How Can I Get My 3 Year Old To Start Sleeping In His Own Room

Nikole - posted on 09/28/2010 ( 53 moms have responded )

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He has his own bed in his own room.But he says that its too scary in there,but we put a night lite in there and trying different things to get him to sleep in there.We recently moved to Michigan,but when we were in California,he slept in his own bed.Now he just refuses to sleep in his bed in his room.What can I do to make him sleep in his room.I miss sleeping with my husband without the three year old in the middle.I love him to death but he is getting bigger and he needs to sleep in his bed.What can I do

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Crystal - posted on 09/28/2010

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I would ask him what would help him? Music or a special stuffy?
Then i would start by laying down with him to sleep then going back to your own bed. Everytime he gets up be kindly return him to his bed and lay with him until he falls asleep.
When he is ok with that sit next to his bed and put your arm next to him, when he is ok with that move to the door and so on.
I know it sounds like a long proccess but if your going to be losing sleep you might as well be making progress instead of fighting him to go back to bed.
he clearly needs some kind of comfort and reassurance.

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Heather - posted on 10/12/2010

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Hi. I am a mother of two boys and a childcare provider. My children are opposites! Just recently I put my younger (more braver) son in with my older boy. They have bunk beds and this is more comforting. If they do not have another sibling, I love the idea of you or your husband taking turns and sleeping in there with him, atleast until he falls asleep. Hesitant on the night light. If you do put a night light in his room, be sure that it isn't casting scary shadows. Make it a very dim light. Something too bright will keep him awake longer. Both of my kids sleep with a loud little fan in their room. We don't point the fan on them, we just have it running for white noise. This blocks out any noises that might be discomforting. Also, another good thing is to keep the same routine on a daily basis. My children have a routine of: after dinner they shower or bath; put on pj's, eat a snack, get a drink, brush their teeth, snuggle mom and dad (while watching a happy show on tv), go potty and go to bed. 8:30 PM is their bed time. Hopefully you havn't tried some of my ideas and that they will work. GOOD LUCK! keep us posted!

Michelle - posted on 10/08/2010

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I continuously stressed the fact that my son has his own "big boy room". At first he didnt want to sleep in it either but I would allow him to fall asleep in a little mini spiderman couch that he has that pulls out into a little bed and then i would transfer him to his room...if he would get up in the middle of the night I wouldnt allow him to come to my room I would tell him that he had to sleep in his big boy bed and mommy sleeps in her bed. Then I started to put him in his bed before he fell asleep and read him a story, tuck him in, kiss, hug and stuffed animal next to him. Try to set up a routine. My son watches tv before bed, showers watches a little more tv, goes potty and then picks out his book, I read to him and have a night light for him to sleep with. You can get the little night lights he can keep in bed with him so he's not scared, battery operated. My son loved it at first but no longer uses it. do this at the same time every night and dont EVER give in to him wanting to sleep with you. He may cry and make you miserable but stick to it and he will get used to it. Now my son knows exactly when its time for bed and does his routine without me telling him. I started with my son when he was 2 and 5 months it may take a while longer because he is 3 now and more stubborn in his ways. Also I would suggest monitoring how long he goes down for a nap. My son stopped napping when he started using his big boy room because i put him to bed earlier. He did this on his own and now if he decides to take a nap bed time is usually a nightmare unless i do something with him that wears him out like go outside and run a marathon haha! If your son isnt tired bedtime will just be difficult in general esp. without you next to him. I hope this helps!

