Lori - posted on 09/11/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
Where do I start? Excuse me if I waffle a bit!
Sadly, due to a job loss, my husband has had to take over the parenting role for our children - I say sadly meaning for me, because it has been good for the kids to have this time with their dad, but I am really, really, REALLY missing being at home with them.
I have noticed of late that since he has been at home, a certain friend is asking hubby and kids to come and play a lot at their house. Nothing is going on - husbands are friends and it is always when her hubby is there, but I find it a bit hurtful that she is inviting him often, but never, ever tried to become friends with me. I have tried really hard to be a friend to this person, and while we have had some issues, don't think I have been nasty or done anything to warrant being shut out. It is a shame because I know when hubby goes back to work and I return to being the stay at home parent, the invitations will cease, and my daughter will then lose contact with the child of the other family who she seems to enjoy playing with. My husband can't see that the invitations have been one sided since he has been at home, so I have given up trying to talk to him about it but part of me wants to see what happens when the roles are reversed.
It is great to have this forum to be able to discuss this sort of stuff.
I don't think I am being overly sensitive - I think some people just don't see how their behaviour affects others. Sometimes they just are too involved in themselves to think about how they can so easily hurt someone - imagine going to their home (as I said, husbands are the friends, I am not a close friend of the wife at all, just more of an acquantaince) with 3 other couples, and being the only one out of the women who is not included in the girly talks as the groups start to separate. I guess I am not really looking for advice - more just an opportunity to vent to some people that understand a little bit!