getting her off the pacifier

Jasmine - posted on 09/05/2009 ( 42 moms have responded )

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well my daughter is like super attached to her binky! She sleeps with it, talks with it in her mouth, and would eat with it if she could! How do i get her off of that thing?

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Krista - posted on 09/05/2009

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I'd start in steps. Take it away from her during the day. Only allow her to have it when she sleeps. Once she's used to not having it during the day, take it away at night. My son didn't have a soother during the day since he was one. He's nearly turning 2 now and I took him off his at night already. It took a total of 3 days before he didn't cry for it anymore.

Jess - posted on 09/10/2009

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my daughter was 3 also & only took hers for bedtime. when it came time for bed one night i dint give it to her & she asked for it. she cried for 1/2 hour then fell asleep. she did it agin for 2 more nights and that was the end of it.

Julie - posted on 09/06/2009

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Ok so here's my story..My daughter only used it to go to sleep as well...We noticed she started chewing on them and ripping them..My husband I decied we were not going to buy anymore..so we lined them up on her dresser...and everytime she chewed a rip in it we showed it to her and let her through it in the garbage..everynight we would go to the dresser and she would pick another one and we would count how many are left..so when we got the last one..we told her when she rips this one she has to through it away and there will be no more...so it happened and she said "bye bye" to it and tossed in the garbage...that night she pointed to her dresser for the nuk and we showed her they were all gone and she was a little upset but didn't give us any trouble because she knew it was coming...oh and it helped her with counting!!! Good luck to ya!

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Candice - posted on 09/12/2009

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i've been keeping my daughter from using it during the day...and now she started sucking her thumb instead. the pacifiers today are made to not hurt their teeth...but thumbs aren't. i choose pacifier over thumb any day. i still take it from her when i can distract her with other things, but when the choice is thumb or pacifier...i go with pacifier. (she's only 16 mos. i still have time)

LaDonna - posted on 09/12/2009

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I like Ambers idea its very positive however we didnt use binkys but to bottle break I hit the one year mark and depending on the kid either threw them all away or let the kid throw them away. Took a day or two (HONESTLY) of issues but we started with sippy cups so wasnt usually an ordeal GOOD LUCK and stay strong in whatever you choose

Jade - posted on 09/11/2009

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i have the same problem with my two year old. she says she needs it and throws a tantrum, but im getting there we only have it at nite and i also tell her that she is a big girl and bigs girls dont need them. But im unclear how to get her from using it at night?

Shayla - posted on 09/11/2009

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I really had to be strong and stand firm but my son was kinda easy. How I got him off was when he was 18 months he had a really bad cold so he was breathing through his mouth alot. So one night I took it out of his mouth and never gave it back. At that time he was still taking a bottle at night and that's when he stopped the bottle as well. I saw that as long as I gave it to him he took it and I didn't want his teeth/mouth to get messed up either. Good luck

Dora - posted on 09/11/2009

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this is something, I myself and going through with my 2 year old girl. I told her that she can only use her chucho(binky) at bed time. that means not having one in sight until bed time or nap time. you have to be consistent in order to work. It will be hard hearing her cry, but she will get the idea my little one has had it since birth and we have put this to practice about 2 months now and it seems like its working.

Paula - posted on 09/11/2009

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Quoting Jasmine:

getting her off the pacifier

well my daughter is like super attached to her binky! She sleeps with it, talks with it in her mouth, and would eat with it if she could! How do i get her off of that thing?



My daughter was attached to her pappy!!!  Someone told me to cut the whold end off. I tried this it was so easy I couldnt believe it. She would say "It has a hole in it." She did great. I told her big girl teeth made the hole. She hasnt had it in 2 mts. Good luck



 

Dawn - posted on 09/10/2009

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What I did with my first two children was we started talking about things being broke. When we'd find torn paper or the such, it was broke and needed to be thrown away. Then we'd take one binky every couple of days and snip the tip off of it. When they would go to suck on it, it wasn't right, it was broke. So we'd say, it's broke and they threw them away on their own. We're slowly implimenting this with our youngest. She only gets it to sleep with or in the car now, but she's pretty stubborn so hopefully it works three times.

Teresa - posted on 09/10/2009

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tie them all to a balloon and say, "You are getting so big now...You want to send your paci's to heaven for the babies? That is what I did with my daughter when she was 3. There was not one tear shed, she thought she was being such a big girl sharing them with a baby. And, she felt empowered too. Great self esteem booster. Much better than making the child suffer, or making them feel like you forced them into it.

Debbie - posted on 09/10/2009

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IF YOU ALL HAVE TROUBLE GETTING YOUR KIDS OFF BINKIES, YOU SHOULD NEVER HAVE STARTED USING THEM IN THE FIRST PLACE, I NEVER USED THEM, PEOPLE KEPT BUYING THEM FOR ME AND I KEPT THROWING THEM AWAY.

