Help! We are trying to potty train my 3 year old son but he seems to be petrified of the potty

Shannon - posted on 06/08/2010 ( 76 moms have responded )

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I have been telling him for months that when he turns 3 that he is going to start using that big boy potty, he was agreeable to that until he actually turned 3. He screams bloody murder every time we put him on the potty. Any ideas on what i can do to help ease him?

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Rashida - posted on 06/15/2010

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Tough Love! Stay stern and firm. My nephew isw the same way. No one else can stand to hear him cry. He knows crying doesn't bother me. I pooty trained my first son in one week and my youngest in two. Good Luck!!!!

Tiffany - posted on 06/12/2010

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I'VE LEARNED THAT TRYING TO MAKE THEM GO DOESN'T WORK. I JUST ASK SEVERAL TIMES A DAY AND LOTS OF TIMES THEY WANT TO GO,EVEN IF NOTHING COMES OUT AT LEAST THE ARE CONQUERING THE FEAR OF SITTING ON THE POTTY.

Tisha - posted on 06/10/2010

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We encouraged my little boy with chocolate. We bought a chocolate Hershey's bar and any time he went potty, we gave him a little square off of it. We also tried racing him to the potty to see who could get there quickest. He's in big boy underwear now except at night, but still has a few accidents. (he's 3 1/2 though)

Lizzette - posted on 06/08/2010

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lol, that is funny, but even when times get really tough and nothing seems like is working you gotta keep trying!!... my child was fine w/ using the potty for pee, but was afraid of the potty when she had to poop so i would just sit and sing with her, told her if she went poop she will get a toy, and brought her to the potty when i had to go or her dad had to go, to show her that nothing was going to happen so finally one day i just decided no more pull ups thats it... i was like enough!! i bought her a whole bunch of big girl panties (we called them that) and i sat her on the potty and told her to close her eyes and tell the poop to get out and help the poop to get out by pushing,and i closed my eyes and pretended w/her and belive it or not it worked!! i cleaned her up and showed her the poop in the potty, and i told her see now say bye bye poop and flush it!! after that we like made a big fuzz about her dad and i by clapping and singing poop pee in the potty!! and called her grandma, and had her tell her and gramma did the same thing over the phone. took her the next day and bought her one toy like i promised and ever since she goes potty by herself... just dont give up shannon it will happen when you finally hit something that works for him. dlike i said dont get discouraged and keep trying and before you know it he is doing the whole potty thing by himself!!

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My son is three and a half. Screams bloody murder at the potty too. Has no interest in the potty and when asked do you want to be changed or go on the potty, says changed please. He is starting to hold his bladder and sometimes still pees in the middle of the night. I figure when he decides it is time, he will be potty trained in a day. Right now, it is just not his time, so he is not going to and right now that is a battle I'm not going to fight. There are so many little duels to battle during the day, I figure why add another. When he is ready for the children's challenges, he is victorious and all on his own. He is like that, likes to do things on his own and show he is a big boy. So if your 3 year old is still hysterical at the thought and wants to be changed, just change him. Give him peace of mind and hugs and know he's just not ready yet. Boys don't care so much about being clean. Girls do. Doesn't mean your lil man is behind or slow or anything bad - just means he wants to do it on his own terms. We've all like to do certain things on our own terms. It's alright.

Amanda - posted on 06/24/2010

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I am still having trouble getting my 3 1/2 yr old to go to the potty for both pee and poop. any help on this one also??? When we are at stores she wants to go to the bathroom but its just to flush the potty! We have tried telling her we will take her to mickey mouses house if she is potty trained. We have tried everything but noting is working!!!! Please help!!!! thanks

