watched his Daddy and wanting to do everything his Daddy does, he now stands. I guess I am lucky in a way because my son likes to be clean so if he is "off aim" he will get the toilet paper and attempt to clean (he is 3). But I don't think it should matter either way, the best part is "our kids " are POTTY TRAINED!! Whoo hoo! Goodbye Diapers!!

Francis - posted on 08/10/2012

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My husband is so hands on and has already taught my son, 2 (since February) to pee standing up. He pees in his little potty. And when he gets done he grabs alittle wad of toilet paper and wipes the seat down (even I'd he doesn't pee on it) .

But they also sell a little toddler training urinal that is like 17 dollars I saw on line. If you're interested. But also this is YOUR son, and like Maren Tyra said if someone tries to tell you you're teaching him wrong they'll them if you want their opinion you will ask for it. You parent your way and they can do it their way. As long as your son is happy, healthy and loved you doing a great job.

Helen - posted on 08/05/2012

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He will do it, my son uses it as a game keeping his pee in the bowl! He prefers to sit though.

Trista - posted on 08/03/2012

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It doesn't matter what others say really. My husband sits at home and until recently so did my son who's almost 4. The only reason I'm ok with my son standing at home right now is that he's the perfect height for it and sometimes it's just easier, but when he gets older I'll encourage him to sit at home as well. I figure as long as he's using the toilet what does it matter?

Jamie - posted on 07/31/2012

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I know a family that ALL sits down to pee. The mom trained to husband and 2 boys to sit to minimize the mess. Its completely normal to them and they joke about it at parties

Tiffany - posted on 07/28/2012

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my son is 4 1/2 and he pees standing up. but when we are at my sisters we let him pee outside. its in the country he loves it. lol. but the one who teached him to whip and all was my then 12 year old nephew. because he was here one day with my mom watching him will i was working. they got tired of whipping him every 2 mins. he was sick that day. lol so my nephew showed him who to whip lol. what kids will teach younger one lol. just thought it was funny

Patricia - posted on 07/27/2012

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let him stand and if you are worried abou public toilets i live in the country so my boys pee on the side of the road no houses and not much traffic also you could get him to stand on his tippee tes my 4 year old does so he does not toch the toilet and i hold my other little boy up a little bit for that reason

Nicola - posted on 07/27/2012

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My big worry is standing when using public toilets... agh they are so disgusting and he's so short. I constantly tell him to never ever let his penis touch the toilet and lift him up to make sure he's far enough away. I've also told his dad to be careful about this as well. AT daycare all the boys pee standing up and when he went into the 3-5 side, not only was peeing in the potty the new big thing, so was peeing standing up.

Nicola - posted on 07/27/2012

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when we were potty training my son, we did a chart for pee's and poo's. He'd get a sticker for each then at the end, he received a reward when he was completely potty trained. Now the problem is, he often waits until the last minute and runs in there, and pee's everywhere. I've decided to resort to the same thing. A chart for good, clean pee's and lifting up the seat because they also have to learn to make sure the seat is secure so that it doesn't fall on their little penis. He'll receive a sticker for a good pee, without getting pee on the seat, rim or floor and eventually some kind of reward. I'm debating on an ipod touch or ipad :-S as all his little friends have the darn things!!! He's completely hooked on angry birds and learning games on his friends ipads and ipods... If he gets one of these he has to work on his behavior and he's going to have to earn it.
I'm dreading this whole new process. Growing up, my cousins and I had yards, fields and hills nearby so we were always sent outside to play, now there is too much cement and so much electronics... :-(

Kathy - posted on 07/24/2012

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As long as he is peeing on the potty who cares if he is sitting or standing. When he is ready he will choose..Don't sweat the small stuff(this is small stuff) , choose your battles when you know you can win .

Lori - posted on 07/22/2012

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We started out training our boys to sit and pee, but then pee would spray from between the seat and bowl anyway. Standing seemed to make it fun, and since that's hpow Daddy pees, it makes them feel like big boys too. If they dribble on the seat or bowl they know its their duty to clean up as part of ttheir bathroom routine. Sometimes they forget or don't notice, but usually its not a problem. Like with anything it just takes time, patience and practice. Good luck!

Rachael - posted on 07/21/2012

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My son refused to sit while peeing, and would even stand up while doing #2 if he felt like he also had to pee. We just taught him early how to lift and lower the seat. He used to lean over the bowl and hold the underside of the seat, so he was always positioned so he never missed. getting him to go before he had an accident was another matter altogether. Good luck!