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Wow some very interesting thoughts were shared here. We went through the same thing with our daughter, and from time to time we still experience it slightly. After talking with many people and reading many articles (by doctors & therapists) - this is what I found to work... First & most importantly have a routine - bath, music, night light & then read a few stories - but then leave!! Second, don't be unsure of yourself - talk to them explain the plan & then follow-through. If you've just moved, make sure you have the same surrounding (i.e. music, bed, toy, etc) that you had before - that can help. But basically you felt bad when you moved, you became unsure & in the end he adapted to a new routine of sleeping in your bed. Lastly, be prepared & know that they will cry... but you have to be strong. To be honest - it was really beginning to effect my husband's & I's relationship - even now I notice that she will never get upset or try it with him because he is always confident & doesn't give in. As a mother you want to always be there for your children and help them - but what you need to ask yourself is what's best for them in the end. Are you helping them become independant or making them more dependent on you by always being there. If you have doubts one night when they ask you if you can stay & lay with them - don't think to yourself "awe one-night wouldn't hurt" (which is what I did), ask yourself if you want to being doing that every night? They will settle into the new routine, and after they are fully settled then you can do one night offs here and there. It was the best advice.... and it works.

Kylie - posted on 10/05/2010

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This is what worked for us i hope it helps. First of all yes you need to keep a night light on all night in the room and also a toilet light. Next i would make a bed on the floor in his room and get dad to sleep there for about 4 or 5 nights. I find it works better with dad because most kids are alittle more attatched to mum. and the best tip is a digital alarm clock so they can see the time. Tell him he is not allowed out of his room until the clock gets to 7.00 because then its morning and he can come to your room then. Do all of this together but if after a week of dad sleeping in the room and its not working you should sit on a chair outside his room so he can not see you but he knows your there. It a hard road i know but try to stay calm as he will pick up on the stress vibe. Good luck

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Heidi - posted on 10/12/2010

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i understand my 3yearold girl just started it were she wont sleep in her room all night. i even tryied buting her in the same room with her baby brother but they both get up at least once or more.

Dottie - posted on 10/12/2010

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Sometimes it requires a bit of creativity, and darn it tough love. No one said everything was going to be roses and candy. Try offering surprises in the am if he/she stays in his/her own bed..If not, then make a consequence..Like taking away a favorite toy, or tv time the next day.. But it takes persistence on your part. Never quit..

Amie - posted on 10/10/2010

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Try putting his matteress next to your bed for a while once he is okay with that try his room again. We recently moved as well and this is how I got my two year old in his own room. Now he goes in his room on his own. However he still comes in our room around 4 or 5.

Rebekah - posted on 10/09/2010

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mix up a bottle of 'monster' spray w/ him. Let him help you add the ingredients. Lemon juice is a good choice w/ water. Then w/ his help spray his room. good luck!

Chandra - posted on 10/09/2010

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We redecorated our son's room with his favorite characters (Thomas and Friends) and he's been sleeping in his bed since then. We also converted his toddler bed to a full size bed at the same time. We stay in his room until he falls asleep, but he stays in his bed all night. He was also 3 years old when we made these changes.

Brigid - posted on 10/08/2010

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A little mattress on the floor has worked for my 4 year old He sleeps there most nights.... we tried EVERYTHING else... he even shares a bedroom with his twin and brother yet won't stay there. I try to reason with him but at 2 AM I am not in the mood. I figure it won't last forever.... I hope. Bottom line The mattress on the floor was what got him out of our bed - suggestion from my pediatrician.

Shoy-wha - posted on 10/08/2010

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You can try to put her bed somewhere else in her chamber. they say that it may help.
Let me know if it work. Shoywha from Bonaire

Shawn - posted on 10/08/2010

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I would recomend talking to his ped, let them know what is going on. There maybe somethings that his doctor can recomend that you have not tried yet. I had the same issue with my two boys at that age after a move. It took a long time but after continuing to move them back to their bed and storries all the things you have tried they became comfortable enough to stay in their own room. I did have to do the tough love and I place a baby door lock on the inside of their door. they were given one chance to come out for a drink or potty if they got out after our bed time routine was done then the lock went on and kept them in their room but allowed me access in case of an emergency. Once they learned that if they continued to get out of bed the lock would go on they started staying in bed. I hope this helps.