Mandy - posted on 09/10/2009

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We did the binky fairy thing also. But what also helped was a girl I work with was expecting at the time. So i told my daughter that the binky fairy was taking them to a new baby that needed them. It helped and shes been binky free for about two years now. Also I heard someone tied them to helium balloons and "SENT" them to the binky fairy for new babies. Make it a game about growing up. As long as they are helping with it you should be ok. But it will be hard the first couple of days

Kasie - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have the same problem! My daughter would do anything with her pacifier! I have been taking it away during the day but when she is tired she freaks out because she doesn't have it. I am a single mom who works late (3-11) and by the time I am home from work shes a sleep and I dont want my babysitter to have a hard time. Any suggestions?

Andrea - posted on 09/10/2009

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I agree with having them throw it away! My kids are REALLY close in age so I got them to both throw them away at the same time. I just talked to them about becoming a big boy and a big girl. I told them that babies have paci's and that if we give them up we become a big boy/girl and we get to do more stuff...For example my son loves to play with his tools. So I just told him that babies can't hammer stuff. It was a little rough the first week but then they were fine.

Jaydee - posted on 09/10/2009

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i found it so easy my daughter only got off her pipe at 2 x-mas last year we prepared her 4 santa n told her santa said he wants her dummy we told her 3 days prior then finally the big day come we took her in2 the arcade n told her santa was takin it although santa's helpers looked at me strange i didn care i was on a mission lol we walked up 2 santa n he glanced down at my baby girl n came out with 'o this yucky thing must be mine can i have it so i can show you a magic trick?' my little girl looked at him full of apprehension he plucked it from her mouth put it behind his back n pulled out a lollipop lol that nite she asked 4 her 'nummy' i reassured her sants said she was a big girl n that she didnt need it we havn looked bak old saint nick is jus around the corner if you can hold off that long good luck

Katarina - posted on 09/10/2009

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i just took it away at times like when my son was awake and then only give it to him when he slept and sooner or later he just gave it up it took me two months and it was gone. also i took it at an early age like when he was 18 months.

Amber - posted on 09/10/2009

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We only allow her to have it in her bed, so when she eants it I tell her she has to get in her bed and she can have it.. then when she gets out we have to leave it there. The other day she was walking past her bed and actually wasved bye bye at her binky.. It was cute.. My next step is to get it away from her in bed..

Cari - posted on 09/10/2009

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I have to say - do it as early as you can. I am having the worst time and my little boy just turned 3 and it has gotten worse. I am just going to have to bite the bullet and listen to the crying. We have tried cutting the tips, sending them in the air to babies that need them with his birthday balloon and sending them to the passy fairy (mailing them). Nothing seems to work so I guess I am going to do cold turkey...I will let you know.

Celia - posted on 09/09/2009

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My daughter is 2...and is so attached to that binky!...pray for me! We know it's time for it to go...tough times ahead! ;)

Carolyn - posted on 09/09/2009

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you have to take all of them away and ignore the crys or screams she will get over it. If you see pictutres of childrens teeth from using pacifiers you would take them a awy with out any hesitation....it is for her own good....

Claudia - posted on 09/09/2009

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My son is two, and he loves his binky. I am taking it sloow. First we told him that binky is for slleping, so, he only have his binky at bedtime and naps. The first day it was hard, but we did not gave up, and the second day was fine. He need to pu the binky away as soon as he is outo of the crib. I open a draw and My son puts it inside and close the draw himself. I give him a hi-5 and tell him that he is a big boy ant that I am proud of him. I do it every time he naps or wakes up in the morning, and he feels proud. Next time is to take the binky from his naps, than from the night time.. This way it is not traumatic for him. I am learning as I go.

Sharon - posted on 09/09/2009

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This is how we got Jack "off" his pacifier at 28 months of age. They came in packages of two so he knew there was a blue one and a yellow one. The first one I cut the tip off w/sissors so it would no longer be "suckable". I told him it was broken. I gave it to him to see for himself he then gave it back to me. I said it's broken we have to throw it away, which he did. (hint if you do this remove the pacifier from the trash and throw away later, you dont want your kid pawing through the trash) He later wanted it and I reminded him it was broken and we had to throw it away

Leah - posted on 09/08/2009

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my son went off his dummy when he was 5 months old just didnt want it anymore but my mum told me how to do it you slowly break it down like you let her have it all day then in a few days let her have it half a day then after a lil while you break it down to just afternoon then after that just bedtime then advantally take it completely off her

Cindy - posted on 09/08/2009

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Something I did with my son he was 3 and had a hard time getting him off his so at his birthday party I let him know that his family and friends were coming over and bringing gifts but he had to trade that pacifier and thank god it worked. Good luck with it and I hope you find something that works.

