Have you ever liked a parent and not their child?

Elizabeth - posted on 09/08/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )

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My friend's recently turned 3 year old is a terror! Always using my son as a hitting/punching bag every time we have a play date with them. Everytime he hits my son she is on top of her son about it but Im at the point that I dont want my son to be a human punching bag to this kid. I don't think her style of discipline. How do you address this to her? I know its just a phase but seriously what would you guys do? I've been spending less time at her house because of this. It started in January. My son towers hers and is not a hitter unless provoked.

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Elfrieda - posted on 09/08/2012

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My friend's youngest daughter is aggressive, too. She has grabbed my son's face and made it bleed, pushes him off things, and pulls his hair. It looked particularly silly because he's several inches taller and quite a bit heavier than her, but he's the only and she's the youngest of 3, so their experiences in life have been quite different. I was following him around to protect him, but tried to explain that when he doesn't want her to be close to him or she hits him, etc, he should point his finger at her and say, "NO!" I practiced this with him every time we were about to see them, and it worked. It's been a few months, and she has mellowed out and he has gotten more assertive. (they're both 2) Now he will push her away, but he also pushes other kids even if they are just yelling. :/ So it's not perfect, and now I need to often talk to him about being gentle and sharing, but at least I don't have to worry about his safety. Teach your son one or two things to do if your friend's son hits him, like shouting no and putting both hands out to keep him at a distance, and especially if he towers over him it should work pretty well.

Katherine - posted on 09/10/2012

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Oh my gosh Jessica! I would NEVER take my child around that kid again!

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Jessica - posted on 09/10/2012

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i have the same problem my daughter is 21/2 and its a 4yo bulling her i taught her at an erly age not to hit, but this boy's perents do not disaplin him, all they say to him is "darrling don't do that" today he was chasing my daughter with a real hammer!! he has tryed pushing her infront of cars and constantly takes her thing just to tease her he constantly is knocking at our door at all hours of the day asking if my wee one is going out to play i feel bad saying no but i am afraid that he will do real harm to her.

Katherine - posted on 09/09/2012

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You tell tell him to say I don't like that! Too. Elfrieda gave some good advice. Just make sure your son is consistent with it. I always hate to see a kid picking on my baby. Mine is 3 and she fends for herself lol, she'll hit back. But she has an older sister so that helps.

Elizabeth - posted on 09/08/2012

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Thanks, I will try that. My son is 2 1/2 and is just starting to say words. Your right about experiences. My friends son is the youngest of 2 and he can talk and do more that what my son can do or say. None the less it doesn't make it right. I will try working with him on saying no on someone hitting him. Hopefully that will work. I do the same on when we are around him watching over my son to make sure hes not going to be attacked.

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