Kendra Teresa - posted on 10/08/2010

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I have a 2 year old and the same problem! What I do is let her fall asleep on my bed and then carry her to her room. She awakes in her own bed & she isn't afraid. Try that a couple of times and she'll get used to the surrounding.

Tiffany - posted on 10/08/2010

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I know it's hard to see when you're in the middle of it... but really, he WILL grow up. He's not going to want to sleep in your bed when he's in high School! ;)

Seriously, though, especially with something like a move thrown into the mix, there's nothing wrong with little ones wanting extra security. (You and hubby can get some "snuggle" time in together in other ways, other times, other places!).

My 5 year old daughter is back in our bed (with hubby and I AND the 2 year old!) after a move... It's a challenge, but in the long run I know she'll be a happier, more secure person knowing that she has a secure foundation from which to develop. She'll be back in her "princess bed" in the blink of an eye, if you can really put the time in perspective... And all too soon she'll be moving out...

Alecia - posted on 10/08/2010

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I guess I am a mean mom. My kid doesn't sleep with my hubby and I though. When my son was having issues getting to bed, I put a child safety cap on his door so he couldn't get out. We did his routine, bath teeth, books, prayers, drink of water, then I tucked him in told him I loved him and left him. For about 2 weeks he would cry and scream, but I knew he was okay. He would end up falling asleep on his floor in front of the door. I would nudge him out of the way after he feel asleep and put him in his bed. It got less and less every night that he cried before going to bed. Now we don't even have to shut the door. He knows that bedtime is bedtime! I am telling you nip it in the bud NOW! My cousin's son is 7 and in their bed and my friend sleeps in her 9 yr old daughter's room every night!

Becky - posted on 10/08/2010

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I could do with some help too my 4 year old starts off in her own bed but wakes at about 10pm and is very hard to settle again, she comes into our bed half way through the night and wakes up in our bed, Im finding it hard to get her back in her own bed!

Tammy - posted on 10/07/2010

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Night light. Leave the door open or half open. And stay firm. We just went through a week of this with our three year old. Don't talk to him when he gets up. Take his hand and put him back in the bed. Now, we take a bath, read a story and snuggle. Say our night time prayers and off to bed. The one deal, he stays in bed unless he has to potty and I leave the door open. One week. and no more trouble. Stay strong momma.

Wendy - posted on 10/07/2010

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I have had this is exact problem!!!!!!! I have tried every single suggestion mentioned above! The last thing that I tried seems to be working quite well! I bought him a new TV and I let him pick out a special movie to watch at night time! I do not encourage a lot of TV watching but in this case I made an exception! It seems to really get his mind off of whatever is scaring him and at the same time distracts him from feeling like he is missing out on something that we maybe doing! Every child is different in their own very special little way, but as someone above mentioned he won't be sleeping in your bed when he is in high school! At some point he will have sleepovers and he will see that other kids are sleeping in their own beds and he will want to do the same! Patience is a virtue! Hang in there everyone!!!!!!

Jennifer - posted on 10/07/2010

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maybe this is his reaction to the move? my daughter did something similar when we moved last year, only instead of nighttime backtracking she did it with potty training. moving is a huge adjustment, so maybe he just needs some time to get used to his new surroundings. also, maybe create some new bedtime routine?

Maggie - posted on 10/07/2010

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there are lots of options but why don't you ask him? he's 3, he should be able to tell you what's scary. You can then ask him what will make it less scary and do that.

As for suggestions I have:
No monsters allowed sign (if he's scared of monsters)
let him pick out new sheets/comforter/decorations so he feels the room is "his"
make a dreamcatcher with him and explain to him what it is for
depending on your religion/spirituality you can pray with him/teach him how to pray

If all else fails just take him back to his bed every time he comes in to yours. Let him know that this is HIS room and it's safe.