Meagan - posted on 06/24/2010

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I started potty training son and daughter at 18months. what worked best was no pull ups, no undies didn't leave house for 3 days and they didn't have pants on. Had lots of accidents but then they just start to realise. i think having no pants on at all at first (if u have chance to stay home 4 3 days) helps them to see what they're doing. By the end of the week daughter was toilet trained only nappy at night, took her another 2 months b4 toilet trained at night. Took son about another week after we started to be daytime toilet trained and took him another 6 months of nappy at night time to be night toilet trained. Gotta give kids more credit they can be clever little chickens. At 3 kids are less open to new major life changes so thts probably why they're bit freaked out, start introducing earlier.
I would try the stay at home thing and let him run nude for a few days. (We bought son a target that suctioned to back of toilet and when he wee on it it would change colour and a picture of a firetruck would show on it, once u flushed it would go away again.) (even Daddy liked this. haha. Don;t give in and definitely once u start toilet training don't let them wear nappies (except at sleep time)

Tasha - posted on 06/21/2010

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i started when my son was 2 he is 3 now and almost there lol but when we started i sat him up on the potty and let him cry. i would sing songs like ABC's, twinkle twinkle little star, itsy bitsy spider etc and it so became a habit and he would sing with me. It is tons harder to potty train boys. so be patient.

Michelle - posted on 06/18/2010

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My boy was hard headed when it came to potty training too. I was divorced and his father wasn't around to help him as far as him watching to see how it's done, so I was on my own. I told my son the same thing, when he turns 3 he has to start using the big potty. I also told him they don't make diapers big enough to fit 3yr olds so he has no choice. I had to stick to my word. I got training underwear, not pull ups. To me those are just diapers they can take off themselves, which at that age they can take off regular diapers too so whats the difference. After his 3rd birthday I put underwear on him and he really liked the feel of them. I let him spend the first day without any pants on, just underwear. I tell you what though, after he wet his underwear for the first time he did not like it. He knew then that he has to go to the potty or he's gonna get wet. Honestly, I can tell you after that, he faithfully used the potty from then on. I also had a sticker chart that we used. He got to put a sticker on everytime he used the potty. He got 2 stickers if he pooped. He was so excited about that! Good Luck and I hope this helps.

Mary - posted on 06/17/2010

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When it was time (and both of mine were 3 when I did this) I put my kids in cool underwear, loaded the bathroom with great books, set the timer in the beginning for 30 min intervals, sat on the floor with them on the big potty (had a small insert seat for them), and we read for a few minutes. It was difficult in the beginning. They did not like it. But if they sat there they got a treat. If they actually did something they got a bigger treat. The sticker chart was helpful and I was a cheering section for them. I was consistant and I did not get upset if they were not willing participants. I would just tell them that there was a reward for staying and it was their choice to leave.
Good luck.

Allison - posted on 06/17/2010

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I had a basket of special "potty time" stuff next to his little potty, and he could only play with it when he was sitting in the potty. Mine LOVEs to cut up paper, so we had safety scissors and paper. At the beginning I set a timer for 20 min, and we tried to go potty every time it went off. Make sure you keep him in underwear, cause it helps them realize when they're going. And praise praise praise if he happens to go in the potty during potty time. I think I shot for about 5 min of sitting on his potty. The other thing that we did was potty train in the summer and let him run around in just a long shirt outside, so when he had to go potty, he could run to a designated spot and go. It seemed to really help him to see and feel what was happenning at the same time. After only a couple days of the 20min timer, we were able to extend the time as he started catching on.

Amanda - posted on 06/17/2010

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My son would pee in the big potty but would not go poop in the potty. We tried candy rewards, stickers, cheering him on, stories, you name it. Finally I went on Supernanny.com and printed a pirate reward chart. Every time he would poop in the potty he got to move the pirate to the next level. When he made it half way he got to go to the store and pick a mid-range toy and when the pirate made it all the way to the pirate ship he got to pick a big toy. He decided he wanted an art easel and that was a big enough motivator. He hardly even has accidents when he is sleeping now.

Sandra - posted on 06/16/2010

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My son was toilet trained for wee at about 2.2 y/o, but refused to do poo, just before he was three l was starting to get a bit concerned, I didn't want to make a huge issue so let him have a nappy to do poo's, but just before he turned 3 l told him that we couldn't buy any more nappies for him, they didn't make them anymore... l kept reminding him of that every time he used a nappy for poo in the hope that he would choose the toilet instead .... in the end after we ran out (l had twohidden awayjust in case) he asked me for a nappy l told him l couldn't get him one cos there was no more... he said he didn't need to go anymore, 5 minutes later he comes screaming out with joy that he had done a poo in the toilet... unfortunatley he had pulled up his pants right after, but hey, we explained that his bottom needed to be wiped and we never had any issues again...

