Help!!! My son all of the sudden cries all the time.

Heather - posted on 10/19/2009 ( 4 moms have responded )




Every time I try to lay him down for bed and even when I drop him off at daycare he screams and cries and wont let go. Please someone help, it is breaking my heart. He never used to do this, it started all of the sudden. I've tried everything I can think of at night. Cuddling him, being firm with him, night light, no night light. Nothing in our daily routine changed, this came out of knowhere! He screams and has to cry himself to sleep every night. It can last up to 40 minutes. I feel horrible what can I do!!?? Other people I have talked to say that it is just the terrible two's. If so, how long does this last?! Is there anything I can do??


Carla - posted on 10/19/2009




My son was very clingey, this is what i did and it worked, tell your little one your nipping out for a few minutes and put your jacket on then head to your front door, he will probably cry but just ignore him for a few minutes then go back into the room and take your jacket off and tell him "im back" in an enthusiastic tone and tell him you'll always come back try that a few times leaving it longer between each time you come back, when he cries at night, just let him cry it out, if he gets back up out of bed just take him back and let him cry it out again he will eventually learn that your not going anywhere you could also try giving him a comfort blanket or teddy with your scent on it to help him sleep, my 2 year old is now at the stage where he climbs on things to switch the light on but i ended up taking the lightbulb out : )

Alyssa - posted on 10/19/2009




I know it can be rough but you might just have to stick to your guns and let him cry it out. If he doesn't act like he doesn't feel good, then he might just need to do that. 2 year olds are very smart and they know when they have you wrapped around their little pinky! ha! Trust me, I know, my son is 2 also and he knows when I am going to cave so I have had to start really cracking down on him. I hope this helps and just hang in there :-)

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Amy - posted on 10/19/2009




I've gone through a simlilar experience with my daughter, who turned 3 in April. She went through on and off phases of it. I asked the doctor about it and even read books about it. I found out that it is a form of seperation anxiety. Children go through it in spurts. Most of the time, it starts out of no where. It can last anywhere from a few weeks to a few months. I would continue to give him love when he's upset, but explain to him what's going on. Ex: Mommy has to go to work, so you get to play with your teachers and friends. Mommy is going to put you to bed, but if you're good and no crying, I'll come check on you in a few minutes. I have had to use both of those with my daughter. The later of the two, has becoma extremely helpful at bedtime. Once she realized, that if she didn't cry or throw a fit, I would come back in later to check on her, the easier it has gotten. I hope this helps! Good luck and stay strong!

Marie - posted on 10/19/2009




I went trough the same thing with my daughter and she will be three in Nov. She never cried that much until she became a toddler and started wanting things her way or no way. So what I did was everytime it was bed time or time to go to school I always explained to her that she can not have her way all the time and this is what has to be done and that crying will get you no where. it will only get things taken away from you. My daughter still sleeps in the bed with me so at night when she would start the crying game I would tell her to go into her own room and she couldn't come out until she got herself together then we could lay down and go to sleep. I started applying that everything that was her new punishment take all the toys away and come back when you calm down. It worked he is just testing you so you can give in and baby him, but that is the begining to a very dangerous cycle.

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