Emily - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )
Emily - posted on 05/25/2010 ( 45 moms have responded )
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Caroline - posted on 07/04/2012
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I am so grateful to the person that told me about this incredible technology. She now has a life now ….. and so do I. It’s now over 14 yrs later and she continues to take these special nutrients, she has attended normal public schools, she is almost 16, in a few weeks she begins driving lessons and has just started an after school casual job in a fast paced food takeaway.
Kelly - posted on 06/01/2010
my son is 3 and he is just starting to speak...he was speaking jibberish for his first 3yrs of life. i had a speech therapist come into my home to work with him because like you i was concerned. he still isnt speaking alot of things, but he is communicating with us. he still needs continuous speech therapy. also, look into taking him to the dentist. I hear that sometimes the childs teeth have something to do with their lack of speech. hope this helps.
Angelica - posted on 06/01/2010
My son just turned 2 today. He isn't speaking much either. He can say a few different words and he tries to imitate people. He was getting frustrated as well so I decided to try other techniques of having him communicate. (I didn't speak a single word until I was four and when I finally spoke, it was fully sentences) He's communicating well with sign language now since it's easier for him to learn that speaking words himself. He knows what everything I say means so I'll let him catch up on his own time. I don't see anything wrong with him since I know first hand it can be hard to talk.
Jonelle - posted on 06/01/2010
i am having the same issue. my son is 3 and he had me worried for a long time.i think that i was because of his older sister though. she is ten but she has cerebral palsy so she can not talk, i think that he saw that she didn't talk so he figured that he does not have to. just recently he started repeating what i say. he understood come here his name,he is just stubborn and is taking HIS time lol. so don't worry.your baby will talk, they do it when they want. have a great day
Donna - posted on 06/01/2010
my son was the same way. He is now 21 n still has a little speech impediment. It started out really bad but we worked w him n got speech therapy n it helped too. which yours may have not trouble w his speech. some kids just wait then all the sudden talk your leg off. each child is different. my daughters were fast talkers. I have wondered if it has to do w gender? I still don't know but as long as your are talking to him and telling him stuff like this is nose etc what the food is etc he will catch on and be talking in no time. If your are really worried you can have a hearing check done on him too.
Emma - posted on 06/01/2010
I have a brother who is 2 and does not speak much just makes noises. We know that he can speak if he wants to because he use to say alot of words then when he came back from holiday with my grandparents he did not speak much anymore. My mum spoke to the health vstor which gave him talking together sessions. It has helped him start speakng again but still not too good. Also sitting on the floor with the child and letting them pick toys up and pointing at pictures in books could help. When they do this just tell them what it is them stop talking to them for a minute and see if they reply. This had a big effect too.
Dawn - posted on 05/31/2010
I agree with Amanda. You should mention it to his doctor.
Jolyn - posted on 05/31/2010
My oldest started speaking spanish first then stopped totally. He was confused if he should speak spanish or english. When he did start talking at 3.5yrs he knew everything full conversations!! He is so smart, no worries!!
Clare - posted on 05/31/2010
My Kids Weren't Really Talking Till Around 2, But Now They Don't Stop..If He Can Understand Phrases Like Get Mummy's Shoes, Go And Watch Telly, Give Me A Hug Then You Haven't Got Nothing To Worry Bout, I Find Boys Find It Harder To Get The Words Out And Soon You Won't Be Able To Keep Him Quiet..
AIESHA - posted on 05/30/2010
I have the same problem. My son understands directions and things I tell him to do like bring a certain object to his dad or grand ma but he just doesn't say many words. The doctor said it is okay but if he is not saying more words by the age of 2.5 I should be concerned. Don't be alarmed all babies move at his or her own pace.
Cheryl - posted on 05/30/2010
Just from my personal experience I would not worry too much if he can understand what is said to him and respond in his own way he is fine. I was worried when my son was around that age and not talking as much as other kids I saw his age. My doctor told me it had a lot to do with him not being in daycare and being around a lot of kids on a regular basis. I made a few adjustments like taking him on play dates and to the park more often and now he won't be quiet...lol. All kids start talking at their own pace.
Carminda - posted on 05/30/2010
Hi, i'm in the same boat here! My youngst son is turing 3 in 3motnhs and doesn't say much! He has key words but sounds like an 18moth old baby?! He can say food when hungry and piepie and.. but don't talk no!!
ELENA - posted on 05/29/2010
Don't worry about it. My son is now 2yrs & 5 mnths and just began to talk a few weeks ago. It also had me worried. The first week he began day care which was a few weeks ago he started talking. Before you know it you will be telling him to be quiet.