Would highly recommend the no more nappies available business, you could tell your son that they don't make them for 3 year

Kawaiiana - posted on 06/16/2010

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well i know i am going through that with my 2 year old. at one she started pulling off her diaper and getting new ones so she was ready. then i got her a musical pot first and it worked for a while then she realized she wasn't in control so she started turning the thing over and pushing the button she found that played the music. so the she wanted to go to the big potty so that worked for a while if she could walk around naked and get on when she wanted. but i know they say don't use food well forget that i found my baby loves m&m's so we use those. she gets 2 for sitting on the pot, 4 for going #1 and 6 for going #2. and in wal-mart the area by the greeting card they have a potty chart. it is a little plastic card. with stickers and everytime they go you put up a sticker. they break it down to sections but i just use it for going potty. and it is working she now tells us when she has to go and she is doing good and this has only been 3 days. it is sad but sometimes you just have to do trial and error and don't so much try to make him go because he is three. start saying thins like babies use diapers big boys go to the pot. or quit giving him fun things he ask for like juice and treats because only big boys get those things. maybe it will help trigger in him tht it time to go to the big boy toilette.

Lee-Anne - posted on 06/16/2010

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My daughter was terrified of the potty too. We bought her one of those training seats with the ladder that fit onto the toilet and she loved it. Once we set it up, she only took about a week and she was toilet trained. Our other daughter however, is the other way round and is terrified of the toilet and will only use her "Royal" potty....lol. Good luck with it.

Dawna - posted on 06/15/2010

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The worse thing you can do is to force it. He will let you know when he is ready. Ask if he wants to try the potty. If the answer is NO, just say "That's OK, maybe later", remember to give him a lot of praise when he does try. Ask him if he wants to sink a cheerio? Place a few in the toilet have him aim at the cheerios and the fun begins. Let me know how it works. (Or not)

Allison - posted on 06/15/2010

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Make it a game, reward him. I rewarded mine with stickers and a board to put them on. Also, a friend of mine used those toilet gel cleaners that can stick to the inside of the potty anywhere and had him aim at it like it was a game. Good luck!

Rachel - posted on 06/15/2010

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used also bribed my daughter with dora, spongebob, suckers and freeze pops after she went potty or to convince her to use the potty

Rachel - posted on 06/15/2010

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i think the worst thing to do is to keep em diapers. my daughter was in diapers 6 months ago then pullups then daycare put her back in diapers when everything was going smooth screwed it all up now all she does is have accidents here and there. but the question to ask yourself is he or she ready and understand the concept of learning potty training or how to control when they go and can they literally tell you have to go potty

Lena - posted on 06/15/2010

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My daughter was not too keen on using her potty until I bought a ton of stickers and she gets to decorate her little potty with stickers everytime she has used it. The potty is now "beautifully" decorated and she got potty trained in just a few weeks with very few accidents. She is still using diapers/pullups at naptime and during the night but only big girl undies during the day. She is sooo proud of herself and mommy is too! Good luck!

Melissa - posted on 06/15/2010

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i started potty training my son when he was 3 and during the day i would put regular underwear on him and if he had an accident i would let him see how yucky it felt and after a few days he would go to the bathroom. he still had accidents every once in a while, but i would say it took about a month to completly potty train him