Donette - posted on 07/21/2012

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My son was taught to sit and that is how he peed until he was 3 1/2. Summer hit...he peed outside standing and that was it. He now stands. Do what is right for you. I never realized anyone judging me but I was probably too busy with the other kids to notice.

Kristin - posted on 07/20/2012

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We've taught my soon to pee standing up. He uses the the toilette and not a potty seat. He doesn't have too much of a mess except when he gets into a silly mood and makes a mess on purpose. I don't know but that was my first instinct when we first brought him to the potty and told him how to do it. We are trying to have him poop in the potty now. When he goes to sit on the potty to poop, he pees. But when he knows he has to pee, he'll go into the bathroom himself and stand and pee

Allanna - posted on 07/20/2012

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my son is 4 and he only sat to pee when he first started potty training (around 24 months) come 26 months he was in daycare and they taught them to stand and pee so he's always stood. Everytime he sits to pee he end up shooting pee like a fountain out on to the floor lol. He stands all the time and has no problem wiping the edge of the seat if he dribbles. He's actually more vigilent than my husband :-P lol

Lisa - posted on 07/19/2012

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Yeah my little boy pees sitting down because thats what we do in this house. And believe me i get plenty of judging for it.

Nana - posted on 07/18/2012

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I taught my boys to pee sitting down and my husband was taught to do the same....i am so thankful he was! He is no less of a man and his hygiene is great!

Teurai - posted on 07/18/2012

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In my culture the toilet seat is always up, its the girls who put it down to pee, boys have it easy- hey but peeing is peeing standing or sitting. the child will eventually do what he is comfortable with him as he grows up....

Kelly - posted on 07/17/2012

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have him put the toilet sit up while he pees but should teach him how standing up so he know what to do when he goes to school

Cleaver - posted on 07/17/2012

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see i have enough problems with my husband standing to pee he doesnt clean the seat if he gets any on it but my mom always said and i agree with it that if men were meant to pee standing in the house then there would be a urinal and there isnt opinions have given me alot to think about but i guess ill just do what i find easier which for now is sitting and i probebly will keep him (and noah when potty trainning comes up) to sit as long as i possibly can

Jennifer - posted on 07/17/2012

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While he is learning, throw a few Cheerios in the potty and tell him to sink them! It makes him work on his aim. I have 2 boys (plus one husband) and keeping potties clean is always an issue. Holding his "equipment" while aiming is a good initial teaching step. Also, teach him to potty and then wipe the toilet with a wipe or toilet paper. Learning to clean up after himself is a lot better than depending on you to do it. Having said all that, sitting to pee is a PERFECTLY okay option. They need to learn that skill anyway.... Good luck!

Lisa De - posted on 07/17/2012

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I am in the same boat. However I get my son to sit BC I am the one that has to clean so it is my way or the highway. I figure he will lean to do it at some point. At that time he will be old enough to clean up as well.

Ann - posted on 07/16/2012

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How old is he? I think it depends highly on age and height. I started with my oldest by having him sit down, two days after we started, a male in the house taught him to "pee like a man". It was a mess. He is 5 now and does fine standing up. My youngest started out by sitting as well and I let everyone know that he is to continue sitting until I say he's okay to stand. Once he got tall enough to stand and pee he was fine. He is 3 and does great. My boys make it in the toilet more than a lot of men I know. My rule is "If they're too short to reach, they need to sit".

Also, with my oldest, it was very hard for him at first. Because he was shown too soon to stand and pee, he pooped on the floor while standing at the toilet to pee. I'm not saying it's common, but that's what happened with mine...

Misty - posted on 07/15/2012

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I'm a nanny for 3 boys and with the youngest one we made him always sit to pee cause he would make a mess, he is 4 1/2 now and one day he was outside playing In the pool and had to pee so his dad told him to go in the bushes he refused and cried till he was let in the house so he could sit down to pee, we have since tried to get him to stand and pee and he just cries.

Deanna - posted on 07/14/2012

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There is nothing wrong with having a boy sit while peeing. It is cleaner and there are plenty of grown men that sit when peeing. Don't be pushed into it if you don't want to.

Babette - posted on 07/14/2012

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My son pees sitting down. He has no interest in standing. He is 4 years and almost 7 months old. Do not let them get to you. Let your son do it the way he wants to when he is ready.

