How can i get my 2 1/2 year old to go to bed at a decent time?

Michelle - posted on 09/29/2009 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I have a 2 1/2 yr old boy and i have tried everything i can think of. He fights me to no end every night to go to bed. i have tried laying him down at 9:00 and keep puting him back in bed and he still fights me and b4 i know it it is almost midnight and i am still fighting him to stay in bed.. i have tried cutting his naps. if i lay him down for a nap it is around 12 and i wake him up if hes not up already by 1. i have tried taking his naps away but he gets so darn mean. and i mean MEAN! he definatly still needs naps. but i just dont know how to keep him in bed i have also tried giving him my pillow and laying with him till he falls asleep but when i layed with him he expecs me to lay with him everyday and i wont he has his own room for a reason and i want my bed back...PLEASE HELP!

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Put a lamp in one side of his room, play classic music softly, chase him back to his room and give silent treatment. Explain to him, it's time to be still, tell him it's ok if he's not tired, but he needs to stay on his bed til he gets tired. Be adement, never give in, never, not one.

Kindra - posted on 10/02/2009

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I put my daughter down for bed at 9 pm every night, we let her play and have quiet time until ten, at ten we tuck her into bed with a movie and a sippy cup, and she goes to sleep. If she does not go to sleep, the tv gets turned off and we shut the door, she will cry, but she falls asleep about 10 minutes later, its tough love but it is the only way to get them into the habit of realizing bed time is bed time

Amanda - posted on 10/01/2009

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set a routine and lay with him for three or four days then sit by his bed for a few nights then move farther away from the bed keep doing this until you make your way out of the room this will slowly teach him to sleep by himself without all of the fustration

Elizabeth - posted on 10/01/2009

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I agree with the routines, but be careful when something different happens. A visit to Grandma's, late evening out, whatever. These can cause nightmares! It was like my son'w world was falling apart because he wasn't in the tub at 7!

Falon - posted on 09/30/2009

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My son is will be two and I truely belive in routine. It is very important for them and they do like it. My son goes to be about the same time every night. In the begining it will be rough but once her gets use to the routine it will get easier. I know that you want your bed back but you are the one that set the standard of lying in bed with him and that will be hard to break. However I suggest playtime to get him tired, bath time to sooth him, one of his shows , read a book and then lights out leaving a night light on with the door open. If he hets up simply say night night time and tuck him back in. If he gets up again say nothing tuck him back in. Being consistant is import and stiocking with teh same routine. Sometimes when I don't realize the time my son gets me and tells me its night nigh time. Also try letting him wake up on his own from his naps but still keeping bed time at a consistant time and his body will reguate. Good luck

Ilse - posted on 09/30/2009

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I have a 19mth old and have trouble with her at night time getting her to bed at a normal bedtime 2. I also have a 6yr old and she cut her daytime sleep out at 2 1/2 and it was horrible as she really still needed that sleep so please for ur own sanity and his dont mess with that:) Dont get him up, i know it seems like the logical thing but i have a couple things to try. In the afternoon take him for a walk down to the beach/park @ 3/4pm come back and make dinner really early so he eats at @ 5/5.30pm and if u have trouble like i do cooking dinner then it makes it easier to do it earlier 2:) Then watch him intently for that tired sign. I know with my daughter, if i miss that sign and Im not organised enough then shes up til 9 - 10pm and sometimes later. I bet just like me u are just sooo tired by that stage, u just want them to go to bed and be left alone:) N most importantly routine! Bath b4 or after dinner which ever suits and have quiet time where u read a book and brush teeth then bed and do the same every day to a tee. they thrive on it. As i said i have this problem and did all these thing tonight and she went to bed at 7.20!!!!!!! A miricle! Now i can relax and i even got to spend some time with my eldest which doesn't get to happen very often because of all of this. I wish u the best of luck and it really does work but dont expect a total miricle over night but just keep doing this everyday and it will get better:) Also sorry this is sooo long.....but making their room really special helps too. Tell him wow how nice this and that is and whatever u do with it he will love:)

Melisa - posted on 09/30/2009

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Are you sure he still needs his naps???? I cut out my daughters...well actually she cut them out herself and for the first week she was really cranky but she adjusted to it, now she goes to be at seven on the dot every night. last week she fell asleep in the car and I put her on the lounge and she slept for three hours.....then she wouldnt go to sleep that night. We still have quiet time during the afternoon....Either a movie or quiet play, and that seams to be enough to reivie her to get her through dinner and such without getting cranky.

Good luck

Sami - posted on 09/29/2009

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I had the same problem. I put a tv i my girls room and i put barbie on for her every night when she climbs in bed. I have been told by so many people to take it out of her room but it works for me so i am happy with it. why go through screaming and fighting for hours every night when you dont have to? ever since i put the tv in there she has gone to bed at 7 every night and she rarely fights me anymore

Jaime - posted on 09/29/2009

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BENADRYL!!! I'm half joking. My son all of a sudden refuses to sleep in his bed also. The nights he does the best is when I lay him down, sing lullabies and tell him I'll be right back, mommy has to go start laundry or whatever. I leave his door open (which I didn't used to do) and every 2 or 3 mins I poke my head in and say "I love you, I'll be right back". I make the length between visits longer and longer. And he's pleased that I haven't "LEFT" and he knows he's being a good boy by listening to mommy. Or a dose of Benadryl once in a great while never killed anyone... ;-)

Michelle - posted on 09/29/2009

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yes, i did move him into a twin bed and i let him pick out his own beding but i will try getting him like a memory foam mattress topper cuz his bed is kinda hard and c what that does. thanks for the advice

Traci - posted on 09/29/2009

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I had the exact same problem. So, We finally bought him a twin bed. I dont know if you have him a twin bed or not. But when we went through the process of finding him a bed we had him help every step of the way. We even had him pick out the bed he wanted and the mattress he liked the best. And that helped alot. He couldt wait to play in it and then he started putting himself asleeps for naps and bed. But of course i have to tuck him in. I even have a tv and dvd player (i know some parents would disapprove about that) but he loves to have a movie to fall asleep too. I do to. Occasionally i do have to lay with him to go to sleep, otherwise he goes to sleep on his own now.

When he first started needing me to lay with him to go to sleep he was in a toddler bed and i couldnt figure out what was going on. Finally i realized where he slept best and came to the conclusion that it was his mattress. He couldnt get comfortable and so he couldnt sleep good. So that is why we had him pickout his mattress for his bed. IT WORKED MIRACLES. I also did a lot of praying. You can write me anytime if you wanna know anything else i did to help or what not.



i hope this helps you out.

Sarah - posted on 09/29/2009

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have u tried a rutine with him every night? things like bath time, one book or movie/book, music then bed... there are lots of calming things that u could put in a nightly rutine to help him calm down and go to sleep. my daughter was the same way and still can b if i dont stick to the rutine. kids love rutines its good for them. good luck! and ur not alone!

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