Katherine - posted on 08/23/2009 ( 21 moms have responded )
I don't know what to make of my son's nighttime screaming like-a-banshee wakeups. He is 20 months old and usually goes down in his crib at the start of the night just fine, without fuss; this, after his first 16 months co-sleeping while breastfeeding). He will wake up and be madly screaming at the top of his lungs for about 20-30 minutes; I can do nothing to comfort him it seems...ignoring it doesn't work, holding him doesn't work, talking to him doesn't either. One night a neighbor called the cops on us because of it (they ask me 'one of those nights, eh?').
A couple of times it seems he just conks out after the screaming, or in the case of last night, my partner came in and I think scared Roman out of his screaming.
Every other weekend, the stepkids come over and my boy is ousted from his room and his crib, and is back in bed with me (at which point, Daddy goes to the couch) - we will be moving this week, so Roman will finally have his own room, so that nonsense will be stopped. He also often will come into our bed in the middle of the night and since I have MS, (I have extreme issues with pain and fatigue) I take medicine before I sleep that makes me very groggy, so I allow this - my partner is of no help and would rather sleep and give up his spot in the bed, than work to find solutions to these nighttime issues. So it's all on me (I of course hear a lot of complaining "I've never heard a child scream so loudly" and "my other 2 weren't like this" blah blah blah)
I spent months and months hearing 'can't you just stick a boob in his mouth' when Roman would wake in the middle of the night and I was still breastfeeding, which I think prolonged a reliance on being pacified by the breast...
But this latest middle of the night screaming is less about wanting something from me; it's as though Roman is mad at being 'wakened' suddenly and seems totally beside himself...pulling at his hair, thrashing about, it's awful. Many people have suggested night terrors - has anyone else had experienced them??
I'm afraid my boy may have been set up to be a horrible sleeper forever. I don't know what to think and do anymore. And yes, he has a great routine at bedtime and is currently not having issues with ear infections like he has had in the past (that was horrible for sleeping). I think moving stress i affecting all of us, and I'm also worried that the transition will disrupt everything further or differently. Any words of advice? I know this may just be a phase too, but right now I feel quite helpless.