Jennifer - posted on 06/15/2010

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It is very possible that he isnt getting enough reward, and feels that 'well whats my benefit for sitting here and going on the potty?' i just started training my two year old daughter (3rd times the charm right?) i feel what helped her the most this time around (shes been going on the potty all by herself with only one or two accidents in over a month) i went online and looked up a potty chart that had her favorite charactors (princesses) and it had like 'i took off my underwear' 'i sat on the potty' 'i went potty' 'i flushed' 'i washed my hands' and after she did it all by herself we would read it over and put BIG gold stickers on each one and date it with a black sharpie then she would get her 'potty treat' (we started off with chocolate chips, then after a week of 'practice' we moved to gummy bears) with her it was all about routine and what we did next, within 4 days she would stop playing and go over to her potty seat and just go. so find what works for your little one and stick to the routine of it, lots of praise and reward (this is huge for a child) there is nothing better than the praise though, never forget that. you may want to find a potty video with his favorite charator on it as well, (we found an elmo video called elmos potty time) we sat her on her potty chair in front of the tv and she would watch that and sit on the potty till it was over, she likes to see something and see that she has the same thing, it is like a thrill for them to feel like they have something they see on the tv!
one thing to remember is if your child isnt ready, they arent ready, so dont push too hard, try again in about a week.
and my personal opinion... pull ups are just a diaper, get him some big boy undies, he'll understand alittle bit faster what this is all about (no matter what the commercials say!!)
Good luck with your journey! hope this helps!

Lisa - posted on 06/15/2010

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I only have caution... Do Not Push Too Hard or it Will BITE YOU IN THE BUTT!! He will do it when and only when HE is ready. I pushed with my oldest and then he refused to use the potty for 4 months. He finally did it when he was ready for it. We talked about it all the time, but I stopped pushing.

I am not ready to start potty training almost 3 yr old twin boys, and they are very very NOT ready!! Not looking forward to this!!

Ashley - posted on 06/14/2010

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My nephew was afraid too - it was like he thought he'd fall in or something. They started with a little potty. But the biggest thing that worked was patience, and and his favorite treat, and stickers.
At first if he even tried to sit on the potty he got a treat, then once he started peeing in the potty he got a treat just for that, not for sitting anymore. Then once he started pooping he got 2 treats for that.

Melisha - posted on 06/14/2010

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also if they know they are suppose to go to the potty and pee or poo in there underwear just cause they dont want to use the toliet then try timeout and let them know why they are in timeout. there is also an elmo video thats called elmos potty time it also helped with my kids using the potty but getting them to poo in the potty is a longer process. the big mistake that most parents do is give in and let them have the diaper they wanted. also try singing a song while they are on the potty you can make it up or just do abcs. maybe even run a stream of water.

Carrie - posted on 06/14/2010

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Our little boy is 2 and 1/2 and fully potty trained the best way for us was to just not put a diaper on him yeah we had a few wet days and lots of laundry but trust me within a wk he was dry all day and taking himself to the potty we also rewarded him with m&m 's if he peed in the potty and a sucker if he pooped it took a bit longer for the poopy but once he got it we have not had an accident in over a mth good luck to you

Danyell - posted on 06/14/2010

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put cheeries - or to make it fun use fruit loops and tell him to aim , my son was potty trained at exactly one year and 1 month old using this idea:)

Mary - posted on 06/14/2010

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Since you have a boy, some people have told me, (and I have a girl not a boy) that they put cherios cereal in the toilet and have them try to aim at the cherios and that helps them learn to potty train. I've had a hard time with my daughter and she is just now starting to catch on but sometimes she'll say at night, put a pull up on me cause it's night. Then we put it on her and she pees or sometimes before we put it on her she will say nothing and then just stand there and pee on the floor or sofa or whatever. We're still trying to break her of the pull up habbit except for at night

Audrey - posted on 06/14/2010

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my oldest was like that!! poor thing. =[ its not easy to see yor child like that i know.. but well honestly the only way i could get her on the big one was i made her stay on it and i was in there with her and i told her there was nothing to be scared of. she eventually got over it.. quickly i might say. as for little boys, i would reccommend daddy showing him. or you can get one of those small potties or buy a little seat for the toilet..

Lea - posted on 06/14/2010

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well we got ashton a potty when he was 19 months and read him books about it so he wanted to try it too and he played with it putting his bear on it. a few days later he went pee we gave him a sticker and weve been in the process ever since. its almost a year now weve been doing it. he is scared to use the big potty without a smaller seat but they make him at daycare so hes getting used to it i think. it helps to be in the routine with all the other kids.