April - posted on 10/07/2010

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I would suspect that after moving away from everything he knows he feels very up in the air right now, and being alone in a new room in a new house might be more than a 3 year old can handle. perhaps a lamp or a dimmer switch on the big light, rather than a night light which can cast shadows. If it was me, I'd probably toss a sleeping bag on his bedroom floor and sleep there for a few nights while he stays in his bed. It probably wouldn't take too long before he starts to think of the new house as HOME and his new room as HIS.

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We had this drama.... our lad is now 4 and sleeps like the dead.. in his own bed. I would suggest getting a toy he can cuddle with, put him to bed with it, and tell him you'll be back in 5 minutes to snuggle, then leave the room... it might take a few nights, but the perseverence is well worth it! We had no choice, I had to go to a sports practice one night, and told my little boy I would give him a kiss when I got home. He's been great ever since, and he was about 2 1/2 at the time. Hope this helps x

Caron - posted on 10/07/2010

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Honestly, this can only be resolved with time. Trying any one of these routes for a night or even a week is not going to give you progress. Anyone here who has overcome this issue (and I'm one of them) will tell you that it took sticking to their plan. If you decide to sleep in their room, expect it to take time. If you decide to take them back to bed every time they come to yours, expect it to take time. You said you 'just moved'. If you just moved, then you have not put in the months that any one of these suggestions take.

Prepare yourself for the time it will actually take and read through the suggestions here again. Choose one that you think is reasonable for you and your child and then stick to it. Children are best off when a routine is set and it literally takes 21 days of a successful action for it to be a routine... 9 days for it to be a true pattern. This transition will not happen overnight, and I would call the bluff of anyone who would say otherwise.

Good luck!

Ann - posted on 10/07/2010

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My precious 2yr old is in our bed too. He starts off by falling asleep with us, I move him to his room the he has a trundle bed that he sleeps safe on the floor with his favorite stuffed animal. I put on the aquarium for a light a bit of soothing noise for him, but... he stills finds his way in our room mid way thru the night, sometimes with out us even noticing, but if I notice, I pick him up an d carry him back into his own rm, pat his back and he usually goes right back to sleep. But it is unpredictable and temultuous to say the least. I just have to believe there is light around the corner, like somehad stated before, they don't continue to sleep in the same forever right???

Heidi - posted on 10/07/2010

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My son has always slept in his own bed but he has a problem falling asleep by himself. We have to put him to bed with a routine and then sit there until he falls asleep and then sneak out. We have to do the same thing if he wakes up at night.

Pei - posted on 10/07/2010

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Once I heard from a child psychologist about children scared to go sleep in their own bed/room. He suggested that the parents should not deny the child's felling and ask what he is scared of eg. monster, witch or dragon. Once the child has told you the reason, then you accept it is true and offer the solutions. For example my daughter told us she was scared of the witch to come and snatch her away. We told her that daddy will come in anytime to get rid of her and we will catch the witch and put her far far away from the house. We ensured her she would be protected so she was happily stay in her bed with her soft toys. It worked well. Next time when the monster was coming, we told her we will put the monster in the cage at night so he wont hurt any children and set him free to get some food during the day.

Michal - posted on 10/07/2010

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It might take some time after a change. I moved my son when he was a little more then 2. I just put two Mattresses on his room floor (like they have in the pre school) and spent two or three night there with him. I was lucky, after that he just didn't want to go back. Good luck

Hrafnhildur - posted on 10/07/2010

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hehe so nice to know i am not the only one having this problem my girl is almost 4 and she just gets crazy when i put here in her own room she dose not even play in ther when i put here in her own bed she just starts to cry and saking i tell here a story and wee sing and somtimes she whatsis tv in ther whit here older brother he is 5 but nothing works fore me she always ends up in my bed

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Honestly, i have no idea WHY but i can tell you what i would do. might be because you moved and hes just like what is going on? im in a new place im scared cause im not used to it. I CANNOT sleep at all if im not in MY bed. When we first started dating i laid in bed at his house all night. ALL night and listened to him sleep and watched the clock. i always felt ok during the day like i did sleep, but i didnt. or i would sleep for like half hour. I would tel my daughter depending on how long we lived there. That she is going to have to get used to it and make her sleep in there. When she gets tired enough she will fall asleep anywhere. When staying at my parents house she would be a pain to fall asleep. i would also have her play in her room and have her get used to the room itself too. I have a friend who also moved and her daughter would not sleep in her own bed. She is now 14 and still sleeping in her parents bed. I said o HEEEEELLLLLL no! haha hope this helps.

