Ear Piercing...Right or wrong?

Angelina - posted on 04/18/2012 ( 71 moms have responded )

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I had my daughters ears pierced when she was 3 months old. I thought it was the best thing because i had my ears pierced when i was just under a year. I hardly ever wear earrings as an adult but my ears wont ever close, so when i do decide to wear them its no big deal. My daughter never played with her earrings until she was about a year. now she pulls them out of her ears. Her holes arnt closed so for special occasions i put earrings on her. So what do you guys think? is it right or wrong for us as parents to decide to pierce our daughters ears or wait for them to decide?

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Erica - posted on 06/01/2012

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Steph I believe that that is a little over dramatic, you comparing ear piercing to having a child's genitals mutilated...

As I said before I chose not to because I think it should be the the child's choice, but making that strong statement is attacking her IMO and that's seriously not necessary. Aren't we suppose to be helping eachother by giving an opinion with respect?

Tori - posted on 04/30/2012

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My mother had my ears pierced when I was very young, and I always resented her for it. She would make me wear earrings even though I never wanted to - I was never a 'girly' girl, I never really liked jewelry.

Personally I think that body modifications (that's what piercings are, even if a mild form of it) should be a choice you make for yourself, not a choice someone else makes for you. Also at that young of an age there's too much risk for having her pull them out and hurt herself, and/or putting them in her mouth and accidentally swallowing them.

If you really want her to wear earrings what's wrong with clip-ons? Why is it necessary to poke holes in her?

Lisa - posted on 09/05/2012

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i have to agree with laura zoey black, just because it is ur child doesn't mean u can poke holes in them nilly willy, when they grow up they might not even want earings, Piecing should be a child decision when they are older enough to make it, my 2 year old will not be allowed to have piercing untill shes at least 14, then it will be her choice and her responsibility

User - posted on 06/17/2012

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No its your child, you do what you want. Many people get their babies ears pierced at 3 months. There is nothing wrong with that. Don't listen to nobody but you Mami.

Steph - posted on 05/30/2012

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Wrong, wrong, wrong. It's the same principle as I would apply ti of mothers who want to have their daughter's clitoris' removed and genitals mutilated at 3 yrs of age in some African communities. A child is not an object for you to decorate/mutilate as you please. My child is a perfect creation, a blessing from God, formed by his/her hand and therefore perfect as she is. Who are we to mutilate these beautiful little beings. When the child is mature enough to decide what kind of body they feel comfortable in then they can make that choice.

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Debby - posted on 11/09/2012

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Parents know whats right for their kids, & if its ok by their religion \ tradition why wait for the child to decide? She will eventuall pierce it anyway..

Rachel - posted on 10/30/2012

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I have no problems with ear piercings. My oldest son wanted his ears pierced when he was about 10. We got one done and then a few months later, he wanted the other done so we got that done.

When he got sick of them, he just took them out.

I never had any girls but if I did, I would have gotten their ears done when they were babies.

Holly - posted on 10/30/2012

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I had my daughters ears pierced when she was 3 motnhs old. She cried for all of about 5 seconds, def crys worse when she gets shots at her Dr.s office. She is 4 now and has never messed with them, they dont bother her at all and she loves getting new earrings to wear.... I say there is nothing wrong with it and here in the States we dont consider it to be a lower class issue if you pierce your childrens ears when they are infants...

Rachael - posted on 10/27/2012

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Its best for your child to decide whether she wants her ears pierced.

Neuro studies have shown that experiences of pain and trauma can lead to disconnection between primary caregiver and infant. She might not like having earrings. I remember when I was young, my mom pierced my ears and I was allergic to gold. It was uncomfortable. I was a kid, I just wanted to play. How is she going to be able to run around with earrings that might get caught as she's running?I think its important to let kids be kids. Why let them grow up so fast? Its ok to not worry about what your daughter's ears look like- she'll have many years of social stigmas to be exposed to. Why start now? We're all trying to make our kids look so cute, cuter than the other kids, when we all know deep down its just a competition between mothers on who's kid is the cutest. Why hurt our kids for our ego?

Diana - posted on 09/24/2012

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I don't think there is a right or wrong about this. I took my two daughters to have their ears pierced at my local hair salon when they were six weeks old. We have had no problems with them, the girls love wearing earrings and I am glad I did it. I realise that some moms prefer to wait ill their little ones are older which is fine as long as they do not condemn those of us who took our daughters to have it done when they are babies.



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Sarah - posted on 07/12/2012

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I've had mine pierced since I was 6 and I always wear earrings. I would assume that most women do. I had my daughter's pierced the same day as her 2 month shots. I think it's a safe bet that your daughter would eventually want pierced ears, so I don't think there's a problem with doing it young. The main thing I think, is to make sure not to let piercings get infected, because it can be really painful for the child. Mine stayed infected when I lived with relatives who continually put fake gold/silver earrings in my ears and then had to use the earrings to "repierce" my ears each time. My tomboy 6 year old daughter went through a phase for about a year, when she didn't want to wear earrings, but now she's back to loving them again. It's no biggie.