Karen - posted on 09/08/2009

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Neither of my children have ever had a pacifier, but apparently if you cut a hole in the end of it, it will very quickly lose its appeal. Good luck!

Angela - posted on 09/07/2009

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During the day, i made sure that she was distracted with other things so she would forget about the pacifier and at nights and her naps, i replaced the pacifier with a 'sleep blanket'. My little girl is 15 months now and has been without a pacifier for nearly 6 months without any issues with her getting herself to sleep on her own. The first couple of nights/naps she would cry for about 10 minutes but her blanket against her face kept her warm and happy eventually. I admit, i still have her pacifier in her room JUST IN CASE but i think i can now safely throw it out :-) Good luck

Candice - posted on 09/07/2009

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one woman on a past post had a great idea i want to use myself when it's time. (pre-arranged with a store clerk)..she got her child to give the soother to the clerk as payment for whatever toy they wanted. then when the child asked for the soother, she said "no, you gave it to the lady for the toy, remember"...and he was fine! lol. i thought it was awesome!

Alyson - posted on 09/07/2009

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The binky fairy is a great method. My son LOVES his binks, I use it as negative punishment. If he does something minor, like throw something after i've told him not to, i take the binky away for the day. Whatever you do, be consistant.

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This all sounds like good advice. My worry is that if we throw hers out, she will take her baby sister's nuk and use that. Who knows? So far she is getting the notion of big girls (she is 23 months) and little babies (sister is 5 months)

Christina - posted on 09/07/2009

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I had the same problem with my son and i tried cutting the end of the pacifier off a little bit every few days until there was nothing for him to suck on and then he didn't really want it anymore. Then I told him that it was no good anymore and asked him to throw it in the garbage and he did and never asked for it again until we were in Wal-mart and we went by the aisle where the sell the pacifiers and he said a new sucky Mommy and I told him no they don't have any left.

Tanya - posted on 09/07/2009

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My daughter is going to be three in december and she still uses a binky at night. I think since we are potty training, we are going to ditch the binky too. What doesn't help is that my husband and I are staying with my mom and stepdad so when I finally get her done with the binky, they cave and find one. Once I get wean THEM from using the binky, i don't think that i will have a problem with weaning her. I told her that big girls don't use binkies and that her princesses on her panties dont like them. So far so good

Amy - posted on 09/05/2009

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My child is not old enough yet but i have other friends that had this problem and they said they just threw them away and told them they got lost and when they would go to the store she would tell her kids they did not have any and eventually they did not care. try to also give them something in place of it. like a toy or stuffed animal or something. or if you are going to do it one step at a time let her know that she can only have it at bed time. then eventually try to get rid of it altogether. just remember every child is different and you have to do what works for you. good luck!

Carolyn - posted on 09/05/2009

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whew! this was so hard for me because my sons pacifer was a soother oh man it came in handy at church, and also when he woke uo in the middle of the night. I wondered how am i ever gonna get this away from him. the thing is a kept misplacing it & he kept biting them (yeah he was 1) What i did was hide it. Gave to him only doing major meltdowns and @ night. Then I slowly stop giving it to him. It was a hard frustrating time, sleepless and all. but this doesnt last long at all. You HAVE to be strong trust me I use the pacifer 24/7 with my son and daughter but i love that its over. PATIENCE and ENDURANCE. don't give in i've been there and it will get better. Trust me ok

Jasmine - posted on 09/05/2009

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My daughter is 13 months and thanks for all the suggestions! I know a few ppl said to take them at night but honestly thats the time when she wants it the most! I know its going to be hard but im reasy to try! PRAY FOR ME! lol

Sheila - posted on 09/05/2009

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Ours happened by accident. We had to head out of town in a hurry for my dad's fineral (sad I know) and we completely forgot his favorite one at home....so we just decided right then and there, we would give it a try....and POOF, he didn't want it at all. Not even during our 12 hr drive!

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I made a game out of it with Tayden, everytime he would find a passy, we would throw it away and he would get a reward for growing up to be a big boy, or you could try cutting the tips off of them, that way that cant suck on them and they get made at them and they throw them away themselves. Good Luck!! and remember once you start don't go back, it will just get harder.

Amber - posted on 09/05/2009

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My daughter was 2 1/2 and she wouldn't go anywhere with out it.. So someone told me about the binky fairy.... you have her put all her binkys under her pillow and the binky fairy will leave her something, a toy, money, anything.... I set a date that the binky fairy was coming and kept telling her about a week before.. and when you take those binkys throw them away... don't give in mom.. I know it's hard

Amber - posted on 09/05/2009

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My daughter was 2 1/2 and she wouldn't go anywhere with out it.. So someone told me about the binky fairy.... you have her put all her binkys under her pillow and the binky fairy will leave her something, a toy, money, anything.... I set a date that the binky fairy was coming and kept telling her about a week before.. and when you take those binkys throw them away... don't give in mom.. I know it's hard

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