Erin - posted on 06/14/2010

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I just started potty training my son who just turned 3 about a week ago and he's doing pretty well but he fights it sometimes. But I have him just wear underwear, no pull-ups or anything over top. For him actually feeling it run everywhere and make a mess seemed to help him realize that he was going and it was gross lol. So then he sorta wanted to use the potty but whenever he was resisting I would just move it out to the living room and turn on some tv to help occupy him while he was trying to go. And once he went I let him put on a dinosaur sticker on his potty chart, he's obsessed with dinosaurs. I also bribe him with rewards. Last week we went shopping and he told me he had to go so we went into the bathroom with the "big potties" and he went! Needless to say he got a toy lol... But my son also says his potty hurts if he sits on it too long, so I found a new one at Target that has a squishy seat, and place for toilet paper and wipes. It seemed to help him want to sit on it too, plus it was only 20 dollars. I hope this helps. Its so exciting when they actually start to use it!

Celeste - posted on 06/13/2010

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I'm another one who believes that they will potty train when they're ready. My twin boys are 3 years and 10 months. We tried EVERYTHING-stickers, treats, taking them to the potty every 30 min, naked time, putting them in underwear, you name it we probably did it.



It wasn't until last Sunday that something just clicked with one of my twin boys. I swear to you, after something clicked, he was pretty much pt'ed. It's been a week today and he's only had one accident yesterday. That was only because he fell asleep in my bed and he peed. Pooping took him a few days, but he's finally got that down too.



My other twin boy, I don't think he's quite ready. He sees his brother going potty but I don't think it's clicked for him yet.



I think gently encouraging him is ok but I wouldn't force it.



I really thought they wouldn't be PT'ed by Kindergarten the rate we were going!

Amanda - posted on 06/13/2010

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I also have a 3yr old son and potty training him wasn't easy but, we came up with a plan to encourage him to go potty. We started by putting his favorite candy on the back of the toilet so that every time he went potty he got that candy we would take turns staying with him and then my husband helped by showing him and praising him when he did a good job...now he goes by himself and even has tried the standing up approach which was pretty funny actually but, it worked for us maybe it'll work for you!

Kelly - posted on 06/13/2010

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i started with when its bath time sit and wait for the water and now he's used the potty 4 times twice while waiting and twice when we have asked if he had to use the potty he says yea so we try i dont know if this will help you but its worth a try.. p.s my son is not even 2 yet..

Mindy - posted on 06/13/2010

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I wanted my daughter potty trained so bad and I think I started before she was ready and it was very hard on both of us. So we backed off and put a potty chair in all the bathrooms and when I had to use the bathroom she would follow me in there and I would have her sit on the potty and read a book and if she actually used it she would get a M&M and she got with the program pretty quick. Then when I was tired of pullups all together I talked to her about it and told her that she was a big girl and I thought she was ready to sleep in big girl panties and when she thinks shes ready to let me know and we wont wear pullups anymore, she came to me a few weeks later and told me she was a big girl and didnt need pullups anymore to sleep. We have been sleeping dry ever since and she turned 3 in March. Another thing that I think would help your son is if you live in a house and have a private backyard let him pee on the trees, my mom swears thats how she potty trained my brother. Good luck and remember he will get there when he is ready, if you push it then it might take longer. I tried several times and my daughter wasnt ready but when she finally got ready potty training was super easy.

Kashina - posted on 06/13/2010

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We just went through this potty training, i sat her on the potty and i sat on the potty, and we sang the potty song, It actually works!

Ariel - posted on 06/13/2010

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With my nephew we drained the water from the toilet. And painted a target sign with finger nail polish. let it dry. Then filled the toilet back up. He loved aiming for that thing, We had tried the cherrios too and he did eat a few!!!! With my daughter though it was a lot simpler. i filled her up with juices and water all day long, we went to the potty every 20 -40 minutes and i kept repeating the same thing " We go pee on the potty like a big girl, you should tell mommy when you have to go." It was so much repitition i hated it! But one day she just did it and now she's completely potty trained and she turns 3 in august! Treats didnt really work for us, i ate too much of them and she snuck them. So instead we give big high fives and a dance!

