boys playing with their dinkers

Samantha - posted on 02/10/2013

OMG! How are you moms taking it so lightly? I wish I could. My little boy is 3 and has recently become so touchy with his Winkie. It started with in the mornings he gets upset because its big and cries well we have been having him go pee and that makes it better until he decides to (5min later) put his hands down his pants! I'm sorry but as a mom this upsets me. I'm not ok telling him to wait until he is in his room.... He is 3! He shouldn't be figuring out masterbation already!
First time a caught him messing with himself and I saw he got himself big i kinda freaked... And made him cry cuz I scared him :0( I felt horrible. I'm sure I'm the one who made this a big deal considering I freaked out and said dont do that! His dad doesn't respond and doesn't see it as a big deal. I'm so so uncomfortable sitting beside him or watching him in the bathtub and he is sitting there rubbing her playing with himself... Ah! I'm planning to take him to the dr - EVERYTIME he makes himself big he cries because of it and says he has to go pee pee. He probably pee's 50 times a day! Some nice advice? Pls no one bash me for my first bad reaction... IK I shouldn't have reacted that way but it was my first reaction. I held him after and said I was sorry but that he needed to know that no one is allowed to see or touch him there. That is only his and if anyone ever touches him there he is to tell mommy.

Diane - posted on 08/22/2010

im glad my 2 yr old dosen't give a crap about his penis yet, he has better things to do i guess lol

Jennifer - posted on 07/01/2009

HA you call it dinker too! Cool. I tell him stop it, and swat his hand away gently, just like picking his nose or sticking his hand in his mouth. I don't send any message at all. Just stop it. Luckily its not too bad, but its always in the tub with his sister who is 2. Oh my son is 3 1/2 too. So I think he is just maybe realizing they are different. But they could really care less about it so far.

Nicole - posted on 07/01/2009

this post made me smile! My guy at 12 mos started playing with his penis. I just ignored it and didn't make a big deal about it. Now (at 27 mos) he will do it when he is watching a movie or relaxing, he will put his hand down his pants. (Imagine Al off of Married with Children) And he is also infatuated with the fact that pee comes out of it, he can't wait to stop and start it. "Ready, set, GO!" and then he pees *giggle* and then he says "Stop!" and he makes it stop. What can you do??? ;)

Kamilya - posted on 07/01/2009

just explain to him what part of the body it is and let him go thro his phase if he's anything like my son he'll do it just so u can tell him 2 stop. Ignore it eventually he'll stop

Cathy - posted on 06/30/2009

lmao...where do y'all come up with these nicknames? c'mon...dinker? winkie?

How strange that the word penis is so disturbing for some moms to use around their kids, let alone on an adult forum - lmao !!



They do it 'cause it feels good and the more of an issue you make it, the more they'll do it to get a reaction. Just encourage them to keep it for private times (bathtub, bedroom) and remind them to never allow anyone else to touch them there.

Heather - posted on 06/30/2009

My son used to do the same thing, but we explained that thoes are his private areas and that it's fine if he touches it, because it's his, but he needs to only do it when he's by himself, like in the bathroom or in his room. And nobody that Mommy, Daddy and Grandparents are allowed to see or touch him there. Anyways, he's almost 4 now and he totally understands.

Sarah - posted on 06/28/2009

My 13mth old and 30mth old boys play with their bits all the time. The 30mth old tells me to leave his nappy off so he can tickle himself. lol.

I figure they aren't doing it as a sexual thing - its just something that feels good. Its like having your back tickled. I just leave him to it and tell him when I have his nappy ready he needs to give his penis a rest.

When he gets a little older I will tell him that its something that he will need to do in private but at this age why worry. Maybe I'm too relaxed about it though?! ha ha

Don't tell him it will fall off though - or any other myths. You don't want him to be confused or feel like he is doing something wrong.

Unfortuanely there isn't much you can do about him doing it in public except for telling him that it makes other people feel uncomfortable and he will have to wait till he is home in his bedroom.

Good luck. Hope it settles down for you - lmao

Kathryn - posted on 06/27/2009

My boyfriends mom said not to make a big deal out of its nermal and just to keep there pants on and they will get over it

April - posted on 06/26/2009

haha... I totally understand :) Funny story: My son was in the bathtub, he has this shark toy that has a trigger to open the jaw and "catch fishes" Well, I was getting his towel ready and I hear "ahhh Mommy, the sharks got my TAIL!!!!" I turned around and sure enough he has his litte "tail" in the sharks mouth. The funny part is that we have NEVER called it a tail... he came up with that one all on his own!
Ever since then, he grabs it any time he isn't wearing a diaper. I think its a phase every little boy goes through. Just keep telling him not to, explain what private means, and hopefully the phase won't last long... I think you'll just have to have some embarrassing moments :)

Michelle - posted on 06/26/2009

I tell both my children that YES it does feel good but its for private time. I also told them private time is bath time or when they are in there rooms by themselves. You have to let them know what private time means, that way they know the difference.

Kristy - posted on 06/26/2009

My son is 15 months and won't leave it alone. And his winkie is VERY ticklish, too. It's so weird.

Brandi - posted on 06/26/2009

3.5 and he's just now doing it?! You're LUCKY!!!



My boy has been a fan of his since a little over a year old. He'll get in the bathtub and I literally have to take his loofa from him as he likes to tickle his weiner with it. He'll all giggle, smile and just have himself a time. My Husband and I have tried to break him of this, but you might as well give up and admit to yourself that it's only going to get worse the older he gets.



Just be glad he's not doing it in public... I guess. That's how we feel, anyways! Haha :)

Brandi - posted on 06/26/2009

3.5 and he's just now doing it?! You're LUCKY!!!



My boy has been a fan of his since a little over a year old. He'll get in the bathtub and I literally have to take his loofa from him as he likes to tickle his weiner with it. He'll all giggle, smile and just have himself a time. My Husband and I have tried to break him of this, but you might as well give up and admit to yourself that it's only going to get worse the older he gets.



Just be glad he's not doing it in public... I guess. That's how we feel, anyways! Haha :)