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For the longest time, I wanted to wait until my daughter wanted them done. Now she is 16 months old and I want to get them done. But knowing her she would be pulling them out or something like that. So I will still be waiting because I believe she isn't ready. But to each their own. I don't think there is anything wrong with getting a child's ear pierced at a young age.

Michelle - posted on 07/10/2012

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I think it is totally up to you. My hubby wanted to get my daughter's ears pierced as a baby as in his culture that is what is done. I disagreed and said she should be allowed to decide if and when. Well, she is 3.5 and had them done yesterday. She has been asking since she was 2.5. After a full year of asking I figured she was truly ready. Yes, I will have to help her take care of them. But she decided when and she picked out her earrings. And you know what - she didn't shed one tear. She was so excited she had a big smile on her face the entire time. All that being said, I don't think it is right or wrong whatever you choose. She is your child.

Merry - posted on 07/07/2012

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And it's NOT a personal choice if the person involved has no say!!!
That's a parental choice.
Their your children, that doesn't mean you can do whatever you want with them.
It's still their body.

Merry - posted on 07/07/2012

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OMG Rebecca hurst, it's a baby, not a doll! Piercing her four times by a year old is just excessive. It looks soooo tacky and selfish and vain.
Like a girl dressing up her baby doll, not like a mom who cares for her child.

ELENA - posted on 07/06/2012

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Its a personal choice of the parent. But we waited until
our daughter askef for it at the age of six and picked them herself.

Rebecca - posted on 07/05/2012

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My daughter got her 1st set @ 3 month and a 2nd set @ her first b'day. I think this is a all mother's choice. My baby girl I am going to get in September will be adored the same way - I don't regret :-)

User - posted on 07/04/2012

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Angelina at the end of the day, its your daughter and your decision. Who cares what others think. Are anyone besides yourself paying your bills. If no, then O Well.

Julie - posted on 07/03/2012

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sorry i am one of the NO you should not pierce anything under teenage years especialy not a baby. piercings can get infected and no matter how much anyone tells me they look after the piercing while iuts healing you cannot stop your child from touching it. then there is the pain factor. why would you wnat to put your child through any pain regardless of how long it lasts. and i also do not like the look of it either. it is your job as the parent to prevent pain if possible so why would you purposely do it
remember before nay one gets on their high horse with my answer that this is my opinion even if you disagree

Katie - posted on 06/30/2012

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I dont know that it is right or wrong but doing it so young there is a greater chance that the holes are not spaced properly on the still growing earlobes. As for my daughters, I told them they could get them pierced when they turned 11 if they wanted to because i felt there needed to be some things for them to look forward to...some rites of passage that happen when we leave childhood and enter adolescence and that seemed like a good one. My daughter is 8 and can't wait to "get her ears punched"...now an ordinary year birthday (11) will be extra special for her :-)

Lisa - posted on 06/30/2012

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Me personally wouldn't get my two year olds ear pierced, its extremely painful and traumatic for a young one to get them done (i remember when my sister got hers done she was three and screamed bloody murder they had to pin her down to do the other one) besides earings are just simply unnecessary for toddlers they don't need them, if my daughter wants to get them pieced 14++ fair do's her body her choice but i won't make it for her.

Jessica - posted on 06/30/2012

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I have a 2 n 5 year old girls, both have their done and they love them, they got their birth stones, there is nothing wrong with it, and everyone I know think its great but everyone is different and I dont see the problem in it, my girls know they are beautiful with or without them

Sharon - posted on 06/29/2012

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Every parent makes decisions that are right for them. So because this is your child the decision you have made is right for you. We have no right to tell you that you are wrong and can only tell you what we would do. In this situation I think I would leave it until mt child was old enough to decide if she wanted them. We all make decisions every day that other parents would consider wrong for them.

Gina - posted on 06/25/2012

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I would wait for her to decide/ask for them. I just don't see a need for jewelry on babies or very young kids, nothing good can come out of wearing it, other than they might lose it, have it stolen, choke or have some other hazard/accident as a result of wearing it. Let babies/kids be comfortable, don't submit them to these beauty standards that society has created. That's just me though, I realize that not everyone will agree.

April - posted on 06/25/2012

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I waited with all of my girls. I just felt like it should be their decision to make. I know lots of people that have pierced their little girls ears. I just didn't think it was the right thing for me to do. My oldest two daughters have gotten their ear pierced . An my 11 year old has decided she doesn't want hers done.

