Hallie - posted on 09/12/2009 ( 3 moms have responded )
Hello Moms! What do you do when your childs grandparents insist on giving them foods you don't approve of and do you ever run into the comparison of other grandchildren?
Background: My daughter was born 11 wks early, she is currently 2 yrs old. My neice was suppose to be born 3 mos before my daughter but instead, they are 3 weeks older.
My BIL & SIL give my niece all sorts of foods that both DH & I don't give to our daughter (such as brownies, chocolate icecream, candy etc). When we have get togethers with my inlaws and my niece is there they expect my daughter to eat the same foods she does. When menstion to them that we would prefer that my daughter not eat icecream at 8:00 at night because she would end up bouncing off the walls they give me a nasty look and than go overboard with talking to my niece about how good the icecream is making my daughter jelous and wanting the icecream even more after we said no. I am getting to the point where I just want to pull out my hair and yell: These are two different kids yes they are the same age but they come from different situations and we raise my daughter different from what my SIL/BIL do!!! My niece loves Dora and my daughter shows no interest at all. She prefers Mickey Mouse, Elmo, Sesame Street etc. Instead of getting her things (step stool, books etc) in what she likes its all based on what my niece loves and my inlaws expect my daughter to know who Dora and Diego is and when she doesn't they look to us saying doesn't she love Dora and Diego?? Once again both DH & I say no she likes these things.....and everytime we are over there they ask (which is every weekend).
Do you run into this with your nieces/nephews?? How do you handle it?