Amanda - posted on 06/12/2010

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hmm, sounds like he is traumatized from the "big boy potty" :( U should try giving him rewards everytime he uses the toilet. With my daughter(2 yrs old) we let her wear Dora undies instead of pullups when she went potty and it only took a week and a half to potty train her..she also loved getting stickers everytime she went potty, im guessing they made her feel special haha..good luck!

Kimberly - posted on 06/12/2010

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my son was afraid of the toilet as well... he did not seem to like the potty that went on the floor, and I had a terrible time getting him to sit on the toilet. We took him out and let him pick his own seat that went on the toilet to sit on, and that worked wonders... he wanted to try it out as soon as we got home, and ever since then he has been going on the potty! he even uses the toilet without the seat now-i would try that and see what happens- just make sure he picks out his own, and talk him up about it to get him excited

Crystal - posted on 06/12/2010

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Definitely allow him to go in and see you using the toilet, as well as Daddy. As time goes on he'll see it's ok. Maybe get a book about big boys going potty that he can read while he's sitting - we did this with both our kids. Just reassurance that its ok, everyone goes potty, and just name a few immediate family members (mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, etc.) or people he looks up to. I think by 3 he definitely needs a little push, but not over doing it. Also maybe give him some ideas of things he'll be able to do once he's out of diapers, like school (unless he goes to preschool already), maybe think of a special place you can take him ONLY when he's starting to use the potty. Just try and make if fun, and not so much like a chore.

Amber - posted on 06/12/2010

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My daughter is 18 months and we have started potty training her too. I helped her like the bathroom by asking her to take me pee. Then she learn't to sit on her toilet by watching me and now she has learnt to pee n poo in it as well. maybe that will work for you!??

Amber - posted on 06/12/2010

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I could tell you what worked for us but it sounds like you got plenty of advice so I'll just try to encourage you by saying. There are plenty of terrible parents out there who don't teach their kids much of anything and yet you don't see a bunch of adults walking around in diapers because they were trained wrong. Give it time. We tried everything with my daughter and then gave up because we were in the middle of some big life changes (moving and such) and low and behold that's when she decided she was ready and we never looked back. Just stay positive. in the grand scheme of things a year or 2 more is not very long. Good luck.

Melissa - posted on 06/12/2010

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Girl, I feel your pain! My son turned 3 in May, and he could not care less about a potty! He will even keep his diaper on forever! I will say that he will pee on the potty (usually) if prompted, but he won't tell us when his diaper is full. I try not to push, but I cannot wait to get him out of diapers! (We also have a 16-month old in diapers) I think that once he poops, it will make a big difference....I hope!

Good luck!

Sara - posted on 06/12/2010

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my son was about 2 mos. shy of 3 and I had been telling him,like you, for months that he was going to use the big boy potty and he wasn't to interested. One day I said, "hey lets go buy you some big boy underwear", so we went to Wal-Mart and he picked them out and the next day we got up and I had him throw away his diaper and he put on his underwear and has been wearing them every since! I think making him feel like he was making the decision to be a big boy and wear his own underwear made him feel empowered to keep up the work! Hope this helps and good luck. P.S. about the screaming on the potty, I found a insert that actually goes on the toilet and fits their little buns and he used that til he felt more comfortable, some say they are afraid they will get sucked down the potty.

Robyn - posted on 06/12/2010

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My little one is about 2 and a half years' old and I put the insert under the seat and he wouldn't do anything in the loo. He wears Pull Ups and as he has a big brother and his dad around, he has been watching. One day, out of the blue, he took of his pull-up, said wee, walked to the toilet and did a wee in the toilet. He has done this three times so far and I did nothing...lucky I guess. When they're ready, they'll let you know. Everyone makes soo much fuss about it and I just think don't stress about it...how many of us are wearing nappies now? :D All the best.