Laura - posted on 06/24/2012

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I think that the choice to put a hole in your flesh should be entirely your own. As parents we are caregivers, not owners. Would you tattoo your child?

Michelle - posted on 06/23/2012

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I didnt get my daughters ears done. I feel that it should be her decision, but in saying that if other people want to pierce their childrens ears thats their decision, I had the choice when I was older and although it was painful for me I wouldnt change the experience.

Merry - posted on 06/23/2012

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You could get an infection from anything, but when you are choosing to do something with no purpose other then vain desires, it is much worse then a kid having an accident and getting an infection.

No I'm not a dr, why would that matter?

And yes it looks vain and selfish to me, that's why I said it. Duuhhh

User - posted on 06/23/2012

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@Laura it makes mom look vain and selfish to YOU. You can get an infection from anything. Eat the wrong food- food poisoning, the list could go on and on and on. Are you a Doctor? Nurse Practioner? Oh ok.

Merry - posted on 06/23/2012

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I think it looks bad to pierce your baby's ears. It makes mom look vain and selfish. Like she cares more for looks then her baby being hurt.

It's also morally wrong IMO because it's perminent and can be uneven as they grow or they could never want earrings!

And thirdly it is a health risk. Baby could get an infection, or an allergic reaction, or they could rip the earring through their ear lobe or swallow a piece.

For those reasons and others I'd never pierce my daughters ears. I think it will be a present for her when she gets her first period as she enters womanhood. :)

Amber - posted on 06/22/2012

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I think it is your choice as the parent. But I got my ears pierced when I was a baby and my sister did also. I also pierced my daughters ears at 3months old. It wasnt too bad, they did it she cried for a few minutes and then it was over. Yes we had to clean them but she was so little that she never really messed with them. Although when she got a little older she did mess with them and take them out so I bought the screw on back ones that she couldnt get out.

Sharlene - posted on 06/17/2012

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I dont see anything wrong with piercing a childs ears,I also had mine done when I was a baby. It up to the parents I guess.

User - posted on 06/17/2012

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Randi you are so right trust me I don't think that they went through much pain, it was a quick pinch. Please when I got my ears pierced I was 5, and let me tell you they did it the old fashion way. I had to put ice on my ears for hours, until they were numb, then my aunt who pierced my ears stuck a needle and thread through them and I kept it like that for 2 weeks. Then after two weeks, you take an old broom with actual wicker/wood back in the day burn the ends and stick it in your ears for another two weeks, then it was done. Seriously lololololol!!!. So I know these babies aren't' hurting. THe funny thing is, it wasn't painful for me either. Go figure. Thats how they did it.

Randi - posted on 06/17/2012

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Thats right. Your baby, your decision. I personally think its adorable when babies have pierced ears. I just didn't want to have one more thing to worry about when they were infants. And since my girls were old enough to ask for them, i didn't feel like i was putting them through unnecessary pain. Since they wanted them and earned them(using the potty), it was like a milestone!
Many parents get their babies ears pierced as infants and theres nothing wrong with it.

Randi - posted on 06/17/2012

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We allowed our daughters (5 and3) to have their ears pierced when they got potty trained. They both wanted to wear "earrings like mommy" and it was a great incentive for them to be big girls!

Lori - posted on 06/17/2012

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It is a personal decision on whether or not you want to pierce your child's ears or not.

My opinion:
I have decided to wait and let my daughter show me that she is responsible enough to take care of them herself before we get hers done. I feel that this event in a child's life is a privilege not a right. They need to earn it. Plus, she may never want to get her ears pierced and if I did it for her when she was a baby I took that choice away from her. I am a little disturbed when I see a baby with their (girl or boy) ears pierced only because I wouldn't do it to my child but the baby I see is not my child so I tend to keep my comments to myself. I worry about the baby swallowing the earrings or getting them caught on something where they may be ripped out of the ears. I know that these are slim chances but with my child I am not willing to risk it. I am not able to wear earrings since i have an adverse reaction, my ears swell, turn BRIGHT red and radiate heat. My little sister had her ears done and the earrings fell through her ears leaving her lobes split, she can only pierce her cartilage. With this type of family history is were I mainly base my decision.

Jennett - posted on 06/05/2012

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I'm not going to commit to "right" or "wrong" but I think it's something to seriously consider before just doing it. Anything you do to your child that is permanent is something they have to live with all of their lives. For me, it was an easy decision NOT to have my daughter's ears pierced. I felt that it would be selfish if I were doing it because I thought it looked cute and girly. I think age 13 is a great time to pierce a child's ears (male or female) if the child wants it done. By 13, they are well aware of their physical appearance and usually begin to take a deeper interest in personal care. Depending on the maturity level of the child, set a "target" age for which you will allow them to do things like: get piercings, wear makeup, color hair, etc., then let them make the decision for themselves.