Jill - posted on 10/06/2010

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I think the best solution is probably the little bed next to your bed. My two older kids got in to my bed every night. When they got too big, I told them they could come in my room but had to lay on the sleeping bag next to my bed. Once they were reduced to that option, they spent much more time in their own rooms.

Jane - posted on 10/06/2010

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We made signs for the door (like no smoking signs). We got the kids to draw what they were afraid of (monster or dark or whatever) and then put a big red circle around and a red line through it with words to fit - "No Monsters Allowed", "Dark is just the lights going to sleep" or similar. Also read lots of books - libraries have great 'situational' book sections to deal with most issues kids have and that are suitable to be read to or read by kids. Hope this helps.

Deanna - posted on 10/06/2010

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Yikes!!! I am dealing with the same issue my kid has a toddler bed, and her own room and has not slept in either since she got the thing. I know my sister suggested putting a baby gate up, and every time the kiddie gets out of bed, put them back in. This is the only way to break the habit.

Kylie - posted on 10/06/2010

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Comfort! We had similar problem with our 2.5 yo. It was a slow process but what worked for us was...

*Spending as much playtime in the room as possible, including some quiet play together before bed.
*Read story with him in bed and you sitting on chair next to bed
*Use a nightlight
*Lights out and stay sitting next to bed being quiet. If he is silly tell him you will leave the room. If he continues leave but only for a minute. Say I will stay if you lie still and are quiet.
*Once asleep leave room
*Continue until he falls asleep easily, then move the chair near the door. When ok with that start leaving the room for increaseing amounts of time.
*I found that at this point (a couple of months) he was quite happy and comfortable and it was just habit that he wanted me there. So... then I got tough. Put him in bed told him I would be back soon and that he was to stay in his bed otherwise I may have to shut the door.
*When he got out of bed, calmly tok him back to bed and firmly told him to lie down and go to sleep and if he got out of bed again I would close the door. Which is what I did. This resulted in alot of tears, but left him there for about 10mins. Came back popped him back in bed and encouraged him to take some deep breaths and he calmed down. Then repeated the process for an hour. He was pretty worked up by then so sat on the chair until he calmed and went to sleep pretty quickly.
*The very next night he only got out of bed once. I threatened closing the door. He never got out of bed again!

Cecilia - posted on 10/06/2010

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You can wait until your child go to sleep wait like 15 mins to make sure he is sleep, then put him in his bed and keep the lights off and jsut keep doing that until he get used to it he might be a little scared and wondering why he is not in mommy bed and eventually he will cry everytime you put him in his bed but later he will get used to it because I did the same thing with my kids and I had no problem at all. I started when theywas first born I put them in their room in the crib every night as they got got older they was used to it. So try that and see what happens i not definitely do that with next baby if you do have another one and I guarantee you it will work.

Cathy - posted on 10/06/2010

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My 3 year old daughter sleeps in my bed. She was in her bed until she was about 21/2. I found she was waking more in the night and would end up in bed with her dad and me. Then I wouldn't sleep well. Tried getting her back in her own bed - tried many things including decorating her room, spending time in there and also having her bed in our room. However no success yet. Decided not to worry to much and got a spare bed for her dad! We all get a good nights sleep now and I don't think it will last forever. At some point she will want to go in her own room. I think there is pressure for kids to be in their beds/rooms when maybe some need more comfort being in a room/bed with other people/parents.siblings than other kids. I always try to remember that all kids are different and not to worry so much that yours is not doing what is supposedly normal.