LOL & take care & Good Luck
Jenni - posted on 05/29/2010
just give him some time, he will come around
Kimberly - posted on 05/29/2010
You are a great mother. You are looking into what you feel isn't right. Have his ears checked and the speech therapy stuff. My daughter is a chatter box of unknown words and some know. My baby brother is 4 months older than her and is having tubes put in his ears and he had to have is tongue clipped when he was 1 week old or so. Your son my have something very simply keeping him from talking. Or hearing properly. Go with the sign language till you can get an adequate response from a Dr. If one tells you he is just developing later but you still feel something is being overlooked. Trust your motherly instinct. Get that second opinion. Be strong mama. Your son loves you and you are an awesome mom.
Angela - posted on 05/29/2010
More than likely there isn't anything wrong my I spent the first 2 years thinking I couldn't wait till he could walk and talk and now I spend my time telling him to sit down & hush......lol
Fiona - posted on 05/29/2010
Firstly you are NOT a bad mother. Some children do not talk because they feel they do not need to as they can communicate in other ways. Your little boy will catch up I'm sure but I bet you know exactly what he wants whenever he gestures at you
Hope this helps xxx
Teresa - posted on 05/29/2010
Hes two yrs old? Dont worry about it too much it takes time someone in my family was once like that but you know what? actually his son was 3yrs old when he started talking.Him and his girlfriend presistantly kept asking his doctor why wasent he talking yet and there wasent nothing the doctor can say to the parents,so they tried taking them to speech classes and still nothing. Me personally you cannot rush anybody to do something whenever hes ready to talk he'll talk if he's using guestures then thats all he thinks is enough for everybody to understand as far as pointing at things he wants but. But i think you should wait it out it'll all come3 to him and another thing let him be around children his own age so he can feed off them. im telling you try all different kinds of things everychild learns his or her way.
Roshanda - posted on 05/29/2010
Your son will talk it's all in timing.
Melissa - posted on 05/29/2010
my daughter was almost three before she really started talking but her older sister was talking before she was one. all children are different and unless you have that gut instinct that something is wrong I believe that everything should be ok. if he is responding and understands like the one lady said perhaps you could ride it out a little longer. if he is not hearing or comprehending then obviously a doctors opinion would be needed. either way you will be fine and your son will be too. ;-)
Regina - posted on 05/29/2010
buy your baby can read it will help its alot of money but it works
Diane - posted on 05/28/2010
I went and am going thru the same thing with my son who is 2 yrs. 10 mo. He said about 10 words and not too clear by 20 months. His pediatrician told me "don't worry, boys are slower" and I didn't buy it. Where I live, they have free programs thru the county. I contacted the County Dept. of Health and got the ball rolling. My son had a speech and psychological evaluation and they determined that at 20 months, he had the "vocabulary" of a 16 month old. He began getting free services at home 2 times per week thru Early Intervention (EI). EI terminates on the day before his 3rd birthday so I had to now go for CPSE services thru the school district of the town I live in and they re-evaluated him (educational, psychological and speech) and for other issues (tactile, sensory) and very little improvement with his speech. He was just accepted into a half day program beginning in September where he will go to pre-school for a few hours 5 days a wk and still continue to get 2 at home speech services. You are your child's biggest advocate and you are his/her voice when they cannot speak so look into every option to get them help. I, too, heard it all...he will talk when he is ready, boys are lazy, boys are slow, etc. It is sad to see my son in a group of his peers where they all talk to some extent and he cannot even say his name and all he can do is babble...I am doing all I can to help him along. I am not looking for a genius and I am not looking to push him to do something he shouldn't be at his age...I am trying to help him express himself without frustration and lashing out. His pediatrician does not see that. Good luck!
Brittany - posted on 05/28/2010
Dont be to worried about it he will talk when he is ready!!!! My son will be 2 in october and he doesnt even walk yet!!! My son see's a developement specialist and all babies are different and even though my son is a late bloomer he will walk an talk when he wants too just give him time and if you still have concerns about it talk to his doctor they can refer you to someone who might be able to help!!!!