Lori - posted on 06/12/2010

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Hi Shannon, The best thing to do is to use reverse Psychology...Just tell him if he doesnt want to use the potty anymore thats okay, one day when you are ready we will try again hey? Also you may like to try the toddler seats that fit under the toilet seat. Let him see you go to the loo and he will ask for his turn or you can ask him would he like to have a turn. Let him flush the loo afterwards. Good Luck :)

Lorraine - posted on 06/12/2010

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I have a different kind of advice. Stop. All children are different and especially boys...they seem to take a bit longer, I have three STRONG willed boys. My youngest absolutely refused when he turned three to go on the potty. I stopped training him, talked to him about it and put the pull ups on. Then I stepped away from the subject all together. After about two months I started again, talking about how his friends went potty, asking him (not forcing) if he wanted to try. He eventually came around but it was after he was three years old..he's three and a 1/2 now and doesn't even wear a pull up to bed! A child's personality must be taking into account and getting into power struggles will not work. Take a deep breath! I promise he will not be in diapers when he is 10! ;-)

Tina - posted on 06/11/2010

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If money is no issue try buying a little urinal for him, my son loves his and it even flushes and is portable.

Laurie - posted on 06/11/2010

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I have the same issue w/ my 3 yo also He seems to go Pee fine but he refuses 2 go poop in the potty! He poops in a pullup he poops in underwear & if he's naked he'll poop on the floor if we dont catch him! Its so frustrating & he'll be 4 in 2 months! I've tried all of the things everyone suggested & now he's even hiding his accidents & wont tell us until husband & I find it or smell it! I just dont get it! We even tried tellin him if he went poop he could go an extra time 2 the carnival in town but he didnt do it. so the mom that posted "All kids should b trained by 3 yo" BLAH BLAH BLAH she can come 2 my house then! Some kids especially BOYS just refuse, r scared, or have a physical problem. There r lotsa boys that have problems clicking their brain 2 their bladders & bowels all the rewards & bribing sometimes doesnt work until you find something that they really really want. I'm hoping that we will find something he wants ALOT soon!

Sarah - posted on 06/11/2010

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get a magnet of a target put it in the tolit and have daddy show him how to aim for it gives him someting to do and it wont deatroy your pipes

Emily - posted on 06/11/2010

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what if you try underwear and they don't care if they are wet? And/or, they scream and hold it instead of peeing at all? This is what happened when we tried potty training our almost 2 1/2 yr old son. He can be VERY string-willed when he wants to. He will usually use the potty only when he is stalling bedtime right now/otherwise he likes the comfort of his diaper. If he screams and holds it in, or pees in underwear and doesn't care, how do we let him know we're (hubby and I) in charge, without a GIANT power struggle that could make the whole process take longer? right now, we're taking a break, and are going to try again later. If you have any helpful or creative ideas that would be wonderful!

Melisha - posted on 06/11/2010

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also not to affend anyone but seriously a child should be potty trained by at least 3 seriously let them wait till they are ready yeah right i mean they start school when they 5 and have to be potty trained plus being 4 and still in diapers is a bit crazy i mean if you want to keep wasting your money on diapers then go for it but at the daycare i work at if they are not potty trained by the age of 3 we wont take them.

Melisha - posted on 06/11/2010

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try using a little potty if that dont work till him he is to big to be using the bathroom on himself and keep putting underwear on him no matter how many accidents he has let him no who is in charge and that hes not going to win and get a diaper also if he dont like being wet if he pees in his underwear let him wear it for a few mins to get him to understand where he is suppose to go at. also everyone has to be deicated to help with the potty training process and when he screams let him scream and tell him that if he uses the potty in the big boy potty then he will get a special treat. but only do it till he gets good a using it. i work at a daycare/preschool so i have some experience with potty training i also had my oldest potty trained by 19months and my 2nd child just turned 2 and is potty trained.

Maria - posted on 06/11/2010

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O my god, im delaying the process coz i dread it!!! Plus the fact that i feel a bit sad that the nappies days will be over... Cian is 2 and a half, and its another milestone for him to become a 'big boy'!!!

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