Virginia - posted on 10/06/2010

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I Think if children are scared bribes won't work, safety will, you need to make them feel safe, My boy has had his own bedroom since day 1, we have never had him in the room with us good luck have you read the night terrors question?

Lizette - posted on 10/06/2010

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IT SEEMS LIKE ALL OF US ARE BATTLING WITH THE SAME PROBLEM IVE TRIED EVERYTHING BUT WHAT ARE WE GONNE DO

Tami - posted on 10/06/2010

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i have a 5 yr old, 3 yr old , and my newborn now 3 months ( and still nursind) in our bed. we had the 5 yr old almost sleeping on her own using all suggestions in these posts but when the new baby came it was all over. It bothers me more than my husband. He seems to like everyone around. open to any new suggestions.

Cathiann - posted on 10/06/2010

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I'm having the SAME problem . He sleeps in his room alone until abput 230am and then he is standing next to my bed and of course who wants to argue with a 3 yr old at that hr so He climbs in . I brought his mattress in my room a couple of times and I had to stop that because he thought he should do it everynight . We have tried Bribery and everything possible under the sun . I don't know what to do either !

Tania - posted on 10/06/2010

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My three year old has just begun to be scared in his room too...those little imaginations are wild right now. Each night after the regular routine of many of the things everyone else has suggested I ask him what he is scared of. Then, in my best mean mommy voice I tell the mosters, showdows, ghosts etc. to leave his room. So far he is satisfied with that. Good luck.

Stephanie - posted on 10/06/2010

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Try just sitting next to him in his bed as he falls asleep. Over a few weeks move further and further from his bed while he falls asleep until he is falling asleep without you. That's what we did with my son when we moved to a new house. check out supernanny.com she is a miracle worker. don't talk to him or pay him any extra attention while you're in the room- you're just there to reassure him with your presence. It will be tough for a while but will pay off in the long run when you have your bed back.
Let him do some things to make his room more friendly to him- pick out new bedding, pick out the night light he wants, and a few stuffed animals, just some small things to make him feel in control.

Summer - posted on 10/06/2010

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We have the same issues as well!! We have my 4 year old that refuses to sleep in her own room and a 2 year old that does the same. However we were able to get the 4 year old to sleep in her toddler bed next to our bed. She's still in our room..but at least she's not in our bed. The 2 year old is though. We are trying to get her in her own bed as well. We're hoping that we can get both of them in their room. My husband and i have not shared our bed w/just each other in 4 years!!

Tina - posted on 10/05/2010

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well the move could have scared him. does he like books? if so, he can "read" while he is in his room. leave the light on and once he is sleeping, turn the light off. if that isn't an option, wear him out outside throughout the day and try some baby nighttime bath and let him sit and get relaxed in the living room. then once he is tired put him in his room. if that doesn't work. let him go to sleep in your room and put him in his bed once he has fallen asleep. if taht doesn't work.. make him go to his room and if he cries or whatever he does, just let him know you are in the next room and you will check on him... and do so every 10 minutes and after he has fallen asleep every 30 minutes until you go to sleep. and he will get up and come in your room with you and your hubby. just put him back in his room. and do it all over again. it will be tiring but it will pay off in the long run. i am having the same problem with my 1 yr old. it might be a boy thing too...lol

Virginia - posted on 10/05/2010

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Are you religous? I am, I believe that children are more open to the "feel" or the "vibe" of a place maybe there is something bad that happened in that house? Maybe you could get a priest in to bless the house or something, I took my boy to a house that my friend was staying in and he would not settle at all his eyes were literally rolling around in his head but he would not sleep I have never seen anything like it and there was bad history in that house with drugs. If you are not religious at all I use a lamp in my boys room it stays on all night and has a red light bulb it gives just enough light to see this may help. otherwise try moving his room around, my boy has to see the door so if I walk past he can see me. all the best, good luck



Key word I picked up in your story was scary!!