Amber - posted on 05/28/2010
Hey Brandy, I found your post particularly thought provoking. I have noticed the exact opposite! ;) I totally don't think you are wrong, mind you, it just made me think because I have noticed my fifth baby doesn't speak much because he has brothers and sisters saying "Max wants this" or "Max is tired"... so he never talks! Lol! Interesting to think maybe they talk less when there are not other kids to interact with. Thank you for sharing. You know, the way our children hear things really does influence how our children speak. I have a friend who's mother is an asthmatic. She would speak very quickly, in a burst of air, and get in as many words as possible because she would run out of air, then would suck in deeply. To this day, thirty years later, my friend will call and when I answer the phone she says "AmberwhatareyoudoingIthoughtmaybewecouldtakethekidstotheparktoday". And she doesn't even have asthma! It comes from having listened to her mother all those years. So funny. ;)
Hope - posted on 05/28/2010
both my boys have had speech issues. My oldest is six and has been in speech for two years now. My youngest if four and he will start speech next year. they are what I like to call Lazy speech. They try but do not pronounce all the sounds correctly. Now when they were around two I did go to the doctors to talk to him. He checked the ears and asked a bunch of questions. Once the boys were said to be okay then it was a matter of time. Making sure that when I talked I was slower so they could hear the sounds and all. We have a family member whos boy did not talk at all until he was four. They talked to a bunch of doctors and then one day he just started talking. But they did go to the doctors first. So I would do that just for a peace of mind. But I could see you said he is not speaking much. So he does talk then? Some kids (mine) do not need to say allot because there mothers and fathers (hehe yes us) new what they needed and never made them ask. Also when they were younger we did not take them around older kids who talked allot. My youngest does seem to be a little better the the first but that is because he had his older brother there talking to him all the time. This is also why his speech has the same lazy sounds to it as my first.
good luck and I hope I was able to help you a little bit.
Carina - posted on 05/28/2010
my son didn't talk much at 2 either. i had health nurses tell me there was something wrong with his hearing. so i asked my doctor and he said that was nothing to worry about especially at 2 years old now if he was 4 and still not talking then that would be a problem. so i calmed down about it and within 3 months later he was talking up a storm. now my son is 2yrs and 5months old and he doesn't stop talking. and there can be many reasons why he doesn't talk yet. if he uses a pacifier all the time that would do it. or if he is always drinking from a bottle during the day or even if he has an older sibling that does all the talking for him. those are a few things that would hold him back from talking sooner then later. good luck.
Emily - posted on 05/28/2010
Thanks for all the advices and opinions. Any help is appreciated :) I guess at the end of the day all we can do as parents is try to see the signs that there could be something wrong and seek professional help. We all only want what's best for our kids .. thanks guys xo
Brandy - posted on 05/28/2010
My personal opinion is that some kids, especially if they are not around other children, just take awhile. My son can talk if he wants to, but he really doesn't care to. He'll be 2 in November... As for some of the replies, it sounds like these people are out for blood, very enthused about their responses. Speak to your doctor, ask to see the skills that are supposed to be developing now. Ask if there's anything you can do to help. I use flash cards with Ty, and he's picking up about one word a day currently.
Devonnie - posted on 05/28/2010
HI, My daughter turned two last march at the time she only had a vocabulary of 6 words, which i was told by an instructor for early learning was not good. I enrolled her in the local early learning program and she has in the last two months expanded her vocabulary to 100+ words and says new ones everyday. She is also using 2-3 words sentences now. My suggestion is Talk with a profesional who works with kids in your sons age group and have them do an evaluation, it is worth it. I still feel high from hearing "Mommy I love you" for the first time from my lil girl last week.
Amber - posted on 05/27/2010
My sons 2 in Sept. and he doesnt talk much either. He does understand almost everything I say to him. His very attentive to what I say to him and I find the more I read to him the more fluent he becomes in his words. I say read to your son as much as possible.
Rosalie - posted on 05/27/2010
see ur speech therapist!asap,my son will be 2on Oct.he say dada ,mama,no!he understand evrything like get ur shoes gonna go to granny!and blow a kisses to granny!!!he points a lot whenever he needed something and guide my hands for him to get the stuff
LiAnne - posted on 05/27/2010
I agree.. talk with your doctor.. my son is almost 4 and he has just started speech therapy.. it wasn't too serious with us.. but he was getting so frustrated that we couldn't understand what he was saying.. my gut feeling was to take him early on but of course everyone said that "boys talk later" I should have gone with my gut feeling.. but his speech therapist said that since he had so many ear infections during his infant years that may have cause the lapse in the speech because he wasn't hearing things right.. But he has improved soo much..and my husband and I are soo proud.. and I think you should talk with your doctor.. and see what he says.. they may just have to drain his ear and take some fluid out.. but check with your doctor first.. Good luck..
