Helen - posted on 11/12/2011 ( 3 moms have responded )
This has been an ongoing problem for a while - not constantly but in episodes and it's getting worse.
We have a bedtime routine (tea, TV [cbeebies bedtine hour], teeth, wash or bath, PJ's, 2 stories, bed, cuddle, kisses and tuck-in, light out) which, while not totally rigid, is fairly well adhered to.
Sometimes he will go for weeks where he goes to bed just fine. Then there are other times, like now, where he refuses to get into bed at all.
We had DS2 in April and moved him into the same room as DS1 in September, but this was going on before then.
We have tried all sorts of things to get him to go to bed, including rapid return (that just winds him up more), controlled crying (that wakes DS2 up and makes the situation worse), sitting with him (he just sits/stands and refuses to do anything), taking turns to put him back to bed after he's cried for a little while (doesn't work), shouting at him (he goes to bed but doesn't settle - but then neither would I if I was shouted at!).
Some times he'll have a cuddle and kiss goodnight, and although he doesn't go to bed he's calm, plays a bit, and does eventually go to bed himself.
Sometimes he refuses a kiss etc then creates when we leave, demanding to be tucked in.
Tonight was the last straw - he went to bed, had cuddles etc, then got back up, demanded to be tucked in when I left, then did the same again, and again.
I feel like either getting the travel cot out, or putting the side back on his cotbed so he can't get back out. I am at my wits end, and don't know what to do anymore.