Eliese - posted on 10/05/2010

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Some very good suggestions! Well, except maybe for the chloroform blankie... ;-> But I feel your pain. I'm going through the same thing right now with my daughter. She's three and goes to preschool. One thing we tried was letting her fall asleep with us, then moving her into her bed while she was still asleep. If she woke up and came back into our room, we did the same thing, waiting until she was asleep and then moving her back to her room. It helped somewhat because she got the idea that she was always going to end up back in her own bed. Now she has her bedtime routine, starting with a bath, etc. She gets three stories and three songs, and then one of us sits with her until she falls asleep, or is very close to it. (Sometimes we can sneak out on the pretense of getting the other one, and she falls asleep before we get back.) This all takes a long time with her, since she tends to get wound up at bedtime and has a hard time settling down. It's also harder for her if she's overtired. I'd really like to get to the point where she can fall asleep on her own, but that may just take a while longer. She was actually doing really well going to sleep in her own bed and all that until last November, when her brother was born. After he got moved into his own room, at about 6 weeks or so (when he outgrew the bassinet), she moved in, and stayed. We understood that she needed some reassurance, and some special time with us, so we let her. And it's taken forever to get her back in her room, but it's working. You've moved to a new house, a long way away from your old one, so it's no wonder that he's scared. Everything is different. I think if you try some of the suggestions here, you'll find one that works for you. Personally, I like Marcy's idea of his own little bed in your room, so he's close enough to feel secure, but not in your bed. If me daughter tries to move in again, I may try that idea myself! Good luck, and just know that he won't graduate from high school and still be in your bed! :-)

Brooke - posted on 10/05/2010

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My daughter is the same way! We bought new bedding, went to Build A Bear and created a new animal, theres a CD we play at night, and we have a night light she picked out yet she still wont sleep in there. I noticed that if we don't play in her room she will not sleep in there. If we spend a few hours a day in there together playing she does better. When we read at night I read in her room in her bed and make sure she has Teddy, her cup, and whatever else she may need to as soon as the stories are over there's no messing around and it is right to bed. It works most nights. Good Luck!

Melissa - posted on 10/05/2010

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"Baby, does this blankie smell like chloroform?" Okay, so probably not that one. I would suggest spending a lot of time with him in his room. Make it the primary room the two of you play in. Try sitting in there with him when he takes naps maybe you can try to take a nap in there or spend 1 night in there by yourself so you can discover what it is about the room that frightens him. Maybe a scary shadow or noises from the heat ducts or something he can hear in there that you can't hear/see from your room.

Grats on your move, Michigan is such a pretty state!

Marcy - posted on 10/05/2010

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I tried all that also with my oldest when he was 2 or so (now 11) What worked for him was to move him from my bed to his "own little bed" on my floor. First right next to the bed, then farther away as the weeks went by. It took a month or so but he was soon far enough away from me that the transition to his bed was much easier. Just something to try. Sometimes they just need to feel the security!! I am starting this process all over again with my youngest son. I never had this trouble with my daughter....hmmmm??? LOL

Jasmine - posted on 10/01/2010

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don't feel bad i'am goin through the same thing right now i tried warm bath then bed didn't work he cried till he went to sleep but i woke up in the morning and there he was layin in my bed

Nikole - posted on 10/01/2010

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like a said i have tried everything,reading to him,buying new bedding,putting music on for him,taking him back to his bed everytime he got up and tried to come in our beds,nothing is wrorking

Julie - posted on 09/29/2010

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Take him out to buy a new duvet for his bed, ask him why he doesn't like his room if your in a new house there might be different noises going on that he's not used too. Or put him to bed read him a story then leave the room, keep taking him back to bed if he gets up so knows that he's not going to get into your bed, stick to it don't talk to him just put him back into bed. Can take a few nights if not a week to get into the routine

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