Kailey - posted on 05/27/2010
Ive been told & read that often it is a hearing problem i would take him to the doctor and get his ears checked... often they dont talk well because they cant make out sounds well because they cant hear them well... and worse case his ears are fine and you can get the doctors opinion ... Hope everything is ok!
Brianne - posted on 05/27/2010
I agree with everyone else, talk to your doctor. If he understands you and can say a few words at that age, I wouldn't be too worried unless the doctor is. Honestly it seems to be a common thing for boys at that age, not sure why. If he tries to talk but you can't understand anything or he just babbles it might be a sign of a problem. My little brother barely said anything til he was 3 because my mom never made him talk, he would hold out a cup and grunt at her and she would just get him whatever he wanted. I saw your other response just now and it doesn't seem like that's your case, you are trying and you aren't a bad mother! Temper tantrums are often caused because toddlers can't communicate their needs and get angry and frustrated. Keep trying to coax words from him, don't take pointing for an answer if you ask him a question. Repetition is key also, and I would definitely stop what you are trying to teach him when he starts getting angry, he won't learn anything if he is upset. My best friend has a little one who just babbled all the time and no one could understand him, speech therapy worked wonders, and quickly too. I hope you find your answer!
Jessica - posted on 05/27/2010
going threw things like this doesnt make you a bad mother, it makes u a great mother since your seeing signs of a posible problem. dont doubt yourself when you have been trying so hard! sometimes kids take longer thats what everyone keeps telling me but like u i want to take him to a doctor to find out!
Stacey - posted on 05/27/2010
i totally agree my nefew is almost 3 and he is in speech theropy they help alot and what helped with my daughter is sittin down w her everyday and doing bout 5 words a week to just practice on it really helped her alot
Kathy - posted on 05/27/2010
From what I understand of children picking up language,the child picks up the most from the parents..so this mean, you should talk to him every day,ask him he would like to eat,keep asking for the child's input on everyday things, ask him what things are called,repeat sentences for him, also you can take him to a speech pathologist, which is associated with child clinics.. hope this helps...
Emily - posted on 05/26/2010
My son is the same .. he would say simple words like "hi" and "bye" "oopsie" and every time we try to teach him anything he would just get frustrated and start crying, shouting and smacking me.
I tried teaching him with books... so he could look at pictures and know what im trying to tell him. After two weeks all he picked up from the book was an additional word "a ball" but, beside this he basically doesn't speak anything else.
I don't think he understand very much of what i tell him either. And sometimes I feel so down cause I feel I must be a bad mother that's why I can't guide my child to help him learn how to speak. He's my first and there's so many things I don't know. I have and will be taking him to see a doctor tomorrow.
Annika - posted on 05/26/2010
Meghan, very mature response, to a slightly irrational comment. (I agree with your original comment anyway)
Jessica - posted on 05/26/2010
i am going threw the same thing.. he will be two in october! this has worried me..he says mom and he used to say milk and yes along with a couple of other words but other then that nothing! my daughter is almost 4 and she was saying sentences by time she was two.. i am worried also
Meghan - posted on 05/26/2010
Aw, sorry about your son Amanda. It's a support community, I was offering support and MY opinon based on a lot of different children I have met.
Michelle - posted on 05/26/2010
I agree talk to your doctor, my son in 3.5 and he is in speech and has been for a year now. I started with simple sign langauge to help him so he could tell us what he wanted. I used the signs for: more, milk, eat, done, drink, help, in, out, open, close. I started with the 1st ones and worked my way up the list. also make sure that you or someone else is talking for him, we did that with our son.
Amanda - posted on 05/26/2010
Thats a horrible theory, my son could communicate, he understood everything you say, but had to have intensive speech theorpy, so intensive his grade one year of school was just that full days speech theorpy with 12 other children, who also couldnt speak well.
If you are worried ask a professional, dont listen to people online, or family members who say boys speak later, he will catch up, blah blah blah. Trust your gut, if you feel something isnt right ask your doctor, or speak to a speech theorpist, they will know best, if theres a speech delay or not.
Meghan - posted on 05/25/2010
My theory on it... does you son communicate? If he understand's phrases like "get mommy your shoes" "please put that on the table" "come give me a hug!"....he is fine!! Some boys (kids) take a while to actually get the words out! If he is responding, can point or gesture to what he wants, I would give it a few more months before I worrying about it!!
Amanda - posted on 05/25/2010
Speak to your family doctor if you feel he isnt talking enough.