Angelina - posted on 06/04/2012

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TO: All the Ladies that have commented.....
Some of your comments have seemed rude, mean, and a little bias. Others have been very well worded and sound as if you are simply offering your opinion and your experiences which i appreciate. I started this thread as a way to converse about how others feel about this subject. As i thank you all for your input i would much appreciate that you leave negative words out of your comments. Please continue to offer your opinions and experiences but when they are your OPINIONS please state that it is your opinion not what others should or shouldn't do.

Thanks! :D

Heather - posted on 05/30/2012

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My parents waited until I was eleven before giving in and letting me get my ears pierced. I wanted them because everyone I knew had them or were getting them. I learned to clean the holes and the earrings and take care of it. I think that little girls look cute with earrings. But its a part of growing up and an important milestone to reach at the appropriate time.

Ann - posted on 05/29/2012

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I don't agree with it and I think a child should be able to ask for it, but I have never thought any less of a person for taking their baby to get his or her ears pierced. It's a matter of opinion, doesn't make anyone right or wrong.

Wendy - posted on 05/26/2012

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I don't feel it is a parents choice to make. What if she doesn't want her ears pierced? You have taken away a choice that she should be able to make when she is older. She may have never wanted to pierce her ears, but now she will never have that choice.

Liz - posted on 05/22/2012

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I don't care to inflict pain any more than I have too. I get concerned about infections. I have mine pierced but I was old enough to take care of them myself. Thats another thing, if you want another thing to take care of thats up to you!

Kelly - posted on 05/19/2012

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In my opinion, my daughter will choose to have her ears pierced just like I did. I feel like it's one more thing to worry about-(infections, swallowing an ear ring) so I'll wait until she's in elementary school before that discussion.

Tracey - posted on 05/15/2012

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Try the earrings with screw backs. They make them for babies. She won't be able to get those off. Also if you don't want her to play with them then dont make a game of playing with them with her. Wait until she is a little older and knows she can't play with them all the time.

Jennifer - posted on 05/04/2012

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I don't have a problem with it. We had our daughter's ears pierced when she was two months old. She never messed with them and now that she's 3 she doesnt ever wear them. But it's her choice if she wants to wear them or not. We usually put earrings in for special occasions which is rare and she loves them. She always tells people to look at them. She is however a tomboy and sometimes they just look akward on her but she likes them.

Angelina - posted on 05/04/2012

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Just to clarify, Since she started taking them out herself, i dont put earrings on her with the exception of special occasions and picture. other than that i dont let her wear her earrings.

**Jackie** - posted on 05/01/2012

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I don't think it is right or wrong. It is a choice you make. My daughter is 17 months and I am choosing to wait for her to want them done, doesn't mean I'm right or wrong. Some moms would prefer to do it when their babies are young so that they can clean them and take care of them. I am hoping it is a bonding experience for us, she can pick out her earrings and maybe I'll even get my ears pierced again. Whatever works for you is right. :)

Amanda - posted on 05/01/2012

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It's a personal choice you make for your daughter as a parent. I personally don't like seeing babies and toddlers with their ears pierced, but that's just me.

I have nothing against piercings, I have 4 holes in my ears and have had body piercings, but I am going to wait until my daughter is old enough to ask and care for themm herself.
She's 2 at the moment and has asked a few times for earrings like mummy but I still feel she is too young and I know she won't be able to leave them alone.

Suzie - posted on 05/01/2012

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it is a decision every parent makes i had my ears pirced at 25 when my 6 month old sisterin law had hers done. I chose not to do that to my child as I think it should be her choice

Charlotte - posted on 05/01/2012

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excuse me im from the uk and my daughter has her ears peirced shes 3 and had them done at 1, were r not lower class and its not frowned on at all. in fact a lot of kids from the uk have them. i take it ur not from the uk coz what u said is NOT true at all thank you......

Charlotte - posted on 05/01/2012

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i think if u want to do it then go for it if not then dont... i got my daughters done when she was a year old shes now 3 and she doesnt play with them coz when i turn them and clean them i have tort her not to touch unless cleaning them. and she loves them i think as long as there studs and not hoops it doesnt matter.

Jacqueline - posted on 05/01/2012

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I don't think there is a right or wrong. Your her mother, you know what is best. In many countries when a female is born her ears are pierced days after birth. (like me!) and It doesn't offend me either way. I wear earrings once in while so I am glad they are there when I need them. :)

Jennifer - posted on 04/24/2012

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I don't think it's "right" or "wrong". I chose not to pierce my daughters ears simply because I didn't like taking care of my own earrings when I got mine pierced and didn't feel like trying to take care of them on an infant. When she's older (somewhere between 10-13 depending on her maturity) I'm more than happy to take her to have her ears done and she can take care of them herself.

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