Discipline advice!

Amanda - posted on 06/01/2017 ( 4 moms have responded )

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I am a 22 year old mom with boy / girl two year old twins. & they won't listen for anything! Timeout doesn't work, they think it's funny, my "stern" voice doesn't work they laugh, & I absolutely hate "spanking" my children. I feel like it teaches them it's okay to hit. & im usually aggravated when they don't listen & I don't disagree with parents spanking children I just don't believe it should be done while your angry. I need help!!!!!!

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Michelle - posted on 06/03/2017

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They are 2, it's normal for them to push the limits. You need to be consistent with your consequences.
Find their currency, it could be taking away their favourite toys or not letting them watch tv. You let them know what will happen if they don't listen and then follow through. You also need to separate them when they are naughty, that way they won't feed off each other.

Jessica - posted on 06/02/2017

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What works for my daughter who is 2 1/2 is taking toys away or restricting fun activities. It teaches consequences without hurting them physically. I've never had success with time outs.. good luck to you momma

Tiffany - posted on 06/02/2017

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I don't know how to work this wwbsite.. but I am very depressed.. my kids are my life and I went from having them 5 days a week to me visiting at their dad's 3 times a week. Dcs has gone away and my 8 month old is home but the other 2 from a different father is very controlling and my question is ....... my now 4 year old daughter is acting strange her love for me is different. Once she and her brother are home and with their new sister. Will their love come back for me ?

Grace - posted on 06/01/2017

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I understand exactly how you feel. I have twins of my own who are extremely hyper-active. Even though they're now five, they're still a nightmare from time to time. It's always hard figuring out how to discipline a disobedient child - especially when you don't believe in spanking. (I also don't like hitting my children.)

I use the timeout method at the moment, which does seem to work for me. If they do something really bad and/or borderline dangerous (like get near our pool when I've specifically told them not to or try climbing onto the kitchen counters) I do smack their butts or upper thigh. Just once and not really hard, but just enough where it scares them a little bit so they know they shouldn't do that.

A small tip for timeouts: Maybe try putting them in separate rooms. If they're close friends, like mine are, they'll try to be good to get out of timeout so they can play together again. (Obviously they're pretty young, so you shouldn't leave them alone - this is only a real suggestion if you have someone who can watch one or if you put one in a secure place like a play-pin.)
Another thing - don't let them see they're riling you up. I know it can be hard when they're being continuously disobedient, but most of them time my twins would do something bad just to get a reaction out of me. (I don't mean ignore them, since that can be just as bad. But don't yell or instantly jump to punishing them, since that is what they are looking for - considering they think it's funny. Instead, firmly tell them no and move them away from whatever bad thing they were doing. Soon enough they'll get bored.)

I'm no expert, so don't take any of my advice to heart or as a how-to-discipline-your-kid because I'm definitely not a perfect mom either! These are just some small tips that work for me. I hope things get better for you. ♥

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