Angela - posted on 07/14/2012

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my son stands to pee, unless pooping 3.5 years old, if he can't reach on the 'mommy/daddy' sized toilet then he stands on a stool where available. today he didn't hold himself so peed on the seat and the floor, but to be fair i have had the same issue with my daughter...and myself peeing on the seat. it doesn't take 2 seconds to clean it up so i for one don't mind, but the thing that really made it ok was he said ''sorry i weed on the seat mom!'' so he knows it is ok to make a mistake, but he knows that it is an accident too....ultimately teaching him that he has to wee in the toilet not outside the bowl. i bet everyone included in this post has missed the toilet bowl more than once in there lives...lol

Fran - posted on 07/13/2012

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Don't worry about what other people say. If he is comfortable sitting, let him sit. I taught my son to sit and he just pick up on standing. They will figure it out eventually. When he does decide to stand, leave some flushable wipes near the toilet and if he has a mess, have him clean it up. Don't sweat the small stuff.

Audrey - posted on 07/13/2012

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We are in the process of potty training and my two year old son refuses to pee sitting. He'd pee outside in the garden, standing in the pool etc. So when I finally got a bathroom stool he started peeing in the potty. I guess we aren't missing but that's because I'm always standing with him. I didn't think about the hitting the rim but when my husband has been with him he tells my son to wipe up after. So maybe coming from dad helps.

Megan - posted on 07/13/2012

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My son is going to be 3 and he stands but I never taught him he just picked it up from his dad and he does fairly well at aiming and cleaning up after himself, much better than his dad most of the time lol

Carey - posted on 07/13/2012

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From our doctor, he told us that it's best for boys to pee sitting down until they are able to stand with their peepee way above the seat. there have been many accidents in the emergency room where the seat has fallen down and caught the little boy's parts. not fun at all and easily avoided. My son is now almost 5 and still sits down. we will work on teaching him about standing but there is no rush :-)

Elfrieda - posted on 07/13/2012

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My husband pees sitting down in the house, standing up when there's a urinal or outside. So I don't see what the big deal is about your son sitting down to pee, surely it's not damaging his manhood? :P But my cousins were horrified by this, that I wouldn't want my little boy peeing all over the washroom as he tries to aim. What is their problem? He's not a girl if he sits, it's not a magical toilet seat that will take away his penis if he does the wrong position for the wrong elimination!



My opinion?

Some men are so concerned with "being a man" that they allow themselves to be boxed into a little rigid way of doing things. They're always afraid. Can't wear that, it has pink in it, can't say that, it seems effeminate, can't go to a classical concert, it's too girly. I'm not interested in making my son's mind so obsessed with whether he's a man or not that he turns into a bullying wimp. I have known quite a few men like that, and needless to say, they are no turn-on. My husband is nothing like that. He's genuine and he's interested in what he's interested in, he doesn't care what the "macho-factor" of it is. I find that more manly than scrambling around trying to make sure everybody thinks you're "a man". Certainly it's how I want my son to be, and all this "your son HAS to stand to pee or you're damaging him" business is just trying to put him into this tiny little man-mold that I think is more damaging than anything I'm doing to him.

Kelina - posted on 07/13/2012

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nothing wrong with sitting. my husband still does! his mom didn't want to deal with the mess so sitting it was. JJ sits to pee too and has no issue with it, thougfh he has learned to pee standing up outside as well.

Amanda - posted on 07/12/2012

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If you want him to stand you could always give him a target to aim for, cheerios in the toilet or you can buy targets that attach to the back of the toilet. With my son I tell him he needs to aim at the water and make bubbles.

Tiffiny - posted on 07/12/2012

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i taught my first son to pee sitting down and like u everyone was telling me that he needed to stand ..... i told them that that was dad's job that i was tired of cleaning pee up when he tried to stand , when they sit u say sit and point pee-pee down and it works.... when they stand they get distracted by everything from the window to the floor and pee goes everywhere their eyes do, so it is best when they sit

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Re: wee covered seat - teach them to lift the seat first!! But personally, I taught him to sit. Being a SAHM, it was natural for him to copy me and sit. Eventually though he asked to stand up and pee like his dad. We gave it a go and taught him to clean up any messes, this was around 4. It very quickly became too messy (he's highly distactible!), so we told him back to sitting. We've tried again once or twice (he's 7) and he doesn't clean up the messes so no standing allowed! He challenged it for a bit but now never questions it. He enjoys standing in public restrooms though where mum or dad are right there to help him clean up ;)

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